Please post your Q about child health - how to give them a balanced diet, skin conditions, concentration levels - whatever it may be! More MNers needed to take part in the new Boots Feel Good Forum radio show - prize to be won!

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TheOtherHelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 27-Feb-13 11:27:05

Hello. We're very pleased to be announcing the Boots Feel Good Forum, which airs on Real and Smooth Radio on Sunday night (and will be available to listen to on MN afterwards). The show will be presented by Kate Thornton (mum to DS aged 4), and we hope will feature Mumsnetters live on air! You can find out more info about the show here.

What we'd really like you to do now is contribute to this week's show by posting questions, tips and comments here.

This week we're talking about how to make your family feel good with Supernanny Jo Frost and Dr Ellie Cannon, helping you deal with all the challenges that raising a child might involve. We will provide tips on improving children's concentration levels, help with skin conditions such as eczema and discuss how to deal with the common battlegrounds with younger ones, such as mealtimes, dressing and sleeping to create a harmonious family life.

We'd like MNers to:

~ Share your top tips on how you keep your kids happy and healthy, from healthy diets tips to getting them to behave at mealtime.
~ Post a question for the experts - is there anything you'd love to know about? Something Jo frost and Dr Ellie Cannon can help you with?

Special call for questions about diet, skin conditions or concentration levels in children - if you have a query, please post here.

But remember - even if you don't want to take part in the show, we'd like to hear your thoughts and top tips on making your family feel good on this thread. Everyone who posts a comment will be entered into a prize draw to win a £50 Boots voucher.

Please tune in to the show - it's on Real Radio from 7-8pm and Smooth Radio from 8-9pm every Sunday and will feature MNers on the airwaves, as well as great expert advice and a few good tunes! There'll be a live listen-along thread on Sunday night so please listen in and post to let us know what you think. The show will also be available to listen to on MN if you can't catch the live show.

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Thanks and good luck with the prize draw
MNHQ

The views/content expressed within this forum are those of the participants and not those of Boots UK Limited or its agents

My DCs are 11 and 8, they sit nicely at the table and eat well because that is what has always been expected of them.
My question for Boots is:
Why do all the tablet antihistamines contain lactose? It is a milk-based common allergen and has no place in an allergy medication.

THERhubarb Wed 27-Feb-13 13:09:30

Reward Charts - I've found that you don't need to promise expensive toys or days out, just making the effort to spend some quality time with the kids is good enough. That could be a friendly football kickabout, baking cakes, building a Lego model together or playing a board game. Children treasure this quality time much more than a new toy and they gain so much from it - as do the parents.

babyrose Wed 27-Feb-13 13:49:50

Sleeping issues. Ds is nearly 3 and doesn't sleep. We lie beside him while he falls asleep at b/time and he comes into our bed during the night. How can we stop this?

FattyMcChubster Wed 27-Feb-13 15:16:21

I'd recommend leaving the house every day. Even if it's just a walk round the block-stops cabin fever in those early days when everything seems a massive chore.
Getting washed, dressed and fed each day (mum that is) makes you feel more human.

I'd love to be able to help baby when they're not well- coughs colds etc but without pumping loads of medicine into them.

stargirl1701 Wed 27-Feb-13 16:28:19

How do you stay positive while parenting a refluxy baby? How do you keep going?

PeppermintPanda Wed 27-Feb-13 17:38:08

Why is it so difficult to get a flu jab for a child? As an adult, I can walk into Boots or any other pharmacy and get one, DD1 can have one at the GPs as she has had chemo, but for DD2 it seems to be virtually impossible.

Also, any tips on getting a child to swallow tablets/capsules? DD1 has to have 7 capules a day, and atm I have to open them up and put the contents onto some fruit puree. If I ask her to swallow it whole, she'll try but tends to hold it in her mouth until it dissolves. I've already tried starting with sweets cut up small and working up to bigger pieces.

...I've never heard of Real Radio or Smooth Radio though, so I'll probably never actually hear the answers... confused

hobnob57 Wed 27-Feb-13 17:39:11

Oh stargirl flowers. It WILL end, promise.

How do you avoid sibling bickering/oneupmanship/possessiveness in a meaningful way (ages 3 and 6) that gives them a good understanding on the effect it has on each other and the rest of the family? Oh, and still have time to feed and tend to a refluxy baby, do all the school and nursery and clubs runs, cook and serve meals and maintain some kind of (inevitably unclean) order in the house?

