Who else is breastfeeding their older baby?

(69 Posts)
PurplePidjin Wed 06-Nov-13 20:37:11

DS turns one in a couple of weeks, we're down to breakfast and bedtime but i just know people are going to stop saying Wow and start looking hmm

Even my very supportive GP needed reminding of the WHO guidelines of feeding to two when i saw her recently the look on her med student's face was a picture grin

Come in, have a brewcakewine of your choice and we can remind ourselves it's them not us wink

HeeHiles Wed 06-Nov-13 20:42:35

I B/F till 3 - fuck em do what you want and what's best for you and baby!

BerstieSpotts Wed 06-Nov-13 20:43:58

I BF DS until he was 4 - he stopped by himself in January of this year smile

KittieCat Wed 06-Nov-13 20:46:27

Well done you. Always worth remembering that no one need know you're still breast feeding, unless you want them to. I don't tell people I'm still feeding DS because no one asks and he only does it at home. I decided early on that he'd wean when he was ready. He feeds morning and night time most days...if he doesn't get distracted by something more interesting!

Well done too for reminding your GP of advice, although I know it's advice for the people across the world and takes in many factors. 12 months is still so, so little, so I hope not too many people are funny about it.

It's deffo them not us. I'll have a wine.

BerstieSpotts Wed 06-Nov-13 20:46:49

It's a tricky 6 months or so until you can get them to be a bit more private about asking for it (and willing to wait!) - you may avoid this if only feeding morning and night though. I can honestly hand on heart say I never had a negative comment, though. In fact I had a couple of people say how nice it was and that they had fed theirs longer than the "norm" (in a conspiratorial whisper sad )

I mostly let people assume we had stopped.

It's going to be weird feeding a baby again if I have another one because of course my overriding memory and experience now of breastfeeding is of feeding a toddler/older child.

AnABumDanceofVampireVipers Wed 06-Nov-13 20:49:51

Still feeding DS at 3, OMG I must be making him do it! Haha, yeah right, who on Earth would be crazy enough to force a very sensitive part of the body into a toddler/child's mouth? winces at the very thought of being bitten

Bunnychan Wed 06-Nov-13 20:55:48

My LO is 5 months - I hope I'm still feeding her when she's one. I'm worried she'll wean early because she's having bottles in the day. I love our snuggly night feed :-) x

Itsmymove Wed 06-Nov-13 20:56:43

I know what you mean, for ages everyone is saying how fab it is and now it's 'you're STILL breastfeeding?' !!!

My boy is 1 today grin and feeds just morning and night too, although still during the day at weekends and my day off! I find it so cute when he's pulling at my top but again, it's usually in private and I think now I am more aware of others if I'm out, whereas I didn't bother before.

I find some people do actually ask me if I'm still breastfeeding and I'm honest because I try not to care what they think.

We are night weaning just now as he was getting up lots for a feed since I went back to work but my OH has taken over settling him in the night with water so I'm enjoying the break!

MadameJosephine Wed 06-Nov-13 20:57:09

DD is 1 next week and is BF morning and night when I'm at work and also during the day when I'm off. I've only had a couple of people comment so far 'you're not STILL breastfeeding!', mostly people are pretty positive but I do have the advantage that I'm a midwife so even if some of my friends and family are a bit shock they probably wouldn't dare say grin

happydaze77 Wed 06-Nov-13 21:35:58

I'll join you smile

dd turned 1 this week. On my days off she feeds 1st thing, bedtime, pre+post nap and a dreamfeed when I go to bed- too scared to drop this one! On my work days she has one expressed bottle during the day.

We've been very lucky as she took to feeding really quickly and have had no major problems, so why would we want to stop!

I really enjoy feeding her still, especially now she's on 3 meals a day and so breastfeeding is more like an 'optional extra', rather than worrying whether she's full or not. Also she only feeds if we're lying down in a dark room (she's very distractible) so it's a great excuse to have some chill out time with her.

PS I'll take cake, thanks!

dyslexicdespot Wed 06-Nov-13 21:42:33

DS just turned two and I'm BF him whenever and wherever he wants. It works for us!

