Can I have your stories of perfectly ordinary BF experiences?

(95 Posts)
MrsHoratioNelson Mon 09-Sep-13 13:29:28

Inspired by another thread...

I'm 36+4 with my first and getting a bit antsy about BF. I've got flat nipples and have heard so many horror stories, even from those who would say that they had a positive experience. I'm not absolutely wedded to BF at all costs and quite prepared to accept that it might not work, for all sorts of reasons and that's fine. But I seem to hear nothing but "it was horrendous, I had mastitis for 7 years and then thrush" sometimes with "but I powered through and now I love it" tacked on for good measure.

So, tell me about your experiences please? You know, the ones where you both kind if just got on with it and then the baby was weaned and everyone lived happily ever after. I'm quite happy to hear about sore nipples and lost sleep, but I'd like to avoid the (hopefully less common in real life?) end of the spectrum.

noblegiraffe Mon 09-Sep-13 13:33:11

I've ebf two babies and never had mastitis, thrush, or bleeding shredded nipples. It was a bit tricky getting latched on at the start, but with some excellent midwife help, hand expressing a few feeds into a syringe and trying different positions it all fell into place after a few days.

MrsHoratioNelson Mon 09-Sep-13 13:34:11

Noble that is brilliant - exactly what I wanted to hear smile

vaticancameo Mon 09-Sep-13 13:34:41

My bf experience has been completely humdrum. One natural birth, one cs. No difference in experience afterwards. Babies latched on by themselves an hour or so after birth. My nipples were like razorblades for the first couple of days, but that is normal until you get used to it (lansinoh and painkillers got me through). That settled and from then on, no problems at all. I fed dc1 for 16 months, going back to work at 10 months and then just feeding when I was home ( I didn't bother expressing at work). It was fine. Dc2 is 5 months now and has never had formula. I've never had mastitis, supply issues, blocked ducts etc. Honestly, I think my experience is more common - people come on forums when they're having problems that need fixing, but there's a lot of women out there who never have problems too.

My first baby was easy-peasy! She took to it straight away and I had no pain, no supply issues, nothing. One brief nursing strike that lasted a day at around 4 months old aside, it was great!

DS was a bit trickier but I won't go into that.

Never had mastitis or blocked ducts or anything with either of them.

milk Mon 09-Sep-13 13:39:15

I EBF both my children.

DS1 for 10 months.
DS2 for 6 months.

I think I found it so easy due to the huge support from my DH. While I was pregnant with DS1 he did huge amounts of research/watching videos. At first I thought DH was just being pervy, but at the hospital after DS1 was born he was so very helpful. During night feeds, DH would always get up with me and help the baby latch on.

LewisFan Mon 09-Sep-13 13:39:47

find out where you're nearest bf drop in is now so if you find you'd like some advice or support you know where to go before the hormones and tiredness kick in grin


I've got one flat nipple and one normal one. It did cause a few problems initially as my babies have had to learn two different techniques for feeding. Sometimes in the early stages I had to use a breast pump on the flat side before either newborn could latch. After the first few weeks everything was fine.

I've breastfed my DD to 18months when she self weaned. My DS is 17 months now and still feeds 2-3 times a day (he's allergic to cow's milk and soya so I'm not in a rush to stop breastfeeding).

I recommend getting as much breastfeeding help as possible in the beginning - in hospital and once you are at home. The NCT helpline was very useful too.

Good luck!

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Mon 09-Sep-13 13:40:47

DS was a bit tricky to get started as his latch wasn't great, but by 6 weeks he fed beautifully and we kept going to almost 2 years. I asked for, and got, lots of support from HCPs in the early days, and a got sore nipples but nothing horrific.

DD latched on and fed in the delivery room and we've had no problems since.

That's it, really!


fuckwittery Mon 09-Sep-13 13:41:35

I've fed two very successfully. Had one tricky night in hospital with dd1 when no-one had told me to wake up her up every 3-4 hours for a feed and I'd let her sleep about 8 hours blush. She was then so hungry and distressed it was tricky to get her latched on, lots of screaming, but a lovely midwife helped me latch her on repeatedly all night. After that plain sailing, a bit of an OUCH with let down, nipples v sensitive for the first few minutes of the feed, but I think that had gone by about 10 days. My worst problem was spurting milk when I tried to feed in public or leaking if I'd forgotten to put breast pads on but that was sorted out rapidly when supply settled down, in the first few weeks definitely.
Within a few weeks it was sooooo easy, could feed when and where I wanted, no bottle faffage, lovely feeds in bed at night no having to get up.
DD2 was also a breeze, she had a slight tongue tie which made her a bit colicky, so took a while to wind after feeds and I had to work a bit on getting the latch right. No pain at all though, and second time round didn't need nipple cream or breast pads.

Giving birth however I am not good at!

I won't bore you with my difficult beginnings. But I will say that the "lost sleep" didn't really exist for me. We side-car attached the cot to the bed so I barely had to wake for feeds. As DD didn't need the whole cot, I kept a night light, cake, squash, nappies and wipes at one end of the cot, and me and her at the other. Bfing releases hormones which help you get back to sleep, and because I didn't even need to get out of bed, it didn't really feel like a properly disturbed night.

Any difficulties for the first few weeks were wiped out by the ease of bfing for the remaining time I bf. You can leave the house with baby, nappy and wipes, so no need to take big bags, worry about warming milk, etc. Once you've cracked bfing, that's when you really can "just get on with it".

Forgot to add- no mastitis, no blocked ducts. I did have bleeding nipples during the first week but lansinoh is great stuff!

lucamom Mon 09-Sep-13 13:43:15

Bf three babies, 'teething problems' (not literally!) with first baby, for couple of days. Thereafter, once we got the hang of it it was easy, and was a doddle from the beginning for subsequent two. No mastitis/thrush or physical/health problems for me or babies.

There are other issues with breastfeeding which can cause a problem, such as clothing restrictions (I bf each for over a year, so couldn't wear a dress in all that time!), and 'cluster feeding' is a particular joy, but if it's important to you you'll manage fine. It doesn't have to be difficult for everyone, you'll hear horror stories but also success stories.

muckypuppy Mon 09-Sep-13 13:43:25

With DD1 (now 2) she took to it straight away but when my milk came in properly after a few days I was so engorged she couldn't latch on so my mw arranged for me to go back to the mw unit for the night to get milked like a cow (a tad embarrassing but such a relief) and to make sure DD was feeding ok again.

