If you bf your baby and they never took bottles at all, what age did you stop bf?

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Anothercuppatea Sun 30-Dec-12 19:26:57

Hoping I might be able to hear how other people did this.
With ds1 I bf, but he had a nighttime bottle. I gave up bf when he was one, as he was no longer interested. But we kept nighttime bottle til he was 2.5.

Ds2 is now 9 months and has never taken bottle. I'd quite like to stop bf by 12-18 months. He isn't really bothered in the daytime anymore anyway. But not sure he'll want to give up his nighttime feed. I don't know how babies manage without either a bf or a bottle at nighttime? Do some people manage with just giving a cup at bedtime? Is that comforting enough for them?

louloutheshamed Sun 30-Dec-12 19:30:57

I stopped at 18 mo, he had milk from a cup downstairs before bed, then I cuddled him to sleep. He is now 23 mo and I put him straight in cot and he self settles.

Anothercuppatea Sun 30-Dec-12 19:35:03

Hi loulou. Thanks that sounds like what I want to do. Do you mind me asking if you used to bf to sleep? Did you manage to convert that to cuddling?
My lo is a little rascal. I can see bf during they day not happening for much longer. He's too interested in playing and if I offer bf when he isn't ravenous, he just bites me! It's making me nervous to offer!

louloutheshamed Sun 30-Dec-12 19:38:43

Yes i bf to sleep for 18mo. The I went away for the weekend and dh put him to bed. Dh did this for another week when I got back, I made Myself scarce at bedtime, and then that seemed to break the cycle and I was able to put him to bed by cuddling. It was much easier than I anticipated.

wanderingalbatross Sun 30-Dec-12 19:40:09

I stopped at around 14mo, but hadn't been feeding to sleep in the evening since about 9mo (DD's choice, not mine, would have loved an easy way to get her to sleep!). Now, at 19mo, she finds the bedtime routine (bath, book, sleep) comforting without any milk.

Viewofthehills Sun 30-Dec-12 19:47:55

Breast fed 'til 9 mnths DD1, 7 mnths ds, 10 months DD2. None of them had a bottle. All snuggled with milk in a sippy cup & me for their last feed. It's a while ago, but I don't remember it being a big deal. If it was ever a problem DH would take over for that feed. I don't think I ever stopped the night feed last as it was probabably the hardest to stop.

Anothercuppatea Sun 30-Dec-12 19:50:56

Wow viewofthehills, moving to just a cup at 7 months is impressive!

10.5 months and 12 months, both moved gradually to milk in a cup at bedtime and first thing. DD2 was more difficult as she fed to sleep, but we started by sitting next to her and then did a gradual withdrawl technique (very gradual in our case...)

redwellybluewelly Sun 30-Dec-12 19:55:28

I ebf with no other milk until 13months, then breastfed until 27months. DD had Oatly as she is intolerant to dairy and soya and as long as I could BF then I didn't want her on hypoallergenic formula.

Night weaned at 19months but she started again and eventually at 26 months I introduced "don't offer don't refuse". I was very sad when we stopped.

3 years and still going, although just one feed a day now. My son had a bottle for a few days in neonatal ward before breastfeeding was established, but never since.

Anothercuppatea Sun 30-Dec-12 19:57:52

Thanks for replies. I am amazed at people managing to give up bedtime feed at such a young age. Ds2 is hyper all day them suddenly zonks out asleep after last bf!

fufulina Sun 30-Dec-12 20:01:07

DD1 was 13 months when she dropped her last bf, which was the afternoon one, when I wasn't at work. The bedtime feed we dropped about a month before that, I was pregnant and absolutely shattered. Surprisingly easy. She never took a bottle. And we didn't replace it with anything. She sometimes had milk for a drink, mostly not, though.

Viewofthehills Sun 30-Dec-12 20:03:40

Another- it wasn't impressive really, more a bit sad. Little so and so refused to eat solids or breastfeed in the day, but liked to breastfeed all night. I was a bit of a sleep deprived wreck.So when I refused to feed him all night, he refused to bf at all, ever again. I just about avoided really bad mastitis.
However he really loved to guzzle his milk at full speed out of a sippy cup and got the hang of it a few weeks before this.So perhaps I was delivering at less than a pint a minute and he preferred the cup!?

LadyMetroland Sun 30-Dec-12 20:06:52

About 14months. Gave her formula at bedtime in a tommy tippee cup from approx 10/11mths which she didn't drink much of to begin with but eventually swapped from bf to whole 5oz cup of milk before bed - and funnily enough she started consistently sleeping through from that time.

TheSecondComing Sun 30-Dec-12 20:07:54

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

noblegiraffe Sun 30-Dec-12 20:10:06

I bf for 17 months but it was the morning feed that was the last to go rather than nighttime. We moved from feeding to sleep to feeding then putting to sleep then feeding before story, gradually moving it back in the routine. Then it went completely as he has dinner and yoghurt just before bedtime as we eat late. Never got replaced with a cup of milk as he never really wanted it as a drink. Not having a drink before bedtime is good now that we're thinking about night potty training so I'm glad we didn't replace it! He does have a sip of water but that's it.

