Breastfeeding? how many of you didn't find it difficult?

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MeeWhoo Fri 24-Aug-12 13:05:25

I know that obviously this is the place to come for advice and support and therefore the threads are generally about problems with BFing, so I was genuinely wondering how many of you would say you didn't finf BFing "hard", particularly with your first baby.

Also, if you have breastfed several babies, was the experience very different each time and harder with some babies than with others?

I didn't find it difficult at all. DD never needed supplementing, and she instantly clicked how to bf when we have our skin to skin after birth. She suckled for a long time and then fell asleep. She was never sick and slept well (until weaning). It never hurt other than a little of discomfort initially. I think I was very lucky when I hear how much others struggled.

debka Fri 24-Aug-12 13:10:12

Me! 2 DDs and i never had a single problem.

My sister is feeding her 1st atm and it's been easy for her too. Perhaps it's genetic.

Are you pg, OP, or bfing now?

PogoBob Fri 24-Aug-12 13:14:30

I can say that in terms of getting it established etc. I didn't have any problems to the degree that DD is still feeding twice a day at 2yo (not quite planned!!).

The only issue I had was one episode of thrush, thankfully the GP backed down and prescribed stuff that cleared it up for both DD and I within a couple of days so didn't set us back.

Doesn't stop me being terrified of bf'ing DS when he arrive later this year though.

CouthyMow Fri 24-Aug-12 13:15:50

With my first? Piece of cake, and I was only 16yo. My fourth, however, was difficult - but that was because of a tongue tie that wasn't snipped till 10weeks, and upper lip tie that was never snipped. Every baby's bf journey is different, but I have only found it hard with my third and fourth DC's due to tongue ties, my first and second bf like a dream.

HarlettOScara Fri 24-Aug-12 13:18:31

Currently BFing 8 week old DC1 and have had no
Problems at all.

MigGril Fri 24-Aug-12 13:19:37

Depends on what you mean. A far as latch or pain for me I had none of that with either of my two. But DD had reflux and didn't sleep and DS had a slight tounge tie which threw me a bit as it did take him a good few Weeks to be able to latch on first time without any problems.

MeeWhoo Fri 24-Aug-12 13:19:43

Thanks for the replies. I have an 11mo ds who has been exclusively breastfed (plus solids by now, of course) and I also was very lucky and found no problems with him latching or me being in pain (bar the occassional bite) apart from oversupply, which made him a bit colicky for a few weeks, but which wouldn't make me say it the experience wasn't easy.

I just wanted to know if thid is pretty rare or just a case of, when things go well, you don't need to discuss it much. If it is not that uncommon we may be able to give hope to some of the pregnant people planning to breastfeed their first!

MeeWhoo Fri 24-Aug-12 13:22:02

Pogo, why are you terrified? Where you scared the first time too or is it the prospect of tandem feeding?

Bartusmaeus Fri 24-Aug-12 13:23:52

I found BF surprisingly easy (I'd read too much MN!)

DH often mentions how DS just latched on minutes after birth "like he knew exactly what to do" <proud dad emoticon>

11 months of BF and the only problems I've had were:
- some oversupply, very quickly corrected (it took less than 24h between reading a solution on MN and my supply dropping so I wasn't spraying DS every feed!)
- slight discomfort around 8 weeks but less than a week of lansinoh stopped the pain

I really like BF. At first I didn't have any strong feelings about it but now I just love the cuddles (we're down to one feed in the evening --and 3 during the night--) and am so glad it worked for us.

Plus now when we go out it's a mission with food, drink, etc. I'm grateful that in the early months I just had to make sure my boobs were accessible!

Bartusmaeus Fri 24-Aug-12 13:25:20

strike-out FAIL

habbibu Fri 24-Aug-12 13:27:22

dd I think tricky for a couple of days, as didn't have latch right, so did get cracked nipples a bit, but overall v straightforward. DS was a breeze - had the lansinoh in from the start, and was far less squeamish about wiggling his jaw and making sure latch was perfect before letting him carry on. That said, he was a bit refluxy, and did once do a spectacular projectile vomit onto poor sleeping Dh's head. I laughed like a drain.

habbibu Fri 24-Aug-12 13:28:13

I thought I'd hate it, tbh - decided to give it a go, but really squeamish about the idea, but I ended up loving it - fed them both till around 2.

Faverolles Fri 24-Aug-12 13:32:15

I found it very difficult with my first, but I had terrible/conflicting advice from every midwife I saw. I mix fed him from 6 weeks, but bf morning and night until 12 months.

Dc2 & 3, I found easy, possibly because I ignored all advice, and did what felt right.

Dc4 - painful because he had a tongue tie, but if I held him in a certain position it was ok. He never struggled to get enough milk though.

