Like another poster I have a 1 and a 3 year old. The 1 year old wakes 2 or 3 times a night and often takes up to 20 minutes to go back to sleep regardless of if he is cuddled, stroked from without the cot and spoken to or ignored. We have only been able to try ignoring him to allow him to self soothe twice and gave up after 30 minutes as he was so distressed. He shares a room with the 3 year old and regularly wakes him up with his discontent. The 3 YO wakes and gets up at 5am without fail. I am now in a permanent state of stress and irritability due to 3.5 years without a full nights sleep and have growing anger issues. Any advice?