Is it worth buying a breastfeeding pillow?

(37 Posts)
octanegirl Wed 02-Jan-13 20:38:19

I'm due in a week or so with DC1 and wondering whether or not to buy a special pillow/cushion?
If so which ones are good? I've seen V shaped ones, squared off ones.....allsorts.
I guess anything that helps with breastfeeding is good but am a total novice so am relying on your wise advice ladies!

Loislane78 Wed 02-Jan-13 20:39:53

I just got a v-shaped one for about £7 smile

NeedlesCuties Wed 02-Jan-13 20:42:07

Have bf 2 DC (not at the same time!) and never bothered with one.

MisForMumNotMaid Wed 02-Jan-13 20:42:13

I had one for ds1, who ended up being express fed, but for ds2 and dd i found a couple of spare pillows by the bed worked at night and a scatter cushion or two with a burp cloth on worked downstairs.

OhIWishThereWasABook Wed 02-Jan-13 20:42:42

Yes! I used mine for years, bf, learning to sit, snoozing child (and mum). I had the v shaped one.

AliceWChild Wed 02-Jan-13 20:44:26

Rarely used it for bf. it is however invaluable to sit on with painful stitches and haemorrhoids grin

I got one on eBay called 'my Brest friend' which was much better than others I've had. It straps on which led DH to joke that it was my tool belt, Ho Ho. It provides great back support and really helps avoid achy shoulders and back in those early days. Excellent with a newborn and well worth the money although I didn't use it for all that long.

mrsbabookaloo Wed 02-Jan-13 20:45:46

My kids are 6 and 3 and mine is still in daily use as the comfiest sitting up in bed pillow. It's a really firm crescent shaped one from mothercare. Not a floppy v shaped one. I can't remember that well whether it helped with breastfeeding ! Yes, yes, it's coming back to me now; used it all the time in the early days.

clabsyqueen Wed 02-Jan-13 20:46:20

I would say no - normal pillows do the job just fine and you will find yourself drowning in baby equipment that you'll hardly have room for all the undrunk cups of coffee you're going to be leaving lying around.

FundusCrispyPancake Wed 02-Jan-13 20:47:19

I thought they would be a waste of money and I could just use a normal pillow or cushion, but I could never find a comfortable position when bf and developed awful aches in my back and shoulders. I bought a c shaped one when DD was about 3 weeks old and I wish I had got it before the birth and taken it to the hospital (they only gave me one crappy pillow so I couldn't sit up and use it to support DD). It is much thicker than a pillow and the extra height made bf pain free, if I hadn't got it I may have given up bf purely because of the back pain.

FundusCrispyPancake Wed 02-Jan-13 20:49:46

Mine is the mothercare one too. Some are stupidly expensive for a cushion.

PetiteRaleuse Wed 02-Jan-13 20:56:01

Mine was a gift and I ff but I love it. Sitting for hours on the sofa with baby it provides whatever support you need. I have mine supporting the base of my back and wrapped round to my right where it supports my iPad and the remote control.

With DD1 I used it as an aid to safe co sleeping, and when I was pregnant with DD2 as a support while sleeping.

I have chronic back ache which is worse during and just after pregnancy.

Oh, and post c section I put it on top of the duvet when sleeping to protect the scar area from manic cats.

NeedlesCuties Wed 02-Jan-13 21:08:18

Sorry, that was a bit blunt. What I meant was I always liked to keep things simple and knew it'd be a pain to bring a special pillow out and about with me, so I just never bothered with one at home either.

But, I have some friends who swore by them in the early weeks especially.

Molehillmountain Wed 02-Jan-13 23:00:11

I loved my first v shaped borrowed one-from John Lewis. The second one was also v shaped but a bit too floppy really. Pillows will do the trick if you're strapped for cash but it is useful afterwards and nice to sit up in bed with.

Ariel24 Wed 02-Jan-13 23:31:22

I have one, think it's called the widgey pillow, bought it from John Lewis. I had an ELCS and the pillow really helped in the early days, it took the weight off of my incision and when DD was first born it also helped to get her the right height to feed her. I also used it when I was pregnant to support my back.

paperclips Thu 03-Jan-13 02:11:50

I have the firm crescent shaped one from John Lewis, maybe a widget, DH bought it. I love it.

When DS was about 10 days old I was struggling a bit, community midwife watched me feeding and pointed out how I was all tense and hunched over. She passed me the pillow to try, this was in my lovely local Children's Centre. It instantly changed everything and I made DH go and buy one straight away. You can get them for about 15 pounds cheapest.

You kind of wrap the pillow around you and your baby lies on it, it's quite firm, just brings him/her to a good height so you're not hunched over hurting your back.

And you can prop baby up in it when they start sitting.

Babyclips is on it now, fallen asleep with a boob in his face.

Only downside I see, is that if you were very big, ie wide, it might not wrap round you comfortably.

paperclips Thu 03-Jan-13 02:12:37

*widgey not widget.

paperclips Thu 03-Jan-13 02:20:05

Some people are talking about the sort that go behind you to sit you up. I just use loads of normal pillows. I had a huge pregnancy pillow that can be used for that, butgave up on it after DS was born. Too big! DH gets upset cos it takes up so much of the bed he claims he has hurt his back sleeping funny.

I got a Widgey, like a U sort of shape.

It's brill - used it during pregnancy for back support, used in the car on the way to have the baby, never really used as a BF support pillow, used it to prop baby up, used it for baby while he was learning to sit, used as a seat for feeding solids, used to entertain small children who come to visit. Cost £20.

MadameJosephine Thu 03-Jan-13 11:38:07

I got a widgey from eBay for £10 and it was the best tenner I ever spent! I can BF 7 week old DD and eat my dinner at the same time, I love it.

aamia Thu 03-Jan-13 11:42:29

Comfiest position is lying down or snuggled on sofa. No extra cushion needed.