DuelingFanjo Fri 24-Aug-12 13:33:11

Hi there

I didn't find it hard. Though DS was in special care for 10 days and I pumped every 3 hours at the start. I found the lack of breastfeeding support in the unit quite hard and so it was only after he came home that I got someone who knew what to do to come to the house.

Mostly the actual breastfeeding was a breeze but I am a very lazy person who had no objection at all to being sat on the sofa in my pants watching crap TV and eating cake for days on end. I had one blistery nipple which healed quickly and hardly needed any lansinoh.

I read about people finding it utterly exhausting and non-stop but I really didn't mind so long as I was well watered and fed and even now at 20 months I haven't started to get those 'get off, I wish you would stop' feelings.

I read an awful lot about it beforehand, took pictures of a good latch into the hospital with me and DS put weight on very well. I don't know if I was lucky or not (I suspect DS even has a bit of tongue tie) but it was definitely not as scary as I thought it would be.

Indith Fri 24-Aug-12 13:33:53

dc1- easy peasy and I was a really annoying bf mum who didn't get why not everyone did it.

dc2- nightmare. I hated it. She screamed, I cried for many months. If I had not fed dc1 and known I could do it I'd have given up.

dc3- easy peasy BUT largely I think because I know a lot more now and could change things and deal with things at the first signs of them going wrong. The way I fed and actively managed oversupply issues etc from the start helped ensure an easy ride.

I found breastfeeding unbelievably easy the first time - I had slightly chapped nipples and a painful letdown for the first week or so and that was it! No other problems.

DS, on the other hand... hmm If I hadn't already fed DD (and trained as a BF peer supporter between pregnancies) I might have given up. He had a very poor latch which turned out to be due to a tongue tie, which we had cut when he was 13 days old. He also has an upper lip tie which cannot be cut. He also has CMPI (cow's milk protein intolerance) which led to 4 months of snot, congestion, excessive wind and really foul green poo before I realised what the problem was. confused

themadfiddler Fri 24-Aug-12 13:35:48

have had no problems at all with bf. baby latched on immediately and i am still feeding on demand (she is now 3 )

CherryBlossom27 Fri 24-Aug-12 13:37:45

Hmmm... You're convincing me when I have another baby I'll try again! I veer from wanting to try bf again to thinking I'll save myself the stress and ff from the start! Good to know it can be natural and easy/straightforward! Sorry if I've hijacked at all!

Bartusmaeus Fri 24-Aug-12 13:40:13

No hijack cherry it's great that you're rethinking it!

My mum and MIL also found BF easy. As have several of my friends.

ShoeJunkie Fri 24-Aug-12 13:45:06

DS has been ebf and I am lucky that it's been incredibly easy.
I'm also lucky that I have access to fantastic support from DM (who ebf both me and DSis) and DSis who ebf DNiece and is currently feeding DNephew and plenty of bf counsellors/support workers both nhs and nct. Although I haven't needed them particularly several friends wouldn't still be bf if it wasn't for them. This is not the case in all areas so I count myself lucky. smile

JugglingWithFiveRings Fri 24-Aug-12 13:45:21

I was fortunate to find it very straight-forward with my two. No discomfort at all from the beginning (OK, except a little when continuing to BF during pregnancy with DC2 and one time I briefly had a fluey like mastitis like episode. Oh, and sometimes when they fell asleep during a feed they'd bite the nipple and stretch it in vice-like grip - that may have been slightly uncomfortable at times ! )

Generally though no probs - except persuading them to ever stop grin

notso Fri 24-Aug-12 13:46:22

DC1 DD 'got it' from first feed, didn't have any problems except stupid health visitor telling me to mix feed bcause I was young (19).

DC2 DS1 didn't like BFing at all he only liked to feed from right side, projectile vomited after almost every feed and used to fight to get away from my breast. I switched to FF after 2 months of hell and still feel guilty

DC3 DS2 latched on about a minute after birth and pretty much stayed there for 6 months.

DC4 DS3 had problems at first, he wouldn't feed at all for two days, ended up in scubu.
Then he would only latch badly, and I allowed it beause I was desperate to get milk down him, sorted it out by six weeks.
He is four months now and am enjoying feeding my last baby.

I think it's like anything on Mumsnet - because people come here for help and advice the stories are disproportionately skewed towards the difficult. No-one ever seems to post in Relationships about how wonderful their partner is and few people seem to post here about how easy they found breastfeeding (not least because they may get accused of being smug).

Ime as a peer supporter I would say that around half the women who come to our group find feeding easy. Not necessarily from day 1 but once they get used to it it goes well. Around a quarter may have minor difficulties - they need to adjust the latch or position etc. Around a quarter may have bigger problems, maybe a tongue tie or mastitis. Over the last couple of years I have only encountered a handful of women who found breastfeeding so difficult that they were unable to continue.

