Bf a 7 1/2 month old - am I the only one?!

(72 Posts)
ExBrightonBell Mon 25-Feb-13 16:41:33

So, I met up with my NCT group yesterday and discovered that I am the only one who is "still" breastfeeding on demand during the day. Our babies are all between 7 1/2 and 9 months old. The ones who are bf are feeding morning and evening (and maybe through the night, I don't know the details), but during the day their babies are having formula or water with meals.

They all seem very keen to stop bf completely and I felt like a complete freak when I sat and bf my ds after lunch! One of them even asked me how I had the time to bf as well as doing meals during the day.

Is it really so unusual to still be feeding on demand during the day at 7 1/2 months? I also don't really care about cutting down on the number of feeds either.

My ds is a bit rubbish at drinking water from a cup, although he is getting better. But there's no way at the moment that he would be getting enough hydration without bf-ing as well.

I suppose I'm just asking for opinions on whether I'm really that out of step with other people?

mrscog Mon 25-Feb-13 16:47:07

No - my DS is 1 next week and I still demand feed in the day. He does only demand 1-2 feeds though (plus first thing in am). He also has water with meals. Don't feel like a freak - tons of people still bf beyond 6mo.

ExBrightonBell Mon 25-Feb-13 16:55:57

Thanks mrscog - I wish I knew some of them!

kayty Mon 25-Feb-13 18:24:48

Not unusual at all, you carry on! My DD didn't really drink anything except BM until after she was one - despite offers of water etc. I didn't cut down on feeds either (despite those who seemed to have a problem with it) although as she got nearer one I tried to distract her until after meal times. At 7 1/2 months I don't remember any difference to 5 1/2 months to be honest!

belindarose Mon 25-Feb-13 18:31:44

My DS is the same age and the thought of stopping hasn't even crossed my mind. He loves it. It's just what we do.

rockinhippy Mon 25-Feb-13 18:45:36

Agree it not unusual at all, I carried on until 10 months old, even expressing so my DH could feed DD whilst I was at work & I stopped quite early in comparison to other new mums around me at the time - as has been said, you are doing the right thing for your baby, nit all can, but you obviously can, so carry on until you are ready & don't be made to feel you are doing anything wrong, you most certainly aren't

OddFrog Mon 25-Feb-13 18:54:11

7 1/2 months is still just tiny. Totally normal and healthy to bf on demand! And quite lovely too IMO. Keep it up and do what your baby needs/likes for as long as you want. smile

ExBrightonBell Mon 25-Feb-13 19:08:49

Thanks for all the reassurance that I'm not an extreme lentil-weaver!

I am fortunate in that I am not going back to work until ds is 11 months, so I'm not stressing about how he'll cope in childcare yet.

Nope, I still Breastfeed my DS - he's 15 months

Indith Mon 25-Feb-13 19:17:43

My 11 month old currently clamped to my breast smile

He feeds on demand and also has water with meals. When he starts childcare soon he will have water there and bf on demand when he is with me so evenings and weekend.

WantAnOrange Mon 25-Feb-13 19:18:18

I think the WHO recommend that breastmilk as the main food for the first year of a child's life. If not breastmilk, then formula is the next best thing. Weaning should be a gradual process, and I think being relient on 3 meals a day instead of milk at just 7months is quite unusual. To much water is actually bad for babies as it can reduce their milk intake, which provide both hydration and everything else.

If they are one small group of mummies that tend to agree with each other then its probably not very balanced view of what people are doing in general. Groups tend to follow each other...

DS is still predominantly breastfed at 14 months, he's not too keen on solids. DD fed on demand until she self-weaned at 2.2. You're doing great and it's completely normal, don't worry. smile

Lostonthemoors Mon 25-Feb-13 19:22:29

I was the same as you!! I didn't start giving water often until DS was one. Until then if he needed a drink he had a bf. he was still feeding at least x 10 daily then and the bf councillor said was totally normal.

I'm still feeding DS at 19 months and very happy to be doing that smile

Have you got an LLL group near you? Most of my friends stopped bf before 6 months, but I found LLL a lifeline for info and bf support after that.

