My dd is seven. I should mention she is awaiting assessment for aspergers/autism and it can be pretty difficult to have a prolonged conversation with her.
During the holidays (live in Scotland so over half way through now) her behaviour has been great. However last week she began playing up and i couldn't work out a trigger behind the sudden change. She came down one night to tell me she was having trouble sleeping, this isn't new, she has had trouble sleeping since about three, before then she was a 7pm-7amer.
I said to my DP that something wasn't right, I just know with her and went up to chat. I have found the best way to get anything out of her is just to lie with her and let her talk away.
After discussing fairies and unicorns she fell quiet then eventually said she was worried about going back to school. I asked her why and she says two boys are being mean to her.
In summary, these two boys are older than her, in primary six or seven. Apparently they used to be friendly with my dd during lunchtime then turned mean. One of the boys insists to my dd that she bit his leg. She maintains to me that she didn't, wouldn't ever do that and would be pulled into the head teachers for it. There have been no incidences of her doing anything in her three years at school. In fact she recieved a platinum award for good behaviour at the end of term.
She maintains that almost every day this boy is mean to her, that she hides when she sees him until he is gone. Apparently, if he spots her he will chase her, pick her up and drop her on the ground. She says she doesn't like him touching her.
I asked her why she didn't tell a teacher, she said she wouldn't be believed. She also said its been going on since primary two.
My dd is a difficult one to talk to as stated and she has a poor memory. She can't remember his name, says she doesn't remember how she got to know him and can't seem to make up her mind if he is bullying her or not.
Her school work has gone downhill in the last year but it's hard to know if it's related to what's going on, her possible sn or both. She also doesn't have a great concept of time so whilst she says it's been going on a long time that could actually not be the case.
I am obviously going to go into school but I suspect I may not be taken seriously based on my dd's sketchiness. I also find it strange this boy is insistent she bit his leg, being an older boy it seems odd if she didn't actually do it.
Any thoughts?
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FateLovesTheFearless · 26/07/2012 16:04
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