Went in that afternoon and was out the next lunchtime armed with some nipple shields as my lo seemed to latch on better using these:

After a month we stopped using the shields as she was a bit bigger and had mastered her technique. She went on to feed happily until she was 19 months, a couple of months before DD2 (now 4.5 months) arrived.

DD2 latched on from the word go, no probs and feeding away happily.

Like you I accepted it may not happen but wanted to give it a shot for the health & money benefits and because I'm a lazy cow who can't be bothered faffing about making up and sterilizing bottles.

Give it a go and ask for help from your mw if you need it. They really are great and have so much experience of what problems you can face and how to work around them.

Good luck, not long to go!

nancerama Mon 09-Sep-13 13:44:50

We established breast feeding with no problem at all. I was struck down with mastitis a couple of times, but because breast feeding was going so well, I figured it was something I could work through, and it shifted with feeding in bed and antibiotics after a couple of days.

Once breastfeeding is established you can be so spontaneous. Friend invites you out with title notice? No problem, just pick up a couple of nappies and trot out the door. No need to dash back if baby is hungry or you can't find anywhere to warm a bottle.

Remember these simple rules:
It's breast feeding, not nipple feeding - make sure baby gets a deep mouth full
Skin to skin helps to bring everything into place
Line your baby up with your tummies touching so that they don't need to twist into an awkward angle
When your milk comes in, so does cluster feeding. It will feel like you're feeding all the time. You will worry that your milk has dried up. It's normal - your baby is training your body to increase supplies for their growing tummies. This will happen every 4 weeks or so.
What goes in, must come out. As long as you're getting wet and dirty nappies, you can be sure enough is going in. Don't get hung up on the length or frequency of feeds. Trust your baby to know what she does.

If you're unsure, or worried, NCT and BfN helplines are there for you. Anyone can use them and you don't need to be a member of their organisations. They will advise you over the phone, direct you to their nearest drop in, or arrange for a specialist to visit you at home. Please use them as many times as you think you need. They really don't mind!

Good luck

gussiegrips Mon 09-Sep-13 13:45:23

Me too - nips like sandpaper with the first one after attaching her myself and stupidly not wanting to bother the MW to check. Get your first few latching ons checked - that's my sage advice.

Also, get a job lot of lansinoh in - that stuff is magic made by fairies.

And, cheap breast pads don't work. Get ones with the sticky pad to hold them in place, or washable ones are great for when you are in the house - bit obvious if out and about in your LBD (like a VPL, a VBPL).

It is tiring and hard to start off with, but the same as everything else you need to figure out with a newborn. and, once you've got it sussed, no sterilising, no buying formula, never running out of the stuff...

dufflefluffle Mon 09-Sep-13 13:46:17

BF both my children. My first was a dream - took to it immediately and I never had any problems. weaned her at 6 month of EBF. My second was a totally different story - I had smugly thought that I had domething to do with PFB's wonderful bf'ing. Apparently not. DC 2 was not terribly interested, didn't guzzle contentedly and just generally I felt that had he been my first I would have had a totally different attitude about bf'ing. I did introduce bottles (and formula) for one feed a day at about six weeks and this and his easy going attitude towards bf'ing meant that I kept it up for 18 months. I never had mastitis and the only real discomfort was when my milk came in on day 4 or whenever. I think that being relaxed and confident helped me to have a positive experience but ultimately it was DC#1's taking to bf'ing on day one that really helped.

nancerama Mon 09-Sep-13 13:46:27

And echoing Milk - your DH will be more than welcome at any clinics or drop ins. Having a supportive and understanding partner who can watch and remember and help you repeat a latch or hold at home is so valuable.

BeCool Mon 09-Sep-13 13:46:40

EBF 2 babies - I was an older Mum (1st at 40).

Women in my family never BF, but I always wanted to. I talked to wise women around me who had BF and received gentle amazing support from them.

I had nipple pain for about 2 weeks with both babies, but it passed. I just worked though it.

DD2 practically walked up to my boob after she was born and was feeding within minutes. smile

BF gave me a huge sense of freedom - I could get up and go when/where I wanted. With DD1 in particular I travelled, and lived an usual lifestyle for a while - all possible because I was EBF.

I brought 2 bottles before DD1 was born - they were never used.

the only person who ever said anything negative to me re BF was a 'friend' - it was easy to detach from her.

I fed everywhere and anywhere I needed to.

It was a lovely experience and I loved it.

I'm quite lazy & the thought of FF filled me with dread.

I absolutely loved the first few weeks/months lounging around with baby, BF, watching box sets, being up in the middle of the night etc. Loved it.

HaplessHousewife Mon 09-Sep-13 13:47:57

My two took to it really well, used to have to take DS off a couple of times each feed until he got the latch right as he was a bit keen and just used to suck like mad!

I had a couple of blocked ducts but managed to clear them myself so nothing major. Fed them both until about 14 months.

TheKnackeredChef Mon 09-Sep-13 13:48:53

I EBF my twins. No problems to speak of. Always felt a bit of a fraud when the HV waxed lyrical about how marvellous I was for doing it - truth was that for me it was easy and I was far too lazy to have to bother sterilising all those bottles!

NoToast Mon 09-Sep-13 13:48:57

It was hard-going the first few days (cracked nipples) and then fine for 2 years. I kept going partly because my mum told me it would be 'wonderful' once established and she was right.

Good luck!

MyNameIsAnAnagram Mon 09-Sep-13 13:50:21

I bf ds1 for 18m, and am 17wks into it with ds2. Apart from a dodgy 36 hours with ds1 at the start, I have had no issues whatsoever. No pain (sensitive nipples early in with both but that passes within two weeks), no thrush, no mastitis. I have loved bfing, it's convenient, easy and the ultimate in portable food!

GingerBlackAndOriental Mon 09-Sep-13 13:50:29

I have one daughter, she had a little feed after she was born while we were doing skin to skin. I now know that she probably didn't get anything at the time as I'd never BF before and didn't know how to do it properly.

She was taken to SCBU a few hours after birth with breathing difficulties. (all fine after tests) Her next feed was formula through a tube. I was given syringes and a photo of her and I went to hand express colostrum for her. Which I did for two days while we got the hang of breastfeeding. I just kept going to the SCBU unit and trying to get her to latch on and a wonderful midwife helped me.

On the 3rd day she was moved to my room in the hospital and we got better and better at BF (on demand). 48 hours after she left SCBU we went home. She lost a little weight but that's normal. When she was 6 days old my nipples were sore, one scabbed over. I didn't wear a bra and that helped a lot. I had a hot bath and the scab came off, I put lansinoh cream on them for a couple days and they were fine after that.

