Taking the bottle for a bit and then rejecting it later is quite common. She may just be sending you a clear message, she wants you. At this age she probably doesn't even realise that she is separate from you.
Does DH have to give a bottle? If its to give you a break, is the expressing and screaming really giving you a break? If its so that DH can have some time with her, wouldn't he prefer some more positive time like bathing her or taking her out for a walk (when the ice goes) when he's home so that they can have an hour together and you get an hour on your own. If giving her ebm is really important to you, have you thought about alternative feeding methods? Have you read how to bottle feed the bf baby too?