weaning a breast obsessed 14 month old

[Melonbreath]

Just that really!
I have had enough of feeding dd. I am very very sore ad she sucks furiously for over an hour at a time. I don't think she's getting much out any more as she has her hour long 4am feed, settles at 5ish, wakes at 7 and drains a 6oz cup of milk.
I only feed her to get her to sleep now really i think it's a comfort thing as she's a good eater when not teething.
The last straw is she's stopped talking to me and now says 'hello boobies' and pats them instead!
Could anyone tell me about going cold turkey?

[RJandA]

Wow, she's talking well for a 14 month old! Mine just says dat dat dat at everything.

It might be gentler to break the association between sleep and feeding first. Maybe try feeding her before bath, then get her settling herself / being rocked or sung to sleep, whatever it takes. Then wean off feeding, she might not even be that bothered if it's not associated with sleep any more, especially if she drinks well from a cup.

The order I would do is - first, break sleep association with feeding, second cut down any day time feeds so that you're only feeding morning and evening and nightime, then cut out night time feeds (and if you work out how to do this stage then let me know!), then cut out morning and evening (one then the other, doesn't really matter which way you do it, whatever suits you).

Sounds easy, right? Good luck.

[Graciescotland]

I feel your pain, my 15 mo has decided my name is bobos; any attempt to get him to say mama and he laughs at me. He's always fed to sleep. TBH I'm totally ready to stop BF but I suspect he'd kick up such a fuss that I'm waiting till he finishes teething.

Good luck and I'll be watching this thread with interest.

[Melonbreath]

Well dh managed to get her to bed last night. But she woke at 2 and 5 shouting booby.
I think this may take a while!

[MoominsYonisAreScary]

Mines almost 13 months, hardly drinks anything other than bm some days will not take any water at all.

Also watching the thread with interest, hello boobies! I think thats cute

Mine isn't saying anything yet but can walk and has started walking up to me and trying to help himself, all day long!

[Bluesandgreen]

DD is 18 months and refers to my breasts as 'my boobies'. She is very generous though and will sometimes offer me a suck on them
She is also obsessed still and I am somewhat worried she'll not wean for years.

[adagio]

Another lurker, also with an all-other-drinks refusing 14 month old although I do generally refuse boob and just cuddle in the night time (between 11 and 6, or 5 if she stays asleep from 8pm like a good girl).

However from 6-8am she is a human limpet and to be honest, I dare not count the number of daytime feeds. 'On demand' is the expression that covers it. I am sort of vaguely hoping she will sort herself out and self wean. I need to get a job, and she won't be able to come with me bless her.

[Melonbreath]

Oh got roped into bedtime tonight. I said firmly 'no boobies' and she started shouting for daddy.
just the rest of the night to get through now. I'm not getting any sleep anyway so I may as well go cold turkey and just offer her water