where is /isn't it appropriate to breastfeed?

(71 Posts)

I kn its legal to bf pretty much everere but is there places u wud of wouldn't ?
I have a 3 week old and a 3 year old however a am new to the whole bfing thing as I didn't bf ds1.
I have bf in front of most family and friends inc prudish dad who looked like he was gonna have a stroke and a lot in the car Mc donalds as it wad empty but yesterday I went into Costa , it was busy and I couldn't do it I left and went to toys r us where thet have baby change with comfy chair by myself . What wud everyone else do ? .

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Thu 24-Oct-13 13:51:23

I think feeding in a toilet is inappropriate, other than that pretty much everywhere is fair game smile

comewinewithmoi Thu 24-Oct-13 13:51:52

Baby's hungry, feed baby. ie anywhere.

comewinewithmoi Thu 24-Oct-13 13:52:24

Oh yes not in the toilet , that's gross

imtheonlyone Thu 24-Oct-13 13:54:30

I fed my babies when they were hungry! Everywhere and anywhere - just as you would if they were bottle fed. I anyone had tried to stop me, they would soon have regretted doing so! I remember once pulling up on the hard shoulder of the motorway to get my baby out and feed him - we had been sat in a queue for 45 minutes that hadn't moved and the poor little thin was screaming his head off! To me, that was an emergency!

mrsmartin1984 Thu 24-Oct-13 13:55:03

Not in the loos. Because I wouldn't eat there. Everywhere else is fine.

Is appropriate - everywhere except a toilet
Isn't appropriate - see above.

I promise you that you'll get less self conscious with practice, good luck! flowers

Twinnies10 Thu 24-Oct-13 13:59:23

I've fed in toilets too in the early days! (Baby only 3 months now) now feed anywhere except mass, went to mass at weekend and brought bottle of ebm, the little bugger wouldn't take it as it was too cold so I left and fed in car, couldn't do it in the church!!

NoQueFucker Thu 24-Oct-13 13:59:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

dyslexicdespot Thu 24-Oct-13 14:07:02

As everyone else has said-I have feed DS wherever we happen to be when he is hungry-in font of my supervisors, on the tube, in front of family/friends, restaurants and so on and so forth.

No one has ever said anything negative ( aside from a doctor in an infant feeding clinic-fucker!

Youarejustwordsonascreenpeople Thu 24-Oct-13 14:12:03

Any where and everywhere with my three including church, they are the very essence of Gods children. Even walked up to the alter, feeding, to do a reading.

Thanx all I feel bit better now ... I think coz we r still practising and over coming obsticals such as latch on which we have got right but some time when she is really hungry she gets a bit frantic and confused and the thought of faffing about trying to get her on properly in s busy cafe freaked me.out a tiny bit ..... Just to clarify it wasn't a toilet I fed in as such just had a baby changer sink and chair room ..

dyslexicdespot Thu 24-Oct-13 14:20:29

It can be stressful until you get the hang of it!

NoComet Thu 24-Oct-13 14:32:08

DD2 absolutely anywhere including in the middle of M&S (realising there was no cafe)and in a church funeral service.

DD1 often got fed in the car in the car park as she didn't actually like BFing at all.

She squirmed and looked round at the slightest distraction.
In a cafe, she'd try and kick things off the table to make sure everyone was looking at me make a hash of it.

She was mixed fed, she knew bottles existed, she knew I didn't have to BF her and she made her feelings on the subject very clear.

rosiedays Thu 24-Oct-13 14:58:25

The only place I would feed and have read (on here) that It's inappropriate is the swimming pool. toilets (nice clean ones) were my savoir in the early days as i really struggled with a tt baby who fussed a lot and I needed to go full top off (if it fell and annoyed her it was toe curling start again time) I wouldn't feed in toilets now though as it's not necessary. Dd 3 months now and I'll feed anywhere but the car is still fav when out. (She/i like peace and quiet )

rosiedays Thu 24-Oct-13 15:01:06

Grr would in first line should have been wouldn't! ! Lol I'm feeding smile

BerstieSpotts Thu 24-Oct-13 15:05:03

I have fed in toilets - I think the point posters are making is you shouldn't feel you have to feed in a toilet.

Anywhere that you can bring the baby, you are allowed to breastfeed. It's as simple as that - it's even backed up in law in England, Wales and Scotland smile

hettienne Thu 24-Oct-13 15:06:19

Anywhere a baby can be, they can be breastfed basically.