TrinSnowPastaMelonity Wed 06-Nov-13 21:45:38

I was still feeding Gecko when she turned 5

sod everyone else, you do what you feel is right

PurplePidjin Wed 06-Nov-13 22:07:08

Yay lots of us! brewwinecake

I'm not sure how much further we'll get, the dropped feeds have been led by him and today he didn't have the breakfast one.

GP asked how long i plan to feed for. "Well, WHO say 2" was the first thing out of my mouth blush how should i know? It's quick and easy and healthy - why stop?

He bites at my clothes but not necessarily the boob area - and is happy with a drink and/or rice cake - so no manners to teach luckily!

Anyone who suggests you're forcing them has clearly never put a sprout on a toddler's plate hmm

Fingers crossed bunny

Happy birthday minimove, miniJosephine and minihappydaze grin

We night weaned a couple of months ago - he was struggling with overtiredness. Much better now, at least when I'm not changing him twice a night due to stinky teething wees!

WhatABeautifulPussy Wed 06-Nov-13 22:11:58

I BFed DS past 2 and hope to BF this next one until they decide to stop. Good for you grin and keep going!

Gingersnap88 Wed 06-Nov-13 22:15:20

DD is 19 months and is still feeding at least 3 times a day, doesn't seem to be slowing down yet!
She doesn't really ask for it when we are as she is so busy doing stuff / being distracted.

Well done smile

NoComet Wed 06-Nov-13 22:15:32

It's them not you grin

DD2 was old enough, when she stopped, not only to read the WHO guidelines, but write them a letter or send an email telling them two is far too small to stop feeding!

Mrsostrich Wed 06-Nov-13 22:21:52

Still bf dd 15 months here. She isn't well at the moment and if it wasn't for bm she wouldn't have eaten or drank for days now.
No plans to stop until she is ready but would love to night Wean

MummyCoolski Wed 06-Nov-13 22:22:19

DS is nearly 16 months and still breastfeeding first thing and last thing.

I exclusively expressed until he was four and a half months due to a tongue tie that was divided, but healed, and needed dividing a second time before we could establish breastfeeding.

The way I see it, we're catching up with what we missed in the early days!

leedy Wed 06-Nov-13 22:24:47

DS2 is one next week and still feeding morning, noon (soon to be expressed when I'm in work), teatime and bedtime, DS1 fed til he was 2.5.

Pascha Wed 06-Nov-13 22:27:22

Ds2 is feeding 4x daily at 10 months old. Ds1 still has a morning feed aged 3.2. I don't think anyone apart from dh knows I feed both boys though.

WeAreSix Wed 06-Nov-13 22:27:52

15mo DD has just beautifully calmed down and gone back to sleep after a HUGE teething pain screaming 15 minutes. Latched on and.... Ahhhhhhhh, silence.

It's magic! smile

gwenniebee Wed 06-Nov-13 22:32:34

Dd (nearly 16mo) is just feeding last thing at night now. I dropped the morning feed last week and she doesn't seem too traumatised smile We were just doing first thing and last thing from 11 months and never had any problems with her demanding it during the day. Some people are surprised, but only one person ever made a negative comment about it. None of her business, anyway!

larlemucker Wed 06-Nov-13 22:34:47

Baby larle is 10 months. Bf morning and night when I'm at work and during the day on days off and weekends.
He head butts my chest when he wants a feed now!!!
I originally planned to bf till 6 months but now planning till 1 although I feed to sleep every night and he still feeds 3 times a night (we co-sleep, never thought I'd be an 'attachment parent'!!) so really quite worried about giving up and sleep!

PurplePidjin Thu 07-Nov-13 10:03:11

There's half a dozen or so of us still going to bosom pals every week, all babies born within 2 months with ds being the oldest - so it's not exactly a secret here wink

I use a sling and cloth nappies, people seem surprised when the word No issues from my lips grin

larlemucker Thu 07-Nov-13 18:05:50

It came up at work the other day that I am still bf, one of my colleagues was disgusted and made sure I knew it. Tbh I was too shocked by her response to tell her about WHO guidelines.
We still go to bumps and babes most weeks, the bf counsellor there is still bf her nearly 3 yr old

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 07-Nov-13 18:07:59

I still do one feed in the morning. DD us 3.smile

CillaBANG Thu 07-Nov-13 19:03:36

I'm back at work now, my DD is 9 months and breastfeeds first thing, at bedtime and during the night. I'm expressing during the day so DH can give her bottles. Work have been really supportive and set aside a room for me to go and express.