Lostonthemoors Mon 25-Feb-13 19:23:35

Ps I started back at work pt at 11 months and expressed milk for that time. Bf still went fine and continued to be on demand.

nah, I didn't stop bfing DS 1 till he was 20 months! honestly, I thought we got till they were walking before we were weirdos! grin

nah, I didn't stop bfing DS 1 till he was 20 months! honestly, I thought we got till they were walking before we were weirdos! grin

lolalotta Mon 25-Feb-13 19:24:52

Take no notice, I BF my DD until she was 2.1yrs, she had cut down to only morning and bedtime by then though! I just took the lead from her, seemed to muddle through ok! grin

Chottie Mon 25-Feb-13 19:25:49

Nope, I breast fed both my DC until they were 9 months old. Don't listen to anyone else you and your PFB know what is right for you both <thumbs up emotive>

MikeOxardAndWellard Mon 25-Feb-13 19:28:42

Ds is 7.5 months and still bf on demand. Dd did too until she self weaned at 22 months. I have quite a few friends who did the same, and some who ff.

Still BFing 10mo DS, and intending to continue - he is going to nursery when he turns 1 for three days a week, so I hope to switch to cows milk at that point, and express for a bit to cover the overlap if he doesn't take to it straight away.
However I have noticed his appetite for food has increased in the last two weeks or so, and that he doesn't ask for milk much, it is more that I am giving it to him (although he is more than capable of refusing if he doesn't want it). Due to being out on my own recently on a Sunday morning, he went 7:30am to 2:30pm without any milk (except some on his breakfast cereal) and was totally not bothered about it.

The BFers I know who have moved on to formula have generally only done so in preparation for returning to work/starting childcare, and are mostly intending to continue feeding evening/overnight/morning.

You are definitely not alone, although I know how it does feel that way sometimes!!

kohl Mon 25-Feb-13 19:33:42

Nope-still bf 2.6 DD morning and evening. 7m is tiny still, enjoy all the lovely bf cuddles!

MrsHoarder Mon 25-Feb-13 19:34:08

DS still bf at 9.5 months. He has expressed bm in a cup with I'm out now. We try to get him to have water as well, but he flings it around the kitchen. See no reason to stop for a good while yet.

peacefuleasyfeeling Mon 25-Feb-13 19:47:56

Ow, don't take it to heart. You are not on your own at all. All bar one of the women in my ante natal group bfed on demand past the age of 2, some are now tandem feeding todders and 2nd babies (and no lentil-weavers there, just ordinary professional women). DD fed pretty much on demand, apart from when I was at work, until she was 31 months when my milk dried up on account of being pregnant again.
Align yourself to like-minded group of women in your area, find them through your local LLL group, perhaps. And do go on enjoying feeding your baby in the way she loves to be fed.

mamapants Mon 25-Feb-13 22:03:54

My LO is 7.5 mths and a few of the mums in baby group have said their LO were down to 2 feeds by 7 or 8 months old. My LO is fed on demand which is normally every 3 hrs but sometimes less and has feeds during night. He is showing no sign of going longer between feeds or dropping one. He doesn't eat very much solids yet to be honest. But there are other mums whose little ones have huge appetites but still drinking as much milk as ever.
So no you aren't the only one. I find it quite funny though when people are impressed I'm still bf as once you've got the hang of it I think its the easy option.

flipflopson5thavenue Tue 26-Feb-13 14:11:31

i'm still bfing 7 mo DS on demand day and night, and dont want to stop til he's at least 1. Am only one in NCT group still doing this.

Am also only one doing BLW, other babies all on three meals a day. The only other lady in the group who EBFd, asked me the other day when I was going to stop as she is going to switch to formula. I told her no time soon and she looked at me very oddly shock

DS loves it, I love feeding him, its good for him and good for me. Why on earth would we stop?

I agree it does feel strange being the odd one out sometimes but you should be proud of yourself.

Our group range from 9 - 11 months and of the 6 of us 3 are breastfeeding - so you aren't alone I promise!

pnin Tue 26-Feb-13 15:51:11

Fed first on demand for 2 years, then nightweaned, and continued until 3 years, tandemed a bit, feeding second on demand day and night at 20 months

Don't do nct and never much discussed the procedurals with other patents but sussed I was not average

Oh, and I like sports cars, red meat and evidence based medicine

Startail Tue 26-Feb-13 15:56:26

Just search extended BFing and you will find many of us who BF for years rather than months and no woven lentils.

