Nursing Strike 12mo

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LalaDipsey Fri 04-Jan-13 20:54:37

hi. My DTS hasn't fed since 1st thing yesterday. He is refusing to feed. He is on solids as usual and drinking water but won't feed sad
That now makes last night and tonight 2 nights he had gone to sleep without feeding sad
Help sad my little one isn't ready to stop bf (well I'm not anyway!) I'm sure and I have to get him feeding again.

JassyRadlett Fri 04-Jan-13 21:08:05

Teeth, or an ear infection? Ear infections usually cause a dip in feeding with my DS as it hurts to swallow.

Welovecouscous Fri 04-Jan-13 23:42:31

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LalaDipsey Sat 05-Jan-13 07:02:08

Thanks for the links they are giving me some hope. I slept with him in my bed last night with my top off and kept trying with no success - he even turned his head away and pushed with his hand whilst asleep sad this is the little man who 4 days ago hold throw a massive tantrum if he had to wait.
Luckily I don't have to pump as his twin sister is still feeding so she will keep my su

LalaDipsey Sat 05-Jan-13 07:05:01

Supply going. Means it's harder to find 1:1 time for him ESP as I have a 3 year old too but I won't give up. It took 6 weeks, 2 TT snips, loads of effort and trying things (Inc a very strange 'supplementary nursing system) to get DTD to feed a year ago and I just hope that DTS will respond soon. It's quite heartbreaking sad

Welovecouscous Sat 05-Jan-13 09:01:20

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LalaDipsey Sun 06-Jan-13 06:42:26

So he still won't feed sad
I tried 3x whilst he was asleep last night (on top of offering a few times in the day). Is it progress that he let me rub my nipple on his mouth? He wouldn't open his mouth but didn't turn his head away?
Hardest is now. I am feeding DTD. He is crying - wants/needs a feed but won't sad
Tomorrow doctors & cranial Osteopath if I can get an emergency appt.

Welovecouscous Sun 06-Jan-13 08:44:58

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LalaDipsey Sun 06-Jan-13 21:59:22

Terrible sad I feel like we've gone backwards. Utter refusal (turning head and body away and getting upset) for the rest of today. He was upset after bath when I was feeding his twin sister but wouldn't feed himself. I have just tried when he was asleep and even in his sleep he got upset, pushed away and stayed upset until he was back alone in his cot. I feel like ive broken him.
How come he has needed me to feed him first thing in the morning (& damn quickly please mummy!) for 12 months and now a cup of water replaces me? I am soo upset.

Welovecouscous Sun 06-Jan-13 22:16:20

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LalaDipsey Tue 08-Jan-13 06:33:23

Nope sad
All clear at the doctors and the bf cafe couldn't offer any advice of anything I wasn't trying.
We see the cranial Osteopath at 8.45am today.
Only thing which may be relevant is that I tried dosing him up again last night with ibuprofen at 7. I tried feeding him in his sleep at 10ish and he let me nipple go in his mouth and even closed his mouth on it for a split second! When I tried again at 3.30am when the ibuprofen would have worn off he turned his head away and cried. Could be coincidence or could be teething pain?
So I thought I may dose him up all day and see if it made a difference?
Day 6 today sad

DW123 Tue 08-Jan-13 21:36:46

Lala - I'm so sorry. Nursing strike is horrible. I can only repeat what has been covered by others

My DT1 has had 2 nursing strikes. We got over both of them by lying down on our bed before he went to sleep with my top off. He took the nipple in his mouth after a few nightss and fed the next so you are getting progress. I was a lot calmer during the second strike and didn't push the offers during the day, and the strike was shorter. Both strikes were triggered by my reaction to him biting which in turn was triggered by teething.

I used the advice on Kellymom and La Leche League sites - both were helpful (especially the range of time it can take to get over it).

As I was feeding twins I didn't worry about supply but I hand expressed a cup of milk at night and gave it to him in the morning as I was irrationally worried about his drop in immunity. It also helped me feel I was doing something...

Let us know how its going - I know its hard but try to stay calm around him in feeding situations - and Good Luck.

Welovecouscous Tue 08-Jan-13 21:42:36

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LalaDipsey Wed 09-Jan-13 06:58:10

Thanks. He refused again last night - turning his head away and pushing me away with his hands. This morning he is also refusing ebm in a cup?! What is going on with my little guzzler? hmm
dw how long did yours last?

Welovecouscous Wed 09-Jan-13 08:00:52

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DW123 Wed 09-Jan-13 14:36:49

Lala - first one was six days, the second about four but these are short compared to some of the case studies on Kellymom and LLL. And you don't have to worry about your supply which should help. It is such a horrible thing but you are doing the right things. I found it got a bit easier when I expected him to refuse - I just smiled and said OK no problem which took some of the stress out of it (for both of us).

Let us know how the next few days go - that stubborness will be a great life skill later on... Any sign of new teeth yet?

LalaDipsey Thu 10-Jan-13 18:53:43

No sign of teeth but he won't let me put my finger in his mouth to check! He's also refusing ebm hmm
DTD seems to be pulling off and looking at my boob strangely too - I haven't changed my diet or toiletries.
He is turning away and pushing away when I try to feed him in my sleep.
My mum says even at 12 months he can choose to stop feeding if he wants, the gp just thought I was 'having a battle of wills' with him wink, and I think the osteopath and my friends think I'm bonkers for a) still feeding and b) caring he's stopped and c) trying to get him to feed again!

Welovecouscous Thu 10-Jan-13 21:58:45

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DW123 Fri 11-Jan-13 13:39:18

Lala - one of my friends said I should use the nursing strike as a way to wean. I was already upset... Its not helpful or supportive to get comments like that especially when what you are doing is so good for your babies. Is there a La Leche group near you? You don't have to go regularly but they can give you information and make you feel less bonkers.

As Welovecouscous said your instincts (backed up by the right info) is right here. Just keep gently and calmly offering and you will get through it.

You are still within the 'normal' range of duration for a strike although I'm sure it doesn't feel that way to you. LOTS of hugs and best wishes. Let us know how it goes.

nannyl Fri 11-Jan-13 18:02:31

sorry to read that

my DD refused at 54 weeks, and never fed again sad

i was not ready to stop either, and it broke my heart but she was ready so i had no choice

LalaDipsey Sat 12-Jan-13 18:30:48

It's day 10 today and still no successhmm. He will have about 20ml
ebm 2-3x a day but that's about it. Yesterday he did put his mouth to my nipple but then grinned and crawled off. Progress though I suppose??!

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