Our mealtimes have been up and down, depending on fussy stages. One dc tends to drag their heels whilst the other wolfs down food and gets bored waiting. We did a marble jar for a time, getting a marble for finishing in a reasonable time. We have also been through phases of ignoring non-eating, trying to enforce eating, trying to encourage talk, trying to keep a lid on yapping at the expense of eating. My advice is to go with the flow and try different strategies that suit you at the time. There isn't a one size fits all all the time solution, I don't think.

TheOtherHelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 27-Feb-13 18:13:51

PeppermintPanda - don't worry - what we forgot to mention in the OP (now amended) is that each show will be available to listen to on MN afterwards, so it doesn't matter if you can't catch the live show on Sunday nights

PeppermintPanda Wed 27-Feb-13 19:07:05

Thanks OtherHelen! smile

LovesBeingWokenEveryNight Wed 27-Feb-13 19:08:51

Ds is 17 months and has really bad cradle cap still, very thick, he suffers from dry skin generally but what is good for his head. He's never been clear of it.

Snog Wed 27-Feb-13 19:11:44

Often it's the basics that can go adrift ime
Sounds simple, but making sure your child has enough regular sleep, eats healthily and takes exercise every day really helps with behaviour - easier said than done sometimes I know

missorinoco Wed 27-Feb-13 21:10:02

Tips for a harmonious family.

Follow through with a warning. It may give you grief initially when you deal with the fall out, but you will reap the gains of a child that knows you mean business when you give a warning.

Praise all the good things they do. It helps remind me that they are good, especially on days when they are being demons.

A good tip I had from here was to remind myself how much I like my children. When they are driving you crackers, take a step back and give them a cuddle.

What advice would I like - how do you do individual time when the children are so small? What they get doesn't seem very much, and with a just two year old around, especially when my husband is at work, quality individual time for the older ones seems a fantasy. How do you give them more "time", if you see what I mean?

sharond101 Wed 27-Feb-13 22:33:25

DS has a horrendous cough which Dr says is viral and as soon as he lies down in cot the cough starts and he cannot stop. It is as he is bringing up phlegm, swallowing it again and choking on it. He is only 9 months old, how can I help him?

ElvisIsKing Thu 28-Feb-13 09:36:21

Sharon are you sure that's not whooping cough? Have a look at the videos on whoopingcough.net and see if they sound familiar. Whatever it is hope your DS is better soon

THERhubarb Thu 28-Feb-13 10:50:06

LovesBeingWokenEveryNight dd had bad cradle cap too, at least that's what I assumed it was but she's now 12 and still suffers from what looks like cradle cap at either side of her head, just above her ears and a little around her hairline. It's horrible because it looks like really bad dandruff, only the flakes are bigger and now she's a pre-teen of course she hates the fact that it's sometimes noticeable. I've checked her head and compared it to a friend's baby and it really does still look like cradle cap so I shall be interested to see what they recommend to you for it.

sharond101 the advice for babies with a cough is never to lie them flat. Make sure his head is raised (you can put books under the front half of the cot to tilt it) so that he doesn't choke on phlegm. I also used to get a bowl of very hot, steaming water and put a few drops of eucalyptus in there. Put this right next to his cot. The steam should help to soothe his cough and it was the only thing that would work with my kids.

Another trick is to run the shower whilst giving him a bath so that the bathroom is nice and steamy. Again, the steam really does help.

I also second Elvis' advice to check that it's not whooping cough.

pixi2 Thu 28-Feb-13 10:58:34

How do you build confidence in a young child (aged 3). He's a lively little rascal but very quiet in large groups of children.

CheeseStrawWars Thu 28-Feb-13 11:37:20

A question for Dr Ellie - trampolines seem to be the new climbing frames, as far as garden toys go these days. With a climbing frame, obviously there's risks - kids could fall off and injure themselves - but bumps, sprains and grazes are part of childhood... My kids, age 2 and 4, love trampolines - it's great exercise for them, but I am a bit worried about getting one ourselves as I have heard that many medical professionals take a dim view of trampolines for causing a "dramatic increase in serious injuries"*. (Admittedly some of these injuries are through using the trampoline incorrectly - for instance there's not supposed to be more than one child on at a time, but the reality is that policing turns causes more problems than it's worth.)