RillaBlythe Fri 24-Aug-12 13:53:37

I haven't really had any problems. Nipples a bit sore at the start but never cracked or bleeding. DD2 had a tongue tie which made her latch slip off but that was snipped on day 13. I find it easy, convenient, pleasurable, reassuring.

CouthyMow Fri 24-Aug-12 13:58:26

Puddle jumper - the upper lip tie can be cut, but isn't often. DS3's was missed when his TT was snipped. I persevered with bf till 12mo, then HAD to stop due to meds I needed to take.

He still struggled just as much with beakers, and the upper lip tie was also affecting his speech.

How do I know the ULT was affecting his speech? Well, he is now 19mo. Until this week, though he spoke, his words were very unclear to all but me. Tuesday he fell over, and split his lip tie. (Blood everywhere!!). Since then, he is so much clearer with his words, understandable to all, and it has prompted an explosion of new words. He also now has no problem drinking from a beaker!

I wish tbh, that I had found the money to get his ULT snipped privately, would have made the past 19 months much easier!!

Foshizzle Fri 24-Aug-12 14:02:01

No problems - other than oversupply - with either DC.

Getting them off the boob, however, is another story.

Thanks for that Couthy I'll keep an eye out. He's managed a cup with a spout though (I had to have an operation on Monday and as he's still mostly EBF we decided to give it a go) so hopefully he won't have the difficulties your DS3 has.

DD tore the upper lip frenulum (can't remember the proper word, sorry) when she was about 16 months and you're right, there was blood everywhere! confused

Astr0naut Fri 24-Aug-12 14:06:03

No problems with supply, latch etc; but the round the clock feeds got me down in the early days.

Hurt like buggery for the first 4 weeks with both dcs though. ANd I got thrush.

I think it hurt with dd (dc2) because she has a latch like a bastard snapping turtle. 8 teeth now and I do wince occasionally when she approaches, as she's partial to a cheeky nip.

EndoplasmicReticulum Fri 24-Aug-12 14:07:51

Me. Everything else was difficult, but not that - once I got him out of hospital that is.

I had a lot of support from family. Not so much from health professionals.

lurcherlover Fri 24-Aug-12 14:08:41

I had no problems at all - no pain, no mastitis, anything like that. My only issue was a tendency to spray the walls when DS chose to come off the boob mid-feed for a look around blush

ForFoxsGlacierMints Fri 24-Aug-12 14:09:33

I couldn't decide what to do about feeding. I knew breast was best but I thought formula would be easier. When my DS was on my chest the midwife asked and I answered honestly that I didn't know and she said 'well, lets give this a wee try then' and put him to the breast. He suckled away and from that day he fed like a wee dream, I had no pain at all (until he got a tooth!) and he fed beautifully (despite being badly tongue tied).

5madthings Fri 24-Aug-12 14:20:39

mine all latched on fine and knew what to do, no sore nipples etc. i did however had over supply issues that were a pita and got thrush and mastitis a few times. oh and fussy babies who were easily distracted and a pita to feed when out and about sometimes!

EggsandBacon Fri 24-Aug-12 14:29:20

I wouldn't have said it was easy as such, as in, both DS and I had to work hard to learn how to do it, but I was very lucky as I have a very supportive mother and very supportive friends, and it was essentially very straightforward for us (after a bit of work we got the latch and position right, no tongue tie or anything). So I enjoyed bfeeding until DS was 13mths, and now hoping that it goes the same with DC2 due early next year.

I think having good support around you, especially in those early days, can make the world of difference and I'm gutted for friends who didn't have that and therefore found it so much harder (and beat themselves up when it didn't work out sad).

neontetra Fri 24-Aug-12 14:46:32

Bf is great - I like it so much more than I ever thought I would (am doing it as I type, in fact). It was tough at first as dd would only feed from one side (I have one inverted nipple). But once I accepted this and embraced lopsidedness, couldn't be happier!

mawbroon Fri 24-Aug-12 14:50:33

DS1 was difficult because he was tongue tied.

DS2 was easy peasy. He is tongue tied too, but nowhere near as restricted as DS1.

There seem to be lots of tongue tied babies on this thread.

PenelopeChipShop Fri 24-Aug-12 15:13:06

My ds is 8 weeks today. He's my first baby and I'm loving breastfeeding him. I thought i would mix feed but that was before I learned about how supply and demand works! Now planning on sticking to breastfeeding for the foreseeable future! Only problem was a bit of engorgement in week one but just fed through the problem! I think I got lucky though, I know one woman who did have terrible problems. It seems like some babies are better at it than others so it's not always just down to us.

feekerry Fri 24-Aug-12 16:27:16

Me. Absolutely zero problems. Found it really easy from the start and I had an emcs. Dd never lost any birth weight and was and still is a large 91st centile baby and i've fed her on demand. She's 20 weeks now and still ebf on demand. She's never even had a bottle of expressed milk. She is my first baby. Bf has been and still is such a lovely experience. I plan to continue for quite some time!

