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My dd was bullied for 3 years by a particular boy in her class at the primary school that my husband has worked at for 19yrs and we've lived at for 18 yrs. A few weeks back it came to the final push and as a family we decided that maybe it was time to go to another school. We didnt get our first choice but got a place at our second choice. We thought that life might get easier for her at the new school and it did for the first 2 days and then things started to happen again. In the space of three weeks she's had run-ins with the kids 6/7 times. The class teacher does know about a few of the incidents because she's actually told us about one or two of them. My dd has said that she doesn't want to go in or back to this school on somedays but other times she's willing too. Now I'm kind of stuck what to do next, do we go to school and talk to the teachers? we've asked our dd if she wants this and she sometimes says yes and later no. We don't want to make matters worse but we also don't want her to suffer anymore 3 yrs was enough or do we appeal for a place at our first choice school? or do we bite the bullet and try and take her back to the school we live at where it is more than likely that the same boy will restart with the bullying there again...

DON'T go back to the previous school, the bully will see it as a victory and she will be subjected to merciless teasing about being unliked and unlovable. If the class teacher knows about this, what on earth is she doing? Tackle the immediate problem first. My solution with a bully at my son's school when he was in primary was to invite him round to tea, watch carefully what goes on and observe if DD is behaving as a victim. If she is, involve her in something that gives her confidence - judo is great - or anything at all that she likes doing and can excel at. I think if you appeal to the first school you are just moving a problem somewhere else because there are, and will always be, bullies somewhere.