Chottie Sun 30-Dec-12 20:10:37

9 months for both of mine. They went from the breast to sucking milk from a spoon to drinking from a cup.

RubyrooUK Sun 30-Dec-12 20:10:49

I breastfed DS at night for 16mo. He liked to breastfeed from night till morning whenever possible and never less than twice.

He would never take a bottle (was full time at nursery from 9mo and just waited for milk till I got home, check out that stubbornness). So I waited to night wean until he liked cow's milk so he definitely had enough dairy in his diet.

He had a cup of milk in the bath and then to bed with DH. I always fed to sleep so there was no way I could put him to sleep myself without breastfeeding. DH did it for a couple of weeks with little success at first, then more success, then he was fine.

By the time I went back to putting DS to bed again, a few weeks later, he was out of the habit of breastfeeding to sleep. He didn't even really ask, except to say "all gone?" a couple of times which he accepted.

So all good. Except now we always lie down with him to go to sleep, but compared to the all-night breastfeeding, that's a breeze.

skaen Sun 30-Dec-12 20:13:08

You so don't want to hear this - we're gradually stopping now at 3.2. Bedtime feeds every two nights or so.

ValiumQueen Sun 30-Dec-12 20:13:12

18 mths. She stopped. I did not want to. She refused any milk of any kind for many months. She is 2.5 now and will very occasionally have a cup of milk with a meal.

DewDr0p Sun 30-Dec-12 20:19:26

Ds3 never had a bottle and we stopped bfing at14 months. I was expecting it to be a nightmare but he made the switch to a cup vsmoothly (I got used to it much quicker than I expected too!)

DS self weaned at about 16 months, when I was 5months pg with DD, we didn't give him a beaker or anything, just went cold turkey.

With DD I was blue lighted to hospital at 3.30am and stayed in for 5 nights when she was 17months, so had to go cold turkey, she wanted to feed when I was discharged, but I had to go back in for surgery & then 6 months of chemo followed so didn't let her. It was very sad

catyloopylou Sun 30-Dec-12 20:27:08

DS stopped at 17 months when he caught chicken pox and had a few spots in his mouth which seemed to make it painful to bf. He absolutely refused to put his mouth anywhere near my breast again. He never took a bottle and has never drunk milk from a cup, although will eat it with cereal. I digress.

By the time he stopped he was on morning and evening feeds only. We just carried on with his regular routine of bath, stories and bed, skipping the feed but offering him a cup of water instead. He went to bed with no problems.

I have to admit I wasn't prepared for him to give up both feeds at the same time and felt really sad about it, but great that someone else could then put him to bed.

TiggerWearsATriteSmile Sun 30-Dec-12 20:29:00

21 months.
She was taking a beaker during the day but just needed that last feed at night.

She wasn't even having a decent feed, it was just habit. I started to withdraw and letting DH take over. She fought for a little while but went from being completely dependant in me all the time to being a daddy's girl now.

If he is in the house she won't go to bed for me and calls for him. She'll be 2 next week.

teacher123 Sun 30-Dec-12 20:29:08

DS is 8 mo and won't take a bottle. I have spent the last two months getting him to accept formula from a sippy cup in the daytime, we have cut out all daytime feeds unless extenuating circumstances. I still bf first and last thing and in the night if he needs it. A few times DH has put him to bed and he's accepted a sippy cup of formula at bedtime as well. He doesn't feed to sleep though, he sucks his thumb. I have stopped bf before naps to prepare him, and he settles at naptime after a few minutes of chatting to bunny! I am hoping to wean him completely in the new year, and not quite sure what to do about night feeds. He has never really accepted formula in the night, and I'd say he still wakes up for a feed half to two thirds of the time...

cakebar Sun 30-Dec-12 20:32:07

9 months and 7 months ish. First one to a cup with a straw, second one to a sippy cup (just what each preferred). Took about 3 days for them to get used to it, during which time not much milk was drunk but they were both having a decent amount of food and water. Neither were drinking at night tho.

20 months and he went on to a cup (still has a cup of milk now before bed at 26mo). I offered the cup before each bedtime feed for a while and eventually he preferred it (as he took more from the cup the milk I produced became less).

It was a lot easier than I'd anticipated in the end!

howdoyouknowjenny Sun 30-Dec-12 20:35:38

My ds started using a cup for daytime feeds at 8 months. By 14 months all bf had been replaced by cups including bedtime. He had been night weaned prior to this, by offering a cup instead of bf, he wasnt very impressed with the offer so his morning bf increased substantially for a while.

EvenIfYouSeeAPoppy Sun 30-Dec-12 20:36:00

dc1: mixed feeding for the first month due to difficult start, crap advice, breast refusal, difficult expressing etc. After that month we were able to move to exclusive bf and he never had another bottle after that. Bf exclusively to 6.5 months and went on bf until 4y 7 mo.

dc2: never had a bottle. Exclusive bf to 6.5 months and continued bf until just after his 3rd birthday.