Never had a problem since. She's 18 months old and still BF a couple times a day and usually once in the night.

itsonlysubterfuge Mon 09-Sep-13 13:50:38

Started mixed feeding from pretty much birth, but by the time my DD first teeth started coming in, she wouldn't take a bottle and she was BF only from then until now and she is 14 month (with the exception of 'real food'). It is quite lovely when she runs up to me giggling shouting "boob!", not exactly perfectly normal, but one of my favorite things. Also, I've had thrush once and it was not a nightmare; it was pretty sore for a day or two and that was it, a bit of cream for me and goo for DD, and it was all better.

BeCool Mon 09-Sep-13 13:50:38

I didn't have mastistis or any other complications.
DD2 was a lefty and didn't feed from the right unless the left was empty first. Shen would NEVER comfort feed from the right.
Babies are funny!

Seaweedy Mon 09-Sep-13 13:50:57

I won't go into my story, which didn't end well - for reasons unrelated to my flat nipples. But you are already in a good position, in that you know you have flat nipples. I didn't realise mine would be a problem until I had given birth and was trying to feed, and realised there was literally nothing there for my baby to latch onto.

Agree with whoever suggested nipple shields as a corrector for flat nipples - I used Medella ones. They come in at least two different sizes, so it might be worth checking out what works best for your breasts.

(My situation was very unusual. I have never met another person with the same issue, and the only other person I know who couldn't breastfeed was someone who was so seriously ill she almost died in late pregnancy. There's no reason at all to think you'll have anything other than a humdrum normal BF experience. Have the numbers for local BF groups and counsellors etc to hand in advance, and best of luck!)

CMOTDibbler Mon 09-Sep-13 13:51:05

DS was premature, so it took him a couple of days to get the hang of bfing as he came off tube feeds, but then we didn't have any trouble with bfing at all.

He loved feeding, I loved feeding him. He took a bottle of ebm fine, so I expressed at work and he bf until 23 months when he stopped of his own accord.

No mastitis, no pain, no inconvenience (I could bf and walk around with him in a sling). And because I could feed lying down, very little lost sleep.

LtEveDallas Mon 09-Sep-13 13:51:59

I didn't have any problems at all. Until I came onto MN I honestly thought that mums who didn't BF were being unreasonable. I didn't realise that many were unable, or got thrush, or got mastitis etc. I was horrified when I found out, and very ashamed of myself.

DD was prem and in scbu for a month. I wasn't allowed to BF when she was in, I had to express and bottle feed her. The SCBU provided me with special bottles/teats that were apparently designed for prem babies and once she came home I didn't have any difficulties latching her on and feeding.

She was the incredible non-sleeping constantly feeding baby, but it was ace. I had to feed her 2 hourly for a couple of months, but very quickly got into the habit of dozing/sleeping when she was.

Once she settled more, and went to 4 hourly (ish) feeds it was even easier. I demand fed, but she seemed to fall into a routine pretty much by herself.

I didn't worry about feeding to sleep - its worked for us and didn't cause any settling issues. We also ended up pretty much co-sleeping and DD was the master of lying down feeding - so much so quite often I'd fall asleep as she was feeding, and only wake up when she started rooting around again.

I didn't feel any 'let-down', I'm still not sure what is meant by that expression. The only way that I could tell she was actually getting anything out of me was the fact that she was a dribbler!

I only ever has one incident of 'cant you feed her in the toilet?' type stuff when out and I simply answered "No, I'm feeding my daughter and if you don't like it that is your problem not mine"

I understand that I am lucky that I found it so easy. Weaning wasn't as easy because as soon as I stopped BF (6 months) DD refused milk - formula and cows, and water. I spent a few months expressing and using Avent Bottles to get it in her, but in the end gave up and made sure she had a lot of calcium and vitamins in her diet. She drank smoothies like they were going out of fashion (recommended by the hosp) and always ate very well.

Considering that she was 3lb 3oz in the hospital and we were told to keep an eye on her lungs, eyes, hearing and development, she is now the tallest and fittest girl in her class. Hardly ever ill and doing brilliantly at school.

Wow, what an essay blush, sorry. It's nice to be able to post good things for once smile

soapnuts Mon 09-Sep-13 13:53:13

I had one flat and one inverted nipple with DS1 - used nipple shields so it never hurt, no real dramas, fed for 6 months before he decided he preferred bottles. All pretty easy. DS2 still feeding at 8 months - used shields for first week then realised we didn't need them - DS2 has been even easier and is a total boob monster... and nipples aren't flat anymore! that's got to be a major plus! I say try it, if you hate it you'll be able to say you tried and hopefully have no guilt whichever way you end up going.

spiderlight Mon 09-Sep-13 13:53:21

I had a perfectly straightforward time BF too, despite being very, very scared about it beforehand. Home birth, midwife put DS on the boob to encourage a reluctant placenta to emerge, he latched on and away we went. Latching was sore for the first few days as the tissue behind the nipple has to stretch, but knowing what it was and that it would stop once the stretching was done made it totally bearable, and it was only a bit of an 'Ooooh!' for a few seconds anyway. DS fed like a pro for a very, very, very long time, gained weight brilliantly, slept brilliantly and we never had any problems apart from one tiny milk blister the day before his first birthday, which again was no more than one painful feed and a sore nip for a day or two! Lansinoh was fab stuff - I used it a fair bit in the very early days but didn't need it after about a week or ten days. I did find cluster feeds a bit of a shock at first but again that phase doesn't last very long and you can use it as an excuse to watch lots of telly and be brought cake.

I found this book very useful.

MummytoMog Mon 09-Sep-13 13:53:58

My first baby went to SCBU, had formula for the first 24 hours. I was worried she wouldn't take to the breast. She latched perfectly straight away and breastfed like a champion for the next five months. No mastitis, no sore nipples, nothing but slightly leaky boobs. She self-weaned onto the bottle after a bad cold (I bottle fed her during it because she found it easier). My second baby latched on during skin to skin straight after the birth and my milk came in so strong that I tried to persuade my eighteen month old to help out a bit as I had bowling ball boobs. The only problem I had with him was that he refused to take a bottle from about four months to about six months, but he cracked when I went back to work and he had no choice. I weaned him at nine months. I was a bit worried that I would find it tricky to breast feed as I have enormous knockers. This was foolish. I breastfed lying down, standing up, in the queue for the British Museum, at a restaurant, while doing the shop, while changing a nappy, in the cinema, in the theatre, at a wedding etc etc etc Mostly I breastfed in my living room while reading a good book, but it was super easy. I never had my latch checked.

