Aibu to be so angry with hv?(42 Posts)
My babyis 4 weeks. He was mixed fed but now is mostly ff. so far this week, when taking him to gp I have been advised to 'water down him formula'... When I looked this up online it screamed alarm bells, so ran it passed my hv who agreed that it was not advisable. I asked if she felt it was serious enough to report to practice manager as gp's advise was poor.
I then phoned our local midwife service who offer 24 hr feeding support etc last nit to ask about how to prepare feeds in advance. I was told to boil the water, cool it, leave it on side and add powder as necessary. Posted here and was told by everyone that powder is the dangerous bit and needs the water to be hot t sterilise it. So, again it seems like bad advice from midwife.
Phoned hv today just for clarity really. Understand that advice is make up as you go but as this wont a,ways be possible, would like to be able to make informed decision as to how I do it based on risks. Hv absolutely refused to discuss it. Just said 'I think in your case fairy, as you like to look everything p online, I will just give you the standard gov advice which is to make up feeds as you need them.' When I asked her to tell me at least the safest way so I would not do something stupid due to ignorance she just reiterated that feeds need to be made then and there and she couldn't advise any differently.
I am sooooooo angry. How can I make an informed choice??
all i wanted to know was if there was another way to do feeds, overnight, so ds doesnt have to scream for 30 mins whilst his milk cools down.
Flash cool it to feeding temp, that is the optimum method as per the NHS guidelines. What matters is the powder hitting the water at 70, once it's done that you can rapidly cool it to feeding temp and feed.
maybe i am just over sensitive.
You're 4 weeks post birth - it goes with the territory.
Sorry to be thick but what is flash cooling? running under cold tap?
I guess I am finding things tough, generally, yes. I am v emotional and a bit isolated, I dont have mum friends who I can ask these questions. In fairness to HV I had had enormous row with DH this morning so have felt like shit anyway and she probably tipped me over the edge...
he is on comfort milk since HV told me I was over feeding him as he was taking 4oz and then still rooting looking for more 2 hours later. She has suggested comfort milk so he will go longer between feeds.
feeding every two hrs or so is totally normal for four week old baby
pita yes but totally normal and not a reason to use a different milk
That's what I thought but she told me I was over feeding him and would make him ill!
I think it was the quantities to be fair - her argument was every 2 hrs is fine, ifit is say 2oz, but he was having 3 or 4 oz at a time
I find it odd that your HV would make this an issue. I'm sure it's possible to overfeed a baby but I have one and I struggle to encourage her to have the right amount of formula, I certainly couldn't feed her more than she needed. So in that sense your HV is saying your baby is too hungry? At 4 weeks? I just don't get it. What are your instincts saying Op?
My 4 week old has 5oz sometimes every 2.5-3 hours, he's on comfort milk but because he had tummy ache on sma so my hv told me to use it. I wouldn't say you were over feeding and not sure how comfort milk would make him go longer between feeds?
I have one of the tommee tippee perfect prep machines and find it handy as only takes about a minute to make a feed. I know there are cheaper ways of doing it but this is great for me.
Fairy sorry you're upset, the early days of parenthood are tough! We combined fed ds1 as he needed top ups in the early days & we were never able to get him off them. We'd not planned to ff so knew bugger all about it & then got ourselves in a bit of a tizz with what to do & how.
Our hv explained to us BEST practice as per Nhs & Who guidelines is to make each feed as you go as although the formula powder is made somewhere clean it is impossible for them to sterilise so there could be bacteria that is harmful to your baby in it (if may not make you or I poorly but a baby is a whole different ball game). The powder needs to be added to water that is at least 70 degrees to ensure this is killed. It then needs to be used within 2hrs to make sure it's at it's best & no nasties have time to appear & multiply in what is now essentially milk. All guidelines say that formula CAN be made in advance & stored in the fridge for no longer than 24hrs if you have no other choice not that it SHOULD. Again the reason for this is because even in the fridge the feed to does not stay at its premium condition for a baby (your own milk can go off in the fridge if you follow my drift). My hv explained people used to make up ff in advance but as people didn't rotate the feeds correctly or store them properly babies are getting poorly, in some cases very poorly, & this was an avoidable risk if feeds were made fresh hence the guidelines.