I never thought I'd feed her this long as we had so many problems to start with, but I love it and hope I'll be able to keep the morning and evening feeds going for a while yet. It's so good for calming her down!

DS stopped feeding at 4 - he'd just had a bedtime BF from age 2. Honestly, you are doing what you think is best for your DC and the GP has no right to be judgemental.

Hobblethwaite Thu 07-Nov-13 19:28:57

Still feeding pretty much on demand at 23 months here. We only really feed in the house now, but as soon as we get in she dances about chanting "corner milk, corner milk". I am considering cutting down the day feeds but I'm quite laid back about it at the minute. If its not broke and all that.

YokoUhOh Thu 07-Nov-13 19:36:22

Hi PP, our babies are the same age (DS is one on Sunday!) and he still has a good old tank up on the boob at every opportunity. Everyone judges me for co-sleeping/bfeeding for longer than usual but I don't care: we've never been awake all night with teeth or illness (he had horrendous chicken pox at 6 mo) because he just rolls over onto the boob and settles down. Was it ever meant to be any other way? smile

MooseBeTimeForSnow Thu 07-Nov-13 19:36:32

I'm still feeding 22 month old DS pretty much on demand. He won't drunk cows milk unless it's vanilla flavoured but does drink plenty of water. He likes asking for "booobieeee" though and who am I to refuse? smile

Nonsensical Thu 07-Nov-13 19:40:56

Still BF my youngest in the mornings; he is 2.7 and very insistent he's not too big! I also used slings and cloth nappies but am very happy to say no especially now the older 2 children are 6 and 5 ...

Don't forget the only people who need to have an opinion are you and your baby, as long as you are both happy then it is no-one else's business.
Good luck.

HaveAQuestion Thu 07-Nov-13 21:23:42

"Still" feeding at 16m. At least 6 times a day and on demand at night as cosleeping.

stottiecake Thu 07-Nov-13 21:34:16

I am still breast feeding ds who is 2.3. He had a fall and cut his head the other day and we ended up in A+E and he wanted a feed which I felt uncomfortable about doing, but I gave him a feed anyway. I am not planning to stop him I am very happy to feed him at home. It is mostly breakfast and bedtime.

Ds1 stopped at 2.3 but I think that was because my supply had dried up with pregnancy.

ChristmasCareeristBitchNigel Fri 08-Nov-13 23:40:55

Dd will be 4 in feb and shows no sign of stopping.

As for forcing her haha ! They should see her practically rugby tackle me to the floor on saturday afternoons (she stays with my parents on friday night) trying to shove her head up my bra shouting "mummy, BOOBIEEEEE !!" joyously and raucously until she gets the desired result.

Yes, i latch her on with brute force

mammy2012 Sat 09-Nov-13 12:44:29

DD is 18 months and loves her milk. Has been in nursery full time since 1year and just has water during the day but goes crazy for milk when I get home. Doesn't want to wait for me to change out of my smart clothes!!! It's such a lovely, comforting thing that We will keep going for a while. I wouldn't mind cutting down on the night feeds - we co sleep from first wake up but it would be nice to have a night of totally undisturbed sleep with no one touching me!

ShoeJunkie Sat 09-Nov-13 15:21:23

DS is 20 months and still has a feed in the morning and any other time he can access a boob No plans to stop any time soon.

squidkid Sat 09-Nov-13 15:45:47

Baby squid is 13 months and we still feed at bedtime and once in the night. So nobody sees any more really. I do mention it in passing though, it's not a secret. Sometimes people seem a bit surprised and all I ever say is "it's good for her and it's good for me".

I'd like to get to 2, though some days I find it a bit challenging.

squidkid Sat 09-Nov-13 15:47:47

There's a nice list here of the health benefits for you and baby at different ages. When I'm having a tough/tiring time of it, I like to read it.


larlemucker Mon 11-Nov-13 19:08:11

that was really interesting, thanks for the link

larlemucker Tue 12-Nov-13 19:05:57

so I had a chat last night with DH about carrying on breastfeeding after 12 months . DS is a terrible sleeper, he is 10 months and still feeds 3 times during the night. he probably doesn't need it but its an easy way to get him back to sleep.
anyway I just dont know if I want to carry on breastfeeding after 1 mainly because im worried about other people's reactions. I know that probably sounds silly but I've already had some negative comments.
do I carry on? what has your experience been feeding past 1?

