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Children and TV - are parents being demonised?

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KateMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 09-Oct-12 17:39:24

Today's guest blog tackles the hot topic of children and TV.

A report published earlier today called for TV for under-3s to be banned. But psychologist Dr Amanda Gummer, who specializes in play and child development, argues that parents who let their children watch TV are being unnecessarily demonized. She calls for parents - and researchers - to look at the bigger picture when assessing what's really best for children.

What do you think? Is any TV too much TV? Or is it a case (as so often in parenting) of everything in moderation? If you blog about this issue, post your URLs here on the thread - we'll be tweeting them over the next couple of days. Mumsnet blogger Cary Bazalgette has already done so over at Toddlers and TV - so do have a look for a different perspective on today's report.

Haven't read the blog post (will go and do that next) but I think we're dammed if we do, dammed if we don't.

If we let our babies watch TV, we're bad parents, because we might want the time to get the washing on / make dinner / get a cup of coffee / have a shower in peace. I used to let my boys watch tv whilst I was doing jobs, in their bouncer, in short bursts. Do I think that's going to ruin them? No.

But do I feel bad in relation to the Mum who I know who doesn't have a tv? Who tells me that babies and children learn to make their own entertainment and that if I were more organised, I wouldn't need to leave them to their own devices, with the help of the TV? Hell yeah!

And when our 5 year old got into trouble at school last week for pinching someone I immediately banned Super Hero Squad. Why? I don't know? Because it's got violence in it and might stop him pinching his best friend in the future?

I don't know !!! But I'm putting it out there, that we are dammed either way. If I get time, I'll go and blog about it and link to this tomorrow....

I haven't blogged about it but I used tv as a really positive influence when my kids were tiny. They watched baby Einstein and then later the younger cbeebies programmes. When my daughter was 2 the only thing that calmed her down from a tantrum was a cuddle on the sofa with some tv to distract her.

These days we hardly have it on and they forget to ask. They're both intelligent kids with lots of interests and friends. I think avoiding tv to the extremes of banning it is ridiculous, and possibly even detrimental

littleboo21 Tue 09-Oct-12 22:34:14

I do believe in everything in moderation. When my oldest was a baby it never occurred for me to but children's TV on she just watched whatever I had a background noise. However when my youngest was born and the oldest was at school I could see the difference in him if I didn't have children's TV on. As soon as his favourite characters came on the screen he perked up and would dance and giggle. Is this a bad thing? in my book no. I'm not saying have it on all day, everyday but for an hour or two why not?

NotInMyDay Tue 09-Oct-12 22:35:49

Moderation, moderation, moderation!

Ok so a child might not be at their peak of learning when they are watching tv but you need to look at the bigger picture.
Most parents use the time that children are watching tv to start dinner/ have a shower/ have a cuppa in peace. I'm a firm believer that this often leads to a more relaxed parent which has its benefits.

Sure we could ban tv for kids but I think we'd have stressed out parents yelling at kids and less harmony in the home.

Meglet Tue 09-Oct-12 22:42:43

I don't control Cbeebies at all, not in 4yrs.

It's on literally all day at weekends. The DC's (5 & 4) dip in and out of it and watch what they like, mostly they play while it's on in the background.

School and nursery have commented on their good speech and vocab, DS is doing particularly well at school.

I just don't let them watch stuff with adverts, which I do have a problem with.

CheerfulYank Tue 09-Oct-12 22:52:40

I don't know.

Right now I am suffering (and I do mean suffering --I'm such a whiner--) with morning sickness and I let my five year old DS watch much more than I normally would so that I can relax on the couch. We don't have a TV technically, but he watches whatever shows are streaming on Netflix. It makes me feel better that there are no commercials!

I really think it's fine. It gives parents a break every now and then and that's a good thing!

mumnosGOLDisbest Tue 09-Oct-12 22:56:28

theres lots of educational stuff on tv. little einsteins and horrible histories. tv can really bring history to life and take kids to places that they'll never see in RL. my dcs relax after school by watching tv while i shock horror get dinner ready. i'd rather they were doing that yhan running around the kitchen or roaming the streets.

HanSolo Tue 09-Oct-12 23:12:38

I honestly cannot understand parents who put their 5mo baby in front of the television because it 'allows them to do stuff'. Babies love watching their parents 'do stuff', why put the television on?

My children didn't watch anything under 2yo (I know, US guidelines, but seems fairly sensible to me). I believe this new study is not robust scientifically, so will withhold judgement about under 3s.