Washable breast pads (the ones from Boots are the best IMO) are the only way to go, I had loads of them and used to either chuck them in whatever wash was going each day, or rinse at night if I was getting low. They did me for two babies, then did my pal as well.

teacher123 Mon 09-Sep-13 13:53:58

Delivered DS by ELCS, had to express the first few days as had problems with Over supply. Hired a pump from the NCT and expressed for the first fortnight until I managed to get him properly latched on at 2 weeks. Then he was ebf until 6mo, stopped feeding at 10mo. Had a bit of pain, never had mastitis, never had blocked ducts etc.

HopLittleFroggyHopHopHop Mon 09-Sep-13 13:54:01

DD was premature and tube fed expressed milk for the first 3 weeks. No trouble there except one day of 1 painful boob which settled down with extra expressing.
She was pretty much ebf until 9 months (due to prematurity more than bf I think) and have found it so easy, even in public it takes a few attempts then you get used to doing it discretely and can feed most places.
The first month or 2 for most people seems to involve sitting on the sofa breastfeeding the majority of it, but it's good to relax at first anyway! Get a good stock of dvds and enjoy it smile
DD is 11 months now and still bf and it makes life so much easier. If she cries it instantly calms her, same if she bumps herself, and it's something she will always eat if she's not feeling like solids so I don't need to panic if she refuses a meal.
Also I'm a huge faffer so it would take me about an hour to leave the house if I had to prepare bottles each time grin no chance of me forgetting boobs!

I think people like to talk about the harder bits to prepare people but the good side by far cancels out most initial problems IMO.

Bookwolf32 Mon 09-Sep-13 13:54:27

I'm breastfeeding my first, she's now 10 months. First couple of months were tricky - tongue-tie and just getting used to it, but then it was fine. I've never had mastitis, sore nipples were treated with lansinoh. I've always just fed wherever, even though I'm a bit shy about my body. In the begininning I would go into the 'feeding rooms' of shops, but then realised they're mostly yucky.
Best thing my Mum told me was the first 6 weeks were the hardest for her, so I told myself I would do 6 weeks and see how we were going. After that it was still a bit tricky, but when I saw how much faffing there was with bottles I decided that breastfeeding was still the easier option for me. I think it helps to give yourself a goal if you are finding it hard eg. 6 weeks, 3 months.

MrsHoratioNelson Mon 09-Sep-13 13:55:15

Thank you all so much, these stories are so encouraging. Having been a MNer for a while before I got pg I had been almost militantly pro choice about BF (and I still am as far as anyone else's choices are concerned) so it was a bit of a shock to find that I want it to work as much as I do - mostly for the reasons muckypuppy and a few others have outlined wink

I am very keen on the idea of late night cake on standby. Who wouldn't want that?!

I have laid in a couple of bottles and some ready made formula just in case my poor nipples I want a break one day or if the time I decide its not working is at 3am, but this has given me lots of useful advice and positivity smile

YoniBottsBumgina Mon 09-Sep-13 13:56:57

The only problems I had in the beginning were when DS used to flail his arms about right in the damn way - all newborns seem to have this amazingly irritating habit! Luckily you can solve it by swaddling them smile

The other problem I had was that I first learnt to latch him on lying down, and then couldn't latch him on sitting up, for about four days. That was it, honestly. We had a problem, it seemed like the end of the world, in reality it lasted four days and everything was fine again.

He self weaned about 8 months ago, no issues, just spread feeds out further and further until he stopped completely.

IceBeing Mon 09-Sep-13 14:02:49

This is an excellent idea for a thread!

DD got herself latched before I had come around from the general anaesthetic and never really looked back.

I had sore nipples for about 3 days and have been fine otherwise. Well actually I had one blocked duct incident only a few months ago, but otherwise fine.

We are now 2 years and 4 months down the line and I am thinking of trying to wind up the BF...but every time DD has 'fridge' milk I can't help wondering what the point is given she could still have BM.

Well I am leaving it up to her to choose and move on when she wants to.

DipMeInChocolate Mon 09-Sep-13 14:05:20

I found it straight forward from birth. Did a little research beforehand so I was prepared. Watched an old show of the baby whisperer where she showed how to latch on. Its hard to explain without pictures but I'll try:
1. grip nipple just out side areola at the top and bottom of it with first finger and thumb,
2.brush babys top lip with nipple should make them open their mouth wide.
3. Push nipple in to the top and back of their mouth ensuring all of the areola is in.
4. Get in a comfy position and chill out for a bit until they unlatch themselves
5. switch breasts and repeat step 4.

It doesn't come naturally to everyone but after a few days/weeks, it will feel natural. Enjoy your new baby thanks

Tournesol Mon 09-Sep-13 14:07:20

I bf all three of my DC for a year. They all took it up really easily and I had no problems despite having the world's smallest boobs.

If you can manage it it makes life so much easier not having to lug around bottles etc just boobs.

Rainbowshine Mon 09-Sep-13 14:08:00

I only had two issues to overcome:

Latching on - solved by going to children's centre where a lovely kind adviser spent an hour with me and DS helping me improve our latching as it was a bit hit and miss. I also got one of these to help:

Second problem was staying awake during night feeds and when very tired. Rope in any help you can for other care, e.g. DH did all nappies and baths so I could have naps, and fed and watered me so I didn't starve.
Once DS started having longer gaps between feeds this got a lot easier and then he started sleeping through which was bliss.

Once I got a bit more confident I went to places I felt comfortable to try feeding when out and about. After about 3 months I realised I was feeding DS without really thinking about it, and now enjoy our cosy cuddly feeding times.

I realise I am fortunate it worked but that was due to some tenacity to get through latching issues and tiredness, as well as not being shy to ask for help. Having a very supportive DH was also a major factor as he did a lot for me and when I was struggling was good at reminding me it was just a new skill me and DS were learning. HTH and good luck with the baby.

StyleManual Mon 09-Sep-13 14:08:48

I found BF straight forward too. It was painful to start with and I needed a bit of help from breastfeeding support, and had a few niggles along the way (over supply and a blocked duct), but they weren't a big issue. I knew I wanted to breast feed and I knew it wouldn't just be easy peasy. If your expectations are low, you'll be fine! My DD found it easy to learn too. She kind of self-weaned at 9 months. She just lost interest as she was so keen on real food and couldn't be bothered to feed. Oh, and if you're looking that far ahead, we did BLW and it was as easy as falling off a log for all involved.

