help me carry on bfeeding ds2!

[insywinsyspider]

ds2 is just 2 wks - ds1 is 19 months, I ex bf him till 7 months and loved it but this time its hard going, I'm finding it really restrictive... like I can't take ds1 out on his own as I have no idea when ds2 will feed, and its too chuffing cold to feed him on a park bench (which I did with ds1 because he was a summer baby) I miss ds1 loads as just when we settle to do something ds2 wants feeding, it also doesn't help that ds2 doesn't want to be put down ever - tried a sling and he hates it so having to carry him... am getting very tempted to break out the formula so I can get dh to help - please anyone reassure me that this will get better!

[Shitemum]

It will get better. It's not the bfeeding thats going badly it's just that you didnt know how much harder it was going to be with a toddler on the scene. When DD2 came along I felt so sad for DD1 and guilty that i couldnt spend the time with her that i had before. You just have to lower your expectations for a while. Try and find ways to do stuff with your DS1 that fit in around the baby's demands. Actually i think DS1 will be happy just to have you around and talking to him, reading and having a quiet winter life till spring comes and DS2 is becoming a wee friend for him.
I also found bfeeding in general harder the second time around as i was constantly being interrupted by DD1 and her needs.

[notnowbernardimstuffingthebird]

C-Beebies or equivalent on without guilt whenever ds2 wants a feed, with ds1 cuddled up next to you (Or a book, if that makes you feel better )

It does get easier! Honestly!

[WewishyouaBUMPERLICIOUS]

not got time for lots of advice as DD is starving! But just wanted to suggest a poncho for winter feeding?

[insywinsyspider]

thanks for replying - not much time to post back! we're getting there - poncho was a disaster, more of an issue of not being able to get up and stop ds1 running off/falling off slide etc whilst feeding when out (asked dh to take a back seat to see if I could do it - failed but he rescued me )
only saving grace is its christmas and we have loads of new toys - we did manage to get out to a soft play today and dh held ds2 whilst I played which was lovely - dreading when dh goes back to work on wed... any more tips for surviving? ds1 not interested in cbeebies at all he watches it for 2 seconds, whilst I talk about whats going on on the programme, then he wanders off and I get stuck watching some absolute rubbish - I forget to pick up a book before I start feeding so not tried that but he really doesn't sit still... I think I just need more sleep!