ChristmasKnackers Thu 03-Jan-13 11:43:21

I've got a my breast friend which I no longer use. I can give it to you, if you PM me address. It was good but I only used t while establishing breastfeeding.

JugglingMeYorkiesAndNutRoast Thu 03-Jan-13 11:43:50

A V shaped pillow was good for the early days and evenings/ night-time when you might want to be in bed. I used mine quite a bit. BF in plenty of other positions/ situations too though !

priscilla101 Thu 03-Jan-13 11:47:03

Yes! I found most specially designed bf pillows expensive ( especially as I wanted to buy spare covers, stale milk/baby sick smells, or a wet pillow is NOT nice) and too soft.

But they are essential if you want to get in a position that won't ruin your back, shoulders or upper arms while you bf. so I bought a memory foam V pillow (from Dunelm I think) with a spare cover. Being memory foam it is nice and firm and quite heavy, so it doesn't slide around.

See if you can try various ones out before you buy. And don't worry if bf doesn't work out they are great for getting comfy for bottle feeding and for tummy time as baby grows!

Good luck!

LarkinSky Fri 04-Jan-13 10:31:34


I didn't have one with my first child (bf her for a year) and was given a Boppy breastfeeding pillow when I had my second DC (now 10 weeks old). I LOVE it and can't believe I managed without one.

It is so much more comfortable feeding, and I also prop the baby up in it a lot, eg after a feed while she digests, and do tummy time with it. Other people in the family also use it when they're cuddling her/she's asleep on their lap, including my 3-year-old daughter, as it supports the baby's head while she holds her.

I think they're about £30, or there are cheaper non-brand models. I really recommend one.

LarkinSky Fri 04-Jan-13 10:35:12

And another use - I can put the Boppy on my lap, then comfortably breastfeed DD at the dinner table while I eat with the rest of the family. I use it for putting DD in far more than a baby chair/bouncer at the moment.

SolomanDaisy Fri 04-Jan-13 10:40:06

Definitely get one, someone bought me one when DS was a few days old and I couldn't believe how much easier it made feeding! I had a c shaped one.

needsadviceplease Fri 04-Jan-13 10:49:41

I thought they were ridiculous and screwing money out of unsuspecting pregnant women, when I was a pregnant woman. Ho ho ho. Never managed comfortably with a stack of normal pillows (and carting three pillows around the house was not much fun either) and at 2wo got a widgey - brilliant. Didn't use it for long at all (maybe to 8wo at a push) but have had some use out of it for DS to sit in etc and it was such a godsend that it was still worth it.

I'd maybe buy one and not unwrap it til you've tried with normal pillows, though - some women clearly are totally fine without so you could return it if you turn out to be one of them!

MousyMouse Fri 04-Jan-13 10:53:08

absolutely. had a widgey u-shaped one. without it I got very tense in my shoulders from holding baby with the arm and I could easily read or mn with it as had both arms free

BettyandDon Fri 04-Jan-13 12:06:45

Spent £30 on one from mothercare. Used it for a few days only whilst establishing BF. Complete waste of money and currently cluttering our tiny flat.

Not as much of a waste as my breast pump though. £70 and used a few times. I'm not BF anymore so it's completely redundant.

Gutted for my bank accounthmm

notcitrus Fri 04-Jan-13 12:21:01

Never used my fat or thin v shaped pillows, as normal pillows were five to lean on, but I couldn't get ds up to the right height with normal or v pillows as he'd roll down the slope where they met my body.
So after a week bfing at the computer so the desk held pillows in place, I got a My Brest Friend, or the mummy shelf as it's called round here. Enabled one handed feeding as I need to hold a breast with my hand to point it in the right direction.

leedy Fri 04-Jan-13 13:10:37

Another fan of the My Brest Friend (and heh, like the idea of it being a "mummy shelf") - allows for one handed feeding, nice and firm, baby doesn't end up rolling towards me, and also props baby at just the right height. I have a very long torso and often end up in really uncomfortable positions trying to hoist DS in the vague direction of boobs. I can manage with a pile of pillows in bed and just make do when I'm out and about, but the shelf is a godsend for most feeds.

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Fri 04-Jan-13 13:18:39

I love the Brest Friend. I think it's useful in the early days when the baby is very "floppy" and needs to be supported/ held in the right position. The real benefit of it vs other cushions is that you strap it on so you can then pick the baby up and sit down to feed rather than holding the baby and trying to arrange the cushions around you. They last forever and the sover is washable so maybe look online for a second hand one. Mine has been used by me, then two of my friends, then back to me for DC2 and then going back to one of the friends who is due her second, and is still in perfect condition

knightlydia Fri 04-Jan-13 13:19:48

i have found mine to be great and would definitely recomend one - it keeps me ion the right shape when feeding and stops my back and arms getting sore. i would say a nice firm one is essential to keep the baby at the right height. i bought a widgey from amazon and highly recommend!

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Fri 04-Jan-13 13:21:07

ps I dont ever take it out with me- I just make do - but if you have a squirmy/fussy feeder, I think a cushion like the BF does make things easier

leedy Fri 04-Jan-13 13:23:16

You can also buy spare covers for the Brest Friend (argh, ridiculous name), I got one on EBay. V handy for when one cover gets urped/explodey pooed on.

JiltedJohnsJulie Fri 04-Jan-13 13:38:53

Never bought one and have bf both of mine. Just bought some nursing bras and breastpads and eventually bought a 2nd hand pump, well after a few months. I do tend to only buy baby stuff as and when I need it though, if I bought too much I wouldn't have been able to stay off work for so long and we'd have a house full of even more crap smile

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