Long story short - are trampolines inherently more dangerous than any other outdoor equipment? Does the exercise benefit outweigh the risks?

* quote from here

CheeseStrawWars Thu 28-Feb-13 11:39:44

Also - DD has really thin, really fine hair - is there anything we can do or use to help thicken it up? She had terrible cradle cap for the first 3 years and I worry that may have damaged her hair - is that likely? DS has fine but thick hair and his cradle cap was minimal.

lisad123everybodydancenow Thu 28-Feb-13 12:31:22

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

iYawn Thu 28-Feb-13 13:18:28

Hello
ANy other tips for getting kids to take calpol when unwell?
My Ds1 was fine but when DS2 is ill we manage to turn his bedroom into a pink sticky mess and inevitably he doesn't take it...

ctoyno Thu 28-Feb-13 13:42:57

Everyone sounds very sensible here! I wanted to share a lovely new thing that we do at bed time: I have made some simple lavender massage oil and I give my son a hand/arm massage and sing him some favourite songs at bed time - it's really nice for both of us and he falls asleep very happy. He went to bed fine anyway, but it's just a lovely thing to do together, after the busy rushing around of the days - especially as I sometimes dont see him for a few bedtimes in a row due to shift work and other commitments.

JS06 Thu 28-Feb-13 13:47:38

Tips for a boy full of energy

I veered between listening to those who would have me sign son up for every activity going and not doing anything as another friend said exercise would increase his stamina and make him more energetic!!

From ages 6 - 11 I found the very best thing was to have regular meals, general activities, swimming lessons etc. THEN in the evening, just before his bath I took him to local park and unleashed him! I timed him running laps, I joined him so he could beat me, he ran backwards, he ran over obstacles, he did zig zags across the park. Anything to wear him out. This made bath time and bed time welcome for all of us. In time his natural sporting talent emerged, he loves the rough and tumble of rugby and relishes challenging himself doing self timed running on various routes around home. Son now 16, about to go to do a sports course at college, we're still learning but releasing that energy was vital for his sanity and mine.

HALA Thu 28-Feb-13 13:59:39

Make sure to take the kids out for a walk or a play in the park. It makes all the difference in helping them have some fun, use energy and have a good nights sleep

bestbefore Thu 28-Feb-13 14:03:39

My DD is approaching 10 and starting to ask questions about how her body will change - what's the best way to approach this? I don't want to worry her as it may seem overwhelming but do want to be open and honest with her. Would a book help?

JeanBillie Thu 28-Feb-13 14:04:54

My question is about TV - should you really ban it for under 2s? My daughter is 19 months old and doesn't watch much, but I do wonder about it at the weekend. Thanks

EmpressOfTheSevenOceans Thu 28-Feb-13 14:09:57

Getting DD out of the house and running around for a while every day made all the difference when she was small. Actually, now she's 12 it still makes all the difference. She and I kick a ball around or play tennis (badly) and it's not just fun exercise, it's quality time for us.

weenwee Thu 28-Feb-13 14:13:57

Don't panic. Don't try to be the 'best'. Be a caring, loving parent, and know that it is the absolute greatest thing for your child.

mummyofcutetwo Thu 28-Feb-13 14:31:17

Tips for a happy child:
- Make sure you listen to what he's saying and how he says it, rather than listening to part of it and assuming you know. It can be very difficult with a baby in tow too, but will save a lot of misunderstanding and heartache, and, importantly, your child will feel respected.
- Explain why you're saying no to something as it helps your little one understand why not and then he'll be more likely to think requests through before asking in future.
- Tell him where you're going even if you're just doing boring errands. If he's in the car then he's involved too. I've heard too many people reply "you don't need to know" or "it's nothing to do with you" when their child asks where they're going. I'd hate not knowing, and I'm sure they do too!
- Take time to hug your child and tell him you love him, however busy or stressed you may be. An obvious one, but it's all too easy to let things slide in times of stress.
- Tell your child when you're proud of him. I can almost see DS1 grow a couple of inches when we tell him we're impressed with something he's said or done!
- Resolve issues calmly without resorting to raised voices.

Questions:
- How do you teach a child not to interrupt?
- How do you teach a 5 year old to deal with unkind children who hit/kick/make unkind comments?

Any tips to deal with toddler night terrors? Or how to prevent an over-loving 2 year old from literally killing her baby brother with kindness as she practically strangles him when cuddling....

