Like a lot of people I found bfeeding quite hard to begin with and 6m on I'm glad I was able to carry on. But I still wish that with all the leaflets, 2 hr talks and one-to-one advice on breast feeding, someone had told me that (although my latch was ok) it might be painful at first. The relentlessly positive NHS advice made me feel like I'd failed before I started and it took the more down to earth Mumsnet page to give me the confidence to carry on. What would you like to have been told about breast or bottle feeding before you ended up sobbing hormonally in the middle of the night? (Oh, it might also have been nice if the chart showing the colour and frequency of poos had mentioned that bf babies might suddenly go from 5 poos a day to 1 every 3 days. I didn't want to google baby poo.)
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I wish someone had told me about the pain. I seriously thought something was wrong with my breasts and they ended up testing for thrush (which, of course, came back negative).
And I wish someone had told me about cluster feeding. It wasn't until I heard it talked about on here that I realised DD was normal.
Thank god for my HV, who was brilliant and made everything seem better.
I wish i had known about cluster feeding and regulating supply themselves because I thought dd was starved and not getting anything.
I wish I had been told you don't lose weight if you bf if you eat cake and pizza.
I wish someone has warned me about following the advice of nipple confusion would mean I probably left it too late to introduce a bottle and so never had a longer than 3 hour sleep for the first 14 months.
Oh and how to wean her when your pregnant and she is 21 months old
that before the milk comes in that you might be feeding the baby for hours on end and they will still be hungry!
God yes! Wish I'd known this the first night back from the hospital. And that they stimulate your mlk by constantly coming on and off the breast - fine unless your nipples are torn to shreds 
that the latch can LOOK correct but the piranhas on nipples pain two months in tells you it's not. (It did eventually pass and I was able to bf until 13 months) still meant literally hundreds of really painful bf sessions, though upside is it has made me judge less. it took stubborn grit to keep going and those who say 'enough' have my complete sympathy. ds2 was a painful start but not nearly as bad nor as long, so even those who tell you it hurt them too may not have experienced your degree of pain.
That bf is not as convenient as you might assume. You don't always know whether your baby has a full tum or will need topping up in 20 minutes, making leaving your bottle refusing baby nigh on impossible for any length of time (how many times did I need to explain this to my mum who only ever ff)
that expressed bm is like gold and to see it poured down the sink or spilled is a new kind of heartbreak.
That tongue tie is an extremely common cause of many BFing problems (and also of reflux and wind), and very easy to fix if caught early enough, but the NHS doesn't check for it 
I agree deep - when I started having problems it was suggested DS may have a tongue tie so I went to see a Lactation Consultant who although felt DS had a small tie it wasn't severe enough to either affect feeding or require a Frenulotomy.
I have since sought support from a Breast Feeding group, phoned helplines, had a Peer Supporter come to my house end I even saw the Breast Feeding Co-Ordinator for my County. My attachment/latch issues were addressed and now DS feeds like a dream 
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I think it's because I've been having difficulties that has added fuel to the fire that I should just give bottles. I don't think my family understand why I've endured the difficulties and had some hard emotional times because of it when formula is available. They can't work out why I didn't just make the switch when I started having problems.
My nan tried but failed to breast feed her two children (my mom and my aunt) and my MIL was the same when she tried to breast feed my DS. I do wonder if because BF didn't work for them they don't believe it to be a good enough source of nourishment, hence why MIL suggested I give a few bottles of formula a day "just in case".
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happy to be corrected!
though, in my defence, I said it was an "extremely common cause of many BFing problems" ie it may not be that common in the population as a whole but it is common amongst the population of women who are finding BFing difficult.
also, I'm not sure how anyone knows that "only 3% of babies have tongue tie" - since most babies are never checked.
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