28 month old obsessed with booby

(15 Posts)
GEM33 Fri 28-Mar-14 23:41:03

Ok so I didn't plan to still be feeding a two year old. I'm slightly concerned about how deeply deeply attached she is. If attention is drawn away from her or she is tired or grumpy and all through the night still to get to sleep its "BOOBY"
She kisses them and says "me love booby"
Ok so I know my kid is bright and bushy tailed and it's down to the breast on demand since birth and I understand all the lovely benefits but I mean she is obsessed.
I realise if I want to stop it's never going to be her that tails off. It's going to be a battle and a devastating one for her. Will it get harder nearer 3 or should I stop now (I'm feeling embarrassed by her vocal demands in public now I admit).
Disclaimer I do not judge anyone feeding past this age and beyond. It's just I'm starting to feel uncomfortable about it for me. But then if society ha different view in general toward b f it would be different

MooseBeTimeForSpring Sat 29-Mar-14 00:05:05

I could have written this one month ago, when my son was 26 months. About 10 days ago I decided I'd had enough. We were down to 2 feeds a day (before nap and bed).

I told him he was a big boy now and didn't need booby anymore. He grumbled a bit but rolled over and went to sleep. Naps have been a bit more tricky but that just results in an earlier bedtime. He sleeps through for 11-12 hours.

MooseBeTimeForSpring Sat 29-Mar-14 03:05:55

I could have written this one month ago, when my son was 26 months. About 10 days ago I decided I'd had enough. We were down to 2 feeds a day (before nap and bed).

I told him he was a big boy now and didn't need booby anymore. He grumbled a bit but rolled over and went to sleep. Naps have been a bit more tricky but that just results in an earlier bedtime. He sleeps through for 11-12 hours.

GEM33 Sun 30-Mar-14 16:04:56

I'm not hopeful at all. I've tried saying no booby at bedtime and she screamed and cried for half an hour and took two hours to go to sleep. And will not go back to sleep without boob otherwise she fully wakes up. It's going to be very very hard for us.

itsaruddygame Sun 30-Mar-14 22:42:56

Could you try night weaning first? No experience of night weaning myself but I will try it when DS is older (only 1now). I fear he may be like your DD ..... very attached to the boob!

alteredimages Mon 31-Mar-14 00:26:06

I am afraid I don't have any real advice. DD was like that too and only managed to wean her at two years old because she got thrush at nursery and went on a nursing strike. Six months later she decided suddenly she wanted to start again and would cry, try to undo my tops, put her hands down my shirt etc etc. The only thing I found helpful was wearing polo necks so she couldn't pull my boobs out and letting her snuggle but not feed. A few times when she was really inconsolable I let her feed.

Now she is three and a half and still obsessed with my boobs but not all the time, it seems to cime and go depending on how settled or unsettled she is feeling. She is going through a bad patch at the moment as she has a new baby brother who I bf, but she just wants to snuggle into them and sometimes pretends to feed. It is a bit embarrassing at times and DH hates it but it does reassure her and I am convinced it is just an intermediate stage of weaning. Some babies have soft toys or a special blanket, DD has my boobs. blush

GEM33 Tue 01-Apr-14 00:33:23

Aw altered images. It's hard isn't it when they are inconsolable and bit of boob just does the trick. My partner left me 3 months ago and part of the reason he left was coz he hated me breast feeding and now he s gone he gets enraged about the feeding saying it's got to stop. He doesn't care when he has her overnight that I'm so sore and she misses me. I do want to stop but when I'm around it's all booby demands!! I'm hoping we ll find as gentle a way through weaning as possible.

WhatsTheWordHummingbird Tue 01-Apr-14 00:36:57

Ive not BFed since about day five but 2.3yo DD is body part mad and fascinated by my boobs. Maybe its just natural at that age. She is also learning the difference between men and women and generally how the body works.

I dont think theres anything you can do about their fascination tbh.

ItsSpringBaby Tue 01-Apr-14 04:04:53

I was in the same boat once. He had NO other interests, just the thought of them and he'd come running like a drug addict!

That said he's now turning 4 and you'd never thought he'd been breastfed at all! I weaned him at 3 1/2 when my milk dried up, he's since discovered nursery, games etc. and he's pretty much over it. What a difference time can make, hang in there.

Aldwick Tue 01-Apr-14 09:25:36

Watching with interest as I have a 2.5 year old who still feeds to sleep and has never ever got to sleep any other way. Even as a newborn he would only fall asleep on the boob never in the car or pram. I need a life and am obviously too embarrassed to tell people that's why I can't come out at night. He doesn't sleep through either so I don't even have my evenings. And his diet is appalling because he just tops up on milk overnight. I am bracing myself to try and stop over Easter but it ain't gonna be pretty!

GEM33 Tue 01-Apr-14 19:53:23

Spring baby. Thanks you've given me such hope. Aldwick lol. Me too!! Mine wakes 3-8 times s night and although she does sleep for my ex she will only feed to sleep with me. I too tell people I don't want to go out because I can't drink as feeding is non stop all day all night and I can't relax at night coz once she s asleep I sneak downstairs to go chores and she s awake again for more boob within couple hours !! Sure time will change things?!!

Aldwick Tue 01-Apr-14 20:15:58

I have been hoping he'll improve for about the last 18 months and that he would self wean and just 'get' sleeping but seeing as that hasn't happened it's obviously time to take action. I can just see it getting so much worse before it even starts to get better though.

Twobusyboys Wed 02-Apr-14 21:43:58

Just noticed this thread. Wondered if any of you had started a gentle wean yet? I am in same boat with 2 yo.

Aldwick Thu 03-Apr-14 06:53:00

I am going to try over Easter. I fear there will be lots of screaming in the night so at least with the bank holidays I can have some catch up naps.

Twobusyboys Thu 03-Apr-14 07:06:53

Ok. Good luck! I need to sort out my two year olds sleeptoo. I am still bf regularly in the night and co sleeping just to get a bit of sleep. And its going to be so hard to break the habit. I just dont know where to start!

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