Can I have your stories of perfectly ordinary BF experiences?(95 Posts)
Inspired by another thread...
I'm 36+4 with my first and getting a bit antsy about BF. I've got flat nipples and have heard so many horror stories, even from those who would say that they had a positive experience. I'm not absolutely wedded to BF at all costs and quite prepared to accept that it might not work, for all sorts of reasons and that's fine. But I seem to hear nothing but "it was horrendous, I had mastitis for 7 years and then thrush" sometimes with "but I powered through and now I love it" tacked on for good measure.
So, tell me about your experiences please? You know, the ones where you both kind if just got on with it and then the baby was weaned and everyone lived happily ever after. I'm quite happy to hear about sore nipples and lost sleep, but I'd like to avoid the (hopefully less common in real life?) end of the spectrum.
We had a hard birth and I refused (!) to feed DS immediately so a midwife expressed colostrum for me and DP syringe fed him for the fist feed DS was jaundiced and sleepy so it was a struggle to wake him to feed enough at first but once we escaped from the post natal ward it got much easier. We both had antibiotics after the birth and then got thrush, but once we got the treatment right it cleared up really quickly, and it was mostly DS's mouth that was affected, by nipples didn't hurt.
DS also had a tongue tie snipped at 3 weeks, but it hadn't been causing me any pain previously.
DS fed every 2-3 hours mostly. We had him in a bedside cot and I fed him lying down and mostly in my sleep at night. Cut out night feeds by 9 months. Were down to about 4 feeds a day by 10 months, started swapping the two day time feeds for cups of cow's milk at about 11 months and by 13 months swapped the bedtime feed too. Then one day he just refused the morning feed and I didn't offer again. Weaning was pretty easy for us.
Another very good experience here. I'd read all the horror stories and convinced myself I needed to prepare for the worst. One of my best friends had a horrendous experience and kept reminding me it was going to be awful. In actual fact DS just popped himself on immediately and just got on with it. We have had some problems due to a tongue tie but nothing too terrible; I decided not to get it corrected. If you can get past the initial hurdles of learning a new skill and if you can sort out any problems, then after the first few months, breastfeeding is a dream - it's so liberating to just be able to latch them on and feed or soothe them - or even just get a break!
Hello minipie! <waves>
It wasn't straightforward for me till about 4 months - BUT it could have been so much more straightforward if I'd got the right help early on (specifically, if I'd got dd checked for tongue tie by a proper trained breastfeeding counsellor).
My point is, a lot of the stories you hear of difficult BFing experiences might not have turned out that way if they'd got the right help. So don't be put off by those stories - just line up the phone numbers of some good breastfeeding counsellors NOW so that you can call if and when you need any help.
Honestly - it's always been fairly easy.
Both Dd and now my twins were v sleepy when born and so for the first 24 hours or so, a MW helped me hand express colostrum into a syringe plus teach DD how to latch (I could do it myself for the twins). Then.... No problems at all.
On a few occasions I've had blocked ducts, but it's never ever developed into mastitis as I've massaged them out while feeding and in a hot shower.
I felt a bit on occasion, especially around the 4-6 month time, as it seemed like some of the fg babies I knew were sleeping through while DD was waking every 2 hours in a growth spurt.... But actually, I never felt too sleep deprived, except when she was ill, and that was the same fit the ff babies.
It really wasn't that hard. I never had sore or bleeding nipples, although I used lansinoh religiously and got lots if midwives to check my latch.
Dd was born, we had skin to skin and with a bit of persuasion fed. She fed every 3 hours, regular as clockwork. There was a time I was a little concerned about her weight. She's a nosey little blighter and was too busy looking at what was going on, so I offered it every 2 hours. Didn't accept a bottle but we got through it. Took her out with me when she was little and when I did leave her she had a cup.
Have had mastitis but only when I returned to work and wasn't expressing enough.
DS had tongue tie but we got through it.
Have never had so much as a sore nipple either. Both were weaned at about 2.8. Had thought originally I'd try bfing, then could bf for 6 months and eventually went on for much longer.
Never had a negative comment in public either.
Haven't read the whole thread, so sorry if I'm repeating. If you are thinking of bfing read Preparing to bf. Put the numbers of the Bfing helplines in your phone (and call them before nigh less turn into problems ) and find out where your local bfing support groups are and go to them before Lo arrives. All of this should help your bfing
We have had a smooth breastfeeding ride from the beginning.
DS fed like a trooper as soon as he was near my nipple. Only stopped when the midwife showed me how to unlatch him.
It takes effort but in a good way. On the whole breastfeeding has been a pleasant and enjoyable thing to do. I like breastfeeding, it feels nice.
We will shortly be moving this thread out of chat to our feeding topic so that it doesnt' go poof!
slighlysoupstained I was the same re Lanisnoh. I brought it with DD2 and only used it a couple of times.
It is very good as a nail treatment cream though - esp if you add it at night before bed
I bf for two years. had one tiny blocked duct but never had thrush or mastitis or tongue tie
I nearly died from a pph and had lots of blood transfused, hours in theatre and so on. DD fed like mad from the off, but I didn't know how to attach her so I ended up with love bites all over my boobs! After getting that sorted (and topping up with one bottle of formula a day for a bit as she lost weight - it's normal for babies to do that at first but I thought as she was feeding all the time it was probably because I wasn't making much, having been ill) it was all brilliant. The troublesome bit was less than a month, feeding didn't hurt any more (my DD has a stronger suck than a Henry, midwives came to watch, heh heh!) and you have the convenience and cuddles and weightloss and cuddles and happy hormones and cuddles and instant consolation of breast feeding evermore. My dd is getting on for 2yo and we're still going strong.
