So, 36 hours into labour with a breech baby, they finally allow me to remain in hospital and not send me home and very happy things are finally happening. Sat there having gas & air in the birth centre when my BF who's mother works at the hospital asked if she could come and visit-for ten minutes. I said yes okay, I'll let her in for ten minutes and when she goes I can strip off and get in the birth pool. Long story short, six hours later she was still there.
Now, I'm sure you're all aware that the process of childbearing is a very personal and private thing with a lot of bits on show and intimate examinations happening on a regular basis. Well MIL planted her backside in a chair and just watched, even though I'd made it quite clear I wanted her to go. I don't know who I'm more furious at:myself, my boyfriend, my MIL...!!
Anyway I didn't feel comfortable being naked in the birth pool in front of her so I had to scrap that, then I got transferred to the delivery suite because of baby not coming and I was having an epidural put in.
She then burst in with tuna sandwiches she'd bought for herself and sat at the end of the bed, watching my struggle while stuffing her face and on FaceTime to get friends and then tried forcing a banana in my mouth to "keep my strength up" even though I didn't want it.
She ended up getting thrown out by a new midwife who came on duty who told her that she shouldn't be there and that it was pretty weird and she cried on the way out, looking at BF to let her stay.
What was even more annoying is that her daughter had a baby last year and apparently she was 'amazing' and all the staff was 'amazed' by her and 'they'd never seen anyone so good at giving birth' and 'she didn't make a noise'...that's what I had to listen to all day while having MY baby. She was annoying everyone, all the staff, me...!
In retrospect I wish I'd just told her to f**k off at the time but I just didn't have it in me, I was so tired and fed up but I remember being so angry inside. But I'm very very annoyed with my bf who should've told her to go. She'd been saying for weeks before I was due she wanted to be there and I told her NO and I said to him, if she turns up, tell her to go...but I'm furious he didn't...hes obviously more concerned about hurting her feelings.
It doesn't matter to them that she ruined that special experience for me. In fact the stress she was causing me might've even prolonged it and could've been dangerous.
I can't let this go, I cry everytime I think of my daughter being born
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Is this normal behaviour??
Cherrycoke2016 · 08/07/2016 07:35
The thing is, he's very close to his mum, he loves her and she really wanted to be there to see it and I sort of get that. So there would be no way of telling her to go without hurting her feelings. BUT. The midwife repeatedly asked me IN FRONT of her if I wanted her to go and I kept saying things like "I think it's best you left because I want some privacy" and "I think it's time for bf and me to do this alone" and she just wouldn't go. She felt entitled and I don't think that's a
Normal or healthy attitude to have. My parents were waiting patiently in the waiting area and my boyfriend let them know first by phone and apparently she got really annoyed about that too 
Well we've had a very heated argument about it, but he can't see what I mean at all 
. Her behaviour since DD has arrived has changed as well, walking straight into our house, like she owns the place. She LNOWS he will take her side like she knows who's boss...! Also my DD hates her, just cries when she picks her up and squeals in her face and picks her up and waves her about. Put it this way, what sort of woman pulls a baby off her mothers breast just do she can have her moment with her...???
Yeaaaaaa she had it from we go on holiday for looking after the cats and stuff 
It's pretty sad really because I can see in her face she's doing it on purpose and she's showing me who's in charge but if I try and talk to bf about it he thinks I'm being paranoid but I'm just not!
I think women are better at seeing things like this
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We were turning her xx we spent the whole day doing it on the birthing ball and stuff I'm sure I was told that if I got in the pool then I'd be able to get into a position that would turn her, anyway after so long I had to go to the delivery suite because I was still only 6cm and they gave me some hormone stuff to speed it all up but I reckon if that hadn't worked then I would've had a C section xx but I did need to have stitches too and kiwi birth. I had her at south manchester which I've been told is a very good hospital for maternity . To be honest though I did lose LOADS of blood and I'm still on iron tablets now. Sorry if not explaining myself very well, was my first baby and I didn't really know what was going on at the time and stuff xx
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