They still don't watch television, because we don't have one. Occasionally they get to watch a DVD, but tbh they just don't ask. (When my DS was recovering from a serious operation he did watch some films, because he was too young to read, and playing on the floor was just too painful for any amount of time, and he was going a little stir-crazy).

McPhee Tue 09-Oct-12 23:22:59

Whilst I was eating breakfast this morning, my 14 week old was getting very excited every time Lorraine Kelly popped on to the screen. I'm not sure what that say about me, Lorraine or Dd blush

But I ate my cereal without needing to put the bowl down. A bonus in my camp grin

somanymiles Wed 10-Oct-12 01:28:27

In all honesty Pingu and In the Night Garden have saved my sanity on occasion. Surely the whole tv thing has to be taken in context? My family are very active, and in between (depending on age) hiking, swim club, sailing club, walking to and from school and careening around like a mad thing at playgroup an hour or so of tv does not feel to me like it is going to make them obese, give them heart problems or affect their cognitive development. We are discriminating about what we watch, and usually between homework, after school activities, chores and so on there is not much time for tv or computer games in the week. But if the odd evening occurs when they spend two hours watching tv and/or playing video games I really don't care. There are some weekends where a marathon Buffy dvd session happens and some where we hardly watch anything. And our 19 month old might spend an hour watching Pingu if he is miserable and needs distraction or it might be 15 minutes when we both need some quiet time. Ultimately, I think this is really about saying "no" to having tv on all day long as a given and not caring what you watch, and saying "yes" to using it as a tool in the same way we use books or toys. I don't think any conclusive research exists that says watching your favourite tv programs in moderation (whether under 3 or not) is a bad thing, if it is balanced with lots of exercise, interaction and a healthy diet. This is just more of making parents guilty for no good reason, and I write as someone who did not own a tv until I was a parent! On the other hand I can't stand ads and we mostly watch BBC or dvds for that reason.

Bumpstart Wed 10-Oct-12 01:42:27

Completely misinterpreted thread title. Thought there were children's programmes out there portraying negative images of parents!

I feel completely inadequate when I compare myself to the ever calm, ever patient grown ups on tv, who always know what to do next and are never late.

The worst was a Canadian programme called caillou.

Long live Charlie and Lola where the parents are barely present!

CheerfulYank Wed 10-Oct-12 02:12:22

But if you are as patient as Caillou's parents, bump, you end up with a whiny bald-headed shite like Caillou. grin

Redsilk Wed 10-Oct-12 03:39:06

If they had banned TV for under 3's when my DC were that young, I wouldn't have permanent brain damage from the Teletubby and Barney songs...

So I agree with the proposal but for the sake of our own adult minds....

ZombTEE Wed 10-Oct-12 05:48:19

I'm just marking my place as I am going to do a blog post on this. Yes, yes, I could "watch" the thread...

grin

poppy283 Wed 10-Oct-12 07:31:26

How silly. Children like quiet time too sometimes.

Dd likes some cbeebies and wall-e, when she wants to relax on the sofa. She also likes lots of other things little children like, what's the problem?

YesAnastasia Wed 10-Oct-12 09:17:42

My children watch too much television. I feel guilty.

I do watch it with them though, we discuss stuff, quote things to each other in random situations (DH doesn't understand, bless him) and it gives us ideas for activities, games and crafts.

I switch it on when they need calming and some quiet time like in the morning, after nursery, after a tantrum etc.

I think if it isn't used as a tool and used to your advantage then you've lost control. My DC know that I turn it on and off and they never ask to watch anything (unless I've told them they can & they're looking forward to it.)

We also go to the cinema often. shrugs

thezoobmeister Wed 10-Oct-12 09:46:42

Demonised? Pathetic. By treating this as a moral issue, I think everyone is missing the point.

I know full well that my DD watches too much TV, and this concerns me. Not because I'm afraid of what others might think, but because she would probably learn and develop better if she watched less.

My lax parenting affects her, noone else - so I don't see the point of making excuses for myself or moaning about feeling demonised. Parenting is not an exam you have to pass, ultimately we have to be our own judges.

Personal responsibility, people!

WitchesTitWhistles Wed 10-Oct-12 09:47:26

If the toddler is watching tv while you shower and dress and tidy round so that you can both get out to the park or shopping or a museum or whatever, I don't see a problem.
As long as people are honest about their reasons for toddlers/kids to be put in front of the tv. It's never for their ^benefit and isn't ^good for them but it might be better for them than being screamingly bored or getting up to mischief while the parent is trying to get on.