Yes yes to fresh air and getting out every day even if it's just a walk to the shops to buy milk

Hopezibah Thu 28-Feb-13 14:44:25

Help! I need tips on how to deal with challenging behaviour from my child who has aspergers. We have techniques for managing his behavour generally but once a meltdown kicks in, there seems to be nothing we can do or say to help him until it has run it's course. Please can you offer any advice?

Generally he needs love, consistency, boundaries and fairness (like most children do) - but most children manage to calm down, show remorse and learn from their mistakes whereas he does not. Consequences - even applied fairly and consistently have no effect on him and do not prevent him from doing the same things again.

katiewalters Thu 28-Feb-13 14:58:14

At mealtimes, we all eat together as a family round the table, and eat the same thing. My 3year old seems to enjoy doing this, as he thinks hes a big boy eating at the table with mommy and daddy. If he ever plays up at the table, we try to ignore him and if he doesnt want to eat dinner we always let him know he cant have anything else, so will go to bed hungry, and he always eats it in the end.
To stay healthy we give our son a balanced diet, he has fruit and veg everyday, he gets some form of exercise everyday, whether it be walking the 15minutes to nursery, then back later on, running round with friends at a soft play centre, going to the park, etc.

One thing I would love some advice on for my 3year old is how to combat nail biting, when he is around a lot of kids that do it. He did it once before and he'd never done so before, but we thought he had picked it up from nursery as we'd noticed a few of the kids doing it. We mainly ignored it, just took his hands from his mouth when he was biting, and would praise him for not biting. After months he stopped, but now since going back to nursery in the new year after the christmas break hes started again. His nails are really short, and they are sore as he bites them so low, so didnt know what the best way to get him to stop would be

Do you think vitamin/mineral supplements are a good idea for children and if so, which ones?

My six year old son takes a daily chewable Omega 3 capsule that has added vitamins A,C,D and E. It's supposed to help maintain healthy brain function. Do you think it does?

Also, I bought a tub of high strength Omega 3,6 and 9 for my sixteen year old son to take but he just can't swallow tablets despite trying numerous times over the years. The tablet either ends up in the glass of water or he's sick when he swallows it. I'm worried that if he becomes seriously ill and has to take tablets he won't be able to. Do you have any tips?

GreatGooglyMoogly Thu 28-Feb-13 16:27:33

What is the best cough remedy? And what do you recommend for a croup cough?

Honestyisbest Thu 28-Feb-13 16:44:35

My son is 14 and very typically teenagery. Mood swings etc. Are there any vitamin or health food supplements that can help stabilise his mood?

Littlecherublegs Thu 28-Feb-13 18:02:13

Turn your child(ren) into foodies as soon as you can!

This can help encourage good eating habits and aid their happiness and wellbeing - healthy eating, sitting down as a family for meals, thinking about what food is and where it comes from, what your 5 a day is, teach them to cook, different cooking methods, etc.
Will set them up for life!!

My DS is only 6 months old but he loves watching me cook, shop and eat and I always talk to him about what Im doing.

I've just started weaning him and he thinks all his Christmas' have come at once!! smile

Tortington Thu 28-Feb-13 18:58:01

to help children with eating and diet - involve them in shopping and cooking.

think about your expectations at the table. I often think a lot of people ( not just parents) expect a lot from small children at meal times. I think meal times should be fun, a time for talking and laughter, not stict rules. of course there are good manners - which is quite different.

A the table we had a routine of each asking someone at the talbe " what did you do today?" i think children are inatley self centred, so this is a good excersise in teaching them to listen to other people and feel for other people too.

Tortington Thu 28-Feb-13 18:59:14

just to add RE: expectations -- to put it in context - i wouldn't be overly fussed if a child didn't hold their fork in their left hand - but i would be annoyed if a mobile phone made an appearance

Tortington Thu 28-Feb-13 18:59:29

think ive gone off topic

ChristmasJubilee Thu 28-Feb-13 21:00:01

Don't sweat the small stuff, life's too short.

eteo Thu 28-Feb-13 21:57:30

I want both of my children to be bilingual. But both refused to learn my mother tongue - chinese. How can I make them happy to learn it?