DD2 was far more likely to have, MacDonald's, fruit shots or Gregg's sausage rolls for lunch and breast milk for supper grin

Startail Tue 26-Feb-13 16:00:16

pinin red meat, sports cars, evidenced based medicine and I dare not step on to a vaccination, real nappy or homeopathy thread.

I do confess DD2 was born at home, which might be a teeny bit lentil weaverish.

Lamazeroo Tue 26-Feb-13 16:00:44

My nearly 17 month old breastfeeds in demand throughout the day and night. I counted the feeds in a 24 hour period last week - on a randomly chosen day he fed 16 times! They're all different.

13m and still counting.

WinterMymble Tue 26-Feb-13 16:07:57

Oh OP I sympathise! My nct friends are the sane. Personally I felt much happier once I went along to la Leche groups. I found a whole lot if brilliant women who are breastfeeding longer and it has been really encouraging. I don't know if you have any if those groups near you but if so do go - ours are free. It made such a difference to me to be around people with sane approach, as well as keeping in touch with NCT group.

ExBrightonBell Tue 26-Feb-13 16:08:20

flipflops, your group sounds v similar to mine.

I'm also doing BLW which puts me in another minority. I find it puzzling as I thought that the "food is for fun before one" message was quite well known (as in food is an addition to main nutrition coming from breastmilk [or formula]). Yet most of my group have been really focused on getting a large volume of food into their babies as soon as possible. One or two of them also seemed to think that this would help with sleep, which I thought was quite a debunked myth.

I've been concentrating on introducing as many flavours and textures as I can, and letting my ds explore food however he likes. As it happens he really likes eating and is consuming quite a lot, but entirely at his pace not mine. I'm totally not stressed about making sure he has three meals a day plus puddings!

WinterMymble Tue 26-Feb-13 16:09:45

Iphone typo - Sane approach = same approach!

flipflopson5thavenue Tue 26-Feb-13 18:31:41

ExBrightonBell - I was surprised that I was the only one doing BLW. They would ask me if he's on solids yet and I'd sort of say, wel, not really.. and they'd look mildly horrified when I said I was letting him feed himself and so he wasn't get much yet.

Our BLW has got off to a faltering start but he hasn't seemed any more hungry yet. Keep repeating the "food for fun..." message to myself when I worry that he's not eating more yet.

EauRouge Tue 26-Feb-13 18:41:31

ExB, you are doing nothing wrong, it sounds as if everything is fine. Maybe you'd feel more confident if you had some other friends with things in common? LLL groups are a good place to find like-minded parents.

You are not extreme at all, I'm tandeming a 4yo and a 2yo (as of tomorrow!). And I'm also a meat-eating petrolhead <high fives pnin> All sorts of people BF older babies and toddlers. You'll find some, don't worry.

ExBrightonBell Tue 26-Feb-13 18:47:18

There is a LLL meeting in my town, but I'm a bit of a scaredy cat about going! I worry that it might be clique-y and no one will talk to me!

I should be brave and give it a go :-)

I do like my NCT friends btw, it's just these occasional differences that make me feel a little 'unusual' smile

Nicolaeus Tue 26-Feb-13 18:57:08

I BF on demand until 6 months when I went back to work.

Fed morning, evening and night until night-weaned at 13 months.

DS is now 17 months and still BF in the evening and shows NO sign of wanting to stop. Its not a disaster if Im not there though as he'll drink formula.

I just want to stop before I get pregnant again though I have no will power to refuse him!

EauRouge Tue 26-Feb-13 18:58:33

Nah, they are not cliquey at all and they usually have cake. I've met some lovely cake people at LLL meetings.

McBaby Tue 26-Feb-13 19:23:50

Glad there ate others out there. Some of my friends are making me feel a bit wierd for still feeding at 6.5 months! Like there is a bf for 6 month limit.

WinterMymble Tue 26-Feb-13 19:40:39

ExBrughtonBelle same here! I am blw and adore it, so brilliant and really persuasive research, as well as dd loving it - but all my NCT friends are embroiled in purée! Again LLL helped me find others blw-ers to chat to

OP LLL not at all cliquey IME. And free biscuits! Usually hearty chocolate ones to fortify our breastfeeding labours ;)

MooseBeTimeForCoffee Tue 26-Feb-13 19:48:11

I'm still demand feeding my 14 month old. His demand usually involves a hand down my top smile

pnin Tue 26-Feb-13 20:09:21

Yes, to be honest I get more raised eyebrows over blw and me not owning pram and squeezing children in a two-door sports car...

