(I'm new to this site so i apologise for the long thread)
Almost 12months ago i split up with my ex, basically i was miserable and i had no life with him, i was made to feel worthless, he called me all the names under the sun infront of people, he mentally abused me, he accused me of everything even though i didnt go out anywhere and anywhere i did i took my children with me.
so 12months ago i'd had more than i can take and left, of course he was convinced i'd left him for someone else, which i didnt, so i lived at my dads for 6months in his spare room with the kids before i moved into my own rented home, we own a house together but he only offered me £6k to buy me out, the house is probably worth in the region of £150k with a £77k mortgage left on it so there would be a substantial profit if sold, but refused to give me anything higher than £6k because of what "i'd done to him" he tried refusing me entry to the house so i could take some furniture even though i practically paid for everything, so i decided to just walk away with nothing but a few items of furniture and not a penny to my name, i've managed to pick myself back up and move on, i am now with someone else who treats me like a princess, my children know and are happy and think he's great.
the problem is my ex has for almost 12months now bad mouthed me all over our town saying i've left him for someone else, and i'd been seeing this person for years, he has been bad mouthing me to my children when thy've stayed with him and calling me terrible names to them and being quite agressive in doing so, he's harrassing my friends when he sees them out shouting at them that thy've covered up for my "affair" for years, he's recently physically threatened a good friend of mine by grabbing him by the throat and in doing so threatened another close friend saying that he was coming for him too, i went on a holiday with my new partner for his 40th birthday a few weeks ago and i left my children in his care, when i returned my daughter who is 10 was absolutely infested with nits, and she was in agony, her head was red raw through scratching and her scalp was full of bites, i was furious, he also refuses to pay me any maintenance for the kids as he said he will not fund my lifestyle and line my pockets, i learned he'd been trying to turn my children against me while i was away on holiday, calling me names and trying to say i'd done all sorts of stuff while we were together which is completely untrue as my ex has done some terrible things to me over the years one of which resulted in me being in hospital for a week extremley poorly, but for the sake of my family i stayed.
it all came to a head a few days ago, as i'd come back off holiday i found all this out that he's been harrasing my friends, he'd physically threatened 2 of my other close friends, my daughter was infested with nits plus what he'd been saying to my children, i snapped (which i never did when we were together as i was terrified of him) i told him he's to stay away from my children unless he stops all this rubbish and leaves me alone and gets on with his life, him and his friends are to stop harrasing and threatening people around me, plus he's meant to look after his children when they are with him and he neglected her for over a week, as it was the worst case of nit infestation i had ever seen :( but he is now threatening to take me to court over access of the kids and i should get a good solicitor as its goin to get very embarrasing for me. i dont see how as all i am doin is trying to protect my children from this man, he's lying, mentally abusing, harrasing, wont part with a penny to support his children but still wants all this rights and access, can somebody please give me some concrete advice, as i dont want my children to be dragged through court but he wont meet me half way and admit that he's wrong in what he's doing, and take some responsibility, i've told him that he can sort all this himself and all he has to is stop what we've had to put up with over the 12months and his little 3man army out and about threatening and harrassing anyone who's linked to me, and he's to be a father to his kids instead of mentally abusing them with all the rubbish he used to fill my head with.
please help i'm at my wits end with this man, he's making my life hell and hurting my children terribly :(
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My ex wants to take me to court over kids
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tambo76 · 25/06/2013 12:33
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