Fairymitzi Thu 28-Feb-13 22:59:08

for chicken pox.. baby powder on after a bath and calamine will dry up the spots and draw out the pus. i couldnt believe how well it worked smile

Forgetfulmog Fri 01-Mar-13 06:51:13

Hello

My dd is nearly 6 months & for the last 3 months has suffered from some kind of stomach complaint. She has a lot of problems passing wind & pooing and is usually in pain when she does. Her poos are runny and have a sour yoghurt smell. She is bf and feeds every 1.5-2 hrs (she needs to feed to pass wind or poo). Because of her discomfort she won't sleep in her cot & will only sleep (night & day) on me. She spends a lot of time writhing because of her stomach. I'm barely getting any sleep because of this. Do you have any idea what might be the problem with her stomach? Her paediatrician isn't too concerned and thinks it may be something she will grow out of.

Thanks

chunkydory Fri 01-Mar-13 08:55:30

Hi I would like to know what really works for eczema? Is it a combination of diet an creams or would diet alone do it if followed strictly? Thank you

noidles Fri 01-Mar-13 09:51:21

I have a similar question to chunkydory, I want to know what is the best way to treat psoriasis - my nephew has really painful psoriasis on the back of his knees and it constantly cracks when he walks. My sister has used loads of creams, and they improve things to an extent, but is there anything else that would help (like diet)?

THERhubarb Fri 01-Mar-13 14:16:14

OldBagWantsNewBag I'm 41 and I can't swallow tablets, no matter how hard I try. I keep sicking them up. Luckily most medicine comes in other forms and I also crush tablets myself and take them that way. They don't taste nice but if I hold my nose I can't taste them!
And look at the positives - he's highly unlikely to choke is he?

noidles My dh has psoriasis and he has tried EVERYTHING. The only thing that worked for him was UV light treatment from the local hospital but there are risks with this and the psoriasis does come back after a year.

Things you can try is to wrap the affected parts in clingfilm at night after you've applied the cream.
Don't use soap at all (we use Sanex) and be careful what washing powder you use.
My dh has Dovonex now which controls it a bit but that's not ideal for a child.
As for diet, he's tried it all. He's cut out coffee, alcohol and so on and I doubt your nephew has any of these things anyway.
They don't know what causes psoriasis and so there is no cure for it. Some things might work for some people and not for others so it's really a case of experimenting. Avoid creams with alcohol and perfume though and don't be tempted to try any expensive drinks or creams - if there was a cure for psoriasis they'd be selling it to the drugs companies for a mint.

Hey, I should be employed by Boots, I'm giving out loads of advice see! I'm free btw Boots. PM me if you want my CV (I'm a darn good copywriter as well as just an amazing worker) grin

serendipity1980 Fri 01-Mar-13 14:57:40

How do you encourage fussy eaters to try different food? The food our children aged 3 and 4 eat, varies from dinner to dinner! What age does food fussiness improve? They are not given a different meal if they don't eat the first one.

Many thanks!

TheOtherHelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 01-Mar-13 15:15:52

Thanks for all your questions, tips and advice so far. We're still looking for more callers to talk to Kate Thornton and our experts. Maybe you have a question about how to make sure your DC has a balanced diet? Or you want advice on a skin condition? Or you'd like to know how to improve your DC's concentration levels? Please post here and/or sign up to be a caller on the show - your contribution is much appreciated!

HannahLI Fri 01-Mar-13 15:39:12

I have two great eaters and I make a point of everyone having the same right from the start, I think it helps with getting them to try it and there is no expectation that anyone will get anything else than what's in front of them! With my two year old he often gets tired around bedtime and this can effect whether he eats his dinner or not so I try and keep an eye to eat and move dinner time forward by 30 minutes if I think it might be an issue, that way it helps keep dinner time positive, we also encourage everyone to talk about their day which keeps them busy thinking and not focused totally on the food which keeps spirits high and leads to less "I don't like this" !

Babycarmen Fri 01-Mar-13 16:06:46

What's the best way to treat a 1yo for the cold at home? And when should you take them to the doctor? Thanks!

EmpressOfTheSevenOceans Fri 01-Mar-13 16:08:07

Concentration levels, yes - does anyone have any tips on how to get their DCs to focus on one task (whether that's a piece of homework, emptying the dishwasher or getting their clothes ready for the next day) and finish it without constantly getting distracted and taking all evening?

Rafi Fri 01-Mar-13 16:58:51

Any tips on how to help an 11-year-old DS who has very sensitive skin and has just started breaking out in spots?