DoudousDoor Mon 09-Sep-13 14:15:51

My BF experience was/is very straightforward. DH was amazed that as soon as I held newborn DS he immediately started rooting and "knew what to do".

I had one painful night when my milk came in, had oversupply the first few months until I learnt how to reduce my supply and after that it was plain sailing.

Started mix feeding at 5 months when I went back to work and DS is nearly 2 years old now and still feeding in the evening.

I've used Lasinoh when a bit sore but never had thrush or a blocked duct or anything.

I would like to stop now to be honest as I'm pregnant with DC2 and do not want to tandom feed but will try to encourage DS to stop gently. It is lovely though when I sit in our "feeding chair" (a particular corner of the sofa) and DS giggles and gets all excited when I take my bra off so he can latch on.

I found BF so convenient. Could stay out as long as we wanted, and also to my amazement my supply really does respond to needs. So DS is down to one feed a day but when we went on holiday this summer he didn't eat a lot of normal food but I could feed him lots in the evening, a bit at night and in the morning so he wasn't hungry. I was so pleased to be able to do that for him, especially as our room had no fridge so normal milk wouldn't have been possible!

gonerogue Mon 09-Sep-13 14:16:30

I EBF my two until 6 months each. Both were EMCS and with both had BF down pat within in a day.
No thrush, no mastitis, did have shredded nipples for about a week with DD but nothing with DS, I had lansinoh from day 1 with DS, (lesson learnt from DD)

With the shredded nipples, I used nipple shields but not for feeding. They were great for allowing air in without my bra/shirt/whatever I was wearing irritating the nipples.

I was very lucky that it all worked out for me. Good luck and I hope you get what you want.

NightLark Mon 09-Sep-13 14:16:41

I bf my 3 babies, all for around 2 years. It was (and is - I'm still feeding DC3) a lovely experience.

I always had loads of milk, and leaked a lot. If this is you too, Lansinoh breast pads are streets ahead of any other brand for proper, full on leaking.

My babies were big, fat and hungry and have grown to be lean, tall and hungry.

I never fed to schedule, always on demand. My boobs would feel full, the baby would seem hungry, baby + boob, all sorted.

The littlest talks a lot, and is very happy to explain how much she loves bm, and how my breasts are actually hers. All hers. She looks at them with propriatorial delight. Which makes me laugh.

I never lost any weight bf, but I ate ALL the cakes. Which was nice.

tumbletumble Mon 09-Sep-13 14:17:46

I have 3 DC and bf them all for between 9 and 12 months. I was lucky and bfing was easy for me. I never had mastitis, engorged boobs or thrush. Just a few problems getting DC1 to latch on initially and I did finally get sore nipples with DC3 (I think he had a stronger suck than the other two) - I though I'd escaped them!

SleepyCatOnTheMat Mon 09-Sep-13 14:24:48

It's like everything to do with pregnancy and birth - it could be very easy or it could be very painful and you have to try and be prepared for all eventualities. I expected it to be relatively easy because I hadn't heard any horror stories but it wasn't and that came as a big shock. In my case it just really hurt to start with. Nothing to do with positioning (the midwives said that was fine), my breasts just ached. That lasted 7 or 8 weeks and I don't think there's anything I could have done about it.

My top breastfeeding tip is rather than waiting for your nipples to get sore and then putting cream on, put cream on as a preventative measure, specifically Kamillosan cream as it's edible and safe for baby i.e. you don't have to wash it off before feeds (which negates the point). And have some formula in the cupboard (and bottles and a steriliser) so if breastfeeding does become totally miserable for some reason you've got something to feed the baby with.

BTW I breastfed for 6 months in the end (and yes, it was a case of powering through, often in tears, but ending up loving it).

Skang Mon 09-Sep-13 14:32:07

My dd had a tongue tie which had to be cut, but other than that we have had no problems. I've never had so much as a sore nipple.

nancerama Mon 09-Sep-13 14:49:01

Speak to your midwife about lansinoh. Most get sent heaps of free samples. Stock up on the sachets - a little goes a long way.

dubstarr73 Mon 09-Sep-13 14:53:30

I bf 5 of mine,never had any problems with latch or supply.Had normal things like nipples being sore or being bitten by baby.Otherwise it was very boring.
Did get mastitis once when ds2 was a year old.Thats it though.

MrsOakenshield Mon 09-Sep-13 15:01:31

my NCT class of 6 mothers, one of whom had twins, all bfed pretty successfully. I think about 4 month was the minimum, 14 months the longest (and that was someone who went back to work at 10 months).

I did struggle to begin with, not with any of the biggies like mastitis, but big floppy boobs and a small, quite weak baby is not a great combo. But I am quite competitive and was determined to last as long as the mum I knew of who'd done the least, which was 10 weeks (a pretty good go, in actual fact).

Things that really helped it work:

1. DH absolutely on board, meaning he did everything around the house, leaving me to do nothing but feed. This after he had returned to work too. His support made all the difference.

2. Stopping bfing in bed - I just found it too uncomfortable, so I would get up and feed in the next door room (where there was a sofa) whilst watching iPlayer - made the night feeds much much better.

3. A good breastfeeding cafe - mine was in my local library. The midwives there are experts, much more so than the ones in hospital.

If I had my time again I would fork out for a glider feeding chair, I used these in the parents' room in Peter Jones, bloody amazing they are.

once she got big enough for me feed without having to hold my boob as well as her (around 16 weeks) it got so much better, as did the fact that she seemed to fall into a 3 hourly routine naturally at that age - I found that easier than feeding on demand.

MissHC Mon 09-Sep-13 15:04:32

Can I just say thank you to everyone for your lovely stories. 30 weeks pregnant and, like OP, a bit apprehensive of BF after reading so many horror stories. This really gives me so much more confidence!

UptoapointLordCopper Mon 09-Sep-13 15:08:16

May be a bit late here, but I bf two babies, both very straightforward, weaned at around 5 months, no problems there with taking bottles, no great problems with solids. All complete dull. smile

carabos Mon 09-Sep-13 15:09:28

BF two without problems. DS1 self weaned at 9 months or so, having discovered solids required much less work on his part. DS2 was weaned by me at 27 months - left to his own devices he would be breastfeeding yet aged 20 because to his mind solids require too much effort on his part grin.