In both cases it wasn't entirely self-weaning, but they had been losing frequency and interest - I just gave it a little push.

EvenIfYouSeeAPoppy Sun 30-Dec-12 20:37:13

(I may not really have the advice you're after, as I was feeding both of them to sleep until they were over 2... path of least resistance and all that)

Llareggub Sun 30-Dec-12 20:40:31

DS2 will be 4 in APRil and he has a morning and evening feed and steals one midday if he gets the chance. He used a cup for drinks from around 10 months or so, mainly because he copied his big brother. I am hoping he will stop soon as I have been breastfeeding now for 6 years and 2 months!

DeathMetalMum Sun 30-Dec-12 21:09:20

22 months we stopped the morning feed last and about 21 months for the night feed havn't replaced it with anything. Dd just decided one night she didn't want a night feed and just went upstairs. We have stories and cuddles before bed.

chipmonkey Sun 30-Dec-12 21:12:19

30 months with ds3. Probably not what you wanted to hear!

rubyslippers Sun 30-Dec-12 21:16:56

3 years - sorry

but DD fed before bed and didn't have a feed in the night from around 6.5 months

Maryz Sun 30-Dec-12 21:24:05

I stopped at a year with ds2. He went straight on to a cup - never took a bottle at all. I had had enough by then.

My older two were bottle fed, but both weaned onto cups by a year.

All three were down to bedtime feed only by about ten months. I always looked on bottles and breasts as methods of feeding, not comfort, so once they could manage cups properly, the bottle/breast was redundant.

stopthinkingsomuch Sun 30-Dec-12 21:32:19

Three breast fed with no bottles.

First bf until about 11.5 (last month of that was fairly pointless as I was pregnant with next child and DC didn't seem interest so it was more me encouraging it). Midwife and doctor both suggested just going to water rather than follow on as DC didn't really take cows milk and it didn't really agree with her at that time.

DC 2. I went to about 13 / 14 months. He was a slimmer baby and it felt pretty natural conclusion.

DC3 was about 14 months. Bigger baby.

None of my kids were big milk drinkers once I stopped bfing.

I really do feel this was a natural age for all of them to stop regardless of what was suggested. I didn't feel that the number of ml's suggested on the formula packets matched what they were getting from me and to certainly breatfeeding the 1st child was more my needs than theirs and same for DC 3.

stopthinkingsomuch Sun 30-Dec-12 21:34:15

p.s i didn't feed to sleep with first two. With the third he missed more good quality day time feeds so I think he sometimes would wake at night to sneak a feed.

BartletForTeamGB Sun 30-Dec-12 21:37:56

16/17mo using a Doidy cup for EBM/cow's milk/water when I was out or during the day. By the last few months, DS was only having BFs morning and night. I used the Gentle Removal Method from the No Cry Sleep Solution, sent DH in to settle him and did a bit of controlled crying at various points to deal with the feeding to sleep issue.

We stopped on his 4th birthday.
He still asks 2 months later, I certainly wasn't carrying on for my benefit!

pinkyp Sun 30-Dec-12 21:43:56

We stopped bf at 22 months, he has a cup of cows milk now before bed

bamboostalks Sun 30-Dec-12 21:47:51

I weaned both at 15 months and neither will drink milk at all and never would. They had nothing at bedtime apart from a cuddle.

cafebistro Sun 30-Dec-12 21:51:47

Stopped feeding DD1 at 17 months - she would never have a bottle but now happily drinks cups of milk. Same with DD2 , stopped at 14m and she loves cups of milk.

notasausage Sun 30-Dec-12 21:52:25

Stopped at 20months with DD1 when she decided she'd rather have a story at bed time. DD2 is 16 months and I'm still feeding but she doesn't take much at bedtime and still goes into bed no problem. I think she'd rather have a story now too.

PigeonPie Sun 30-Dec-12 21:54:27

DS1 was 19 months and stopped because I was pg with DS2.

DS2 was 26 months before he finally gave up feeding to sleep.

exexpat Sun 30-Dec-12 21:59:33

DS fed to sleep until 15 months, when I weaned him off BF altogether. We'd dropped nighttime feeds a few months before that. He refused to drink any milk in any way, shape or form apart from BFing - no formula, no cows milk, no expressed breastmilk - so after weaning he only had a drink of water at bedtime, along with stories, cuddles etc.

vvviola Mon 31-Dec-12 00:52:19

DD2 is 16 months & still feeding. I'm well ready to stop, but she feeds a lot overnight and any attempt at delaying/reducing feeds has just led to total & utter melt down.

She drinks oat milk from a cup during the day, but refuses the hypoallergenic formula totally, which is another issue.

I was hoping to have stopped by Christmas. My next goal is February when I go back to university.

izzyhasanewchangeling Mon 31-Dec-12 01:04:56

DD is nearly 3 and very occassionally still nurses, DS is nearly 5 and had completely stopped but I have a NB and he has had 1 or 2 nuzzles (I let him to stop any jealousy issues, he says it tastes like milkshake but milkshake is nicer.

I gradually moved to a sort of combined cup/BF thing, probably at about 2.

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