Littleorangetree Fri 01-Mar-13 18:00:06

I think my top tip for healthy kids is to make sure they get out and about in the fresh air as much as possible. It helps them to build up their appetite, sleep better and get more vitamin D (though up here in the north of Scotland that last point is probably not true for most of the year!!).

Ashoething Fri 01-Mar-13 18:18:09

My question is-

My youngest dc-3-refuses point blank to eat fruit. Have tried juices/smoothies,jellys,in puddings etc. Will drink fruit juice bu tonly as long as it doesnt have "bits". My other dcs love fruit!

Any tips on encouraging him to eat it?<I suppose strangling is out?>

JenniferHelen Fri 01-Mar-13 18:39:05

My three year-old's just polished off a tea of fish, broccoli, carrots, peas and swiss chard and I'm convinced it's all down to baby-led weaning. He's never had a puree, or a 'child's meal' in his life - he's only ever eaten proper adult food from 6 months old, so we've never had to 'introduce' anything to his diet. I'm evangelical about it and would recommend it to anyone. And it's so easy!

chocolateshoes Fri 01-Mar-13 19:36:31

my 7 year old son has just been given an IEP because he struggles to concentrate and begin tasks. I am absolutely devastated because he is a bright boy who reads really well and has wide subject knowledge. I'm worried he is being labelled as SEN and this will hinder his progress. So, I need as much help as possible to help DS with his concentration. He has been taking fish oil supplements for the last 2 weeks - do you think these work and if so, how long until we see a difference? I've tried giving him high in protein breakfasts - egg, porridge, plus I've made mufins with oatbran, chia seeds, wheatgerm and blueberries. Can you suggest any other 'brain foods'? DS has been using Luminosity on my phone most days for 'brain training'. I really don't know what else to do. Any advice gratefully accepted.

Crazybit Fri 01-Mar-13 20:38:59

My ds developed an intolerance to cows milk (lactose) after a bout of norovirus. In order to test him for it my Paediatrician persuaded me to give him a few weeks of cows milk. Along with awful diarrhea and other things, he also developed a bit of ezcema. I have been able to find any conclusive research as to whether lactose intlerance can be a factor in a child developing ezcema. Does anyone else have experience?

Tip: When weaning, always try to give vegetables more than fruit otherwise the fruit can give them a sweet tooth. Also, always give the veg first, you can find that when given the choice when older, they will go for the vegetables before other food. ( Not always of course, but it can set a good habit..)

Kveta Fri 01-Mar-13 20:46:32

Baby led weaning does not guarantee a non-fussy eater. My 3.5 yo was breast fed until 3 years old, baby led weaned, and is now the fussiest eater of his peers (unless he's in the right mood)!

Cherrybright Fri 01-Mar-13 21:02:29

My top tip is to get outside and play lots. Try and always have healthy snacks avaliable, and make sure sleep is right. Mealtimes/ what she will eat and behaviour is always so much better when sleep is right.

leanneth Fri 01-Mar-13 21:33:40

I agree with some previous posters whose tips include stick to rules, routines, boundaries and follow through with warnings. Children need discipline and routine and need to know what they can and cannot do.
Also, we always sit around the table to eat and discuss the day. We also discuss what the children did at school that day on the way home from school as well as how they felt about something that happened that day. This gives them an opportunity to reflect on the day and have their voice heard. We encourage them to write diaries too, to assist this reflection and also for extra handwriting and spelling practice.

For previous posters with queries about reflux- consider looking into alternative therapies. My son had Bowen treatment and cranial massage which improved the reflux loads and seemed to make him a happier, less angry baby. I also found that cutting out milk from my own diet helped him while he was breastfed.

VilootShesCute Fri 01-Mar-13 23:01:23

Any tips on trying to stop everyone (grandparents especially but even the school to a certain extent) trying to feed my 6yr old SO much sugar like it's going out of fashion? Have these people no idea?!

Neiffer Sat 02-Mar-13 07:35:28

My 14 month old son has had a rash on his cheeks for the last few months. It alternates between just dry red skin and a full on rash spreading to his mouth. We have been using e45 to stop it drying out but can't figure out whats causing it! He has an allergy to fresh tomatoes which we therefore avoid but that's it. It flares up when he's teething I think or if we're out in the cold, and sometimes just randomly. It's not serious enough to warrant a gp visit, any ideas?!

mummymccar Sat 02-Mar-13 08:23:55

My one year old has a vegetarian diet - I give her lots of fruit, veg, and nuts for protein but how do I find out just how much she needs in terms of protein and vitamins in her diet? How do I know that she is getting enough?

