Are you STILL breastfeeding?

(50 Posts)
HalfBakedCleverCookie Tue 30-Apr-13 22:41:38

I have gone back to work after materninty leave, one woman asked me what diet I have been doing. I said oh none, its just breastfeeding.

Que shock horror, your not STILL breastfeeding are you?! Your not gonna be one of those women who are breastfeeding their ten year old are you?

Ds is 9 months old.

I thought I would come here for some reassurance that I am not strange or abnormal.

milkwasabadchoice Tue 30-Apr-13 22:49:19

Tell her to nob off.
I mix fed dd evening and morning till she was nearly a year and never thought I was unusual, different, special or weird. Just my choice.

MangoLangoTango Tue 30-Apr-13 22:50:46

Not strange, but I don't talk about it now. People just assume we have stopped. Only close friends and family are aware, as they see DS asking for it. He is two.

Unfortunately you colleagues attitude to breast feeding is quite common in Britain.

DefiniteMaybe Tue 30-Apr-13 22:51:46

Oh just ignore her I'm feeding dd now shes 21months so I must be more strange than you grin

YonicTheHedgehog Tue 30-Apr-13 22:51:50

Nah not strange, 14 months and no sign of stopping here. Sure there'll be more people who've done it even longer along in a min too.
I know it shouldn't, but I end up feeling like I'm doing something wrong when people say that to me, It's a shame really.

YonicTheHedgehog Tue 30-Apr-13 22:52:30

I'm such a slow typer! Massive cross posts!

WinkyWinkola Tue 30-Apr-13 22:53:42

I had this. Ds1 was 10 months old. I should have smirked and said, "Yep. Queen Bitty."

You've got to develop a thicker skin to shrug off the morons who make comments like this.

Daisydoomoo Tue 30-Apr-13 23:01:52

Oh I remember those comments.

Although not as bad as my gran (god bless her soul) told me off for breast feeding my first son at 6 weeks old! Her words being "he don't need his mummy still".....

All 3 of mine self weaned by age 2.

WouldBeHarrietVane Wed 01-May-13 00:44:01

I just don't tell people DS is 21 months and still happily feeding smile

Stupid comment by her, but good work by you to still be feeding!!!

You are normal she is rude! End!

louisianablue2000 Wed 01-May-13 00:55:38

FFS. My standard response to these comments is 'WHO advice is to BF for at least 2 years' followed by a hard stare. Usually shuts them up.

peacemoon Wed 01-May-13 01:07:17

RUDE! That's what! First 2 I fed for 6 months and dc 3 I fed for a year and probably would have done it for longer if I wasn't 3 months pregnant with dc4 ( who bythe way didn't take to it at all and I gave up after 3 months!).

PogoBob Wed 01-May-13 01:29:41

I'm feeding 4mo DS and is older sister who is 2 3/4 yo so 9 months is definately not strnage here.

Admittedly I would like to stop feeding DD but she's having none of it!

K8Middleton Wed 01-May-13 01:37:03

A cool "why would you think that I would breastfeed a 10 year old. What a weird thing to say. Are you feeling quite well?" usually does the trick.

I got this from my own mother. She went: "breastfeed, breastfeed, breastfeed, breastfeed, breastfeed, breastfeed, breastfeed, breastfeed" while I struggled and mix fed, until one day when he was 8mo and I'd dropped the formula for 3 months "Don't you think you should stop that now?" FFS.

goodasgold Wed 01-May-13 01:39:26

No I was working for a pretty big bank in trading and treasury, my little boy was two when I stopped feeding him myself. I didn't advertise that I was still breastfeeding, but I would never have lied about it either.
It wasn't relevant or important to my job, I just kept it to myself. I wasn't ashamed, it just never came up. My colleagues would never have dreamt that I was an extended breastfeeder. Loads of us do it.

bicyclebuiltforfour Wed 01-May-13 01:44:58

Nope - you're a great mum smile You should be proud of yourself.

HalfBakedCleverCookie Wed 01-May-13 08:17:24

Thanks everyone, where are all the real life breastfeeders!

Honestly all I ever get asked is when will I be giving up, even the doctor said that after 12 months I will have done my bit!

I feel better knowing you are all out there. I am hoping ds will self wean between 1 and 2 but I'm not too.g to force it.

I think it is a bit of a leap from "bf made me lose weight" to "I am still bf" so I wonder why she made that assumption?

"Still" here at just over two, and 13w pg. Someone asked me the other day if I was planning to tandem. I said I bloody hope not.

My current grand total is 51 months over two DC. Fully functional boobage here.

EauRouge Wed 01-May-13 08:27:29

Get thee to an LLL meeting grin You'll find plenty of women BF older babies there.

Don't worry, the 'are you STILL breastfeeding?' lot do give up asking after a while. WHO guidelines are to BF for 2 years and beyond if desired. Tell them to stick that in their pipe and smoke it.

HalfBakedCleverCookie Wed 01-May-13 08:32:35

I wish I was that assertive, I usually end up feeling like I am doing something wrong and mutter something about stopping when he is one.

Horry, I,m not sure how she made the leap, maybe because I've not put the weight back on yet.

my mother keeps telling dd 14 more that the milk is for the new baby hmm . no its not itrs yours dd, solely for another 4 months!

Homebird8 Wed 01-May-13 08:39:11

My FIL was the one who kept asking about me feeding his 18month DGS. One day I snapped and probably unwisely said 'Oh, I should think by the time he gets married it'll be someone else's breasts he's wanting to suck!' blush But it stopped the questions!

ShowOfHands Wed 01-May-13 08:43:18

"You seem very interested in my breasts Madame Colleague. Would you like to talk about why that is?"

You're not weird in the slightest. In fact from my perspective (fed one to natural term, still feeding a 20 month old), you're only just starting out. grin

I suppose I can understand somebody being surprised if they've never breastfed or been around breastfeeding because they see only the child you have now and not the continual feeding of a baby from newborn onwards. They don't see the progress of a bfing relationship but to make comments about feeding a 10yo is deeply inappropriate and not even approaching amusing, if indeed that was what she was aiming for.

EauRouge Wed 01-May-13 08:47:00

I'm sorry she made you feel like that. You're definitely not doing anything wrong! You're doing a wonderful thing. Have you seen this? There are loads of different ideas for coping with criticism if you don't feel you're assertive enough for telling them to bog off.

TheBookofRuth Wed 01-May-13 09:02:31

I'm still feeding my 15 month DD and have no plans to stop till she's ready. One of the other mums from my NCT group actually instructed me to "stop before she's one or I'll think you're weird". Yeah, that's a good reason!

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