Personally we made all feeds fresh or used a carton for night feeds. To flash cool we held under a cold running tap of filled a jug with cold water & ice cubes - worked a treat to cool it quickly!
Imho it does sound like you have had some really poor advice from all corners, hv included re comfort milk & overfeeding. Babies are very good at self regulating & the amounts on the tin really are just guidelines, some babies will want more, some less. Sometimes they will want more 1 feed & less the next. With ds we found it always averaged out over a day. At 4 weeks your lo is still tiny with an even smaller tummy so will need feeding regularly, if he wants more give him more, you may find he wants less next time. So long as you don't force him to finish a feed when he's had enough or add extra powder you can't overfeed. I wouldn't have thought comfort
milk would make a difference to how much or how often he needs to feed as this is to help with colic? Sorry don't know too much about comfort milk but that was my understanding.
Re the advice you've been given you need to raise both the midwife & gp's advice with someone in a higher position to them as both is down right dangerous & had you have not checked (like someone else might not) you could have ended up with a poorly baby who is not gaining weight. That really does need addressing.
With your hv her tone was really off & I'd be pissed off too
. Her role is to advise, guide & support you & to ensure your babies well being. How's she going to do that if you don't feel comfortable with her because of her comments? In her role she should be used to mums with new babies ringing up to ask if it's ok that lo had just farted 3 times or had a nappy explode up to their arm pits or ask questions about the safest method of feeding & realise that mums are sensitive post natally.Maybe she meant it as a (very poorly timed) joke or it didn't quite come out how she intended? Maybe try & speak to her again, explain you're finding ff confusing & just want to do what's best for your baby to try to clear the air? Tell her your conversation upset you. If you still get attitude or don't feel comfortable with this or her then complain. You don't need that on top of becoming a new mum.
It may not feel like it now Fairy but it does get easier, surprisingly quickly & you sound like you're doing a fantastic job! Your ds is lucky to have a Mummy like you who is double checking she's doing her best for him!
Purrpurr - my instincts are to fuck all the professionals and just stick to MN!
Fairy, that came across loud and clear in the tone of your initial posting and I suspect that attitude will do you no favours in the future if you DO need medical advice that can't be accessed on mumsnet.
Oh howay now, that's rot. You can be mistrustful of the medical profession but also be sensible enough to still take on board their help and advice. In this case, the Op has been given a variety of potentially dangerous pieces of advice from each corner of the medical profession in the UK and has been left a little peeved, not to mention a tad bewildered, as a result, which sounds like a common end result of being on the receiving end of the NHS to me.
It's not that she would deny herself or her child care, on the contrary, she is trying to make absolutely sure the advice she follows is right - and that is because each professional has followed a different hymn sheet to the last.
The GP.was wrong to advise what he did - you checked it online and realised. Some other patients might not and might blindly follow the instructions. Therefore it is worth speaking to the PM about it.
However re- the formula, the instructions are on the tin. That is that. Best practice, safest way etc. Why you felt the need to ask your HV about it at all I.dont know.
The link from earlier is to an old version of the bottle feeding leaflet. Up to date one is here www.nhs.uk/start4life/Documents/PDFs/Start4Life_Guide_to_bottle_feeding.pdf
It hasn't been changed much and, importantly, the guidance is the same but thought I would link anyway
Clearly I was being tongue in cheek, itchy. I was not asking how to prepare formula, I was asking whether, for night feeds to speed things up, there was a quicker way. I hadn't seen the nhs guidance.
I really think you are being unfair. I haven't complained about anyone, although probably I should have (gp), I just wanted to be sure I was doing the right thing.
For quick cooling of milk I put the bottle in a jug of cold water then stick one of those blue frozen blocks that are used in cool bags into the water. Nice and speedy!
We used a flask so you don't have to wait for kettle to boil, then stick bottle in sink and run the cold tap. It cuts the waiting time down quite a bit, Tommee tippee do a flask.
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