BalloonSlayer Fri 24-Aug-12 16:33:04

Problems with my first were really only that he was big and hungry and colostrum wasn't really enough, and it took quite a while to make enough to satisfy him, and then only just. I felt that I hadn't got enough milk and didn't really understand about cluster feeds/feeding to increase supply because it was never really explained. But compared to most people I didn't really have any problems.

I really felt with all of my DCs I had about 1 floz less than they wanted in my boobs at any time. But no problems with latch... 1st DC knew what to do, with 2nd and 3rd I knew what to do.

vezzie Fri 24-Aug-12 16:39:26

Acute difficulties: very hard at first, and suddenly spectacularly falling-off-a-log easy.
Chronic difficulties: constant years-long exhaustion. Not sure whether I would have had it without bfing because I don't know what it is like to have a non-bf baby. Maybe that's just motherhood.

I think it is very hard to get the right sort of information out there for people who haven't tried - because you don't want to be all doomy and put them off if they might have had a go, but on the other hand, it is genuinely astonishingly how suddenly things can improve, and a person hanging on for 24 miserable hours might be the difference between agony and effortlessness - some of those people might need to hear "it is honestly agony for honestly a very short time" or they will just despair and give up.

I was very pro-bfing when I was doing it but now I honestly wonder whether I made the right choices. I didn't question the exhaustion, the tunnel vision, the lack of personal space, and ended up back in work with no sense of having had any breathing space at all after 2 babies, back-to-back pregnancy and braestfeeding. I am in the midst of a mini-breakdown and I don't know how I am going to get out of it. I look and feel like shit and I don't have a tiny baby to blame for it. I can't blame bfing for everything but it is one of the things I didn't question and now I am not sure how things might have been if I had had the sort of life where DP and I left a baby somewhere for a weekend a few times a year; or a night off bfing once a week when they were tiny and I was wrecked; or something.

crackcrackcrak Fri 24-Aug-12 16:41:42

DD latched on minutes after the c section and fed with no problems until she self weaned at 12 months.

BUT it did hurt quite a bit in the first few weeks and i did get sore/cracked nipples. this could have been prevented if i had gone to latch on groups but i was shy and no one really encouraged me.

i had one day/night where she fed constantly until i was exhausted and worried. she fed and fed and then pulled away and cried. i rang nhs direct and a fab nurse told me dh had to take her out for a walk and i had to rest/eat and that probably things would be ok in the morning. she was utterly right and i never had problems again but if it wasn't for her it might have broken down then. dh (now exp) was getting over excited about topping up - i know now that too would have buggered it up as well.

im pg with dd2 now and am expecting to feed at least 12 months. i'm much more informed now and if there are problems i will go to latch on etc and get them sorted out. i know bf hiccups dont have to be the end and theres lots of support out there if you know where to look.

CMOTDibbler Fri 24-Aug-12 16:46:02

DS was prem, and in SCBU tube fed for a few days and it took a few more for him to be well and strong enough to feed effectively. But once he did, that was it and it was brill. Fed till 23 months in the end

It wasn't hard for me. No bleeding nipples or anything like that but I fouled up my milk supply with DC1 by doubting I was producing enough and replacing feeds with bottles regularly or topping up and there wasn't any need. I hadn't started posting on mn yet at that stage. So I paid the price by my supply dropping and dropping and then she preferred the bottle over me in the end. I truly wish I'd known about mn, as none of that would have happened, with the great advice available on here.

DC2 would't take a bottle at all and I breast fed exclusively to 6 months.

Pekka Fri 24-Aug-12 16:49:50

It depends what you mean OP. DS had no problems latching, milk supply was good (apart from a 2 week wobble when DS was 4 weeks) and my nipples have never been sore. I have found it difficult for non-physical reasons.

vezzie Fri 24-Aug-12 16:52:06

Pekka, what do you mean by non-physical reasons (if you don't mind me asking - obviously you don't have to answer)?

GreyTS Fri 24-Aug-12 16:57:39

I found bfing v easy, 2 babies so far and no issues except oversupply with DD2. Was separated from DD1 for 4 hours after an EMCS and she latched on and fed no problem when I finally got my hands on her. I don't know if it's just luck but I have been surrounded by a large extended family who all successfully bfed so I never even considered the possibility of problems.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar Fri 24-Aug-12 16:58:08

ds is almost 12 so my memory is a little hazy, but I do remember having horribly sore and cracked nipples, and that let down was just agony. Both right at the start though; it didn't last long.

