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Missed miscarriage

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captin1234 Mon 21-Nov-16 00:17:48

Hi all, Iv been meaning to join up and join it the chat but never got round to it till now as im sat up unable to sleep as i attended my antenatal clinic appointment tonight then a couple of hours later i was walking away with the news that my baby's heartbeat could no longer be detected. Im 7wk 6day now early i know but it doesnt make it feel any better. 13 days ago i had to have a scan as i noticed bleeding, thank fully the scan showed a tiny baby with a heart beat. I continued to bleed but then 4 days ago i came very heavy with clots fresh blood again i went for a scan and the baby was there heart beating. today when explaining all this to the midwife also making all the appointments/arrangements for the future, she advised me to get checked out. I knew there was some thing wrong straight away when the doctor started the scan, she was quiet and quickly removed it. I knew that was it, she told me she couldn't detect a heartbeat. I just cried! Im going for the op on wed to remove everything as it doesnt seem that it will happen naturally for some time which i cannot cope with. Missed miscarriage is a different type of miscarriage that can make the body believe an show symptoms of pregnancy after the babys heart has stopped and it has stopped developing. Im beside myself that this has happened but i feel some relief that i had symptoms showing there was some thing wrong. I urge any women that feel some thing odd or have any bleeding get checked for yourself and ur baby.

ohfourfoxache Mon 21-Nov-16 00:28:56

Similar position here, Captin sad I'm so sorry you're going through this thanks

By dates I'm 7+1. Had a scan on Saturday (was that only yesterday?) and measured 5+3, no heartbeat and no foetal pole. I know my dates are correct (many, many years of working in reproductive medicine - which is why I booked a private scan to make sure all was ok) so now I've got to wait/ weeks for another scan which is just going to confirm what I already know. I know what's coming and I don't want to deal with it.

And yes, the fucking symptoms continuing is just a cruel bloody joke. I look pregnant, I'm constantly nauseous/sick and my hair has started to thicken already. It's like some nasty, cruel trick.

I really don't know what the point in posting is, but you're not alone xx

ohfourfoxache Mon 21-Nov-16 00:30:48

Sorry, 2 weeks and don't know what the point of me posting

ferriswheel Mon 21-Nov-16 00:36:57

I am so sorry for both of your losses. It truly is a terrible time.

Four and a half years ago I also experienced a missed miscarriage. Next week I celebrate my eldests fourth birthday. I also have a two year old and a one year old.

I was beyond sad and utterly terrified at my mmc. Don't minimize the pain. But hold hopes high that your body does know how to make a baby.

Feel free to pm me.

captin1234 Mon 21-Nov-16 00:41:28

Im not sure why i posted or what i wanted to achieve, i think i felt it might help the way i feel about things, or even distract me for a short time. Im sorry ur in a desperate situation, maybe u posted for similar reasons, or not but please when you know more and have ur next scan use the message boards to voice ur feelings. x

captin1234 Mon 21-Nov-16 00:46:58

Thank you, ferriswheel im very lucky to have a great husband that supports me. I appreciate your offer and maybe after wed i will see how i feel as it might help o speak with people that have had similar situations. Great to hear you have 3 wonderful children now x

ohfourfoxache Mon 21-Nov-16 00:55:23

Thanks Ferris thanks

I feel like I need some form of distraction tbh Captin. I've got a ds but this is mc number 3 for me (the other 2 were early, "normal" and pre ds). Ds knows something is wrong, he's barely left my side all day. I just can't muster the energy to be happy and playful and I feel so guilty sad

Can't believe I let myself get excited. Stupid stupid stupid sad

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