advice please

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Some one I met at an antenatal thingme and I have become sort of friends, I have started going to her's once a week for a coffee and out LO's are about same age (3- 4 months)
Im finding her parenting a little hard to grasp and have had to stop going round there.
Since birth, and against what HV suggested, her LO has been on the SMA white (second stage milk) and she has started to add mushed up farleys rusks to his milk, and feeding it to him in his bottle!!!
Isnt this completely wrong? She has made all the holes in the teats much bigger with a pen knife, and she rams it in his gob, and he just struggles until the whole lot has gone, then ive seen him be so sick, she gets angry, and i really worry about him.
He's a very big baby, much bigger than all others I could compare him to, and yet, she seems to think that its all ok to feed him like this.
She also has never sterilised his bottles, and when I baby sat for her, I put all his bottles she bought round in my dish washer, the teats were all brown around the edges where they fit into the screw ring its grose!
What can i do, can I reasonable say some thing to her?

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It's the angriness at not finishing his rusk-filled bottles that is worrying - the rusks-in-the-bottles from birth is gruesome but it's not likely to do any desperate harm now. Ditto the dirt on the teats.

You can't really give advice on what she gives her kid to eat, or her hygiene, but the fact you are worried about the effects of her anger makes me think this baby could be at risk from her temper.

Can you post on one of the other (non-feeding) threads and see what people think? Mumsnetters are pretty good at coming up with ideas on this sort of thing.

Where's her dh/dp in all this?