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Mother using her child as a porn weapon

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Kitchenkwhites1 Sun 13-Nov-16 01:50:58

Dear mumsnet I'm asking for help I haven't no Internet presence and my long time beau I've asked her to post this on my behalf
I'm a 44 year old man I have 4 children 3 baby mother's 3 grandchildren let's say it's complicated but I had my fair share of parenting as a single man 7 years ago after making a £190.00 payment to the court after we had judgement pass she reignited the process and after I tried to explain to me judge how if my sons birthday fell on any of my dates with him I had to just simply have the extra hour which the judge awarded me
As I walked out of the court a brief melee of words and a text 9 minutes later saying ha ha one nil to me an extra hour
Only a week later I get arrested by text so handling my self in getting handcuffed locked in a cell for eight hours finger printed photos and dna her allegations came out
She proclaimed I spat at her but she didn't see me as she had her back to me I asked was it greeny they said it was a fine spray then I said if I would have assorted her why would after 9 minutes she never mentioned any such things the proof shows after proving all even so called abuse she used to send me the biggest email and text and my response reply was just a yes or ok now that was the first week it's only recently I heard of mumsnet and something about a hair cut now I know what it is like for one parent to make me hate my mother and after 17 years we are now stronger than ever so I know how important it is to have both parents after being ill for a while 3/4 years I managed to get back to work and when I got phone call telling me she'd found out and without any hesitation to asked for bank details even the figures were not disputed only to get the correspondence how my payment should be paid at first it was wendnesday then Thursday was more suitable all I heard from her was it's the rules it's the rules saying the csa told her I said I'm a builder and payment for me on a Friday was normal and even still I don't get access according to the highly modified because the original order went breach from day one, now trust me I've tried last week I put in a extra payment One weeks just to cover between Thursday now with a time deadline 8:00 putting that in kind of sorted that out I even said if I don't put the regular biweekly payment she may have an email case now not paying it on the time she says it's all my fault how I should step up to the plate be a man but still I pay and I don't get to see my son I know my only option is to go back to court but as a parent I'm lost now it would be the case if the was a cheap skate the figures not disputed it's not about money I don't know what it is about I've had the constant orders being told when where and how from my house wasn't Christmasie to not halloweeny enough Id been diagnosed for a year before she found out her response was the text as I was just parking up how my son doesn't want to see me as he caught my now treated diagnosis I had to draw the line after the second late payment she text me how she has shown my son the abusive texting just showing what I sent what we're adults we all argue now I add tell my boy I love him
Please mumsnet all my words are true and no parent who makes such steps just to be the best mother and father
4x now and after she moved out of London I'm down to every other weekend so after 50 odd weeks I possibly have 25 weekends so far this year I could have less than 10 weekends each one a breach if the law was fair why am I asking for help
Before I go back to court and my son is affected by the in-house drama
If any parent knows the rules
And you can help please contact me via
My sweetheart long time love who posted this on my behalf

Sent from my Sony Xperia™ smartphone

BastardGoDarkly Sun 13-Nov-16 01:55:36

I can't make head nor tail of that.

What's it got to do with porn?!

memyselfandaye Sun 13-Nov-16 01:56:37

What the fuckety fuck?

Paragraphs, full stops and commas.

AndNowItsSeven Sun 13-Nov-16 02:04:33

Pawn not porn people.

Kitchenkwhites1 Sun 13-Nov-16 02:04:44

No money no child regardless of contact order

Ouriana Sun 13-Nov-16 02:07:25

Your original post is rather garbled and confused but I think I have caught the gist.

First, access and maintenance are not connected.
The money is for your child. You have to pay. Forget your ex and what she does and financially support your son.

How old is your child?

What access did court award you?

What access does the mother allow you?

HirplesWithHaggis Sun 13-Nov-16 02:07:33

I think Op meant "pawn" rather than "porn", and wonder if English is a first language? Sorry, OP, but it's so badly written, without punctuation or paragraphs, that it's very difficult to read or understand.

There seems to be a problem with paying child maintenance and access/contact with the child.

OP, do you (or rather, does your partner) pay regular money for the child? How was this sorted, did the child's mother go to the CSA for them to make an assessment?

Why was he arrested? Did he assault the child's mother by spitting on her?

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