10w old FF baby still waking twice in night, please help!!

(31 Posts)
emeraldgirl1 Thu 23-May-13 00:53:14

Is this normal or are we doing something wrong??!

She feeds at 7.30pm after a bath, drops off around 8.30 or 8.45. Then she wakes any time between 11 and 1.30. Then again any time between 3.30 and 4.30 depending on the earlier awakening.

In addition she takes a very long time from waking to being back in bed asleep, sometimes up to 90min which means three hours awake during the night and never more than 2.5 to 3 hours sleep a time.

It is killing us!

Is it normal or is there anything we could try? Moving the time of the first evening feed?

I think she doesn't eat enough throughout the day, we struggle to get her to have more than half a feed first thing in the morning and more than two thirds mid morning or early pm.

If we could somehow get her to have more in the day might that help?

We feed roughly four hourly in the daytime as otherwise she really does only have half to two thirds each time ie if we go with shorter intervals between feeds.

Sometimes though I also think she wakes in the night not all that hungry but just snacky or wanting something else (dummy? Cuddle?)

She was doing slightly better a couple of weeks ago, not brilliant but waking at 2 and then not again until 6.30 which is when we get up anyway. But she seems to have regressed...

Can anyone help at all? DH and I are like zombies.

notwoo Thu 23-May-13 20:39:28

Yes it's a bit of a killer when they don't go straight back go sleep.
I take it you're doing all the obvious things like keeping the light low, not talking to her and only changing if absolutely necessary?

Try getting to her ASAP with her bottle when she wakes so she doesn't have time to wake up too much. You could even try a dream feed before her usual wake up time so that you're 1 step ahead?!

It does get better - often quite suddenly - hang in there

amazingface Fri 24-May-13 00:10:27

totally
totally
normal. Your mum has forgotten what it was like - truly, she has - and I bet your friend didn't have it smooth sailing either, despite what she says. People define things in different ways, remember. A friend of mine expressed horror at the fact that DD was 'still' waking at night for a feed at 12weeks old. Her DD never did that, she slept through! Yeah, she did have to get up 5-6 times at night and walk down the hall to 'put the dummy back in' but that didn't count, apparently confused.

I do wish that people were more honest about how frequently babies wake at night and what a slog it can be. Just because a baby isn't getting fed at night doesn't mean that he/she is slumbering peacefully for 12hrs straight! I know that some babies sleep through from very early, but I'd image that the vast majority of parents experience repeated night wakings at SOME stage during the first 2-3 years of a child's life.

ItsallisnowaFeegle Fri 24-May-13 00:24:54

Like larl - my 24 week old is up every hour. hmm

You've got it good OP. wink

Seriously, you'll find it gets easier and you might be one of the lucky ones who has a baby sleeping through soon.

HTH

Zara1984 Fri 24-May-13 11:55:39

Hi emerald <waves> smile

As everyone has said, totally normal! Dietcoke's suggestions are very good.

DS is 7 months and FF as you know, woke twice a night until 12 weeks or so. Then 12 -16 weeks he woke once a night. Since then he does 11-12 hours straight (a couple of nights a month he will wake once for a feed). His nighttime sleep improved dramatically once we had the daytime naps sorted and in a routine.

Also with her staying awake - will she cry if you just leave her in the cot after feeding her? Up to about 8 weeks we were always jiggling/trying to coax DS back to sleep when he woke at night. Then we were knackered and just started putting him straight back in his crib on the theory he's soon start crying/squeaking if he wasn't happy grin and he would always go back to sleep (often after we had, though)!

I think babies do naturally wake up frequently at night until they're 1, but once they're past tiny baby stage they can go back to sleep on their own. DS started sleeping through a few days after we put him in his own room (we had to even though he was only 16 weeks, he was too big for his crib and his cot didn't fit in our bedroom). I think when he would stir in the night next to me in his crib I would quickly wake up too and automatically go into warm-up-bottle-change-feed mode. However in his own room I wouldn't hear that he was stirring/wouldn't get picked up by the baby monitor and he would just go back to sleep on his own.

MatersMate Fri 24-May-13 13:39:32

That's what MN is good for I find, just a bit of reassurance you're doing OK,and you are! x

Jojo3973 Fri 24-May-13 13:46:19

My 6 year old still rarely sleeps through and can be up 2 or 3 times in the night!!

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