Has he weaned himself?

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ZebraZeebra Thu 08-May-14 18:41:54

DS is 18 - almost 19 months. We were down to one BF a day, at bedtime. I know it's not so much nutritional, more comfort at this stage and the last two nights he's not asked for it. Specifically last night he was so exhausted he passed out halfway through a story. Tonight, I just didn't offer and he didn't ask, just went to sleep.

What happens now - like what if in a couple of nights he does ask for it? How long until I stop producing milk? What if he does ask and I'm not producing anything and he gets upset?

I feel so conflicted about it. From the beginning we've been totally baby-led and he night weaned himself painlessly and I'm so proud and glad I got to BF him for this long. But he has really bad allergies and there's a part of me that would like to eat those things again...But there's a bigger part of me that wants to go wake him up and make him take it! Just joking but...you know...

Also his diet now - I'm not sure what to do. Allergies aside he's very healthy. But he can't have dairy, nuts, milk, soya, coconut or eggs. So that's a lot of milk substitutes out. He likes redbush/roobius tea and has lots of figs which are high in calcium. He also has plenty of god fats. So I'm wondering if he needs any kind of milk?

jwpetal Thu 08-May-14 22:05:12

There are a couple of issues you bring up. My son is allergic to dairy, eggs, nuts, oats and sesame. I BF for 21 months and had similar concerns about nutrition. If he is getting others foods with calcium he is fine. I believe rice milk with calcium is a good substitute if you are looking for a milk substitute. We also get a regular visit with a dietitian linked to our visit to the allergy clinic. Perhaps this would be a good time to discuss your concerns.

We had a similar weening situation. My son did not BF for 5 days. When he asked at that time, I explained that he is now a big boy and the milk was all done. he did not say anything or fuss. Just went and did his own thing. It was harder on me than it was on him. There have been stories about women able to BF months after quitting. Though I suspect that would not be necessary at that age if he has a rich and varied diet.

It is always hard when your little one stops. I felt guilty even after BF my daughter till she was 3.

congrats on managing what you have. I know with the food allergies it has not been easy.

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