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Anyone done tandem feeding and how was it?

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Gmakes3 · 19/11/2007 13:42

This is abit previous but am trying for dc#2 and am bf dd1 who is 13 months. I don't feel like stopping and dd certainly doesn't. Wondered what tandem feeding would be like. Also what position do you reccommend when pregnant. I have read that the milk supply can dip around 3 months preg and also that once the baby is born and the colostrum comes in the older child can go milk crazy. Has anyone got any advice/tips for me if I'm lucky enough to become pregnant (fingers x'd).

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Thinking · 19/11/2007 19:44

Bump...would also be interested in the answers

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thebluefoxategreensocks · 19/11/2007 21:07

I've been tandem feeding for 8+ months now! No regrets and wouldn't have done it differently, tho I think I'm about ready to try weaning soon, as my oldest is now 2 and often wants me instead of her dinner!

My daughter was only 7 months old when I got preg with my little boy. She (and I!) were no way ready for weaning and she couldn't tolerate any kind of dairy products (got red spots around mouth) so I was determined to persevere! I think I continued to have plenty of milk until I was around 6 months preg, tho I know it varies for different women. But Abigail continued to bf even when I was fairly empty, just as a comfort thing really. But I didn't want to stop her before she was ready. She finally took a bit of milk (mixed w/ liquid youghurt) at 12+ months, so that was good when my supply went down, so at least she was getting something in addition to food.

It can be a bit difficult if your breasts are extra sensitive when you're preg (feeling sore), but I just kept on - so it is possible if you're willing!

Abigail is quite petite, so I didn't find the position too much of a problem, though will probably vary depending on how big your bump is. I think towards the end I often preferred to lie down with her so I didn't have the weight on my tummy.

I didn't have any problem with colostrum or different kind of milk. She just shared the colostrum with her baby brother! And was overjoyed when I got a lovely huge milk supply! (I'd already had an oversupply for her when she was a baby, so I had more than enough for the 2 of them!) It was really cute when she'd point to me and say "there's lots of milk in there!"

Recently her top teeth seem to be sinking in to me (don't know why, as teeth aren't supposed to interfere if they're latched on correctly), but I'm getting quite a bit of pain at times lately. Not always by any means, so don't know what is happening. But I think I'm probably ready to try weaning her soon. Benjamin is only 8 months now and I'm planning lots more breastfeeding for him, but I think I'm ready to just do the one. But at the same time, I don't want to force it or rush it either, so who knows...might still be breastfeeding when she's 3! lol

But I'm happy with tandem feeding. When I was younger I don't think I ever knew anything about the idea. My mum weaned each of hers at 22 months and all 7 of her children were naturally spaced at about 2.5 years. But I was exclusively breastfeeding my little girl and my periods came back when she was only 4 months, and I was preg by the time she was only 7 months! So....not like my mum! Right now though, my youngest is now 8+ months, and with tandem feeding the both of them, still no periods & no pregnancy! Guess it's different each time.

Well, sorry to post such a long post! But maybe it will be a bit helpful to hear from someone who is doing it now.

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thebluefoxategreensocks · 19/11/2007 21:08

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not read through my message, so hope it all makes sense! lol any questions, just ask! I'm happy to talk if there's anything I can help with.

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scienceteacher · 19/11/2007 21:09

I tandem fed for around 15 months. There was just under 3 years between the children, and the older one knew that baby got first dibs.

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Gmakes3 · 20/11/2007 09:20

rachelinscotland thank you for all the info. I know I am thinking too far ahead but can't help it. What happened during labour? I don't think I would have a home birth as dh is petrified of it. DD has a feed at night and is part of routine now and say I was still doing this I would hate to think she would be stressed not getting one If I was not around. What happened to the feeds whilst you were giving birth? Oh just to be more difficult she will not take a bottle.
Know I have plenty of time to change this but don't really want to if poss.
My dd has also started to leave top teeth marks after feeding. It hurt like hell for a couple of weeks. Tried repositioning but did not help. Has sorted itself out, guess my nipple got used to it and toughened up!

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thebluefoxategreensocks · 20/11/2007 22:00

My sister came to stay with us a few days before I went into labour. I had a homebirth with my 2nd child (first time planned one but ended up with hospital). Fortunately Abigail loves her auntie (who's only 17) and they had lots of fun together and I think she nearly forgot about her mummy while I had about 4 hours of established labour (and was upstairs out of sight). She didn't like to see me in pain earlier in the day when I had contractions! She had a feed a few hours after he was born (I think) to go to sleep. Did make the afterbirth pains rather bad, to have a big strong sucking child! But guess it made my tummy go down more quickly. (If only I could have lost my pregnancy weight. sigh! Still got most of it 8 months later! Must stop eating all the time!)

Anyway, I'm sure by the time a 2nd one came, your daughter would be old enough to understand too, so that would help. Mine was only 16 months when Benjamin was born.

A great source of information and support is the La Leche League site. There were lots of stories/articles about tandem feeding. In fact, it might have been there I first learned about it! I read up to see if it was OK to bf during pregnancy (since my mum thot I needed to wean right away) and once I started reading, I realised I could continue all the way through and beyond!

Best wishes! and again, any questions, don't hesitate to ask!

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policywonk · 20/11/2007 22:03

Have you got Adventures in Tandem Nursing? It's brilliant and answers just about every question you could think of.

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Gmakes3 · 21/11/2007 11:01

Thank you again. Lots of food for thought.
Heres hoping I can get pregnant and that I do as well as you. Need to try and talk dh round to idea of homebirth.
Thanks for the book link looks well worth a read.

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Tapster · 21/11/2007 11:52

I'm wondering about tandem feeding, ttcing post Christmas but its very likely I'll have a C-section again and so not sure my DH can bring DD into hospital be fed.

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thebluefoxategreensocks · 21/11/2007 21:03

Tapster: do you have a medical condition that requires a c-section, or is that just what happened in the end? A lot of times people can get pressured into these things when they aren't really necessary. I planned a homebirth with my 1st baby but ended up in hosptial with induction (because of prolonged ruptured membranes). They thought the baby was under stress and one doctor was telling me my only option was a c-section. So you can imagine my delight when a 2nd doctor came in and told me I had lots of options! I ended up with an epidural (not ideal, but under the circumstances, wonderful - so I could rest and both of us relax). My little girl was then born 3 hours later, "totally naturally" and in record time. So sometimes you just have to stick to your instincts. My 2nd time around I again had prolonged ruptured membranes - but knowing what happened before, I said I wasn't going into hospital immediately. And just a bit after 48 hours had passed, my labour established and I got the wonderful homebirth I wanted...no problems at all. I think it's a lot of theory & not fact regarding awful risk of infection bec of waters being gone. You just have to take precautions and be careful, but it doesn't mean you're in grave danger.

Anyway, might not be your situation at all. but just thought I'd post that anyway, in case there's an alternative to another c-section.

Best wishes!

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