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How long to wait until getting pregnant after missed miscarriage?

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cashew16 Fri 02-Sep-16 14:22:43

Hello, I've just had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks and 4 days, i'm turning 40 soon so keen to try for another , I already have a healthy 15 month old, but the recommendation is to wait at least 6 months until trying again. Has anyone got pregnant sooner and in their late 30's? If so, did you have complications? Were you monitored more due to previous mc? Has anyone received different advice to the 6 months recommendation? Thanks in advance for sharing smile

AveEldon Sat 03-Sep-16 13:55:20

Did they say why you should wait? I've had 2 and both times was told I could try again immediately

flumpybear Sat 03-Sep-16 13:57:43

Always immediately - I found I was more fertile after a mmc - good luck!star

flumpybear Sat 03-Sep-16 13:58:20

Oh unless given a proper reason to wait - my obstetrician was a miscarriage specialist and said never wait

rollonthesummer Sat 03-Sep-16 13:58:25

I had two miscarriages and fell pregnant immediately after both (as in 2 weeks later). My GP said you are often more fertile immediately afterwards.

AnnoyedByAlfieBear Sat 03-Sep-16 14:00:23

I've always got pregnant again immediately. The second time was before I even had a period. flowers

Tftpoo Sat 03-Sep-16 14:04:54

I had a MMC and was recommended to wait a month before ttc just to make it easier to date any pregnancy that might result. I didn't though and got pregnant the month after the ERPC. Did make it difficult to date the pregnancy as the date the scan gave was 2 weeks earlier than what I was expecting, given the dates of the positive opk after the miscarriage. The baby was 13 days overdue so I think my dates were about right - it would have meant induction if she hadn't arrived the next day. With hindsight, it would probably have been better to wait a month but I just wanted to get on with ttc again.

cashew16 Sat 03-Sep-16 16:58:33

Thank you. And for those of you that got pregnant straight away, i presume you went on to have healthy pregnancies and babies? The WHO seems to suggest there is an increased risk of miscarriage for women conceiving within 6 months of a mc, but with my age being a factor already of increased mc, i guess the risk is the same one way or another?

flumpybear Sat 03-Sep-16 20:09:13

Bit of both - but DD I had a miscarriage the October, period November and pregnant by December

AnnoyedByAlfieBear Sun 04-Sep-16 10:39:44

My 'pattern' seems to be MC, healthy baby, MC, healthy baby.

rollonthesummer Sun 04-Sep-16 11:00:40

Yes-healthy pregnancy/baby after each miscarriage.

Tftpoo Sun 04-Sep-16 13:32:55

Yep, healthy pregnancy/baby straight after mc.

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 Sun 04-Sep-16 13:39:34

I work for a gynaecologist and often read her books as I am 45 and ttc again. Facts from the latest info regarding mc include:
No increased risk of mc after having one unless specific reason given by consultant.
Increased chance of healthy pregnancy if get a bfp within 6 months of a mc.
Over 40 our chances of mc are higher anyway, usually due to abnormalities.

cashew16 Sun 04-Sep-16 21:01:59

Thank you everyone, very helpful, doesn't seem to be any real reason to wait. Fingers crossed smile

Draylon Sun 11-Sep-16 20:23:09

Go for it. I was MC, healthy birth; MC, healthy birth, too. I was 36/7 when it all began. The first I had a D&C, which I now recognize was probably unnecessary; the second, nature got on with it.

As long as the by-products from your MC are all clear, either naturally or D&C, go for it. My obs only 'advice' was 'make sure they're not in the same school year' grin..

As an aside, 'we' (on MN?).. all think MC is rare and 'disastrous', as some poor women get poleaxed at what, for most, is a natural event. Whereas I understand that the majority of conceptions end in MC, albeit via 'slightly late, heavy period'.

I now recall that I went to A&E, alone (complex story involving DH living away at the time), when I started bleeding with MC1. I was fine about it, actually! There was a HCA, I think, ably tending me, who more-or-less stated that she'd had a MC at 22 weeks, implication, I was lucky that it was done-and-dusted at 7-8 weeks. Had this happened on MN, I'd've been as outraged as the next about the insensitivity, MN would have me PALS'ing, notes scoured, 'answers' being given. However, for me, it was her telling me that 'Hey, MC happens, mine was much later, you can go on to have a healthy pregnancy and birth'.

So be also reassured that you haven't allowed this MC to derail you. That's mentally healthy. 12/4 is getting on a bit, I'd say, and I 'get' that- and I am no expert but my understanding is that MCs, many those we didn't even know we were pregnant!- happen a bit earlier; however, nature dictated that this wasn't to be; so onwards and upwards, as it were grin.

Best wishes!

cashew16 Sun 11-Sep-16 21:32:05

Thank you Draylon, you do feel at the time its disastrous, but even two weeks on i feel much better about things and fully accept this is just life. These forums are a great resource to share and learn, thanks again

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