WitchesTitWhistles Wed 10-Oct-12 09:59:23

Also, how can you physically ban tv for under 3's?

Ds3 who is 20 months sings along with the 6 oclock bbc news theme tune.

I'd quite happily support a ban on children's tv, which is puerile.

Takver Wed 10-Oct-12 10:04:05

Interestingly, I have a book dating from the early 70s which is a whole series of interviews with people in a rural remote Spanish village.

One of the comments that has always amused me is from the village midwife - that she can always tell the children from a house with TV - because they have a wider vocabulary and express themselves better!

Of course, in that time and place TV ownership would have been rare and a marker of a prosperous middle class family who would probably put a lot of time and effort in to their children's development.

Similarly, these days I'd guess that in the US & western Europe families without tv tend to be hippy-intellectual types who also put loads of time & effort into their dc's development. (Not a criticism, we didn't have tv til dd was 7 but we would certainly fall into a certain type of stereotype.)

So I would certainly like to know with these various studies whether they have corrected for all the other socio-economic factors that are likely to correlate with tv viewing. My immediate impression of the latest study in the news is that it probably hasn't, though I haven't checked it out further so I may be wrong.

DueinFeb Wed 10-Oct-12 10:22:51

I watched TV all the time as a small child - old school Sesame St - which used to be incredibly educative - full of numbers and words and life lessons. I remember watching TV with joy - and I have turned out entirely social, intelligent, with a great career. Of course - the TV was balanced out by books - and I was read to almost from birth! I have not got a child yet - but when I do I will let him watch TV - but... that being said - I will be very 'selective' about what he watches. I think the key is 'what' they view - there are a lot of programs out there that are pure drivel with no educative value whatsoever. I intend on paying a visit to HMV and purchasing vintage TV programs that still had value and were 'intended' to educate and stimulate kids in the right way.

Badvoc Wed 10-Oct-12 10:30:03

My da2 was 4 last week.
Thanks to porgammes like numtums and Alphablocks he knows all his letter sounds and can count to over 20.
Obv we read to him, and play games and paint etc but IMO these programmes are excellent and I have no issue with him watching them.
Ds1 is older and mostly watches DVDs of his interests...top gear, history and wildlife docs, dam busters etc smile
I think as long as kids have access to lots of books and stimulating craft activities and games then tv really can be a great tool for educating and entertaining them.

MmeLindor Wed 10-Oct-12 10:35:54

I have blogged about this - do read the Guardian article, which is less biased than the BBC one, and check out the author of the study's other work, which includes a book on 'putting parents back in the driver's seat'.

I would not take his advice on child rearing, so why should I take his advice on how much TV is good for my kids?

I think it is ok to question how much TV kids are watching, but we also have to remember that this is just ONE person who has stated his opinion.

I echo Tasker - where is the research that takes other factors into account, when calling for a ban on TV watching?

gazzalw Wed 10-Oct-12 11:04:18

Perhaps the simplest way round it would be to restrict the amount on TV? When we were children there was probably a maximum of three hours (or less) children's TV on a day. That seems sensible. All these 24 (or at least 12)/7 children's TV stations need to STOP! But that won't happen because it doesn't make commercial, money-making sense!

gazzalw Wed 10-Oct-12 11:04:42

Or of course they could ensure that the children's TV programmes are all highly educational...

carybaz Wed 10-Oct-12 11:40:27

I'm very interested to see how positive and balanced most of the responses here have been. This confirms my hunch that parents are pretty sensible where TV and toddlers are concerned. But for those who feel guilty or think that TV is a bit of a waste of time, do consider my suggestion that little kids may be actually learning very intensely when they start to watch TV. Later they probably pick up on household attitudes and behaviours around TV. If you think TV is not very important and not worth much real attention, so will they (until later on when they pick up on playground fashions, or later still when they discover cult series!) If you seek out programmes - and DVDs - that you really like, and encourage your kids to talk about them, they'll see these media as important and worth thinking about. Please visit my blog at toddlersandtv.blogspot.co.uk.

ZombTEE Wed 10-Oct-12 11:51:09

Nice advert there, Cary...

HanSolo Wed 10-Oct-12 11:54:23

badvoc I don't think television has a monopoly on learning- my children knew all their sounds and numerals aged 2.7, from parents, extended family, nursery etc. with no television at all.

