Stop Bingeing and Start Eating Healthily Thread

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SnowyWellies Thu 24-Jan-13 06:21:40

Would anyone like to join me? I am a yo yo dieter, a failed WW (could not bear the small portions) failed SW (went wild on Free foods) and I eat too much of the wrong sorts of food. I binge then starve and I want to get out of that cycle. I also enjoy my evening 3 glass of wine a little too much! I feel bloated, pasty, tired and I hate how I look in the mirror. I am about to hit 40, and I refuse to spend any more time hating myself. I want to deal with my psychological food issues, and I want to finally be the woman I am meant to be.

I am 5 ft 2 and weigh 11 stone 3.

My aim- to increase fruit and veg. To cut out wheat as I bloat very badly on wheat. To take as much care over my own diet as I do over the diets of my children and my husband. To not treat my body like a rubbish bin.

As of this morning. I am tired. My skin is pale and blotchy. I am very bloated in the stomach. I am aiming to lose 24 pounds, but want to do it properly and without feeling deprived. I want to make this process luxurious, with a focus on gorgeous healthy food.

Today's plan:

Breakfast - fruit and natural yoghurt with a drizzle of honey.

Lunch - home made carrot and coriander soup.

Dinner - fresh veg risotto.

I need ideas for delicious alcohol-free drinks. Currently I love a splash of grapefruit juice and soda water.

Anyone want to join me? The focus is on good food, and to deal with the psychological issues around bingeing and self hatred. I am not a psychologist, just someone who needs- and can offer support!

Weigh in days will be Mondays and Thursdays.

Loz1980 Wed 20-Feb-13 16:21:36

Such a cliche I know but I'm gonna start on Monday! Got a family do on Sunday night and need to go shopping for healthy/low fat foods first.
Thanks for advice so far guys, gonna pop back in for support once dreaded diet starts. Hopefully with help from you guys I might be more successful! smile

twinklestar2 Wed 20-Feb-13 17:58:45

Def get the good food in - you need to be prepared so you don't end up reaching for the biscuit tin!

Flossiechops Wed 20-Feb-13 18:10:07

Hi all I think I have the place I belong! I am a terrible binger with a horrendous relationship with food. I have gone from 9st 7lbs to 10st 10lbs over the past 6 months. I yoyo up and down like this all the time. I regularly skip meals (never eat breakfast) only to eat crap later on. My absolute downfall is anything sweet. I am a complete binge eater. I currently hate myself for being like this and I'm sick of hating myself. It affects my relationship with my dh and I'm miserable with my dc. I need to change but I'm not sure how?! Can I join you all please? smile

SnowyWellies Wed 20-Feb-13 18:43:14

Welcome Flossie.

I really understand what you mean when you say this affects your relationships with DH and DCs. I have never ever taken my Dcs swimming, because I am too ashamed. I HATE that they are missing out because of how I feel about myself. I cannot bear my DH to look at me naked. I hate myself too. sad

twinklestar2 Wed 20-Feb-13 20:07:11

Don't hate yourself girls, use that energy to be change things. Flossie - eating breakfast is key for me. Otherwise I reach for bad stuff later.

Whats everyone eaten today then?

Here's my menu

bacon sandwich

soup for lunch

having fishfingers for dinner

snacked on a hot choc with skinny milk and a flyte.

Under 1200 cals on MFP

Flossiechops Wed 20-Feb-13 20:32:00

Thanks for the welcome smile funny you should say that snowy I am taking the dc swimming tomorrow with a friend. I hate it and usually avoid it like the plague!! I think the self loathing stems from my inability to control myself, I feel pathetic and weak willed. I can compare my binging on chocolate to an addiction, I literally crave the feeling it gives me and thus the cycle continues!

I intend to get up for a run before dh goes to work in the morning, if I start positive it may help. I will try breakfast too smile

Flossiechops Wed 20-Feb-13 20:34:18

I had

No breakfast shock

Lunch - ham wrap and fruit

Tea - shepherds pie and broccoli

Snacks- curly wurly, crisps, go ahead bar

It's the snacking that needs to go!

coolkat Wed 20-Feb-13 21:17:19

I am the same flossie - meals generally good but then snacks wreck it!

SnowyWellies Wed 20-Feb-13 21:25:36

Dreading my weigh in tomorrow but i will be strong.

For me today;

breakfast - veg soup (still feeling unwell with my cold)
Lunch - hot chocolate
Dinner - DCs leftover roast chicken and green beans. Was nibbling really as am not hungry, but the food was there.

