Interesting double standard

[BabiesEverywhere]

I was posting earlier on this thread

I posted to correct a breastfeeding myth. i.e. Maternal stress levels does not effect breast milk production or breast milk quality.

Several posters object to my post and I am told I am "insisting breastfeeding is best for the baby and putting even more pressure on the op." Nope, I did not say or suggest anything of the kind

Yet several posters are directly putting pressure on the OP mother of a exclusively breastfed baby. Telling her that she...

"you are too stressed out by the abuse to produce enough milk"

and

"I know it is VERY, very hard to consider formula, not least because you'll be giving in to this "man", but you must consider it.... there is a strong chance your BM isn't containing the things it needs for your baby."

Yet these comments are supposedly supporting the OP

[slim22]

you are over reacting.
They are right about the fact that hammering on about BF is counterproductive in that thread.
The 2 quotes you gave are exactly the sort of rubbish you can expect.
The OP already knows BF is best, the real issue is helping here find an exit strategy.

[thisisyesterday]

I agree with you babieseverywhere.

it's ok to encourage someone to use formula due to a gross misconception of breastmilk production, but it's not ok to tell the OP otherwise???

let's just hope the OP does know that already eh?

[helips]

I saw this thread and agree with the points you made babies everywhere. Hope the op doesn't give up breastfeeding due to incorrect info. Didn't want to say anything because of the sensitive nature of the post but just wanted you to know that I agreed with what you said!

[BabiesEverywhere]

Thanks helips & thisisyesterday

Interestingly the poster who accused me of trying to start an argument, is still guns blazing determined to have an argument on that thread.....LOL

TBH the OP seems to be happy and ready to mix feed her child, I just wanted her to know she had a choice and now she knows that.

[unfitmother]

I agreed with what you said, however, it probably didn't help the poor victim of domestic violence to have her thread turn into a row.

[sabire]

I'm always staggered with how EAGER women are to tell a bf mum that it's ok to give her baby formula. They positively fall over themselves to do it. And then say 'but no pressure either way'!

[tiktok]

Very difficult, BabiesEverywhere. You were wrongly criticised, by a poster who has her own issues about this, and who does not know the difference between a properly researched academic paper and a piece of fluff on a parenting website (the one she linked to).

Suggesting to someone that her stress levels are likely to affect the milk is so unhelpful - I mean, in that case, feeding her baby may be the one thing she feels she is actually getting right. The witnessing of domestic abuse and parental arguments is hugely stressful for a young baby - breastfeeding is a way to 'touch base' with a loving, comforting process and relationship. The baby may well be crying a lot because his parents are so unhappy.

Here's a couple of papers on stress and bf that have some academic authority:

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16885490

wjn.sagepub.com/cgi/content/abstract/27/6/676

[BabiesEverywhere]

Thanks Tiktok, the papers make interesting reading.

It did sound like the other poster had her own feeding issues in the past and it must of been difficult for her to hear, that it was likely that she hadn't needed to top up with formula.

I was about her link, you can find a webpage which backs up any opinion you can think of, but if it is not backed up with proven facts it means nothing.

[fitfox]

I agree with you too Babieseverywhere