No difficulties other than sore nipples for the first while and you do have to bite your lip through that. Huge benefits all round - especially on the no periods front. I had no period for three years from conceiving DS2 till weaning.

CuppaSarah Mon 09-Sep-13 15:09:51

I'm having a great time BF DD. It took a few days to get the hang of it, she was very, very sleepy so we both found it easier for me to express bottles for the first 10 days. Once she was a little more alert, it was absolutely effortless and easy.

sparklekitty Mon 09-Sep-13 15:09:55

Mine is a very bog standard experience. Bit of a tricky start but lovely MW who helped with latch.

DD is almost a year. I've had mastitis once but caught it very early at blocked duct stage so didn't feel too rough with it.

Let down was a bit uncomfortable at first but not painful.

I bf in public all the time and had not one raised eyebrow or comment which in a little disappointed about, I was ready to stamp and challenge

I'm still going now but DD has day weaned herself (which is a little unusual I think) but she feeds last thing at night, first thing in the morning and sometimes at night too.

I've generally loved it, although occasionally I've thought 'I'm done' then changed my mind almost immediately!

Oh I did get bitten once, that hurt!

carabos Mon 09-Sep-13 15:10:58

Forgot to mention another benefit - DS1 was born in spring and I spent that summer watching cricket on the telly while feeding - as a result I know everything about the follow-on grin.

Neither of mine had a bottle or dummy.

I've got a flat nip too, so I used a breast pump to get it to stick out sufficiently. I have to say that one of the many positive effects of BF is a lovely sticky-out left nipple!

Sparklekitty, I too am miffed that I was never once challenged about BFing DS in public, given that the Equality Act came into force the year he was born. I did it everywhere for over two years- park benches, pubs, restaurants, on the sea front in Staithes (pre Old Jack's Boat) and even in Home Bargains once. All I ever got was supportive smiles and thumbs ups, complimentary pots of tea in restaurants and old ladies telling me how lovely it was to see and how it reminded them of feeding their own children. grin

itsblackoveryonderhill Mon 09-Sep-13 15:18:17

I had my DD, the midwife helped her to latched, she fed, this continued in this manor for a day or two. I then got a little bit of cracked nipples, but no blood or anything and it was sorted with kamillosan and it was clear in about 1 week. I never had any issues with mastitis, or thrush.

She was exclusively BF, with no expressed milk at all, she was a bottle refuser.

I loved it and I fed her until she was 16 mths old, but with only her bedtime feed from 11.5months.

the hardest bit is the sleep exhaustion because nobody else can do it for you, which is not the case with FF.

I should add, she was a bottle refuser because I never had any reason to express because I was quite happy doing a feed myself. She was happy to drink from a doidy cup though from a very young age, so we also had some Expressed milk in the freezer for DH to use with a doidy cup in an emergency, such as if she was left with him and he couldn't soothe her and it was to see if she was peckish, after the usual, change nappy, try had have a sleep, have a bit of a cuddle etc.

I absolutely loved BF.

itsblackoveryonderhill Mon 09-Sep-13 15:22:29

Oh and I never got propositioned about feeding in public. On my very first outing with DD, my Mum came with me for moral support. I went to a local shopping centre and we sat down for a drink and for me to feed DD (she was about 10 days old). As I was getting her to latch the cleaning lady came over and chatted to us and she actually helped me with my hold and showed me how to make a 'sling' with my pashmina to help DD stay latched but also allowing me to have 2 hands free.

I always had lovely smiles etc when people saw me feeding.

Hullygully Mon 09-Sep-13 15:24:28

Bf two. No probs at all.

AFishWithoutABicycle Mon 09-Sep-13 15:26:46

My experience was very painful at the beginning but after a couple of weeks that stopped and it was very easy. I was happy to stop at six months mainly because it was awkward when out and about and I like a drink. I wished I'd been a bit braver about doing it in public and not been so wet.

AFishWithoutABicycle Mon 09-Sep-13 15:28:08

Oh yeah and she slept amazingly. Still does.

AnotherStitchInTime Mon 09-Sep-13 15:28:25

DD1 breast fed for 2 years after some initial problems with latch on my right breast in the first few days.

DD2 still breast feeding at 18 months old, she latched on straight away despite being born by EMCS, I have never had any problems feeding her.

No thrush, no mastitis, the odd blocked duct, but sorted easily with massage in a hot bath.

I am due with dc3 in January and and unless dd2 shows signs of wanting to stop soon I might end up tandem feeding smile

TiredyCustards Mon 09-Sep-13 15:28:55

I've had 2 emcs, both babies latched on easily.

Breastfeeding has never hurt (it's missing feeds and getting a bit too full up that hurts!)

I've never had sore nipples, mastitis etc.

I breastfed dd for just under 3 years, then decided I didn't want to anymore and we stopped.
I'm still feeding ds at 13 months and plan to cut down to bedtime only at around 18months.

PeacockPlumage Mon 09-Sep-13 15:38:02

I ebf both of mine. Bought lots of bottles/steriliser/dummies when pg but dd1 fed almost immediately after birth and didn't stop for quite some time! And made her preference for milk from the source very clear. Neither dd has had any formula/bottles or dummies as I found bf to be the less hassle option.

I did have sore nipples to start with with dd1, but with help from a mw we sorted the latch adn used lansinoh like mad and it got better v quickly. Day 3 rock boobs were quite uncomfortable too, but dd1 fed like mad and sorted it. Cluster feeding came as a shock but once I'd adjusted to lying ahout being waited on hand and foot while I fed constantly I soon adapted! Dd2 was just as enthusiastic and I had an even easier time with no engorgement or soreness at all.

I have loved our bf journey. It's free, available round the clock, allows you to rest properly and is the answer to all upsets/injuries/illness/tiredness. I found the lll books, the info given out at our nct class (available online I think) and The Food of Love book really reassuring. I went to our local baby cafe and made really good bf friends, and it was reassuring to know that others were worried about the same things/had got over the same issues. Plus someone gave me bisuits and brought me hot tea!

Washable breast pads are good but don't usenthem with lansinoh, I trashed my first lot like that !

MrsOakenshield Mon 09-Sep-13 15:41:37

oh yes, never a snippy comment, or even a look, when bfing in public, and a good sleeper.

NeatFreak Mon 09-Sep-13 15:43:05

My experience was beautifully boring. All three latched on straight away with no pain, discomfort, mastitis etc at all. First two fed for over a year and dc3 still feeding now and there have been no problems so far. Have an open mind, be open to advice and there's every chance it will go smoothly. Good luck

Snatchoo Mon 09-Sep-13 15:44:39

I mix fed my twins till 4 months and then switched to bottles. I was just too difficult with two children and trying to get out and about! Had an issue with my milk no coming in for about a week (they were 36 weekers) and they were reluctant to latch initially, but after a week it was fine.