After a matter of days it was piss easy, and being a lazy cah I was relieved not to have to fanny about with bottles.

phlebas Fri 24-Aug-12 16:58:12

I've breastfed 4 without any problems; all were c-section births (3 elective one emergency). I have never - thankfully - had sore nipples but have had a couple of blocked ducts.

#1 - emergency was slightly premature, jaundiced & anaemic due to an antibody issue. She had phototherapy for a week & I pumped & she had a ng tube. She self weaned with a bit of help at 18 months.

#2 - elective section, fed while still in theatre. Was also jaundiced & anaemic but not as severely as dd1, was a dream to feed. Weaned with lots of help at 4 years old.

#3 - elective section, fed in recovery, had prolonged physiological jaundice & I fed her on a schedule to start with (feeds no more than 2 hours apart) to get that under control. She had pretty bad reflux which we finally got under control (gaviscon from a spoon before feeds) when she was about 8 months old. She weaned at 2 years old just before dc4 was born.

#4 - another elective section, fed in recovery, no jaundice only issue is tongue tie which made positioning tricky when he was small, he's still going strong at 14 months smile

At one point I was pregnant & still breastfeeding dc2 & dc3 (extreme breast feeder medal wink ). They've all been fairly small at birth - between 2nd & 20th centiles - but piled on weight during the first year, my smallest is now on the 50th centile. I introduced solids at 4 months with dc1 but the 3 younger ones were all exclusively breastfed until 6-7 months. None of them have ever needed formula milk.

scarlettsmummy2 Fri 24-Aug-12 16:59:16

First time was difficult for first two weeks, then fine. Second time I have had no issues at all and daughter seven months next week.

Just read some more comments, my DC2 was tongue tied it was picked up at birth and snipped when he was 2 weeks old. That helped him to feed better and swallow less air. I also had mastitis twice with DC2, it was a pita but I realised quite quickly and saw the GP.

Pekka Fri 24-Aug-12 17:24:06

vezzie I find it hard to pinpoint exactly what it is that makes BFing so hard for me. Maybe it's the exhaustion, the lack of support (when I told MW and HVs that I struggle with BFing, all they did was agree that the latch was perfect!), sitting on the sofa most days just BFing, having to expose my body in public places, having to use my body to meet someone else's needs. Maybe it's the unrealistic expectations (I thought BFing is the easiest part of having a baby). I really don't know, it's all a bit depressing smile I feel guilty for saying all this, I love my DS so much and I know the above complaints are all about me, me, me. I should be able to put DS needs above mine.
It is getting better now that we have started DS on solids. I am not his only source of food, it feels like a huge responsibility is gradually being lifted off my shoulders.

vezzie Fri 24-Aug-12 17:34:51

Pekka, I totally get where you are coming from.
Don't feel guilty.

hazchem Fri 24-Aug-12 17:37:29

I didn't find it easy but I didn't find it difficult IYSWIM.
I didn't have any problems until about 6 months when DS started biting me (teething related) then 8 months I had some concerns following a D&V bug.
I put it down to sort of knowing how to breastfeed before we started as I've been around lots and lots of breast feeding mums.
OH and i had a talk recently and have decided we (as a family) we keep nursing DS until Nov/Dec and then see how we feel. I think we will probably go til 2.

Haribojoe Fri 24-Aug-12 17:43:12

DS1 complete car crash, had switched to formula by 10 days and am sure that was the start of nearly 2 years of crippling depression sad

DS2 no problems at was the easiest most natural thing I've ever done.

DS3 same as DS2 and managed 6 whole months of ebf.

DD staph infection, mastitis, dreadful sore nipples, you name it I've had it. Still going strong though at nearly 5 months old. grin

Rubirosa Fri 24-Aug-12 17:50:11

I found it quite easy - had a few problems at the start (tongue tie, jaundice, recurrent thrush) but actually the breastfeeding was fine and we continued for a year.

My sister is bfing her first with no problems too, and my mum breastfed three.

OnlineMummum Fri 24-Aug-12 18:49:24

My breasfeeding experience was a real nightmare! It was painful all the time and the latch was really difficult as DD was moving so much when hungry... sad. I also got mastitis and some other complications while breastfeeding! That being said I was very happy to have done it for the time I could (5 months) and am sure it was very good for my DD too!

poppy283 Fri 24-Aug-12 19:02:51

Never had any problems feeding Dd (2 today!) and ds (11 days old) apart from leaky boobs. Back in Leaksville now and getting through a box of lansinoh breastpads every few days.

I was totally expecting problems when Dd was born and I've noticed people generally say 'hopefully I'll be able to breastfeed' rather than taking it as a given, I wonder if that's always been so?

GodisaDj Fri 24-Aug-12 19:04:52

Brilliant thread OP!

I didn't find it difficult despite problems.

DD had tongue tie which was spotted after birth and corrected on day 5.