DifferentNow Sat 02-Mar-13 08:49:04

I think a good routine is vital for childrens well being. Plenty of sleep, nutritious food including a decent breakfast and lots of fresh air. Time away from tv/games consoles etc just to play but similarly enough down time as opposed to being ferried between extra-curricular activities.

babylily Sat 02-Mar-13 11:12:17

How do I boost the immunity ofmy 18 month old son. He has a permanent cold, regular sickness bugs and barely goes a week in good health. He eats loads of fruit and fresh vegetables, I give him multi vitamins every day. He was breastfed until recently and also has a dairy allergy and excema. He recently ended up in hospital following a sickness bug so would love to know how I can help him avoid so many bugs without imposing quarantine!

Katz Sat 02-Mar-13 11:22:05

what age do you think a child with a medical condition should wear a medi-alert bracelet?

Visadiva Sat 02-Mar-13 18:14:44

Get out and about, even in the rain. Half an hour of fresh air, running round the park or just a nice walk. Uses up some of that excess energy and stops them climbing the walls at home. Wrap up warm and go.

champagnesupernova Sat 02-Mar-13 19:47:53

How do you know whether a rash/dry skin is eczema or what?
Tia

ProphetOfDoom Sat 02-Mar-13 21:35:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen Sat 02-Mar-13 21:50:09

My 3 yo has on numerous occasions been in contact with children who have then got chicken pox.

Why hasn't she had it?

Genuinely bewildered as they must have been contagious when she was there as other dcs caught it.

DessertFox Sat 02-Mar-13 23:10:28

When my DS (5 mo) suffers a flare up of his eczema, he changes from a cheery chappy into a desperately unhappy little screamer, fighting to scratch, crying till he's bright red, making bedtime and nappy changes a battlezone... GP has him on hydrocortisones & emollients which have been pretty good at keeping it at bay and saving sanity all round...

Are there any other changes we could make around the home to help him out / minimise triggers?

He is EBF so far (would diet changes/limitations make any difference? Just trying to eat balanced diet and not eat too much cake/ have a glass of wine every evening ) No smokers here but we do have a cat. Any help would be great.

Kittycatcat Sun 03-Mar-13 07:19:27

My ds2 has silent reflux. Have you any tips re weaning? Foods to avoid? Since weaning his reflux isn't so silent, he's sick with his morning and bed time bottles. He's been having vegetable purées and yoghurts, I think the yoghurts are a problem and am concerned there may be dairy allergies now?

Forgetfulmog Sun 03-Mar-13 09:18:46

Kittycat - thank you for your PM smile
My dd had actual reflux when she was younger & I found that cutting out dairy from my diet (she's bf) really helped so you may find it useful to do so for your DC. Will respond to your PM in a mo

SunshinePanda Sun 03-Mar-13 16:06:01

Which vitamin supplement do you recommend for a teenage vegetarian girl who currently takes a multi vitamin with iron but often seems tired?

enormouse Sun 03-Mar-13 18:24:03

Does my little one need vitamin drops? He's 16 months old and half Indian half Irish so might need extra vitamin D. My gp says no but every other source of info says yes.

JedwardScissorhands Sun 03-Mar-13 18:44:09

Eczema - we have aveeno on prescription, and i find it is much better than the very greasy emollients. I put some on to my 2 year old before a bath, which has really helped stop the skin from drying out.

xigris Sun 03-Mar-13 19:46:19

My DS1 is 6. He's clever, articulate, funny and kind BUT he does not listen!! I often have to repeat myself about 5 times before he'll do as I've asked and sometimes I end up yelling because time's of the essence, for example before the school run. I hate shouting at him but sometimes it's the only way to get through to him! I've tried reward charts with limited success. DS2 is now starting to pick up on this and had also developed 'selective hearing'. I know there's not a physical cause such as glue ear because believe me, both boys can hear the lid of the biscuit jar from the other end of the house!