There are many quality television programmes available, many of which are educational, and I don't think there should be a blanket ban until 3, however in the early years, there is no substitute for one-on-one interaction with a consistent care-giver, and I would like to see an end to programmes aimed at under-2s, and any programme that has product placement, associated toy/clothes/food tie-ins for any children under 12.

HanSolo Wed 10-Oct-12 11:57:15

Tee? Is carybaz part of MN blog network?

KateMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 10-Oct-12 12:10:32

Hi ZombTEE

Just to confirm that Cary is indeed a member of the Mumsnet Bloggers Network, and, because this thread is in the Bloggers Talk topic, it's fine for her to link out to her blog.

MmeLindor Wed 10-Oct-12 12:17:35

I think a blanket ban on TV for under 2yo is no use, tbh.

Those who use TV as a virtual babysitter will just download/buy videos. And as I said on my blog post - the ones who really plonk their kids in front of the TV all day are not the ones on here discussing which programmes are educational.

Limiting TV use is good, but banning outright just makes kids want it more, imo. Not at toddler age, but when they are older.

Maybe we should concentrate on sharing tips for good programmes and persuading the TV companies to schedule more educational and interesting programmes, than considering banning altogether.

ivykaty44 Wed 10-Oct-12 12:36:45

I used to be friends with a child who was never allowed to watch tv as they didn't have a tv and this was years before the internet and the likes of iplayer.

The child would come to play and it was the most boring playdate ever as all she wanted to do from the minute she got through the door till the minute she left was - watch tv.

From this experiance I have never banned watching something for my own two dd's unless I feel it wasn't age appropriate.

MmeLindor Wed 10-Oct-12 13:02:28

IvyKaty
My DH's nieces and nephews were like that - they had no TV at home and when they visited their grandparents they sat in front of the TV the whole time.

Littleraysofsunshine Wed 10-Oct-12 13:03:28

I think in moderation it's fine. smile

cherriemayhem Wed 10-Oct-12 13:10:37

I wrote a post on my blog about this topic too http://themumstodolist.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/readers-topic-kids-and-tv.html

Its much like other aspects of parenting - all about finding the right balance.

Good post

justanuthermanicmumsday Wed 10-Oct-12 13:27:22

I don't think parents are being demonised that's going a bit ott. I haven't got a tv, but once a week as a treat my 5&6 year olds get to watch cartoons or nature programmes like deadly60 on the bbciplayer. In that short time they become zombies, if I ask anything of them they don't reply. I have mixed feelings I think it has its negatives & positives. In moderation and supervised for content it can be ok. Total denial is not good either, because kids as they get older will find ways to access material without parents knowing, better they do it under your watchful eye.

Before primary school I don't see why kids need to watch any tv via a box or Internet. they're happy exploring and using their imagination. In answer to a poster who said how'd u keep 3 yr old away from tv, easy switch it off remove the remote. You're the parent you're in control not the other way round.

I would love to leave my kids on the I player more than once a week but I choose not to. To fill that void I have to spend more time with them which I could use to do my chores. Do arts, play in the garden, take them to the park, library.p, martial art. The have a busy schedule so there is no time for tv. They will get their full share of tv as they mature and become adults, hopefully I will have taught them to appreciate the short time they do have in doing meaningful activities.

Takver Wed 10-Oct-12 13:39:09

"The child would come to play and it was the most boring playdate ever as all she wanted to do from the minute she got through the door till the minute she left was - watch tv."

hmm We had no tv until dd was 7, and no screens until she was 4 (circumstances rather than principle). Strangely enough, she isn't some weird tv obsessed child - in fact to be honest she rarely watches tv at all as I think she isn't in the way of it, IYKIWM.

She does play computer games - lots when she gets a new one, not so much at other times - hardly at all right now as she's currently obsessed with playing Magic the Gathering.

I know a fair few dc who've grown up without tv (usually because of travelling / living off grid / in non-standard places), and have yet to notice any obsessive watching in any of them smile

PetiteRaleuse Wed 10-Oct-12 13:51:15

I'm of the everything in moderation school, was allowed to self moderate as a child and intend to do the same with my children (will step in if I think they are overdoing it). I have also blogged about it pint-sized-rants.blogspot.fr/2012/10/a-rant-about-tv-and-children.html

I think the study and similar ones, while they do have a point, give parents another stick to beat themselves and others with. We have enough of those already.

ZombTEE Wed 10-Oct-12 14:09:06

Oh. Okay. Although I didn't mean the link.

ZombTEE Wed 10-Oct-12 14:10:44

I'm actually going to step away from this thread entirely and not blog about this. I find I don't really have anything to say.

