any advice on stopping co sleeping

[dja]

My DD is 9 and half months now and has regularly been co sleeping with us. she always starts the night in her own cot but wakes regularly and by 2 or 3 am i have usually caved in end up letting her in our bed again. She is still breast feed at night but solids by day. She knows the waking game now and so pushes us to our limits so she can co sleep. however she also often wakes due to wind. Also has less than an hours sleep in day so i cant reduce that right now!
If it was just me i would leave her to cry longer but my DH has to get up for work and there is only so much of her crying he can take. Besides we both get to that point where we will do anything for a bit of sleep! moving her into her own room isnt an option as we are a 1 bedroom flat.
any advice greatfully recieved!

[NorthernLurker]

I am in a similar situation to you - dd is 8 months (our third) and we have two bedrooms but her two older sisters are in the other one! She starts the night in her own cot - sometimes go through till 4am or even 6am but sometimes wakes at midnight or later. If she wakes before we go to bed then I settle her in her cot leaving her to cry and grizzle a little as needed. If it's after we've gone to bed then I feed her and see if she seems sleepy enough to go down in her cot. Any doubt in the matter or after one failed attempt at cot I keep her with us. The way I see it - we all need our sleep more than I need hours of distress on both sides! It's winter after all - and in lots of the world the idea of a baby sleeping alone is seen as downright cruel not to mention weird I don't think my dd will sleep all night in her own cot till we move house - and though once we do move I will probably be quite keen for her to do so, she will be older then and I know I will never regret the wonderful sleepy cuddliness we have shared. As far as I can plan she will be my last baby and I am pleased that I have been able to relax and go with the flow sleep wise. Good luck with your situation.

[dja]

cheers,
thats reassuring!
i do undoubtedly enjoy the cuddles i just thought we were going down a slippery slope as the older they get the harder it will come to break the habit. MY DH is from a part of the world where co sleeping is the only way thats why we started it and are happy to do it.
Thanks again... enjoy the sleepy cuddles!

[sputnik]

If you're happy then carry on

I spent ages with my first DD worrying about "bad habits", and getting up and down in the middle of the night etc. until at 10 months we removed the side of the cot, stuck it next to our bed and never looked back.

When she was nearly 3 (and I was 30 something weeks pg), we went and choose a bed, duvet covers etc together and set up her room, while we assembled the bed she asked tentativly if she could sleep in there (I had anticipated problems). No regrets, and we're doing the same with the new baby.