my daughter is being bullied by a school govenour - sorry its so long

(2 Posts)

Please read and give me your advie because im at a loss of what to do???
It all started with my daughter being picked as the lead in the school play, all the children auditioned and she was chosen to be dorothy in the wizard of oz.
She was great, she learned her part and all the other, sung solos, helped out when other forgot there lines, she really put her all into and was very proud.

One of the girls in her class had ome up to her and said my mum said you shouldnt have been the lead in the school play and that you cant come to my party beause your goofy with yellow teeth (my daughter has orthodontal issues, nothing that cant be sorted out with a brace but shes to young).

it took a few weeks for my daughter to tell me and when iasked her why she said it was because the mother was a govenour and that she was worried she would stop the teachers from liking her, so i went into to see the head teacher, told her the whole story inluding my childs conerns and left it with them a week later this girl was still telling my daughter some unsavory things her mother had said, several meeting with the head teacher and class teacher and i was getting nowhere, they would tell the girl off, she would cry and it would start all over again.

Now i dont blame the little firl at all she was simply repeating things her mother had said to her. After a month of this becoming an almost daily occurance and trying to reassure my daughter and urging her to just ignore and walk away i demande a meeting with the head goveneour of the school, hoping for a resolution, he was aggressive towards me and my partner from the outset and even told my partner he wasnt allowed an opinion because he wasnt her dad, despite having been together 6 years and him attending 6 yeras of parents evening, school plays and collecting her from school.

The head govenour said the women had admitted to the things she said, he had given her a verbal warning "a slap on the wrists" to quote and what more did i want? When i replied that given the severity and continuity of the situation i believe she should resign her post, he said this wasnt going to happen and if i tried to pursue this further he would accuse me of a "witch hunt" and bullying" and if i didnt like his decision i should take my daughter to another school, now i did onsider this but as its her final year i dont want to uproot her at such a sensitive time! So what do i do?

This is still happening 5 weeks later. The little girl said today whenever my mum and dad talk they always mention your name. I cant believe its ok for her to say these things, not apologise, show no remorese for her actions, continue them, and i get threatened with bulling if i pursue my complaint! Where do i go from here? i would really appreiate some much needed advice. Oh and my daughter was told she was not being bullied because it wasnt hurting her inside or out, but its affecting her shool work, personality and sleep.

Auntlinny Mon 07-Oct-13 21:27:46

This is terrible and must be awful for your daughter. Is there a school complaints procedure that covers complaints against a governor? If not, I think you need to arrange a meeting with the head and the chair of the governors and another of the governors, preferably one who has no children at the school. Take someone else along for support, such as a supportive and active in the school friend and you DP. If this does not resolve the situation, I think you need to contact the Local Education Authority. Good luck!

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now