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Non-resistance... Really???

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Nataleejah · 28/01/2014 13:16

Today my son got disciplined again... Kicked somebody in the leg and ran away. Thing is, a group of older kids are ganging up on him. Teachers words -- he should report it to school authorities. Fighting back is not permitted.


Ok, how do you report something when you are being beaten up?

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ilovepowerhoop · 28/01/2014 13:22

so were they ganging up on him when the kicking happened or was that at a different time?

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Nataleejah · 28/01/2014 13:31

They were ganging up on him. He kicked somebody and ran away. Teachers saw the kicking part, but not the ganging up. And i get a lecture that fighting back is a wrong way to cope with bullying...

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confuddledDOTcom · 28/01/2014 13:31

Reminds me so much of my school life Sad teachers would watch as the whole playground came to a standstill and people pushed to the middle to get a kick in, the second I hit out it was stopped and I was hauled in.

He has the right to defend himself - that's the law! If someone is hitting him he should be able to defend himself with reasonable force to allow him to get out of there which it sounds like he did. It's not like he was rolling around on the floor fighting back. You need to complain to the school and if you get no where take it higher. You don't state the age of the kids but if they're old enough then it might be worth getting police involved if the school don't do enough.

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Nataleejah · 28/01/2014 13:40

Think of LOGIC... A 10yo runs up to a gang of 11yo's and kicks one just for fun.

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Kenlee · 29/01/2014 08:13

Nata....People will disagree with my views on here but to stop the bullies. You need to be proactive...if they strike take the strike but also straight punch with the base of the hand to the nose...

Do not run away..stand and repeat as is necessary.

Bullies do not like to feel pain..so your son needs to be able to fight through the pain abd stand tall...

My brother was set on when we were children he fought them all....They never touched us ever again.

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confuddledDOTcom · 29/01/2014 14:39

I agree, although I do think if you want to claim self defence you need to keep it to minimum. I stopped being physically bullied in Y9 (from bottom infants - it was then lol) the day I turned around, grabbed the girls hair and introduced her head to my knee. I'm not a hitter and wouldn't have been able to hit but I caused so much blood that they had to call the cleaners into school and as the school knew I was being bullied they didn't do as much as they could have.

I always tell my children never hit first, give one chance, hit once and make it worth it. My daughter had her arm broken a couple of weeks ago, the school have been brilliant about it but I will not let my children be bullied like that, not like I was.

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