Trinski Sun 03-Mar-13 22:26:05

my tip: before your baby is due, tell your friends that once it is here they are to invite themselves round and not wait for an invite. In those first few weeks I didn't feel in a fit state to invite anyone round but greatly appreciated the daily appearance of a friend with some food and a spare pair of arms. you can always tell them to go away again.

my questions:
is there any research into how increased screen time is affecting concentration, at various ages?
is there a recommended minimum age before children should be allowed on smartphones, laptops etc?
how can I encourage my child to make the effort to do more wholesome activities and not take the path of least resistance which is the computer?
how can i stop my child playing 18 games when all his friends do?

TallulahTwinkle Mon 04-Mar-13 07:41:09

Not read whole thread so apologies if already been asked.

My ds, 14, has turned vegetarian. He eats beans, lentils and cheese, not so keen on nuts and seeds.

Should I be giving him a supplement? Am concerned about the lack of protein and iron.

Thanks

MrsMarigold Mon 04-Mar-13 11:35:39

Please could we have some guidance on what constitutes a portion of vegetables for a toddler - I serve veggies at every meal (including lots of "hidden" veg) but never know if the hidden veg is actually enough to be counted.

mercibucket Mon 04-Mar-13 14:50:13

i've noticed a big difference in energy levels in my teen since using iron supplements - wish id started years earlier. so thats my top tip for lethargic teens. i use floradix but theres other brands out there

aristocat Mon 04-Mar-13 19:03:36

Any advice for my DSs molluscum contagiosum please?

They are like small white/creamy bumps on his arms, the GP told us it might take 2 yrs to go away. It has been 12 months and he still has them although they do not bother him at all.
He did suffer terribly with eczema when he was younger (almost 11yo now) is there a connection?

missorinoco Mon 04-Mar-13 21:25:58

I need tips on how to spend regular individual time with my children whilst they are small. They all have individual time at bedtime with stories, but my middle child mainly misses out. She is pre school, as is the youngest, and the only time alone is when he naps during the day. It feels like squeezed in make do time. The littlest is too young to be expected to do anything alone (that I allow him to do, he is just two).

I can factor in occasional special time with one parent, e.g. when the others are at parties, but that's about it. Am I being unrealistic here, or is there a better way to do it?

MissRee Wed 06-Mar-13 12:27:41

Do I recall you saying this would be available online to "Listen Again"? If so, where can we find it please?

CoffeeGoneColdAgain Wed 06-Mar-13 15:04:08

Wowsers, Just spoken to Kate Thornton, Jo frost and Dr Ellie Cannon! Fabulous, Thanks ever so for the advice. smile

TheOtherHelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 07-Mar-13 10:48:56

MissRee - yes, if you can't catch the show on air on Sunday night then the podcast will be available to listen to from Monday onwards here

MissRee Thu 07-Mar-13 12:16:24

Excellent - thank you!

rockinhippy Fri 08-Mar-13 14:08:01

Why is there sugar-free, but no real "additive" free versions of children's medicines such as Calpol etc. even antibiotics.

This has proven to be a nightmare for us as we realised very early on, that my DDs "Eczema" & tummy trouble was an intolerance to chemical food additives - ie Azo Dye, Benzoate Preservatives & all artificial sweeteners, initially passed through BM.

She had suffered a few nasty illnesses in her time & now has a chronic pain condition to deal with, but up until more recently when we can give her adult drugs or at least doctor them - ei empty ant Bs out of the coloured capsules & mix with honey - there has been NOTHING we could safely give her

Why is this still an issue, when intolerance to these chemicals is not actually that uncommon ??

Thank You smile

DD2 is 3yo, she has severe eczema. We are currently on dermasilk clothing, thick ointments, dermol, high steriod ointments (week on, week off) and bactoban. She also has oral antibiotics when its very bad. She also has antihistamines.

She sees a dermatology nurse but her flair ups are constant. Shes had allergy testing but nothing came up. Her skins a mess, she struggles with sleep because of it and with her starting school next year we really need to get on top of it. Is there anything we can do to break the cycle?

ProphetOfDoom Sat 09-Mar-13 19:11:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TheOtherHelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Sun 10-Mar-13 18:41:55

Thanks to everyone who has posted on this thread - please do tune in to the show tonight - on Real Radio (7-8pm) or Smooth Radio (8-9pm) - and post what you think on the listen along thread here

TheOtherHelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 14-Mar-13 17:30:03

We're pleased to announce the winner of the prize draw for a £50 Boots voucher is JS06 - congratulations! I'll PM you to get your details

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