There are enough bfeeders of older toddlers round our way to make it seem relatively normal.

Where I had my first (asia) it was definitely unusual

MorphandChas Tue 26-Feb-13 20:21:02

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Loislane78 Tue 26-Feb-13 20:47:28

Know what you mean; 6 months seems like the cut-off for a lot of people and some in my NCT are moving to FF now as they've reached this goalpost. I think its partly how the guidelines are written.

I can understand it; its an achievement to have got to 6 mo and some people want their body/clothes back. They might be going back to work (or planning it) or just want to share feeding as it can be intense. I didn't especially have issues but it's the easiest it's ever been nowat 6.5 mo so we're feeding on. I gave a bottle (expressed milk) earlier so DD will get used to taking off other people when i'm not around on noght out and what a hassle!!

nethunsreject Tue 26-Feb-13 20:58:16

I'm still bfing a 2 year old. 7.5 months? Amateur wink wink . Seriously, you're doing grand. Different strokes etc.

Nicolaeus Wed 27-Feb-13 06:28:05

I never talk about BF anymore as I dont know anyone who BF past 6 months (apart from my mum but I've even gone past her 15 months).

I Live in France where BF isnt very common and definitely not past 3 months so people thought I was strange to sti be doing it at 6 months.

Just the other day a friend said I cant possibly have milk with just one feed a day. i assured her I can and do but she wasn't convinced..,

Iggly Wed 27-Feb-13 06:53:22

I bf ds until about 26 months. Dd is 15 months and still going - she's dairy and soya intolerant so I'm not stopping until she weans or turns 2.

Some people bf secretly, some people feel pressured into FF (I remember my NCT group basically bullied one of our mums to give a bottle of formula and cheered when she did. I stopped seeing them after that)

Iggly Wed 27-Feb-13 06:54:39

Also what's the big deal about BLW! It's just letting a baby feed themselves?! Much better IMO.

Iggly Wed 27-Feb-13 06:54:58

Also what's the big deal about BLW! It's just letting a baby feed themselves?! Much better IMO.

We are doing BLW but to be honest I think however you do things you arrive at the same thing, which is your baby eating food. Can't bear the smuggery that can accompany BLW.

I feel the same as you. our Nct babies are nearly 1 but all are desperate to stop bf ing and think I'm a bit weird for not having a view on it. I'm happy for dd to feed til she doesn't want to and have not "plans" to wind down etc. she is def not a "boob monster" either but has milk as she needs it.

WinterMymble Thu 28-Feb-13 09:01:38

iggly that anecdote is shocking - bullying a mom into FF and then cheering - yikes! I would have stopped meeting up w them too.

Iggly Thu 28-Feb-13 09:08:27

Yes Winter was horrid. It was one big competition to see who could bf the longest then when some switched to FF, it became a competition to see who could get baby onto bottles. Horrible women they were.

Lostonthemoors Thu 28-Feb-13 09:18:14

ExB I've been to two different LLL groups as we've moved about a lot. Both were really friendly and there is a leader present for every meeting who is a trained bf counsellor - she runs the meeting and leads a discussion on a topic - our last one was night time bf. Go and try it out and report back!! If you call the leader for your town she will put you on the mailing list.

x

I BF LO on demand (but he only really wanted it in the morning!) until 8 months. I wanted to carry on until he was 1, but he lost interest when solid food came along.

Keep going, being the odd one out isn't always a bad thing!

Xiaoxiong Thu 28-Feb-13 09:27:36

You're doing brilliantly! DS is nearing 15 months and still feeding. I went back to work when he was 6 months so no need at all to take that as a signal to stop. I'm 8weeks pg with DC2 but probably won't do anything active to wean him unless I have to (maybe if I get severely anemic or something).

In fact I haven't bf him since Monday since he's been sleeping through the night grin I'm looking forward to giving him a big feed and snuggle when he wakes up tomorrow morning smile

ExBrightonBell Thu 28-Feb-13 11:02:29

Thanks all - feel more "normal" now!