NachoAddict Tue 12-Nov-13 19:19:44

I am still feeding ds 16 months. I don't mention it unless asked and have had a few people sat I will be feeding through the school fence but I laugh it off and say yep, I will have to go off to uni with him.

dyslexicdespot Tue 12-Nov-13 19:25:55

Larlemucker- Could you contact your local LLL?


Feeding after one is especially useful when your LO becomes ill. I'm not sure how I would have handled several bouts of D&V without breast milk. Good luck and I hope you find a good group of supportive people!

PurplePidjin Tue 12-Nov-13 19:27:35

I'm of the Fuckit school of thought generally, larle although there's a week to go until ds is 1. It was around 10 months that he (and friends) started dropping feeds, so it might be worth a little push if you feel you both need more sleep? Otherwise, why buy processed cow's milk when you can have organic people milk for free!

An awesome response to "are you still breastfeeding" i heard was "are you still bottle feeding" grin

larlemucker Tue 12-Nov-13 19:29:55

I go to my local support group most weeks and they have been very supportive. I only planned to feed to 6 months! we found it very difficult to start and ended up topping up but with help from booby group I got him back to ebf.
how do you teach DC to just feed at home if you dont want to feed in public?

jimijack Tue 12-Nov-13 19:31:04

10 month old ds 2 here.
I am asked daily if I am still breast feeding.

Very proud to say yes I am.

Cucumberscarecrow Tue 12-Nov-13 19:34:44

I am bf my 14 month old.

I don't give a fig what other people think about it but I am bridesmaid at a three day wedding in March and really want to leave DD with my MIL so I can concentrate on being a good bridesmaid but have no idea how my boobs or baby will cope with what will effectively be a four day separation. At the moment, she still has four to six feeds in 24 hours.

Sorry to hijack thread with my worries but has anyone had a similar experience?

IsThatTrue Tue 12-Nov-13 19:37:04

pidj DS is 1 on the 8th dec, he still feeds about 5/6 times a day, wherever, whenever, no one has batted an eyelid yet.

either that or I just don't notice

comedaygoday Tue 12-Nov-13 19:40:05

Still feeding DS3 at 21 months and no signs of stopping. Fed DS 1 and DS2 until they wanted to stop and plan to do same with DS3. He is definitely the keenest on breastfeeding so think it'll be a while yet till we stop.

lovelyredwine Tue 12-Nov-13 19:54:21

I bf dd until she was 2.1. People at work were incredulous that I had NEVER had a night away from her in ALL THAT TIME! Like it was totally mental of me.

msmiggins Tue 12-Nov-13 19:54:57

Another one here- I b/fed my children until 4 and 5 years- including 3 years of tandem feeding.

NotCitrus Tue 12-Nov-13 20:46:59

Dd is 21 months - I was trying to quit from a year as she's been a violent wee thing, but she's only just started sleeping through mostly, and my willpower to avoid the quickest solution in the night has been nil. Once she gets her own room in a few weeks (been saying that for months!), I'll try to quit again, as she's quite happy to settle after cow milk for Daddy.

Ds was 14 months when he gave up.

PurplePidjin Tue 12-Nov-13 22:53:34

larle i was hoping for 6 months, am amazed I've got this far tbh. Dsil went to 15m and 2y with hers so no hassle there, my mum dried up through stress when i was 6 weeks (only child) so is equally amazed at me. It really helps that there's 6 of us with babies within 2 months of each other who met through bf group and are still both feeding and going to the group.