Sneaky glass of cava, but only one. I was SO shocked though- that one glass was actually 2 units. So all this time I have been drinking 2 glasses or 3 glasses and thinking that is moderate, I am actually drinking double the units I thought. Yikes. Never really took much notice before, as I just assumed I was on the right side of things.

I think I am right in saying that chocolate is addictive as the mix of fat and sugar is evolutionally programmed into us to be something we crave. That might be wrong though.

I hope you enjoy the swimming Flossie. smile You are a braver woman than me... but I am determined this summer I am going to go swimming.

Thanks for positive thoughts twinkle. smile

Loz don't abandon us until Monday! Keep checking in, even if you are not 'dieting' per se.

Right, positive thoughts for tomorrow.

Cal-free drinks. I am a big fan of peppermint tea so have been enjoying that in the evenings.
weetabix and fruit for breakfast, veg soup for lunch, and grilled steak with steamed veg for dinner. Yum.

Have a good evening and a great day tomorrow everyone!

Flossiechops Wed 20-Feb-13 21:52:13

Thanks snowy I will fill you in tomorrow! I don't drink at all, it's never been part of my life but chocolate is my Achilles heel. It's breaking the binge cycle that is very difficult. I manage it for a while, sometimes months and then let myself go again. I know my dc do not have the best diet either as a result and I'm ashamed of myself for that. I have to change! Like you said in your OP, I want to be the woman I'm meant to be!

Flossiechops Wed 20-Feb-13 21:57:14

coolkat I snack even when I'm not hungry. I have come to conclusion that I'm just very very greedy! If I didn't snack I would be waif like!

twinklestar2 Wed 20-Feb-13 22:51:35

flossie - could you be snacking because you aren't having breakfast?

twinklestar2 Wed 20-Feb-13 23:02:57

flossie I actually dont think thats a bad day!

Flossiechops Thu 21-Feb-13 08:31:10

That was a 'good' day, the day before was a binge day. Took dc to the cinema - popcorn, pick n mix, crisps, bacon rolls, 3 curly wurlies, 3 go ahead bars etc!! I feel ashamed to write it down but it's true. Was up at 6am out running did 3.5 miles and burnt 410 kcal so a good start to the day. Off swimming in a bit. Have a good day to you all smile

SnowyWellies Thu 21-Feb-13 08:37:10

Good monring! Wow Flossie 3.5 miles?! That seems amazing to me, well done!

I am 10 stone 10, so down 2 pounds. I am fully aware that it is more likely due to the fact I have had a cold and been eating so little but I am happy to accept it! So 7 pounds since i started this thread. woo hoo! My aim for this week is to maintain for next Thursday so that it is a 'real' loss.

I cannot face the thought of weetabix for breakfast or anything else for that matter, so will just sip veg soup again until I feel up to it. Main problem is i am SO busy at work, even though working at home today, so I have to push through, which is exhausting me.

Does anyone have ideas for little amounts of nourishing, easy to eat food I can feed DS (2) who is also unwell? He is eating tiny bits, so I have been trying him on grapes, breadsticks, babybels. Want to add in hummus there but am worried I am missing some important nutrients and don't want to resort to cake because he will not eat. He is allergic to eggs otherwise I would make him scrambled eggs.

Hope everyone has a good day. smile

twinklestar2 Thu 21-Feb-13 09:24:20

Well done flos on the running! What's your menu today?

Snowy - brill result on the weigh in! Keep up the good work. For your son what about crackers or brown toast with peanut butter?

My menu today:

Skinny latte
Fruit
Yoghurt

Soup for lunch

Quesadilla and salad for dinner

Flossiechops Thu 21-Feb-13 17:48:39

Thanks twinklestar and snowy i try to run regularly but I give up when I'm down on myself. On a good wk I do around 15-20 miles, on a bad week nada!! My menu was

Breakfast- 2 shredded wheat and sk milk

Lunch- grilled bacon on granary bread with tomato and lettuce

Dinner - roast chicken, dry roasted potatoes, veg & gravy

Snacks - Go Ahead bar, 1 custard cream, 2 rose chocolates

Not too bad, I ate breakfast too although didnt really feel any benefit I see it as a waste of calories tbh. I always feel really nauseas until mid morning and had to force it on me. I often find I feel hungrier if I have eaten breakfast than if I hadn't. There must be some weird science behind it like it wakes your appetite up?!

snowy fab weight loss, 7lbs over a month is perfect I think. I too want to lose 24lbs to get me down to 9st, the closest I've come was last summer. I'm 5ft 2 as well and carry my weight on my bum and thighs with a relative slim upper half. How was everybody else's day?

coolkat Thu 21-Feb-13 18:54:38

Go going with the running flossie. Sounds a good days food too.