Bye.

littleducks Wed 10-Oct-12 14:14:41

My kids watched tv when they were small.... I think I tried to do no tv before 1 for my pfb. She watched a fair bit before age was two though as ds was born around then. In fact I think it became part if the bedtime routine. I'm sure there are people who manage to feed, bath and bed two under two solo every night without putting ITNG on but it worked for me.

They are no both at school and don't watch tv everyday, in fact we have none most weekdays. But I'm working so two days a week they go to after school club instead if heading hone to the sofa grin i expect there is a childcare expert somewhere who believes that is damaging them wink

MmeLindor Wed 10-Oct-12 14:57:14

Cary
I enjoyed your blog post (once I found it - had a bit of difficulty there). Are you on Twitter? Would love to read more of your blogs.

I'm interested in the contention of some people here that there is no need for tv before the age of 3. Of course there is no need. Lots of children grew up absolutely fine before TV existed, but the question here is whether it can enhance learning and development or not. In my opinion it can. My daughter was the kind of baby who really lost it when she was frustrated, and no amount of interaction with me right there would have helped. In fact it would have caused more stress. What she needed was some time to zone out, be distracted by something impersonal, until she'd had time to calm down. Now she is older she goes off on her own with a book, that works. TV has had no negative impact on her learning and development whatsoever. In fact I would heartily contend that it has helped her to develop her emotional intelligence. I firmly believe that without TV she may well not be the incredible child that she is today...

justanuthermanicmumsday Wed 10-Oct-12 19:07:25

When I was young adult programmes were on after 9pm, that's not the case anymore, is there a watershed?I mean even some commercials are unsuitable. Growing up in the 80's we were quite poor but had a tiny second hand black& white tv. My dad had it high up on a shelf and he was very much the authority of the house. We could only watch it when he put it on, and all the family watched together. usually we looked forward to Saturday evening programmes. It was only once we reached secondary school that my loosened the reigns a bit.

I preferred playing out on my brothers bike or making go karts out of old bicycles ad wood remnants,all kids around my area did that. I guess now things have gone too far the other way. Everyone wants their kids indoors , hence all the gadgets.

Are there any kids who play out these days ?my nephew is 12 yet he's not allowed to play out I think that's crazy but I might change my tune when my kids reach that age.

justanuthermanicmumsday Wed 10-Oct-12 19:08:35

Sorry I grew up in the early 90s old age bad memory

justanuthermanicmumsday Wed 10-Oct-12 19:09:24

Ignore last post I was right the first Time lool

"I'd quite happily support a ban on children's tv, which is puerile."

grin

I'd certainly hope it would be!

Smudge588 Wed 10-Oct-12 19:51:00

Moderation in everything! Ds loves construction vehicles so we watch Bob the builder 3 times every day. We also dig in the mud, build Lego machine houses, use diggers to help around the house, draw diggers, paint diggers and so on. Hardly a problem (unless the diggers drive you mad - hope he finds something else soon!!!) grin

Both my boy watch the tv, everything in moderation. Take this evening for example ds2, 22mo was having the mother of all tantrums and nothing would calm him, so I put Thomas the tank engine in. Worked a charm, two of those and he was calm and quiet and tucked up on me. Tv is a tool, same as books, Lego or whatever other patenting tools you use. TV can also be educational, ds1 loves cake boss, he wants to be just like buddy in the show and a great cake decorator, skills which ge practices now by baking and decorating most weekends.

IMO banning TV for under 3's is just nanny statism and taking away free choice and parental responsibility.

Ooh why is there no 'like' button on here. OscarPistoriusGirlfriend you have a very sane attitude to TV. The problem isn't with the TV, it's with the parents, and how they use it.

MmeGuillotine Wed 10-Oct-12 21:16:51

I have the opposite 'problem' in that neither of my boys (aged 7 and 4) watch television even though they are free to do so. DH and I have actually been a bit worried about this as it our elder boy has some problems making friends and not watching the same shows as the other children can't help although obviously it's about more than that. Also I think that many programmes are genuinely educational at lots of levels.

However, they both love watching films and have a few shows that they enjoy like Doctor Who, Invader Zim and Horrible Histories which they watch on DVD so they watch something!

Thinking about it though, neither DH nor I watch much television other than for a handful of shows so I suppose they've picked it up from us?

