It's an interesting discussion. I found that when tandem feeding while my younger one was feeding v frequently and it was in ds's face a lot (IYSWIM) then there wasn't much chance of him stopping. I let him up his feeding from once a day during pg (which I had actively cut him down to as I couldn't cope with more) to around 4 times a day at one point, but then once dd was well into weaning I encouraged him to cut back down again (age gap 2.3 yrs, so I guess this was when he was just over 3). Once he was at nursery school, maintaining just the first thing in the morning feed was easier, and he didn't feed every day. He actually stopped by agreement when he was 3.10 and I was just pregnant for the 3rd time. I exchanged him stopping feeding for a toy he really wanted. It was no problem at all, especially as by that stage he was feeding once a day maybe twice a week, but then dd was walking and talking by then too.

I guess we're not exactly natural term, as at various points I definitely took the lead, but perhaps still interesting as we tandem fed and went on longer than most.

It'll be interesting to see what dd and then the new baby do .

That's interesting, wonder what their thought process is.

Just a week before he suddenly weaned he'd said, "I'm going to keep going until I'm a grown-up, mummy. Until I am as big as you." With the older ones it is often a conscious decision that they then enforce. This is also what happened with Dr Jack Newman's son. One day he announced 'tomorrow' would be his last day. And it was! (He was over 3 but I can't remember exactly how old.)

So relieved to see others going strong.

Glad to hear older nurselings tend to stop fast, as my 3.2 year old DD shows no signs of weaning and laughs when I suggest the possibility. I am starting to think my 14 month old DS will wean before her !!!

I think older nurslings do decide suddenly more than you'd expect. The younger ones (under 2.5s) seem more likely to tail off gradually.
Apologies for all the painful typos in my earlier post.

Thanks Tambajam, ironically he didn't feed at all after school yesterday or when he went to sleep!

Yes, maybe he will just make the decision to stop, we'll see. Nice to hear of others with similar DCs, I feel like we're so different (and we're different enough for other reasons) but I'm not stopping him just because society or others think I should.

My son weaned at 4yr (just a few days after his birthday). It wasn't a gradual tail-off. He just 'decided'. He had decided a few days before he didn't need pull-ups at night. He was tandem feeding with his sister at the time.
I honestly wouldn't worry about stil feeding at school. If he's feeding morning and night it will just be second nature to him. He'll no more go around broadcasting it than talk about brushing his teeth in the morning. If you are worried you could just check your not calling it 'boobies' but something more neutral like 'milk'!

BTW, DS1 went back to an almost entirely liquid diet, incredible.

It's interesting that you (one) can tandem feed with these ages pol, but I can't honestly say I ever thought I'd be doing this. DS1 just seems to get so much out of it that it'd be mean and pointless now to say that's your lot. And of course I hope it's having a positive effect wrt him bonding with his brother, I think so, we'll see.

4 and 4.5, eh, hmmn, we'll see. 4 or before would be good but I guess I'll carry on if we go beyond that. No chance of running dry which won't help!