Damage to nipples because of TT went on till about day 9, and i got mastitis due to oversupply / reluctance to feed on one side due to pain in nipple (my fault, didn't realise consequence of missing feed on one side).

So despite all of that in the first 10 days, I did find it easy and so convenient.

I really felt that the benefits of breastfeeding made everything easy to me if that makes sense, in that there were no making up bottles in the middle of the night & the closeness I felt to DD was overpowering and overwhelming. The pride that I felt knowing i was 'growing' her with what my body was making was just amazing to me. I had IVF as my body failed to give me a baby naturally (egg donation) so BF to me personally, was and still is very special as my body can produce milk (something i worried about during pregnancy)

Saying all of that, I do understand why people choose formula when hit with some of the BF nasties in the beginning (sore nipples, engorgement, thrush, matistis etc), alongside exhaustion and a culture where support sounds like "giving a bottle won't hurt", it is normal for mothers to stop and switch to formula.

D0G Fri 24-Aug-12 19:09:14

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IShallCallYouSquishy Fri 24-Aug-12 19:15:13

DD 3months "got it" straight away. Latched in during post birth skin to skin brilliantly and has been an efficient eater since day 1 - very rare to have a feed longer then 15 mins since birth. I've got a pretty fast and furious let down and still squirt from the side I'm not feeding from, and if she comes off during the letdown phase she will get a good squirt in the face until she latches back on!

Had a couple days of not pain but "ooh that feels a bit uncomfortable" but we got ourselves sorted pretty quick.

I enjoy it and love the feeling of her snuggled into me feeding. I've done a couple EBM bottles for her so I can get her used to me not always being there (mummy desperately needs her roots doing!) and even enjoy her cuddled into me and looking into her beautiful eyes while I feed! So I think any feeding can be a lovely bonding experience whether boob or bottle.

Both DDs were tongue tied, but only very slightly. Pediatrician (same lady) snipped both at 5 and 3 days on discharge from hospital. Never had any problems at all. I also (perhaps naievely) never expected that it would be difficult. That being said, DH fed both of them expressed milk after a couple of days, and they were mix fed from about 2 months due to me returning to work in DD1s case and us moving internationally in DD2s. But no feelings of guilt for that either. MIL was a bit hmm about me not ebf for longer but I cheerfully ignored that, as I have done with most of the rest of her advice.

BananaPie Fri 24-Aug-12 19:33:15

I had no problems at all. I get the impression this is fairly rare though! I actually felt a bit embarrassed that I found it so easy especially when friends talked about raw nipples etc, and tended to keep quiet in those conversations.

I also found it a bit odd when people congratulated me on bf-ing to 15 months when I had been doing it purely out of convenience - it seemed much easier than faffing about with bottles!

I fed two for two years each with no problems at all.

I had quite hefty afterpains while BF my second in the early days and with both of them I found the twiddling phase a bit trying but apart from that it was just plug-and-go!

hazeyjane Fri 24-Aug-12 19:46:04

Tried breastfeeding all 3, and found it a nightmare each time and ended up switching to formula.

Between the 3 of them had - tongue tie, bad advice, lacerated nipples, thrush, mastitis, nipple vasospasm, upper lip tie, baby in nicu, jaundice, lack of sucking reflex, no milk until day 5, and reflux.

I think I may be unlucky!

Pozzled Fri 24-Aug-12 19:48:53

I found it pretty easy with both DDs, I've never had any pain or problems with latching. The worst part for me was the exhaustion in the early days and weeks with DD1. I did struggle with that a bit.

x-post Banana - yes I think I was very lucky not to encounter any problems. With my first especially the support wasn't there - My only source of sensible advice was a book - LLL's Womanly art of breastfeeding. If I had encountered any problems I don't know if I'd have managed to keep BF.

BalloonSlayer Fri 24-Aug-12 19:55:25

I must add to my post above that my nipples did hurt but it passed.

I think it helped that I have the least sensitive nipples in the world, practically no feeling in them at all. That bit in 50 Shades of Grey when she has an orgasm from him stroking her nipples - incredulous snort from this direction.

DS was born at 31+5 but just seemed to have the knack for breastfeeding.
I had a good supply from early on, and bar a small bout of thrush on about day 5 (just me, and cleared up very quickly thanks to some great support from my MW in getting me treated ASAP), we have had no problems at all.

Doesn't mean I have loved BFing - in fact I bloody hated it for a couple of weeks early on. Now I mostly enjoy it, but there are times when I think "hmmm if DS was ff I wouldn't have to do all the night feeds and my boobs could go back to being mine" (am rather sick of nursing bras and having to wear easy access clothing). But then again, I really like the convenience of breastfeeding, and that is the main thing for me.

But we are at 4 months now, and I am intending to carry on until at least 1 year, and hopefully two, depending on how things go.