Though personally I wouldn't in a public toilet or swimming pool.

comedaygoday Thu 24-Oct-13 15:08:25

Anywhere the baby or child needs to be fed. I am still BFing DS1 (20 months) and BFed DS 1 until 16 months and DS2 until 20 months. I have fed in churches, in a meeting with a bank manager, in a workhouse, by the checkout in a supermarket, as well as the usual cafes and toddler groups.

I wouldn't on a ski field, that's just me though.

ShatnersEmptyCatacomb Thu 24-Oct-13 15:11:36

I think you can in any of the places it would be appropriate to feed a baby by any method. So not in a toilet, a swimming pool, a board meeting, in court...

rosiedays Thu 24-Oct-13 15:14:36

Grr would in first line should have been wouldn't! ! Lol I'm feeding smile

rosiedays Thu 24-Oct-13 15:49:56

Berstie... I totally agree that no-one should feel they Have to feed in the toilet but sometimes it really was the most appropriate and easiest place. Behind a closed door i could do what i needed and not get flustered, stay calm and take my time and cry where no one could see me I don't think it should an off limits place per say PProvided it's clean of course.

BerstieSpotts Thu 24-Oct-13 16:18:01

That's what I said smile

soupmaker Thu 24-Oct-13 17:24:00

I think it depends. My DD1 could be really fussy so I would find quiet corners to feed her so that I could be relaxed without an audience. DD2 feeds everywhere I go. My DD2 is 3 mo like yours OP. I have fed at the swimming pool but not in it. I don't feed in toilets as I wouldn't eat in one.

ColdTeaAgain Thu 24-Oct-13 20:19:27

Only situations I can think of where I would look for somewhere else to bf my baby are if it was too hot, too cold, too unhygienic, too loud, too windy, nowhere to sit down... Basically as long as baby and I are comfortable then I feed away and sod anyone who turns their nose up at it!

littleomar Fri 25-Oct-13 09:39:39

At the barber's, waiting for older DS's turn.

BerstieSpotts Fri 25-Oct-13 09:45:15

Huh? Why can't you BF at the barbers?

Obviously not while the baby's hair is being cut, that would be strange! And if you were having your hair cut then he might get covered in hair.

But while waiting for a sibling why not?

littleomar Fri 25-Oct-13 09:50:13

It's a proper men's old school barbers. I felt it was a bit unfair to invade their space.

BerstieSpotts Fri 25-Oct-13 09:51:20

What with your baby that you'd already brought in there?

momb Fri 25-Oct-13 09:55:31

You can BF anywhere you would eat or snack yourself: so a cafe, in the car, on the street, at home, on the beach, at the park etc all fine:
In a toilet, at a church (or other faith) service, in a swimming pool etc not ideal.

justalilmummy Fri 25-Oct-13 09:59:04

The bus! I am comfortable in feeding in 99% of places but theres something about the bus no idea what
Lucky for me my baby has always slept on the bus he likes the motions smile

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 09:59:10

There honestly isn't anywhere that I wouldn't feed a small baby. A toddler perhaps I might not. For example I'd expect my toddler to allow me to finish my shopping/conversation etc before feeding but that is more to do with teaching my toddler manners rather than anything else! My small babies I have fed any time any where including walking round the supermarket pushing trolley with one hand and holding baby with the other and on the loo when at home and I really needed a wee mid feed and didn't have the heart to make the baby cry blush.

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 10:00:35

Though I've got to say dd was a nightmare to feed and it involved a lot of screaming from her and tears from me so for a long time I pretty much only fed her at home unless I absolutely had to feed her when we were out.

sonu678 Fri 25-Oct-13 10:04:18

the toilet is the only inappropriate place I can think of to breastfeed.

so is the beach, and the swimming pool, but I think that is just me and my own freaky inability to put my lactating breasts into water shared by other peoples body fluids and then into my baby's mouth.

I have fed in all the obvious places likeshopping centres, on trains and park benches, school benches etc. But the oddest place was feeding whilst perched on a fence in disneyland paris until someone realised what I was doing, and gave me there place on a crowded bench to feed. smile

noblegiraffe Fri 25-Oct-13 10:07:04

While driving.

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 10:12:18

grin that's true noblegiraffe. Though I have dangled boobs into carseats while still strapped in with dh driving.

