My son is in year 4. At home his behaviour has always been good- not perfect, but good. Until recently there's never been an issue with his behaviour at school.
About a year ago a new boy started at the school, after a few months my son was complaining that this boy was always annoying everyone. I told him to ignore/politely ask him to stop/walk away/ tell a teacher.
Last week this boy's mother told me that my son has been picking on him- calling him names and hitting him. She said her son was getting very upset and asked me to talk to my son.I was shocked. I spoke to him and threatened him with serious sanctions if it happened again. He said it wouldn't, and was upset I was cross with him. The next day at parents' evening the teacher brought up the issue again (mentioning no names). She didn't say if anything had happened that day. I reminded my son of the sanctions.
Today the teacher came out of the class at pick-up time to tell me my son's behaviour had been really bad. I applied the sanctions. My son claims other children are telling him to pick on this boy. I told him not to do what other children say, and if someone tries to make him do something wrong to tell a teacher/ dinner lady. He says that "never works." I also told him that if he doesn't like this boy to just stay away from him. My son says the boy won't keep away from him. I told him to tell a teacher/ dinner lady. He says that "never works."
I've explained to him why it's wrong to hurt other people. I've told him how upset I am by his behaviour. I've told him that if he carries on like this he'll be known as the mean, nasty one and no one will want to play with him. I've asked him what is so important about this boy that he would still hurt him even when he knew that would mean missing out on fun activities with me. But I just don't think I'm getting through.
What do I do or say to stop him from behaving like this?
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qwertyskoo · 18/03/2013 22:35
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