Dd refuses the breast now. Please help :(

(60 Posts)
McPheetStink Tue 19-Mar-13 20:40:24

Dd has been a difficult feeder for a few weeks, and it's slowly come down to her not wanting the breast at all during the day. She recoils, gets very upset, bites me a little, then just cries. Over the last week, I've struggled to get her to accept me during the night. It seems as though she has to be basically asleep before she'll feed successfully. Now we are reaching a point where even this is becoming an issue.

I'm trying not to get upset about it, but in my heart, I'm not ready to give it up. Do you think she's made that decision herself? If so, what to do about my achy boobs sad

Welovegrapes Sat 23-Mar-13 22:44:38

OP you are definitely doing the right thing and most strikes can be resolved with patience.

Good luck for tonight and have some un MN hugs!

neontetra Sat 23-Mar-13 22:45:57

I would echo what others have said about trying new nursing positions - when my dd has had nursing strikes (which, touch wood, at nearly 12 months she hasnt for a while) her usual preferred positions make her furious, but she'll feed if i hold her in front of me in strange and impractical ways! Pitch darkness also a winner for us. Very best of luck.

McPheetStink Sun 24-Mar-13 07:41:04

Not much joy this morning either. I tried her over night, but as predicted, she stirred and freaked out. All I managed to express was 1oz confused

I've gone ahead and ordered a medela this morning, which will be delivered tomorrow. My pump is crap!

Lonelybunny Sun 24-Mar-13 09:11:08

My battery died last night so couldbt reply as kids had put my charger somewhere else ! That was so rude of that woman , how dare she say to just give up ?! You keep going my love. I can't even get an ounce out sometimes when I pump then a couple of mornings last week in a row I got 2 from both sides. I think we are not achieving let down which you can only get if your relaxed and like you I'm very busy I have two other children and a DP at home and can't get the privacy time or quietness to pump properly. Try and give less solids so she will need to start upping her milk intake. She should be having more milk then food anyway

MammaCici Sun 24-Mar-13 10:37:05

That "rude" post was by someone who doesn't understand breastfeeding. I doubt she meant any harm. A lot of the time if someone has been unsuccessful with bf themselves they want others to quit to because it makes them feel better.
Best of luck with your medela pump! Hope it makes a difference and that your LO latches on happily soon.

Lonelybunny Sun 24-Mar-13 12:03:38

Yes I spose she was trying to help as I have also thought maybe its time to give in but It was the way it was written. Babies main diet should be milk before they are 1 with a solids alongside to compliment

MammaCici Wed 27-Mar-13 19:05:45

How is it going McPheetStink? Is DD coming around? Hope things are getting better for you.

McPheetStink Wed 27-Mar-13 21:10:50

The pump arrived, and I've tried to use it as much as possible. Very upsetting when a few drips was as much as I could pump, but tonight it managed 2 ozs. So with eating flapjack like it's going out of fashion, chucking Fenugreek down my neck and drinking as much as I can, I think we have some progress.

I'm giving it until next Friday, which would be two weeks, and if by them more progress hasn't been made then I've told myself to pack it in. I've a lot going on right now, and I don't want this to be bigger than it needs to iukwim.

Welovegrapes Wed 27-Mar-13 21:18:36

I think you got loads tonight, op smile I only ever got that max when expressing and quite often I only got 1 oz. I think if you express as many times a day as she was feeding before and get 1-2 oz each time you would be keeping a supply.

McPheetStink Wed 27-Mar-13 21:34:02

Maybe I'm comparing it to when she was tiny, and I used to pump 5/6oz in one go confused

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