I have to go dairy free :(

(61 Posts)
ElBombero Wed 23-Oct-13 15:28:14

I'm in the grieving process, after eliminating infection it's looking like my DS green mucousy stools are due to a CMPI.

No more chocolate, tea or coffee whilst feeding my boy. How can I get through Xmas? Throughout xfactor without chocolate? I know this sounds incredibly selfish but I am already egg, gluten and nut free sad

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 23-Oct-13 15:34:41

It's not selfish I think anyone would struggle on such a severely deprived diet.

Would a hypoallergenic formula not be an option. I only suggest this because on top of everything else, without a dietitian you could make yourself ill.

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 23-Oct-13 15:35:51

Can you not get yourself referred just to ensure that you are getting everything you need? X

ElBombero Wed 23-Oct-13 18:17:40

HV come around today who insisted I carry on with BF following a suggestion that I stop and he go on a lactose free formula. She stated that with my history of allergies breast feeding would be a great benefit to him. He's only 7 weeks old.

Just a bugger that his intolerance seems to be the only food group I'm ok with hmm

She is going to speak to a colleague and get me referred to a dietician.

I'm eating chocolate tonight then that's me (still on the upside might help me shift the weight)

bronya Wed 23-Oct-13 18:26:53

You can get dairy free chocolate. smile

Ooddoyouthinkyouare Wed 23-Oct-13 18:29:13

Booja booja chocolate ice cream saved me. But cheese I really miss.

Dietician just told me to take a calcium supplement so get one ASAP.

But ouch at the full diet restrictions.

ElBombero Wed 23-Oct-13 18:43:42

Thanks oodd, who sells that?

Awww noooooo hadnt even a thought to cheese sad

Oodisgonnagetya Wed 23-Oct-13 18:48:01

We got it at local health food shop.

Oodisgonnagetya Wed 23-Oct-13 18:48:46
Gileswithachainsaw Wed 23-Oct-13 18:48:59

Do not be afraid to push for formula op

Dairy on its own is easy to avoid. I've done it in cooking daily for two and a half years for dd2.

But that puts you up to four now and you do need to focus on yourself aswell. You have done so well!!!

KatherinaMinola Wed 23-Oct-13 18:52:15

Soya milk. Quite a few of the Lindt and Green and Blacks bars are dairy-free (and the best quality chocolate IMO). Alpro soya yoghurt is very nice indeed - blueberry and red cherry flavours especially. Swedish Glace ice cream (available in all supermarkets) is dairy free.

Cheese - hmm, bit of a problem. You can get soya cheese, but it's 'orrible. Still, it's only for a few months, eh?

kidinasweetshop Wed 23-Oct-13 18:58:07

Lindt 70% choc is both dairy and soya free. More than 50% of babies with CMPI have the same issue with soya so you may want to eliminate that too (check labels of things like bread, oat milk is good and Pure margarine). It's a pain but well worth it if you get a more settled baby - bear in mind it can take a couple of weeks aftee stopping dairy to see any changes as it takes a while to get out your system.

kidinasweetshop Wed 23-Oct-13 19:00:13

Gosh just re read about what you are already giving up. Def see a dietitian or find out about the prescription only hypoallergenic formulas

IndigoTea Wed 23-Oct-13 19:06:00

I'm very sorry for you - it is extremely extremely difficult! I was on a dairy free diet for a couple of weeks and it really was horrendous but after a couple of weeks it did get easier.

Have you seen the list of things you can eat? I know jammie dodgers was a life saver for me as a treat, and cheap biscuits. I think you should also get advice from a dietician too.

Soya was just as bad as dairy for us so I would be wary of using soya alternatives.

It's fucking hard! But temporary - that's how I coped.

IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat Wed 23-Oct-13 19:26:12

Your Health Visitor cannot 'insist' you carry on breastfeeding, he is your baby, you decide what is best for both of you (disclaimer- I am not saying to stop breastfeeding by any means, but you get to decide).

It would be really tough to cut so much from your diet so I would definitely get help from a dietician. My HV was going to refer me when we thought I might have to give up dairy because I am already veggie.

shelley72 Wed 23-Oct-13 19:38:14

I was dairy free whilst I fed my dd (about 2.5 years). I managed it, but then I didn't have your other restrictions sad. You can have dark chocolate (green and blacks for example). The ice cream mentioned above is sold by ocado if you use them - actually if you do, you can sort by dietary restrictions which is quite handy.

We were under the dietician and paediatrician at the hospital until she was 3, just to check that she was growing properly and that our diet wasn't lacking. I took calcium supplements at a high dose, as dd did when she went through a phase of not taking goats milk (she can't tolerate soya either).

But (and I say this as someone very pro BF) it is not up to your HV to tell you how to feed your baby. Only you can decide that. It is hard. But it can be done.

mamij Wed 23-Oct-13 19:46:19

It sounds awful going dairy free, but in reality it's not too bad. Yes, so minor adjustments to diet, but you hardly notice after a while.

I went dairy free with DD1 (13 months) and DD2 (16 months), and like others have said, most dark chocolates are ok (Booja Booja are lovely!), Rich Tea biscuits are dairy free, I switched to herbal teas as I didn't like coconut or soya milks in tea, started baking (Stork 250g is dairy free) if I wanted a treat.

there is no point in a lactose free formula if he is CMPI as it would still contain cows milk protein (lactose is the sugar in the milk). It would have to be a non-dairy formula rather than lactose free. Was your ds losing weight/not gaining as green poo doesnt always mean there is a problem?

ElBombero Wed 23-Oct-13 22:36:54

Thanks Ilocepower that's interesting.

My DS was having "normal" yellow creamy seedy poo's until 11 days ago when his stools became like an army green colour, mucousy at times, watery other times but very frequent at every feed. Not had a "normal nappy since", the green poo has caused a sore bum but getting better with metanium.

He's not losing weight but only put on 2oz last week, they said they expect about an oz a day weight gain. He is now on 25th centile (born on 50th)

His skin shows no sign of allergy, no eczema, he is generally settled (as long as he is ring held with lots of boob, but I wasn't concerned about this giving his age)

What do you all think?

ElBombero Wed 23-Oct-13 22:39:32

Mamij baking is out with my other allergies but very interesting about dark choc!!

IJustWoreMyTrenchcoat Wed 23-Oct-13 22:43:56

Oh, and my DN is lactose intolerant. I used to buy him loads of different 'free from' chocs. He declared a brand called Moo Free the best. Available on line and my local health food store sold it too. Unfortunately the free from brands are expensive though.

Likeaninjanow Thu 24-Oct-13 09:02:20

I know it seems really daunting, but it's doable if you want to carry on BF. My ds2 was allergic to everything you've listed & we BF for 2 years. Yes, I had to put a lot of thought into what I was eating, but I didn't lose lots of weight, and I stayed healthy. Lots of oily fish, green leaves, gluten free pasta, meat, veg & potato type meals.

Of course, if you don't want to, then you absolutely should push for formula.

ElBombero Thu 24-Oct-13 09:52:41

I want to feed him, I adore feeding him smile

LAF77 Thu 24-Oct-13 10:05:44

It isn't so bad going dairy free. I thought I would never be able to live without my favourite yoghurt and then I cut it out and didn't miss it! You may find your LO will start to tolerate some CMP in your body after a time.

Hypoallergenic formula is really rank smelling or so I've been told.

DS has atopic tendencies and with moderate reactions to dairy and egg white, but over time, he has been able to tolerate things with butter cooked in them.

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