DS3 was EBF till 7 months and continued will 14ish months. He latched on about 10 seconds after birth, never had any problems at all and didn't even lose any birth weight (which is normal btw) he was such a greedy bugger! The only problem I had was a really sore boob when he was about 2 months old I think? I just fed more and drank a lot of water and had paracetamol till it resolved itself (this was on the advice of the HV - she said if not better in a few days then go to doctor).

PS - I never had sore nipples unless the littler blighters bit! All in all, I found it really really easy and if I have another (unlikely) I'd do it again.

MummytoMog Mon 09-Sep-13 15:44:54

I was a bit disappointed that nobody raised an eyebrow about public BFing. Well actually, one of my (male) friends did get a bit funny once at a party. I have teased him mercilessly about it since however and he is perfectly well aware of his FAIL.

enormouse Mon 09-Sep-13 15:47:54

I bfd DS till he was about 15 months. It was fine really, I did it in cafes, restaurants, trains, pretty much anywhere. I expressed a lot so DP could feed at night but it was easier just to get the boobs out and do it myself than go downstairs and heat it up again.
I think a good support network is important too. I had an immensely encouraging DP who would get up and keep me company at night, bought me a portable DVD player and many boxsets. And would bring me snacks at night.
DPs mum was great as she extended bfd her kids when it wasn't really done and was full of advice. Unlike my mum and gran who informed me breastfeeding was for peasants and people would assume I couldn't afford formula.

Oh and DS slept through the night at 10 months and was rarely sick (got his first cold the week he stopped feeding).

ProfYaffle Mon 09-Sep-13 15:51:50

Totally get where you're coming from op. When I was pg with dd1 I was dreading bf as everything you read is about overcoming adversity, I'll never forget the anecdote in our NCT magazine from a woman who described biting down in pain on a baby blanket while blood poured from her nipples shock

The reality for me was totally humdrum. Dd1 knew what she was doing and got on with it while I fretted I was getting it wrong. I bf her for a year in the end. Same with dd2.

It's the same with anything. Stories of things going well just aren't as interesting as when it all turns to shit, whether it's relationships, shopping or bfing.

SomethingAboutNothing Mon 09-Sep-13 15:53:53

I have one inverted nipple and one normal - the midwife said DS might struggle to feed on the inverted nipple so suggested I express on that one until it popped out. He had no problems feeding, I successfully fed him for 9 months. My nipple is still inverted.

The key thing with BF is spending the first few weeks letting your baby feed as often as possible to get your supply up, after that I found it far more convenient than making up bottles like I have to now.

MrsDeVere Mon 09-Sep-13 15:54:53

5 dcs
BF 4 of them (one of mine is adopted so FF him smile )

Only issue I had was being very sore with DC1. This came on after about a week and eased about two weeks later, just as I thought 'I can't do this!'

Apart from that I have no problems and found it all really easy. I hated FF because I am lazy and hate washing up, making up bottles and it looks even more complicated now than it used to be.

I had a 15 year gap between DS1 and DS3 (DS2 is the adopted one) and I wondered if I would find it hard to BF after all that time but I had no problems at all.

PartyOrganisor Mon 09-Sep-13 15:56:27

Only issue with me was the size of my nipples, which were too big.
That meant a hard first weeks, waiting for the dcs to grow a bit more and then it was a breeze.

Snatchoo Mon 09-Sep-13 15:57:35

Oh yes, and I never had a negative comment about BF in public. TBH, as I used to quite often go into town for a quiet coffee and a read of my Kindle, I had quite a lot of little old ladies congratulate me on breastfeeding confidently in public!

And it's a lot more discreet to do it under a jacket or tee shirt than like a woman I saw who had two friends hold a shawl up over her hmm

RNJ3007 Mon 09-Sep-13 16:04:05

I'm breastfeeding my second child. With my first, my nipples were flat, but a few weeks of shields encouraged enough projection for a latch.

DS latched 45 minutes after birth. One day of slight soreness, one day of 'they are cannonballs not boobs' and just over 3 weeks of normal, happy nursing! In public too. And despite reflux, he is gaining fabulously. smile yay for boobs!

MrsHoratioNelson Mon 09-Sep-13 16:06:25

I went for a snooze (the perks of a first maternity leave grin) and look what happened! These are such good stories, thank you all very much.

NomDeClavier Mon 09-Sep-13 16:15:12

Well we did have thrush (several times or one long time - if you have it then steam sterilising doesn't kill it, you need to Milton everything like nipple shields and dummies).

But that was the only issue and it wasn't really that bad. I gave birth. He lunged and latched. He stayed there for 2 years (or it felt like it!).

I also went back to work when he was 4months and expressed just fine. He didn't have formula.

satsumagirl Mon 09-Sep-13 17:20:30

Breastfeeding is v tiring but jolly nice. I EBF'd both babies to 6 months. Was v lucky and had no cracked nipples or pain. Just as well really as my 2 spent fricking hours on the boob.

Grumblelion Mon 09-Sep-13 17:31:07

Although we had a few issues at the start with latching and poor supply, support from breastfeeding cafe and DH saw us through (still going at 8 months and counting). No mastitis, blocked ducts or thrush even using nipples shields.

Two emcs. Both babies latched on straight away. Bf dd1 for 12 months only had a blocked duct once that cleared on its own. Am bf dd2 who is 10 months no problems whatsoever. Dd2 also takes ebm in a bottle quite happily. No top ups or interruptions just ordinary bf grin

slightlysoupstained Mon 09-Sep-13 18:11:58

I bought a tube of Lansinoh expecting all the cracked nipples etc problems I'd read about. Never used it (unfortunately I did open it, or I'd pass it on). Nipples never cracked or bled or any other discomfort.

DS attempted to feed straight after birth - no idea if he got anything then though. Midwife in hosp helped us get him latched on lying down, latching on sitting up took a little longer but they encouraged me to keep trying & by the time we went home it was fine.

Had what I think was the very beginning of mastitis start up once but managed to catch it early so never got bad.

Still feeding DS at 1, he was ill recently (croup) & was great to be able to comfort him when he was waking up coughing by just offering a bf.