Anyway, back to the OP, I wouldn't have any problem with them watching television - I believe it's all fine in moderation. smile

Bumpstart Wed 10-Oct-12 23:32:21

I grew up with no tv, and I have to say that I have not learned the skill of ignoring it if it is on. If you are finding your tv deprived dc playmates boring because they have not yet learned how to ignore the telly, just explain that it's not tv time, and switch it off.

poppy283 Thu 11-Oct-12 07:03:27

Surely not everything dc do has to be highly educational by our standards though?

Small children find everything highly educational, including a bit of tv.

MrsLatcher Thu 11-Oct-12 08:29:20

This is one of the few things I don't worry about! As children I, my brother and sister watched absolutely loads of TV. I remember it driving my mum mad but I also remember how relaxing and cosy it felt to be cuddled up on the sofa with my siblings laughing at programmes together. Fast forward about 25 years and we are all educated people who read a lot and watch very little TV. In fact neither of my siblings even have one (no kids). We all did really well academically and are very sociable. So, as lots of others have said I think it is really ok as long as they also see and experience the world around them too. In moderation, it is a lovely childhood activity.

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tigercametotea Thu 11-Oct-12 22:23:56

I have not restricted TV for quite some time. About 2 years I believe. I don't restrict video games either. My children have chosen not to watch any TV for the past... well, for the last few months at least. Yes in the beginning, they go a bit ballistic, watching whatever TV they could. It did seem like all they did was watch TV. But slowly and surely, they just stopped caring about it. Now they are gamers. Are video games just as bad as TV? Well they do stimulate thinking and problem solving skills... with TV well they do stimulate thinking too.. if the children are not watching passively. I can recall some programs that my children love watching which I'd never think was bad, like the Walking With Dinosaurs series or the How They Did It type shows on Discovery channel. And sometimes TV is great for destressing... relaxing... it's not always bad.

I've been thinking about this since I joined the thread and decided that I actually feel quite strongly opposed to Dr Sigman's contention. So I've written about it on my own blog:
www.actuallymummy.co.uk/2012/10/12/should-tv-for-under-threes-be-banned/
I'd love to know what you think.

Funnily enough I wrote about this last week as a Talking Point on our blog (see this post The Goggle Box), although in the context of travel.

We don't have a TV at home but that's an irrelevance in these days of iPlayer etc but have struggled with the issue when travelling. Can you imagine finding a nice hotel in the centre of town, perfect for exploring, then all the kids want to do is watch cartoons, even in a foreign language!

Anyway the discussion was more wide ranging with contributions from parents who allow free reign to those who ban the box. What's interesting for me is that in that discussion viewing habits were not just about access but more about the family culture, values and habits. Kids can have unlimited access and no rules about tv limits and still not watch it at all. How much kids watch depends on much more than access to a set or setting boundaries - what else is going on in the family unit and how parents role model are probably more important.

familyonabike that's so true. Me and DH hardly ever watch TV either. What I want to know is how do people find the time??

I think people who lump all TV in together are probably not exercising their brains properly. The idea of the "goggle box" or the "idiot's lantern" is such lazy thinking. I wouldn't lump the Jeremy Kyle show in with BBC4's offerings on modern art, or Andrew Marr's history of the world. Likewise, I wouldn't lump in some cartoons with my DD's current obsession, Numtums - which came along just at the right moment for me, we were learning numbers at home and suddenly there was this 5 minute programme she loved which was conveying the message every bit as well as I could. It's followed by Alphablocks for phonics. If there's a tool you can use, surely you use it?

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Oct-12 12:17:44

I shall join those others banging the moderation drum.

In fact very shortly my DS2 is going to have his Friday afternoon treat. He watches an episode of Justin's house we Sky+ . He rolls on the floor laughing hysterically for 25 mins and I chill out. That's good for our family dynamics. All happy.

soontobeyummy Sun 14-Oct-12 19:06:33

I blogged a while back on how I don't want TV in my children's bedroom...
castawaywithdreams.wordpress.com/2012/02/02/televisions-in-childrens-bedrooms-good-or-bad/

I'm pretty sure there isn't a parent on here that hasn't sat their little one in front of the TV in their first 3 years?!?! I have even felt strong enough about this to do a post on my blog twinstiarasandtantrums.com/dr-aric-sigman-report-does-this-make-me-a-bad-mother/ Makes me wonder what they will think up next!

Leafmould Wed 17-Oct-12 18:50:41

Soon to be yummy, I like your blog, but I think you could go into a bit more depth of the reasons why you have come to this decision. Where is the analysis?

MmeLindor Thu 18-Oct-12 07:48:11

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