I am in total admiration of the women who soldier on despite getting everything thrown at them - there are several ladies on my postnatal thread who are still persevering despite great pain. But I also admire mums who say "you know what, this isn't working for me, and it is important that I am happy".

MeeWhoo Sat 25-Aug-12 08:11:07

Thank you everyone for your replies and sorry I went AWOL. (The laptop run out of battery and then wouldn't charge again).
Good to see that BFing doesn't necessarily need to be a struggle and that even people who had some problems during the first couple of weeks wouldn't describe it as a difficult experience overall.
As I suspected, an easy ride with your first one doesn't guarantee the same again for other babies. It seems that tongue tie is a more common than I thought as well, and that the small price to pay for babies who are good at latching and sucking from day 1 may be oversupply issues, which makes sense really.
For everyone who is still BFing or going to start to soon, I wish you all a continued "easy ride".

Spammertime Sat 25-Aug-12 08:24:02

I have also found it v v easy (did laugh at the comment about getting them to stop though!)

I am v lazy too and it seemed so much easier than faffing about with bottles. Plus it's what all my friends / family / mum had done so it was kind of the norm for me really.

Oh and I had fairly big babies (for my size, anyway) - the eldest 2 were well over 9lb - and they both put on weight well. So whenever I hear stories about people being told they'll never sustain bigger babies, I get pretty annoyed.

The biggest reason I've come across for stopping is babies not putting on quite enough to stick to centiles, a bottle getting introduced, and then a whole cycle begins. I wish HVs (and well meaning relations) would differentiate better between the fact babies aren't robots, and so can have good weeks / bad weeks at putting on weight, and babies who are actually having a real problem putting on weight.

confuddledDOTcom Sat 25-Aug-12 08:32:18

I have found it easy, the hardest part was getting premature babies breastfeeding. With my second daughter it was easy, she was so rooty they had to call me down from the ward at 7am the next day! I did all her day feeds after that and took over the night when we were moved to the same ward.

My eldest took to it really well too, she had one feed a day from a week old, increased to two about 16 days old and at 17 days we were put together and she decided to scream if they put milk in her nose until she was put on the breast.

My youngest was the hardest because they gave her formula which made her sick and it took a long time before she was well enough to be able to feed herself. Once she was better and strong enough she breastfed fine.

Feeding ds1 was easy in retrospect. Apart from when he was about 6 weeks old when it got painful. I saw a great bf counsellor, who corrected the latch, and I fed him until he was 1. Ds2 has seemed a little harder. Not the feeding itself, but concerns over weightgain at the beginning, and tongue tie. He's now 8 months, and I want to continue feeding him for a couple more months, but we'll have to see how we go, he's got very bitey, which isn't a lot of fun.

Kveta Sat 25-Aug-12 08:43:45

found it painful and relentless for the first few weeks with DS - he fed 20 hours out of 24, and my nipples were unimpressed! but after about 8 weeks the pain went, and although still relentless, it was pretty easy. still feeding him at 2.11.

DD (10.5 weeks) was so easy - she sleeps between feeds, and once i got hher latch perfected at a week old, it's all been straightforward.

my mum bfed 4 children, and found 3 very easy, but her 2nd was incredibly hard, so I knew it might get harder with DC2, but have been lucky!

hairytale Sat 25-Aug-12 19:47:05

The only problem I had was the staff in the maternity ward telling me I was "doing it wrong" but not helping, and then when I had no fight left due to exhaustion giving formula. However, once I realised I was doing it right it was fine - DD is 7 months and still breast fed.

Lawabidingmama Sat 25-Aug-12 22:19:14

I found it easy DD1 was a great feeder despite having a tongue tie which didn't get corrected she piled the pounds on and didn't have anything but me till we started weaning at 6 mo carried on bf till I went back to work at 9 mo. DD2 has also been fine she's 5 mo and ebf had a few niggles this time but mainly due to the fact I've less time on my hands to sit feeding as DD1 is only 2!!

DS is 16mo and still BF.

BF has been wonderful and pain free since he was about 7 months old. Apart from 2 bouts of mastitis earlier this year, but that was due to overworking rather than anything else.

BuntCadger Sat 25-Aug-12 22:28:33

On 3rd and its hard as upper lip tie and pro tongue tie (she's 10m). Very sore nipples at mo, doing exaggerated latch to help.

Tigresswoods Sat 25-Aug-12 22:28:42

Me. Not sure if it was DS or me but it was no trouble. I was taken to theatre shortly after delivery for a little stitching. DH was left holding the baby. Consequently it was about 4-5hrs after birth that I first offered the boob.

I never had a bit of help, just sat in my bed holding my gorgeous boy & did what was natural.

Just lucky?

