Anyone ever SAID anything to you about breastfeeding in public?

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gail734 Fri 12-Apr-13 18:52:52

I don't go out of my way to do this, but yesterday at lunchtime I BFd DD (9 mo) in TGI Fridays. The alternative was going to be some fussy crying. I promise you couldn't see a thing. The two mummies with me looked a bit surprised. The waiter looked horrified. Nobody said anything, though. A friend told me that another woman called her "disgusting" when she realised that she was feeding a new baby in a sling, while walking around a supermarket!

HairyGrotter Fri 12-Apr-13 18:54:35

Nope, I breasted in public for 14 months, and not one word was said?! I would have LOVED it if they had, so a little disappointed. I wasn't a 'neat' breast feeder either, I have massive tits and sprayed everywhere, also a quick let down so DD would often pull off. Classy is I!

OHforDUCKScake Fri 12-Apr-13 18:55:25

Its always other women, wtf is wrong with them?

Yes people have said things to me.

It was always along the lines of "awww" or "how old is he?" Or "nice to see a baby being breast fed, I fed mine until they were...." The latter is always an older lady.

Never bad words.

OhDearNigel Fri 12-Apr-13 18:56:36

No. Not once. Even when BFing a 3 year old. Not a sausage, very disappointing !

YoniAWintersTale Fri 12-Apr-13 18:56:45

No

Not even when my nipple was nearly inthe face of unfortunate male< neighbouring passenger on a cramped Ryanair flight

Only one bad comment in nearly 4 years. Otherwise if anyone's noticed it's been a conversation starter. smile

BeaWheesht Fri 12-Apr-13 18:57:28

No-one said anything when I fed ds until he was 9m. Someone did say something when I was formula feeding dd though along the lines of 'oh they say breast is best, I fed all mine, never mind' which made me cry for about a week because there were various medical reasons why we hadn't managed to breastfeed fully (mix fed)

pointythings Fri 12-Apr-13 18:58:06

The only comment I've ever had was from a lovely old lady who said it was nice to see a baby being fed properly smile.

JeniBernard Fri 12-Apr-13 18:58:15

I remember breast feeding my son in the Toby Carvery when he was very little - was there with my dad and step mum. I managed to make 2 tables move away from us. Funniest thing was they were the ones who moved because the manager said it was their issue and he wasnt;t going to tell me to stop doing anything. My stepmum practically fell in love with the man on the spot and goes back in weekly now!!!!!!!

Molehillmountain Fri 12-Apr-13 18:58:54

Honestly, I have bf three children one til 15 months, next til 20 months and this one 21 months and counting and I have never had a negative comment. A spattering of nice one and lots of eyes averted but not in an "I'm disgusted" way, more an "I don't want you to think I'm staring way.".

BeaWheesht Fri 12-Apr-13 19:00:23

Pointy things - see even when I'd only ever breastfed with ds I would have found that comment offensive.

Yes - I was breastfeeding ds3 in the cafe at Buckfast Abbey in Devon, and an elderly lady approached me, so I braced myself, and she said, 'It is lovely to see someone breastfeeding a baby - well done!' Or words to that effect - it was over 15 years ago!

TheNebulousBoojum Fri 12-Apr-13 19:00:38

I used to feed DD discreetly on trains more than 20 years ago, in parks and random other locations. No one ever said anything negative, I got a few smiles and several positive comments. DD approved, and that's the opinion that mattered to me.

gail734 Fri 12-Apr-13 19:00:53

TBF, the waiter was just a boy. He did a big comedy double-take, looked mortified and walked on. We couldn't find him to get the bill!

Startail Fri 12-Apr-13 19:01:42

Only nice things and normally nothing at all.

SanityClause Fri 12-Apr-13 19:02:00

I only ever had positive things said to me.

Once in Bruges, I was BFing at the table, and the waiter brought out my fish. He saw what was happening, and whisked it away to take it off the bone for me to make it easier to eat.

Iwantmybed Fri 12-Apr-13 19:02:32

Nope, not even in church at a funeral.

TheNebulousBoojum Fri 12-Apr-13 19:02:32

Oh, and then DS 15 years ago. I've always found people to be pretty decent for the most part.

landofsoapandyoni Fri 12-Apr-13 19:02:39

Only my mother, who told me it was disgusting and not natural!hmm

GentlyGentlyOhDear Fri 12-Apr-13 19:02:46

A fairly young waitress at TGI Fridays said something along the lines of 'It's so great that you're breastfeeding in public', which was sweet, although it made me wonder how rare and unusual it seems to people.
Never had any other comments though and would probably have cri

Nope, about 18 months of public bfing here, and I can't even think of a time when anyone even looked confused I didn't cover up especially well either. It could just be that I'm very unobservant though grin

LynetteScavo Fri 12-Apr-13 19:03:46

No, nobody ever said anything to me, or look surprised in public.

When I went for a family meal at FIL's when DC1 was a week old, I was told I could go into the spare bedroom if I needed to feed.

When I got married when DC1 was 4 months old my chief bridesmaid, who I had been best freinds with since I was 12, looked very embarrassed, and didn't know where to look when I asked her to help me take off my wedding dress, to feed DC1. I told her she could go and socialise while I fed. I got myself back into my dress, somehow, but have still not got over it.

They are the only two negative experiences I had, in 3 years of b'feeding.

nellyjelly Fri 12-Apr-13 19:04:32

Noone ever said anything. A young waiter did approach our table and then did a body swerve when he realised what I was doing. He then asked a female colleague to deal with us. He was just a lad though so wasn't bothered.

WidowWadman Fri 12-Apr-13 19:05:20

Apart from one silly woman tutting (and risking getting an earful from my husband) once I only ever had positive comments.

Most of the time people didn't notice anyway. But if they did, they usually told me how wonderful they found it. [cringe]

Bearcrumble Fri 12-Apr-13 19:05:38

No one has ever made a negative comment to me - a couple of nice ones but mostly people don't bat an eyelid. I tend not to feed when out now that dd is 1 except at places like the one o'clock club.

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