I did have very leaky boobs to start with. Things I wish I'd known earlier:
1) sleep bras are so much comfier at night. Bugger all support for daytime though.
2) Lansinoh breast pads - I could never bring myself to spend the extra on them but DP brought some home the other day & dammit, they are good.
3) Wish someone had pointed out that when your milk comes in on day 3, your baby might get very pissed off at the switch in taste. We thought we'd broken him. Next morning he was fine with it though.

I was all right. There are plenty of stages in the first 6 weeks where you're all "just one more week" because newborns feed a lot, it hurts to get started & dd1 was sloooooooooooowwwww.

Book a breastfeeding counsellor before the birth. Not 2 weeks after. BEFORE. Mine fixed my latch & wouldn't leave until it stopped hurting. I think I would have put up with the pain for a few weeks & then quit, whereas a little support meant I lasted for 18 months.

CheungFun Mon 09-Sep-13 18:36:52

I wish I could save this thread for when I decide to have another DC! Nice to know it can be a straightforward experience, plus a lot of tips I could have done with for DS wink I wish I'd read up more about it before DS arrived like you're doing op! Good luck and best wishes flowers

SomeKindOfDeliciousBiscuit Mon 09-Sep-13 18:41:26

I nearly died from a pph and had lots of blood transfused, hours in theatre and so on. DD fed like mad from the off, but I didn't know how to attach her so I ended up with love bites all over my boobs! After getting that sorted (and topping up with one bottle of formula a day for a bit as she lost weight - it's normal for babies to do that at first but I thought as she was feeding all the time it was probably because I wasn't making much, having been ill) it was all brilliant. The troublesome bit was less than a month, feeding didn't hurt any more (my DD has a stronger suck than a Henry, midwives came to watch, heh heh!) and you have the convenience and cuddles and weightloss and cuddles and happy hormones and cuddles and instant consolation of breast feeding evermore. My dd is getting on for 2yo and we're still going strong.

I bf for two years. had one tiny blocked duct but never had thrush or mastitis or tongue tiesmile

BeCool Tue 10-Sep-13 10:40:08

slighlysoupstained I was the same re Lanisnoh. I brought it with DD2 and only used it a couple of times.

It is very good as a nail treatment cream though - esp if you add it at night before bed grin

OliviaMMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 20-Sep-13 20:04:50

We will shortly be moving this thread out of chat to our feeding topic so that it doesnt' go poof!

hazchem Sat 21-Sep-13 12:36:38

We have had a smooth breastfeeding ride from the beginning.
DS fed like a trooper as soon as he was near my nipple. Only stopped when the midwife showed me how to unlatch him.

It takes effort but in a good way. On the whole breastfeeding has been a pleasant and enjoyable thing to do. I like breastfeeding, it feels nice.

JiltedJohnsJulie Sat 21-Sep-13 21:31:54

Dd was born, we had skin to skin and with a bit of persuasion fed. She fed every 3 hours, regular as clockwork. There was a time I was a little concerned about her weight. She's a nosey little blighter and was too busy looking at what was going on, so I offered it every 2 hours. Didn't accept a bottle but we got through it. Took her out with me when she was little and when I did leave her she had a cup.

Have had mastitis but only when I returned to work and wasn't expressing enough.

DS had tongue tie but we got through it.

Have never had so much as a sore nipple either. Both were weaned at about 2.8. Had thought originally I'd try bfing, then could bf for 6 months and eventually went on for much longer.

Never had a negative comment in public either.

Haven't read the whole thread, so sorry if I'm repeating. If you are thinking of bfing read Preparing to bf. Put the numbers of the Bfing helplines in your phone (and call them before nigh less turn into problems smile) and find out where your local bfing support groups are and go to them before Lo arrives. All of this should help your bfing smile

legallyblond Sun 22-Sep-13 07:10:00

Honestly - it's always been fairly easy.

Both Dd and now my twins were v sleepy when born and so for the first 24 hours or so, a MW helped me hand express colostrum into a syringe plus teach DD how to latch (I could do it myself for the twins). Then.... No problems at all.

On a few occasions I've had blocked ducts, but it's never ever developed into mastitis as I've massaged them out while feeding and in a hot shower.

I felt a bit confused on occasion, especially around the 4-6 month time, as it seemed like some of the fg babies I knew were sleeping through while DD was waking every 2 hours in a growth spurt.... But actually, I never felt too sleep deprived, except when she was ill, and that was the same fit the ff babies.

It really wasn't that hard. I never had sore or bleeding nipples, although I used lansinoh religiously and got lots if midwives to check my latch.

minipie Sun 22-Sep-13 09:11:16

It wasn't straightforward for me till about 4 months - BUT it could have been so much more straightforward if I'd got the right help early on (specifically, if I'd got dd checked for tongue tie by a proper trained breastfeeding counsellor).

My point is, a lot of the stories you hear of difficult BFing experiences might not have turned out that way if they'd got the right help. So don't be put off by those stories - just line up the phone numbers of some good breastfeeding counsellors NOW so that you can call if and when you need any help.

AmandaCooper Sun 22-Sep-13 10:16:00

Another very good experience here. I'd read all the horror stories and convinced myself I needed to prepare for the worst. One of my best friends had a horrendous experience and kept reminding me it was going to be awful. In actual fact DS just popped himself on immediately and just got on with it. We have had some problems due to a tongue tie but nothing too terrible; I decided not to get it corrected. If you can get past the initial hurdles of learning a new skill and if you can sort out any problems, then after the first few months, breastfeeding is a dream - it's so liberating to just be able to latch them on and feed or soothe them - or even just get a break!

Hello minipie! <waves>

hettienne Sun 22-Sep-13 10:24:13

We had a hard birth and I refused (!) to feed DS immediately so a midwife expressed colostrum for me and DP syringe fed him for the fist feed grin DS was jaundiced and sleepy so it was a struggle to wake him to feed enough at first but once we escaped from the post natal ward it got much easier. We both had antibiotics after the birth and then got thrush, but once we got the treatment right it cleared up really quickly, and it was mostly DS's mouth that was affected, by nipples didn't hurt.

DS also had a tongue tie snipped at 3 weeks, but it hadn't been causing me any pain previously.

DS fed every 2-3 hours mostly. We had him in a bedside cot and I fed him lying down and mostly in my sleep at night. Cut out night feeds by 9 months. Were down to about 4 feeds a day by 10 months, started swapping the two day time feeds for cups of cow's milk at about 11 months and by 13 months swapped the bedtime feed too. Then one day he just refused the morning feed and I didn't offer again. Weaning was pretty easy for us.

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