hi Hangster
Oh my God thats awful! Is there any other signs of illnesses or is he just refusing his milk?
What exactly have you tried?
You see the problem we have now is that before every feed she cries and could last between 1 - 20 mins before she actually starts drinking it! Looks like she also has a weak suck! For the life of me i can't figure out why she cries and then drinks
I have tried so many things that i can't remember everything but i will list everything i can remember maybe there is something that might help.
Changing teats - tried wide neck and standard neck bottles. Tried latex and silicone teats. Tried round teats and flat teats. DD is happy with standard neck bottle with orthodotic teat from mothercare!
Temperature - Tired room temperture, luke warm, warm, hot. Find that she is much happier when it's between warm and hot probably likes it better when it's just hot.
Timing - Every 4 hours, leaving her till she cries for it, offering little and often. To be honest at the moment i really don't know what to say about this one as she never shows signs of hunger! She never goes for like she's hungry either.
Amount of feeds in a day - was told to stop waking her for that last feed at night and to let her sleep the full 12 hours! Thinking that she would be starving in the morning but noooooooooo she wasn't so i thought i'm not doing that again. So she is having 5 bottles a day. But struggling.
Enviroment - i found that feeding her in a quiet no stimulating room facing the window helps better! But saying that she can sometimes feed well when the tv is on! Trying to feed when out of at someone elses house but it's worst she feeds better at home!
Allowing someone else feed her - mum has tried husband has tried aunty has tried friends have tried and i'm the only one she will feed from!
Cup feeding - to be honest this was a waste of time for me and my dd - i even bought the famous doidy cup but she refuse to drink from that too!
Changing milk - went from sma gold to cow and gate premium and now on cow and gate comfort! i'm on the comfort because it was suggested it would help her digestion system as she was going 3-4 days without a bowel movement - well to be honest have not found it has helped! Been told to go back to premium!
There really is no reason why you can't change the milk yourself - if your ds has had no problems on the milk he is on at the moment e.g no vomiting, dihorrea, rashes you can try another milk - i know that sma gold has a very disgusting taste to it and alot of babies do not like it and when put on another milk they drink much better! Dd improved when i changed from sma to cow and gate!
Weaning - i was told to try weaning her early (4 months) but that hasn't gone down well at all - so i have stopped as i feel that i really wasn't getting anywhere with that and it was stressing us both out!
I went to the baby clinic yesterday to get dd weighed and she has lost weight! I broke down infron tof the HV as i am at my wits end and we went through everything again and advised not to offer milk 4 hourly and if she doesn't want it to back off and not force. Then leave her till she screams the house down for it! Well i tried that yesterady and this is what happpened.
8.30am - had 4 and half oz
12.15pm - had 7oz
1.30pm - took dd to clinic and was given advice!
4.45pm - offered milk but refused
5.50pm - screaming thinking wanting milk but only had 2 and half oz. Fell asleep!
8.15pm - Really wingy - offered milk refused point blank! Fell asleep
11.45pm - Woke her up for feed took 4oz
Feel asleep and sleep till 7.40am ( which i woke her up)
8am - dd drank a full 7oz bottle ( says with relief)
And now have decided to persist on what i was doing before and to ignore what HV said to me.
Many times we have thought to take her to A & E but knew nothing would be done about it. Have tried to get her to be refered but no luck on that either!
If ds had relux he would be progectile vomiting after every feed - is he doing that?
Is he losing weight?
i'm at my wit's end too i know it is so upsetting causing you too cry all day long!
I know there is something wrong but i just can't put my finger on it - i'm sure there is someone out there that can help!
Anyway i'm sure there is alot more things that i have tried if i remember i will post them but i hope that this helps and i really do feel for you. i know exactlty what your going through! Be strong if it's any consolation our dear little babies are strong and more than you think!
Hope to hear from you soon