I wish I could save this thread for when I decide to have another DC! Nice to know it can be a straightforward experience, plus a lot of tips I could have done with for DS I wish I'd read up more about it before DS arrived like you're doing op! Good luck and best wishes
I was all right. There are plenty of stages in the first 6 weeks where you're all "just one more week" because newborns feed a lot, it hurts to get started & dd1 was sloooooooooooowwwww.
Book a breastfeeding counsellor before the birth. Not 2 weeks after. BEFORE. Mine fixed my latch & wouldn't leave until it stopped hurting. I think I would have put up with the pain for a few weeks & then quit, whereas a little support meant I lasted for 18 months.
I bought a tube of Lansinoh expecting all the cracked nipples etc problems I'd read about. Never used it (unfortunately I did open it, or I'd pass it on). Nipples never cracked or bled or any other discomfort.
DS attempted to feed straight after birth - no idea if he got anything then though. Midwife in hosp helped us get him latched on lying down, latching on sitting up took a little longer but they encouraged me to keep trying & by the time we went home it was fine.
Had what I think was the very beginning of mastitis start up once but managed to catch it early so never got bad.
Still feeding DS at 1, he was ill recently (croup) & was great to be able to comfort him when he was waking up coughing by just offering a bf.
I did have very leaky boobs to start with. Things I wish I'd known earlier:
1) sleep bras are so much comfier at night. Bugger all support for daytime though.
2) Lansinoh breast pads - I could never bring myself to spend the extra on them but DP brought some home the other day & dammit, they are good.
3) Wish someone had pointed out that when your milk comes in on day 3, your baby might get very pissed off at the switch in taste. We thought we'd broken him. Next morning he was fine with it though.
Two emcs. Both babies latched on straight away. Bf dd1 for 12 months only had a blocked duct once that cleared on its own. Am bf dd2 who is 10 months no problems whatsoever. Dd2 also takes ebm in a bottle quite happily. No top ups or interruptions just ordinary bf
Although we had a few issues at the start with latching and poor supply, support from breastfeeding cafe and DH saw us through (still going at 8 months and counting). No mastitis, blocked ducts or thrush even using nipples shields.
Breastfeeding is v tiring but jolly nice. I EBF'd both babies to 6 months. Was v lucky and had no cracked nipples or pain. Just as well really as my 2 spent fricking hours on the boob.
Well we did have thrush (several times or one long time - if you have it then steam sterilising doesn't kill it, you need to Milton everything like nipple shields and dummies).
But that was the only issue and it wasn't really that bad. I gave birth. He lunged and latched. He stayed there for 2 years (or it felt like it!).
I also went back to work when he was 4months and expressed just fine. He didn't have formula.
I went for a snooze (the perks of a first maternity leave ) and look what happened! These are such good stories, thank you all very much.
I'm breastfeeding my second child. With my first, my nipples were flat, but a few weeks of shields encouraged enough projection for a latch.
DS latched 45 minutes after birth. One day of slight soreness, one day of 'they are cannonballs not boobs' and just over 3 weeks of normal, happy nursing! In public too. And despite reflux, he is gaining fabulously. yay for boobs!
Oh yes, and I never had a negative comment about BF in public. TBH, as I used to quite often go into town for a quiet coffee and a read of my Kindle, I had quite a lot of little old ladies congratulate me on breastfeeding confidently in public!
And it's a lot more discreet to do it under a jacket or tee shirt than like a woman I saw who had two friends hold a shawl up over her
Only issue with me was the size of my nipples, which were too big.
That meant a hard first weeks, waiting for the dcs to grow a bit more and then it was a breeze.
BF 4 of them (one of mine is adopted so FF him )
Only issue I had was being very sore with DC1. This came on after about a week and eased about two weeks later, just as I thought 'I can't do this!'
Apart from that I have no problems and found it all really easy. I hated FF because I am lazy and hate washing up, making up bottles and it looks even more complicated now than it used to be.
I had a 15 year gap between DS1 and DS3 (DS2 is the adopted one) and I wondered if I would find it hard to BF after all that time but I had no problems at all.
I have one inverted nipple and one normal - the midwife said DS might struggle to feed on the inverted nipple so suggested I express on that one until it popped out. He had no problems feeding, I successfully fed him for 9 months. My nipple is still inverted.
The key thing with BF is spending the first few weeks letting your baby feed as often as possible to get your supply up, after that I found it far more convenient than making up bottles like I have to now.
Totally get where you're coming from op. When I was pg with dd1 I was dreading bf as everything you read is about overcoming adversity, I'll never forget the anecdote in our NCT magazine from a woman who described biting down in pain on a baby blanket while blood poured from her nipples
The reality for me was totally humdrum. Dd1 knew what she was doing and got on with it while I fretted I was getting it wrong. I bf her for a year in the end. Same with dd2.
It's the same with anything. Stories of things going well just aren't as interesting as when it all turns to shit, whether it's relationships, shopping or bfing.
I bfd DS till he was about 15 months. It was fine really, I did it in cafes, restaurants, trains, pretty much anywhere. I expressed a lot so DP could feed at night but it was easier just to get the boobs out and do it myself than go downstairs and heat it up again.
I think a good support network is important too. I had an immensely encouraging DP who would get up and keep me company at night, bought me a portable DVD player and many boxsets. And would bring me snacks at night.
DPs mum was great as she extended bfd her kids when it wasn't really done and was full of advice. Unlike my mum and gran who informed me breastfeeding was for peasants and people would assume I couldn't afford formula.
Oh and DS slept through the night at 10 months and was rarely sick (got his first cold the week he stopped feeding).
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