I just wanted to post something about my experience with bottle/breastfeeding.
My labour (as I'm sure was the same for many others) was horrific. I was due to be induced as I was 2 weeks overdue and after waiting in the hospital from 9am, my waters broke of their own accord at 5pm, just as they were about to take me to be induced. From that moment on labour and contractions were full on. To cut a long story short, after 15 hours, a ventouse delivery and a rather large tear my darling Lily was born (9lb 6oz). Lily was very special to me as before having her I had lost 4 pregnancies and a fallopian tube (2 ectopic pregnancies followed by 2 miscarriages).
I was determined to breast feed, had attended the rather lengthy workshops and couldn't wait. So, about 30 mins after I had finally given birth the midwife said to me 'are you going to breast feed' and when I said yes, she said 'off you go then' and left the room. I couldn't get my baby to latch on, she screamed and screamed and then gave up and fell asleep.
After that, every time I tried to hold my baby to breast feed she just screamed. I continuously asked for help, the midwives would try and help and then would suggest that my baby didn't seem to like her head being held (possibly as a result of her position in the womb and the delivery). All I was told was 'keep trying' which I did and my baby continued to cry as she was hungry. One night I lay down with her latching on and off (badly) for nearly 2 hours and she still continued to cry as she wasn't getting what she needed.
In the end, I told the midwives that the breastfeeding was going slightly better (which it was) so that they would let me leave the hospital where I was getting no real help and felt so alone.
The first night at home was horrendous, it was 30 degrees outside and my baby cried and cried every time I attempted to latch her on (lying on the bed which was the only way I had any success). She took only very small amounts before giving up, us both covered in sweat and crying. I worried about her dehydrating as it was so hot.
The next 10 days, midwives came daily, everyone said, 'yeah, she's not happy with this is she' before leaving with the great advice 'just keep trying'. I could not leave the house as the only way she would take any milk was lying on my side (and even that was not good). I went to workshops, accepted any help going, tried to express milk but still it didn't work. I dreaded my baby waking up as I knew the battle that was coming. I was exhausted, couldn't eat anymore and was not enjoying my so wanted and loved baby. If I suggested giving her a bottle, the midwives frowned at me and told me to persue the breast feeding. You really shouldn't bottle feed!
Finally, I went to the shop and cried whilst buying formula and bottles etc. I hid the bottle feeding equipment when the midwives came as I felt so ashamed. Believe me, I am a strong confident women and yet here I was hiding from the health visitors and midwives.
So, finally my baby took the bottle and I never looked back. She was happier and content, I could take her out of the house, love her and finally enjoy being with her. I finally told the midwife that arrived that I was bottle feeding and I said how disappointed I had felt with the midwives in particular. She was fantastic and told me some of her colleagues were bloody stupid and she admitted that she herself had failed to breast feed.
I completely agree that 'breast is best', I know that breast feeding is not a walk in the park and I envy the closeness that it brings for some. If I have another child I will try again, but I will not beat myself up about it if I fail!
My baby is now 7 months and is happy, smily and a joy to be with.
I just wanted to share this rather long waffle with you all as I finally needed to get this off my chest!!
Lisa xxx
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LisaHuckett · 21/02/2007 10:46
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