Still bf dd to sleep at 10months, please help!

[absandme]

I still bf dd to sleep for afternoon nap & night time sleep.

She wakes twice in night where I still bf to sleep..... It means I can't go out as dh can't settle her & she stays awake til I come in & bf her to sleep (don't go out often, twice in last 6months!)

Have once managed to stroke forehead to send her back to sleep but never worked since.;

Please help! She has plenty of calories during the day but still has big bf's in wee hours of morning... I don't want her to cry to sleep either.... any ideas?

[harpsichordcarrier]

well I don't think there are any easy solutions
have you tried patting and shushing?
what worked for me was gradually stopping bf a bit before dd2 went to sleep and rocking a little then patting and shushing. then gradually ut her down earlier and earlier.
this took a while
I have no tolerance for crying though

[absandme]

thanks, i never thought of that, like it & will try it..... how long is a while, are we talking less than 2months?

any other tips will be much appreciated!

[morocco]

do you want to go out more often any time soon? if it's only once in a while, she might well surprise you and settle back with dh or stay up and watch telly with him (that's what my dd does ). I have never ever managed to get any of mine to settle without a bf - only dh can do that, for obvious reasons! i weaned ds2 at around 15 months and he was fine with just a cuddle at bedtime instead, no big trauma, so i'm happy to bf dd to sleep til she is older. sorry - that's not v helpful is it??

[absandme]

I don't have a busy social calender, infact, no calender at all!! I'm extremely tired from night feedings & want to find another way to get her to sleep so ultimately she can do it on her own..... no rush!!

[Tommy]

I always fed DS2 to sleep so with DS3 I have tried a diferent tack. Sometimes, DH rocks him to sleep which works at 7pm but not at 3am for some reason

He does have a dummy though which probably helps - I could never get DS2 to take one

[OfficerBarneyDibble]

Have a look at Dr Jay

[gigglewitch]

i did the same sort of thing as morocco - they would never settle with me without bf, but with DH they would happily chill out, watch telly, and fall asleep on top of him.
take yourself some 'me' time - a bath or whatever, and try it. One thing, tho - i had to convince DC that i was going OUT, cos if they thought i was still around they would want me back. much sneaking up hallway and closing of doors.

[DrBunsentheHarpsichordCarrier]

oh a "while" was about two or three weeks - not long in the scheme of things! but of course on dday three you don't know it's day three of 20 iyswim!
good luck, hope it goes well. ime these things tend to sort themselves out sooner or later as the baby gets older and the habits you thought were engrained just slip away!

[EmZyPlusOne]

i'm posting this again for the third time! i have no ideas if it works but also don't want to leave ds to cry either. here's the link

[Tommy]

that looks interesting emzyplusone - I might need to try that on DS3!

[EmZyPlusOne]

tommy, haven't tried it myself but it sounds like a softer approach than cc

[absandme]

Thanks for all your help folks!

[policywonk]

abs, I am sitting here staring at my copy of the Hilary Flowers book. Short of something very strange indeed happening I am unlikely to ever have a use for it again! Do you want my copy? I've been trying to palm it off on someone for ages - seems a shame to give it to a charity shop, where it is unlikely to be found by someone who would actually use it.

[absandme]

policywonk...... I'd love to give the book a whirl! How do I go about contacting you to give my details? Don't mind making a donation too!

[policywonk]

Ah no don't worry, it would only have gone to freecycle or something otherwise.

Try emailing me at rowan dot davies at ntlworld dot com with your address and I'll get it sent off. I have scribbled some annoying notes in the margins but otherwise it's in pretty good nick.

Let me know when you have seen this and I'll get the post deleted so that my email isn't left hanging here!

[absandme]

thanks!