some questions about 'extended breast feeding'

[Locksikas]

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[TooTicky]

I am still bf my dd2 (2.5). A good meal in the evening can help little ones to sleep through, so they aren't waking for hunger.
As for the home/out feeds - sometimes I can distract her and sometimes she shouts mummy milk at the top of her voice. I just try to be as subtle as I can.
I live in a village too, but I think I am already a weirdo for various reasons.

[policywonk]

Q1: it might be easier to cut out the midnight feed as well as the 3pm feed - ie, feed him to sleep but then not again until morning. Might be easier for him to understand? Try this Dr Gordon link.

Q2: I have been told by others that you can start to enforce an 'only at home' rule at about this age - he'll probably resist at first, but if you explain it many times over he'll get it eventually. You'd have to be consistent about it though.

It's a shame you've been commented on - silly moos. I'm still merrily bf-ing DS2 in public, and he's nearly 3, so please don't feel like a freak.

[Locksikas]

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[Jackstini]

Locksikas - I still feed dd (22mo) when she asks - don't feel wierd, you are doing the best thing for him. However, if you are uncomfortable, you can start to say 'only in our house' and he will to understand at this age.
Re night time, get dh to go in when he wakes - never you. He already knows he can't badger dh for boob so may go back to sleep (may take a few days to click on)
I cut down per dd's habits really and now only feed last thing at night, but if she gets a really good feed, no more requests now until morning
I plan on self weaning too and this is working for us.

[moodywren]

Firstly, don't feel embarrassed about extended feeding in public, its great that you are still feeding. I would try distractions to delay feeding him until you get home if you feel really uncomfortable. My ds2 is just over a year old and I have no intentions of stopping until he is ready. I fed dd2 until 2yr 3mths when I had to stop due to being put on medication.
As far as night feeds he doesn't need it now so it is just a case of perservering, get dh to deal with him at night, it sometimes only takes a few nights before they get the message, and definately within two weeks if you are firm about it and don't give in. Its really hard, my ds wanted to feed all night long in bed with me and in the end I just had to be determind that I wasn't giving in although he got really upset to start with.
Sorry to waffle on, hope it helps a bit

[Jackstini]

lol Lock - dd stil goes mmmmmmmmmmmmm all the time she is feeding. Not very conducive to being inconspicuous

[Tommy]

I am just starting to think that I need to stop night feeds with DS3 (11m) as well. That article is interesting and siliar to one I read called "Controlled comforting" which I got from MN a few weeks ago.

IME, this waking in the night and feeding that can be stopped relatively easily but it does take 2 or 3 really bad nights which I just can't take so I just feed him to sleep

Try not to let people upset you about feeding and only stop when you both want to - it's not anyone else's business!

[Locksikas]

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[policywonk]

LOL - yes Dr Jay is rather plastic-looking.

Try not to feel guilty - as you say, you are doing what you need to do in order to be a great mother. I weaned DS1 when he was about two, and I did it in the most horribly brutal way (complete cold turkey, even though he was co-sleeping and completely dependent on bf-ing for getting off to sleep) - this was before MN for me and I just didn't know how else to do it. So, at least your DS won't be going through that!