Actually support was my sort-of aim for this thread so hijacks welcome cucumber smile

At 18 months i reckon things will be very different and your supply will just cope. Maybe take a pump and see if you get anything in the morning so your body knows you still intend to feed? Plus several practice runs of overnight stays so dd is comfortable doing different things with different people. I worked till after bedtime unexpectedly about 6 weeks ago, missed the bedtime feed, got back to my mum's to collect him and he'd gone to sleep, was in his car seat, and just woke for a night feed as usual. He was 9 1/2 months at the time and fed to sleep every time unless in the sling or car smile i was ridiculously chuffed shame she hasn't offered to repeat the experiment

I have a few hours off here and there, lovely and it's nice but i miss him. People don't seem to get that much as I'd love a night off, I'd still worry and it'd actually be harder because I'm not in control. When he's old enough to choose and enjoy a sleepover with grandma/cousins of course he can go (i have fab ILs who don't live close enough imo) If i want to do something i just go after bedtime which is --thankfully- 6 o'clock grin

NotCitrus sounds like an excuse to make daddy do everything for a few days if you ask me wink

happydaze77 Wed 13-Nov-13 21:24:39

Can I ask how often your dcs feed?

DD is 12 months and still has five feed per day (see my earlier post) which I know sounds like a lot, but I think they're small feeds. I know there is an upper limit to the amount of formula that is recommended after one year, to ensure that they eat enough solid food, but does the same apply to breastfeeding?
She has three good meals and the odd small snack, is average height and weight so I don't think we're missing anything. . .
I know that many mums just bf 1st and last thing from 12 months. If you're doing that, do you provide cows milk at all during the day?

One more thing (while I'm on a role with the hijack ) Should I be brave and drop the dreamfeed? DD sleeps through after it and so I've been a bit reluctant so far. But she has a good tea and a good feed at bedtime so I'm wondering if it's really necessary. .

Thanks all.

BerstieSpotts Wed 13-Nov-13 21:54:32

DS fed about that amount at 12 months as well. I remember downplaying it because it seemed like a lot. I think you just follow your baby. Some of them only want two feeds, some want loads more. In actual fact it was probably more like 8 over 24 hours. I didn't really count them. He didn't eat much, though. Wasn't much I could have done about it as everything I tried failed, I wish I had just relaxed and felt happy he was at least having BM. He never lost weight, so there wasn't actually anything wrong at all. Carlos Gonzalez' "My Child Won't Eat" is fantastic to read about BF toddlers even if you haven't got food problems.

I never did a dream feed so can't advise on that, sorry!

Cucumber I think your supply will be fine, at that age it takes far longer to drop off completely. You may find that she self-weans, though. If you want to continue you might have to follow the advice for a nursing strike which is basically skin to skin and lots of attention! Alternately she might not blink and just come back to it! If your supply has dropped it won't take her long to bring it back up again. I'd take a breast pump in case you get uncomfortable unless you're comfortable hand expressing which you may find easier than a pump at that stage.

happydaze77 Wed 13-Nov-13 22:05:18

Thanks Berstie. I know what you mean about downplaying the feeds. We have our 12 month check soon and I'm planning to tell the hv that dd has "3 or 4" feeds, so as not to invite comment! The same hv suggested that we wean at 4 months and we'd see feeds being dropped soon after, whereas I'm more of a 'kellymom' kind of thinker.)

BerstieSpotts Wed 13-Nov-13 22:20:22

I just wouldn't even mention it to the HV unless she specifically asks! If she does maybe say "Oh, a couple of times a day maybe" unless you want her to follow you around anxiously with advice on how to sleep train, cut down feeds, introduce cow's milk "Because it's nice for a change sometimes, you know!" confused

IsThatTrue Thu 14-Nov-13 02:17:06

happy DS Is 11mo and he's feeds 1st thing, around 9, 11, 1, 4, bedtime and once/twice during the night. He eats well done days, others not so much. I got him weighed last month ( first time in 4 months) and he's sticking to his centile line. So I am just letting him self regulate, he appears to know what he's doing. But he's my third so in slightly more relaxed than I used to be (although the others were ff, so bfing is completely new to me).

MummyBeerest Thu 14-Nov-13 02:23:09

Still going strong at 15mos here. She's a late teether and took awhile to take to drinking milk. It helps her sleep {shrug}

My family thinks I'm insane. I dare them to tell me so at 3 am.

MaMaPo Thu 14-Nov-13 03:41:08

Oh, hi Pidj!

Baby C is one in a few weeks and we're still bfing. Up
Until 2 weeks ago she was feeding morning, night and up to three times in the night, but she slept through last night so her feeding is reducing naturally. I think she'd feed loads during the day if I offered but she's never den the most enthusiastic eater of solids and I've noticed that has improved loads since I've cut down day feeds.

