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Who knows best... Steve or Eve?!

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The last few days have sped past like a speeding bullet and have left me feeling like a demented Bee that has been on the sherry. All the rushing around has left me dizzy and confused, but I have enjoyed every moment of it. Even as I sit here now I am wondering what I should be doing, where I should be going and who I need to speak to. All of this mayhem has been due to my latest brainwave of starting yet another venture. I will keep shtum until everything is finalised though as I do want to jinx it.

In more important news, I am also spending the next few days alone with my girls and their grandparents as my partner is in hospital. This will be the longest she has been away from the girls and to say that she is heartbroken would be an understatement, and to say that I am nervous and petrified of being home alone with my little monsters would also be an understatement.

I don't care what anyone says, but men in general are not wired to look after children. To clarify, I said in general! I know that there are lots of men that are stay at home dads and who do a great job and who will probably be cursing at me and thinking that I am talking rubbish. Well, these are only my opinions. I really wish it were different but unfortunately I don't believe it is, well not for me anyway.

I believe that we have evolved in to working men and stay at home mums over many, many, many years. I know that this is a stereotype where the man works and the women look after the children, but I believe that it works, again I know that there are exceptions to this rule and I am sure that it works well for them, I am just speaking in general terms when I say that men are not built to look after children.

I dropped Kirstie off at the hospital this morning and i'll be honest when I say that I don't know who was more nervous, her with surgery or me with the prospect of being in over my head with unforgiving little girls who can smell your fear from 100 yards.

Like I said, I believe that there are differences with men and women when it comes to childcare and I believe that these are fundamental differences too. Women seem to have a special connection with their kids that I don't believe that men possess. For example, Kirstie always seems to sense when something is not quite right with the girls and will get bad feelings about situations when it effects her children. I put this down to the fact that mums carry and grow their babies. This gives them a connection and they already know them so well by the time that they come in to the world.

Dads on the other hand are often oblivious when it comes to some of these things I think, and their instincts come only with time and experience. It took me time to workout the different types of cries for example and the more you get to know your babies then the better you become at recognising the warning signs.

As I mentioned at the beginning of this post about feeling like a demented bee, well this was whilst Kirstie was at home looking after our 3 princesses, so I have no idea how I am to manage the next few days.... Wish me luck please!

Snorbs Fri 28-Jun-13 09:04:05

So what you're saying is that because you believe that you are not as good a parent as your wife is, then rather than regard that as a personal failing you prefer to generalise it as a male vs female thing.

Interesting.

fcknits Thu 04-Jul-13 13:01:09

Hopefully your wife is now safely home from hospital and recuperating in comfort, OP. smile

You sound like a good, caring daddy. Hopefully, grandma was a great help and you got over your jitters. x

LaQueef Thu 04-Jul-13 13:07:50

Gosh yes, you're so right.

Women have all these magical mystical powers that make changing nappies, night wakings and boring shit like craft and singsongs come completely naturally.

Men don't have time for all that wishy washy mothering superpower bollocks, like being able to sense when their children are ill or distressed, because they are too busy carting their testicles around.

It's scientifically proven, you know. By no one, ever.

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