Posting in here as I don't know how much of this is related to BFing. I fed first baby until 7 months so never reached the separation anxiety at night stage when BFing.
Now my 11 month old is waking every 1-2 hours screaming and won't settle. I have pretty much always fed her to sleep. It can be a quick process but now it is as if she is watchful for me leaving the room. We co-slept till around 6 months (I think?!) and I had to stop that regularly as she started needing constant attachment to me which meant I got very little sleep. I have posted before about chronic sleep deprivation (I have a 2 year old so napping when baby sleep is tricky) and feeling a bit low and struggling, pretty sure it's need to sleep rather than PND.
I can sometimes sit and feed the baby back to sleep - usually on her wakes until around 11. DH tries but doesn't manage, I give them several minutes (not too long as don't want to wake toddler whose sleep is also not fab) but she calms when she has me.
But with me, she just wants to be attached. I am bringing her into our bed (DH goes into spare room as doesn't sleep with her in) but she is restless. It takes up to 90 mins to settle her once in our bed - it's as if she thinks it's playtime. Her room is too small for a mattress or anything. Our room too small for her cot next to us. I'm just so tired!!!
I could just do with some advice from anyone who has been there.....when does it pass? What tips please?
I do want to keep BFing as it is easy and we both enjoy it. This is despite encouragement from some older members of the family to stop as that will apparently help - to be fair I think they were offering to take her overnight.
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Miffyandme · 13/05/2016 07:23
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