BigBoPeep Sat 25-Aug-12 22:49:44

I was expecting it to be dreadful - like going into battle. people just had me convinced that by 4mo at the latest i'd have to be 'topping up' with bottles. But I had a good example in a very pro breastfeeding friend and decided to just put my head down and bulldoze through it all.

actually, it was a piece of cake, a real surprise! Engorgement was no fun but not unbearable, oversupply problem required a quick google for the la leche league's advice, had a peculiar few days of excruitating pain that nobody really got to the bottom of (I think a massive growth spurt that changed the shape of her mouth too quick and affected latch) that almost made me give up but sooo glad i perservered because it went quickly and completely. let down v painful but that was just a few moments and gone.

I am also the type that doesn't mind a lot of feeding - it's just what they gotta do to keep your supply where it needs to be. I figure I have my whole life to be running around in so I should savour this time to relax with my baby whenever possible!

I was counting down the days to weaning at first and didnt feel all cuddly and glowy, but now i like it and feel a bit sad when I think about weaning! imagining her last feed makes me sad

whosthis Mon 12-Nov-12 21:54:00

After having read all these replies, I found myself perhaps one of the very unlucky one (which I didn't believe).

Twice mastitis within a month. The 2nd time, as it's not obvious, it has been persistent for more than a week till I went to the GP for help - my nipples ache so much that I could not bare any clothes/breastpad on them. Don't want to move around even inside my own home, as the pain is so unbearable!

Cies Mon 12-Nov-12 22:02:36

I had no problems at first, and loved bf from the start. I had mastitis a couple of times, those white blister things on my nipples a couple of times, a bit of biting but I never thought of those as reasons to give up- for me bf was my favourite part of babyhood. I was sad to stop at 2 and a quarter, and am really looking forward to bf my new baby, due any day now.

CrazyRandomHappenstance Tue 13-Nov-12 09:07:34

i had to give up at 6 weeks with DD1 but that was due to medication i needed to take, the actual BF i didn't have a problem with.
DD2 is 7mo and i have had no problems with her either, and still going strong. smile

Curtsey Tue 13-Nov-12 11:23:02

I would fall into the 'minor difficulties' category.

What was difficult: DD having a PTT which meant sore cracked nipples for me at the start. She needed to feed very frequently for a long time because she got tired having to work that bit harder for the milk. Her weight gain was slowish but not particularly worrying.

What was easy: DD latching on straight after birth, and continuing to latch well. Never rejected boob. Had plenty of milk. At nearly 10 months have had no problems with thrush or mastitis.

I find it just so easy now, but tbh the hardest part at the start was just how different life with a newborn is - I probably would have felt like that regardless of how she was fed.

I think overall I've had a very good ride with breastfeeding, but I haven't always enjoyed it.

DS was born at 31+5 and tube fed while I pumped to get my supply going. I was lucky that my milk came in very quickly, and that DS already had the suckle reflex (even though that doesn't usually develop until 34 weeks). I think it was his knack for it that helped us succeed.

He was exclusively BF from 2 weeks, and bar a bout of thrush for me in the first week (which thankfully he didn't get, probably because we were only latching once a day at that point), that's it in terms of "problems".

I hated hated hated it from about week 3 to 6, and used to dread each feed - not because of pain, I just wasn't dealing with it well emotionally/mentally. But we are now at 29 weeks and still going strong, and I barely notice that we are doing it now (except of course in the middle of the night, or when he bites me)

Just taken him to be weighed today, and he is now on the 50th percentile, having started on the 9th. The HVs were shocked, as ever, that he has only ever had breastmilk hmm

Wigeon Tue 13-Nov-12 13:45:40

Have BF two babies for a total of 26 months all together; I found it pretty straightforward. Both of them latched on really well when an hour old. Absolutely no sore nipples or any need for Lansinoh. We both adjusted to the growth spurts. Their weight gain was normal.

I did get mastitis twice with DD1 (and one of the times I felt really dreadful, like having the flu badly), but to be honest that was only a few days out of a whole year of feeding her, and I don't regret it for a minute.

I had read quite a bit about BF beforehand, and all the potential problems, that I was rather surprised to find it so straightforward. Given it's what my body is designed to do, it shouldn't be a surprise when it goes well!

cheesesavory Tue 13-Nov-12 20:56:59

No problems, fed for 18m. Am expecting no 2 now and half looking forward to feeding again and half worrying that we won't have such an easy ride this time!

BertieBotts Tue 13-Nov-12 21:05:12

I had one small blip in the early days where I couldn't get him to latch when I was sitting up, but I got support for this fairly promptly and it sorted itself within a few days.

Apart from that was fine. I had read up quite a bit beforehand and was glued to MN etc grin so I think I sailed through some hurdles without a worry that I might otherwise have fallen at (growth spurts, the switch from hormonal to on demand supply, expressing, potential blocked duct, slow weight gain, etc)

Also I co slept which I think saved my sanity!

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