" how long are you planning on breastfeeding for " - my ds is 5 months, but people (family members, all dhs family not mine) have been asking constantly.
Dhs father also makes inappropriate comments everytime i feed ds. As a family, dhs included, we always joke and take the piss a bit out of each other, but his comments are grating on me. He will say "aare your boobs out again?" " or everyones seen them now" etc. And he said something that really irritated me quite early on about how i needed to "make an informed descision " about breastfeeding (the context was me trying to explain why my ebf newborn was up every 2 hours feeding- to their dismay- trying to tell me i obviously wasnt producing enough milk, and me explaining that i had seen a lactation consultant snd ahe said bf was going brilliantly) and hes a bloody paramedic - he should know better, he obviously thought he knew best (despite having no experience of bf as dhs mum didnt.)
Everytime ds is hungry dhs father will say to dhs mother, "oh go warm a bottle" even though i breastfeed and i say "no its ok im feeding him, i just get met with a snarky look.
I dont know how long i will breastfeed for but why the flying fudge should it matter!
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spillyobeans · 18/11/2015 06:04
Dh does stick up to them, and he gets told "shut up" ...i think they see us as kids rather than able adults. And the other times dh thinks im being too sensative 
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And dhs mum keeps saying ds is "looking for food" as he watches you eat - he doesnt know what food is yet!
That's terrible 
I had a very difficult time with my family when ebf in the early days as DS was dropping centiles. Both my sister and my mum had bf for a short time and then ff, so there was pressure for me to give up.
I went to so many drop in feeding clinics and in the end I got my confidence and we bf for a year.
You can start introducing food at 6 months and people tend to shut up then as they know the baby is definitely getting enough nutrition. Although saying that, around that time MIL kept asking me when I was going to stop bfing as though I was going to be someone who breast fed their child until they were at senior school! It was all very weird and this time round I refuse to listen to any of them and shall of exactly as I please for as long as I please.
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I got this all the time from ex DP's family with DC1, it used to drive me mad too but in the end I singly told them that how I fed my baby was my choice, and when I decided it was time to stop I would, and that there would be no further discussion on it. They has catsbum faces for a bit but did drop it 
'I find it endlessly bemusing that so many people are so fixated on my tits' with a withering look.
Or
'Every time someone brings up my breastfeeding I'm going to add another month on'
The mothership was the same with all my kids, I think she nearly combusted when I got to 3 1/2 with my youngest 
My DS is nearly 5 months, EBF and I get a lot of this. Less now actually that he's a strapping 18 pounds and feeding less often but in the early days it was constantly 'that baby needs a bottle' and classic from MIL 'is there even anything coming out' when he was three weeks old and doing that evening cluster feeding thing. I would start being a hell of a lot less polite. Other people's comments about how you feed your baby reflect lots more on them then they do on you.
Well done on your feeding 
and to have got so far.
Skipton yes i will try this, i did try before, explaining id been to see a bf support worker and she said x y z and thats when he said " you need to make am informed descision " - as though being informed was to not listen to the experts...crazy man.
I did try and beat him at his own game the other day when he thought he was being funny. Me dh mil and fil and sil in coffee shop and i needed to feed ds, so i did and fil aaid "what would you do if that made me un comfortable" and i said well you can leave then - all very jokey but he was a bit catsbum after haha.
Oh yes the 'is there anything coming out' remark... ive also had ' hes only doing it for comfort' - why would that be a bad or wrong thing? And (as ds is a bit squirmy on the boob, usually when tired) 'hes looking for proper food, try baby rice' its all very missinformed and patronising isnt it...
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