GroupieGhoul Fri 25-Oct-13 10:13:32

I don't know why church should automatically be inappropriate, momb?
An adult, or older child knows they have to wait, but a baby has no concept of that. There were some weeks with my daughter wen I would leave early and feed her in the hall, and others when I would just stuff her up my jumper. More people noticed (and commented) when I left.

I say, feed anywhere you want to. Even in a toilet. It's not like you're rubbing the baby on the seat, after all.

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 10:19:03

Most churches have statues of Mary cradling Jesus with her boobs out. Church is fine in my book.

dyslexicdespot Fri 25-Oct-13 10:30:36

Why would a church not be an ideal place to feed a baby?

rosiedays Fri 25-Oct-13 10:31:14

Good one noble grin
I've dangled boobs into car chair, but never whilst car moving.
Toilet is not ideal but meet requirements. .. seat and private.
indith I've been wondering when and how to start training boob manners?

GillyBillyWilly Fri 25-Oct-13 10:33:41

Anywhere that you would feed a baby from a bottle, you can breast feed.
smile

JollyScaryGiant Fri 25-Oct-13 10:35:33

You shouldn't BFwhile the car is moving as if there's an accident you will keep going and baby will go in the opposite direction so could get injured badly.

I will BF anywhere other than a moving car.

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 10:42:28

I don't know Rosie really. I've just gone with their understanding and with when it starts pissing me off that they are digging my boobs out of my top themselves while loudly demanding milk!

My dangling into car seats is reserved for traffic jams when either stopped or crawling at snail with a broken leg speed. The sort when baby is screaming and you just want to get them out and feed but you can't pull over due to traffic jam and every time you think you might be able to get baby out you creep forwards another metre. When moving and a baby needs to feed we find somewhere to stop.

BerstieSpotts Fri 25-Oct-13 13:22:02

I did the dangling boob into car seat thing when DS was younger. When I actually thought about later I wouldn't do it. He's 5 how so long past!

flipflopson5thavenue Fri 25-Oct-13 14:05:43

I never did it on a bus or tube as I was worried about baby not being strapped into buggy in case of, ahem, derailment/crash... (coz these things happen ALL THE TIME.....) or just if someone knocked me or something.

Why not a swimming pool? Or do people actually mean not while IN THE water...? I've fed in the changing rooms.

Why not in court? Most of the time you can feed without hardly exposing any boob, so people don't even notice. Although I agree that not in the early days its not when its all new and worrying.

cantthinkofagoodone Fri 25-Oct-13 14:08:19

This is MN - feed everywhere, all the time... get those mammaries out! On a rollercoaster? No bother!

Just wherever you feel comfortable OP. At 3 weeks I wasn't very good at being discreet but I found a cover maintained my modesty.

MewlingQuim Fri 25-Oct-13 14:14:08

I bf my DD at my grandads funeral service :-D

JollyScaryGiant Fri 25-Oct-13 14:17:41

If you're particularly worried about flashing folk then it can be good to practice feeding in front of a mirror at home and you'll get an idea of exactly how little the general public will be able to see.

NotCitrus Fri 25-Oct-13 14:21:41

Moving car, unless you're one of those contortionists who says they can bf a baby in a car seat while also buckled in.

There's places that were inappropriate for me because I'd be uncomfortable (bus stop bench, cafes with high stools only, many places while still squirting 6 feet while getting ds latched on...) but not in general. My logic was "would the people here prefer screaming baby or quiet baby with a possible glimpse of tit?" Quiet baby always wins.

BerstieSpotts Fri 25-Oct-13 14:24:49

I don't think you're allowed to take babies into court flip.

Patilla Fri 25-Oct-13 14:42:47

I wouldn't feed her anywhere I felt was too dirty.

I'd rather be exposed than dirty.

Given dd will ultimately feed anywhere my primary concern is not to kill my back in the process. I prefer that over decency as I've come to realise that most people except MIL with camera but that's another story and I love her really are more bothered about not looking and making me feel uncomfortable than I am about exposing myself and I say that as someone who is very shy about showing many parts of my body let alone my breasts.

I do tend to draw the line at most outdoors places now though simply on the grounds it's far too cold!

mrsmartin1984 Fri 25-Oct-13 15:39:22

Driving - ob not
Swimming pool - done
church - fine
directly in front of a catholic priest - couldn't do, didn't want to show off my beautiful boobs
barbers - fine
toliets- never
costa - done

Tinlegs Fri 25-Oct-13 15:42:27

Not underwater.