I think I'll keep feeding for a while. We have to go away for around 2 weeks when she's 18 months so might have to wean then sad

No real comments from others - I have a few friends still feeding their 12-15 month old, so I don't feel any pressure to stop.

BadgerBumBag Thu 14-Nov-13 03:47:22

I am bf dd who is almost 3. Not often as she is well into self weaning. Dp's family have stopped asking as I think they find it weird but my close friends all know.

My dsis is feeding a 1 yr old and was actually asked by her hv the other day if baby pulls away! She was so offended that hv implied she was forcing her baby onto the breast in some way. hmm

slightlygoostained Thu 14-Nov-13 05:05:00

DS is 14 months now, have never had anything but positive comments and happily feed him out & about if he wants it.

Went away for 3 days recently & he was fine. I got pretty engorged though, didn't manage to express enough to completely get rid of it. Also went through breast pads more quickly than I expected.

Actually feel a lot happier now I know I can go away for a night, even if I don't actually do it.

The one drawback/advantage is that I haven't restarted periods yet (and if they don't come back after a 3 day break, then I wonder if that puts me into the small percentage of women who don't restart until weaning?). Obviously this is great in one way but not so great if I want to start TTC.

Theironfistofarkus Thu 14-Nov-13 06:07:59

Still going at 2.5. I know others find it weird as the more honest of my friends and siblings tell me. I was quite happy doing it until Af returned about 3 months ago. I think it must be hormones as a week or so before Af it feels physically uncomfortable. I think my body is telling me its time to stop. Toddler has other ideas...

DS is 19 months and no sign of stopping. It's been a godsend recently as he's had hand, foot and mouth, vomiting and chicken pox in quick succession, has been off his food so breastfeeding has meant I can get fluid and nutrition into him.

My HV is a bit shock too. She Made It Very Clear that he was feeding for comfort, not for any other nutritional or health benefit.

Okey dokey idiot

MrsNPattz Thu 14-Nov-13 06:31:27

My little man is 14 months and still loves the booby! No plans to stop, I love the bond we have, I love the comfort it gives him and I love co sleeping (although more sleep would be nice!!) It's great to hear of so many others still feeding older babies smile

PurplePidjin Thu 14-Nov-13 08:45:10

So many ignorant HCPs shock mine's utter shit but is at least encouraging of bf!

TwoThreeFourSix Thu 14-Nov-13 09:54:13

We very recently stopped BF, when DS was 2.1 years. Fortunately I had DH's support (despite BF rates being very low in his country - our friend BF for "ages"...she stopped at 4 months grin )

My parents were also very supportive although started to find it a bit odd after about 18 months (DM stopped at 9 months and 15 months with her DC). DM saw DS curled up on my lap feeding once and said he looked so/too big. But then a couple of weeks later admitted that he seemed to need and enjoy feeding.

I EBF until 6 months then went back to FT work, when he was on formula/solids in the day and BF morning and evening, except at the weekend when he returned to feeding on demand.

From about 18 months it was just 1 feed in the evening when I got back from work, not linked to bedtime. And it was very useful on holiday at 23 months when DS wasn't eating much. We bfed more frequently and even in the night which we'd stopped at 13 months.

DS kind of self-weaned - his last feed was interrupted by me being sick (am pregnant) sad and he didn't ask again for over a week. When he did start asking again he happily accepted a glass of milk instead (my boobs were very sore and I didn't want to tandem feed).

Despite being a total boob monster I was amazed and thrilled and relieved at how easily he stopped. He was obviously ready.

However, no one outside of my parents and DH know how long we bfed for. It's just not done here and I would get loads of criticism. Apart from a Dr who was very happy to discover I still BF when DS had D&V...

RatherBeOnThePiste Thu 14-Nov-13 10:02:24

DS was over two and DD about 16 months. Both came to a natural end on their part. Wish it had been longer with DD as we went to Japan when she was 18 months and food and drinks were a real issue.

Genuinely wouldn't worry about what anyone else thinks

MyLeftElbow Thu 14-Nov-13 10:09:04

I'm still feeding DD - she's 30 months... Not so much a baby any more! She has three feeds a day, one first thing, one after lunch and one at bedtime. smile Offering boob is also an excellent way to stop any tantrums before they develop! Distraction - hurrah!

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