I will go to the next LLL if I can, although its not for about 3 weeks.

My ds doesn't show any sign of wanting less milk even though he eats loads. In fact it sometimes seems like he wants more than before!

Copps Thu 28-Feb-13 13:02:52

wow this thread has made me feel much better! my ds is 10 months and still bfeeding on demand, tho as someone else said he is going longer and longer without it as he eats more food. My main issue at the mo is i still cant be away from him! my bmilk has too much lactase and goes sour tasting really quickly, so expressing is a problem. any magical solutions anyone??

leedy Thu 28-Feb-13 15:33:30

Feeding on demand at 7 months is totally normal!

Though I've twice this week got shock faces from people (once in my BF group and once in my postnatal pilates class) when they asked how long I fed DS1 for and I told them until he was two and a half. And I don't even know how to weave a lentil....

rockinhippy Thu 28-Feb-13 16:06:23

Cops have you tried freezing your BM?? - it's safe to do so & it lasts a very long time - I know as my DD was in hospital @ 10 wks & the medical staff advised me to express & freeze, as she was ill & not feeding as much as normal - I ended up with a freezer full & they suggested using it to make cheese sauce for weaning latersmile

Good luck OP

leedy Thu 28-Feb-13 16:11:18

Oh, and OP, feeling like your DS is constantly either BFing or eating at 7.5 months is totally normal - I felt that way with DS1. Then around 8 or 9 months he seemed to get that food satisfied his hunger too and spaced out his milk feeds a lot more.

Copps Thu 28-Feb-13 21:14:10

rockinhippy yeh i have tried freezing it, it still tastes horrid sad but thanks for the idea!

luanmahi Thu 28-Feb-13 21:36:34

I'm still bf mine at 9 months. She has 3 meals of solids with a drink of water or fruit juice during the day and then top up with breast milk afterwards and then a proper feed last thing at night. Quite often I find it's a good way to get her to nap during the day too so she has plenty of feeds.

I'm thinking of reducing the number of feeds during the day by expressing like mad at the moment and storing it so she can have it in a bottle but only because I want to think about TTC again this year. Two of my friends bf until 20 months and 17 months and my local bf group has plenty of people feeding past 6 months. You're not weird at all.

I'm BFing my1 y/o and I couldn't be more thrilled. Sometimes it gets me down and I wish to stop, but DS2 is a booby boy through and through plus it was hard work to start with so I'll carry on as long as DS wants to.

KrissieJules Sat 02-Mar-13 04:29:44

17 month old still LOVES her mummy-milk!

leedy Sat 02-Mar-13 09:48:59

You may not need to fully stop BF to TTC - my periods came back at around 8/9 months with DS1 (around the time he ramped up his solids) and I had no problem getting pregnant while still feeding him.

WinterMymble Sat 02-Mar-13 21:27:50

leedy that is very interesting to hear! My dc1 (dd) is nearly six months old and we exclusive bf and zero sign of AF returning and I was assuming any TTC would have to wait until after she stopped feeding - I want to bf until she is age two at least. Waiting that long TTC wd be a problem since I am now forty (!) so v interesting to hear that can sometimes conceive while bf

EauRouge Sat 02-Mar-13 21:29:55

Winter Lots of women do- tandem feeding is getting more and more popular. There are a couple of threads in this forum and I think there have also been TTC while breastfeeding threads in the conception forum.

WinterMymble Sat 02-Mar-13 22:22:46

Thanks Rouge! Sounds ideal thread.. Sorry for hijack OP ! - though all shows how 7.5 mths bf is not weird I guess! smile

Thewhingingdefective Sat 02-Mar-13 23:19:51

I am still BFing my 33 month old DTwins. Admittedly it is only once or twice a day for a few minutes. I don't talk about it to people so don't have that annoying conversation where people tell me that it's time to stop.

MamaBlue4 Fri 08-Mar-13 11:26:13

I ebf all my DC on demand until they were one year old, currently doing it with 5 month old twins, then switched to bottled breast milk when they were around one.

I'd ebf for as long as possible but DS stopped liking breast milk at 18 months, and dd stopped at 14 months.

I don't really pay attention to what others seem to think, I do what I feel is best for my children, I'm not gunna stop just because others seem to believe you have to. Continue what you're doing and let them talk smile

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