Not in a moving vehicle.

Not while undertaking a space walk.

Not while eating a curry (turmeric stains on babygro - personal experience). OK while eating a curry if the baby is well covered up with old tea towels (strategy was adapted....)

Not in a strip club. (Just don't go there).

Everywhere else is fine.

mrsmartin1984 Fri 25-Oct-13 15:42:45

done on a bus as well. I wouldn't if it was quite bumpy though, or if I'm about to get off

curlyclaz13 Fri 25-Oct-13 15:51:23

The only place I haven't felt comfortable was during OH's Nans funeral so we went and sat in the car. I have once fed in a baby change room and I hated it but as we were in a supermarket and meeting someone for coffee elsewhere after it was the best option.

Kinect Fri 25-Oct-13 15:55:08

Anywhere - except the toilet.

I did feed pretty much everywhere. The first few weeks I feed in my car if out & about, but only because I was still struggling to get the hang of it myself. Once I was confident in my 'technique' anywhere & everywhere.

I did have to feed in car in traffic jam when she was 3 days old as I had to go back into hospital and were stuck in traffic on motorway for 2 hours (normally 10 mins ) traffic was just stand still if not snail pace .. after ages of screaming and trying everything to calm her , there was no hard shoulder . I took her out of the car seat while car wasn't moving and fed until traffic started crawling again( mum was driving) she just didn't move and just put hazards on until dd was safely back in car seat .....

tinlegs ... have fed while eating a curry (takeaway at home ) managed without getting a drop on her ..... after 9 months of not being able to eat onions or garlic in any form I was not going to put my fork down for anyone ...

JollyScaryGiant Fri 25-Oct-13 16:40:54

I've joked to DP before that when I sell the baby clothes the ad will say "Baby Dungarees. Newborn size. Some Korma stains on front".

Tinlegs Fri 25-Oct-13 16:53:59

The problem with curry stains is they look an awful lot like newborn poo stains.....I breast fed AND ate curry. No problems with that but one baby really, really didn't have a good night after I ate sprouts and baked beans in the same day.....

Tinlegs Fri 25-Oct-13 16:55:41

Sorry, rockyroadahead, I read that as you giving up curry to breast feed rather than while pg. I had to give it up then for the final weeks...heartburn.

partner and ds had beans on toast after I cooked a rubbish dinner the other night and I opted out and had poached egg instead as I was worried about wind ....... for both of us !

Sunflower1985 Sat 26-Oct-13 04:18:55

Tried bf in car leaning over to ds in car seat yesterday, stuck in traffic. Gave me a aching back and a sore nipple. Kudos to those that can.

I saw this on keeping up with the kardashians (yes I watch it please don't judge lol ) and I don't seen how u can actually get it in there without being super bendy however I am intrigued so will definatly be giving it a try to see how it pans out !!!

quick question!!

how do you manage to bf one handed I am finding when I try dd slips off the nipple and I get sore or she seems to suffocate a little bit .

ALSo dd is making a loud sucking noise when feeding and I cant seems to stop it midwife said 'that's just how she sucks ' and checked my latch on and said it was fine but when the room is quiet I can hear her tummy making noises when she is doing it and she seems to be squirming and crying quite a lot in a windy /colic kind of way ??

any suggestions?

that wasn't really a quick question was it blush

rosiedays Sun 27-Oct-13 00:16:26

Hi,
I have 2 car seats one I can feed in the other is nearly impossible, so i think it depends on the car seat.
My dd is the noisiest eater ever. I swear i have to put volume up on tv and people can hear her if im on the phone. (Have posted on here! ) ) she's gaining weight and it doesn't hurt so I'm just rolling with it. smile

loveolives Mon 28-Oct-13 18:44:20

I've always fed my babies where ever, whenever and how ever I liked.

zimmyzammyzoom Sat 02-Nov-13 22:37:14

She's only 3 weeks the one handed thing will come with experience. I tandem fed my twins whilst doing all my Christmas shopping on amazon last year. No hands! Good feeding cushion though wink

zimmyzammyzoom Sat 02-Nov-13 22:38:40

Oh and yes I've fed all 3 of my babies wherever they've required it including in church (if it's good enough for Jesus), a stable (ditto) and on a boat on the Thames smile

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