Not great here

10.30 cereal bar

Lunch tuna salad and banana

2.30 cereal bar and hot choc (60 cal)

Dinner chicken goujans, oven chips and beans

Then had a penguin and handful of sweets from valentines. So did not need them. Will try and shred in a bit although not feeling the love today. Have shred everyday so far.

smile

twinklestar2 Thu 21-Feb-13 20:17:18

I ended 300 cals over on mfp due to eating a croissant in a meeting. My only saving grace is I had 200 cals left over from the day before.

I need to get back into regular exercise too. I went for a run last week but have done nothing this week and I won't have time tomorrow.

SnowyWellies Fri 22-Feb-13 10:41:21

Good morning, hope everyone is fine!

Yes, I will be happy with a 7 pound a month weightloss! I am sure when I can start eating again though it will come back on. smile Usually I very much am of the 'feed a cold' mindset but really feel very anti-food right now. Am about to have some veg soup.

I carry my weight around my middle- a true apple. Hence people always asking me if I am pregnant. sad

Chicken goujons sound good, cool. Might make that for the DCs for tonight. A real friday treat.

Flossiechops Fri 22-Feb-13 19:43:38

Hi all how was your days? I was reading some of your earlier posts. snowy you said you read a book about addictions and that eating disorders can stem from something else. I have often thought about this but I honestly can't think of a single thing. I have binged for as long as I can recall. I use chocolates and sweets as a meal substitute as there isn't much else that I like as much in terms of food. Maybe I'm lazy or maybe it's a really really bad habit but I do accept that it's all in my head hmm
I want to like myself I really do. I know how to dress well but don't because I feel I look too fat!

Today has been another 'good' day where I've managed to remain in control. Met up with my family at my parents and there was lots of very tempting food but I reigned myself in and had one pork and stuffing roll hmmm! Did have a small slice of homemade cake but have been for another run this evening - not easy in the bloody cold! Back at work tomorrow so just making some leek and potato soup. smile

coolkat Sat 23-Feb-13 08:02:00

Hi all

Well done on another run floss. Not to bad here yesterday 141.6lbs so slightly less. My problem are these bloody sweets dh got me for valentines. confused Going to start binning them as don't have the will power not to binge on them.

Yesterday food was relaxed but not bingey bar the above bloody sweets. Decided to do shred level 2 thurs night for a change - bad move hips painful.

Not much planned for the weekend. We were on about going to frankie and bennys however if do I have the steak and salad which is tasty smilethen the 200 cal pudding!

Have a good weekend smile

MissWooWoo Sat 23-Feb-13 09:43:58

morning and hello to all the new joiners

I've had a really busy week so have logged in everyday and had a quick read of the thread which has really helped keep me motivated so thanks everyone

Snowy thanks for the reminder of the saying "my body is not a rubbish bin" so true! I'm adopting this as my new mantra.

Coolkat totally agree with you on the carb front, I just can't do without them and severely restricting them for me perpetuates the binge/starve cycle and consequent yo-yoing. I do "get" the science of it all so see the importance of not overloading on them though.

Flossiechops I know exactly what you mean when you said that your relationship with food effects your relationship with your family. When I'm at a "high" weight and eating any old rubbish I feel really angry with myself, particularly when I compare the slimmer version of me with the fatter version of me and things that wouldn't normally bother me really get on my nerves and I'm more short tempered.

I surprised myself by not having that blueberry muffin on Monday and even eschewed the sugar ring doughnuts and giant chocolate cookies that my friend had bought round ahem for the kids. I wasn't hungry and although I did look at them a few times I stopped and had a conversation in my head with myself. I'd read something the night before about short term gratification - taste/feel in the mouth/not wanting to "offend" someone for not eating something versus long term gratification - feeling healthier/not being cross with yourself/getting into those jeans that are now too tight etc. and so I thought about that when I was looking at the doughnuts and I decided that in that moment the long term gratification was more important to me than the short term gratification. So I didn't have one.

I tried to apply this way of thinking all week and it worked quite well. I did have a lot to drink tuesday night with an old friend but I made the choice to not have a started or a dessert, so just dinner and lots of wine and I felt like that in itself was a massive step forward. Nothing wrong with having a starter or a dessert when you're out for dinner but for me on that day I just didn't need either.

On wednesday I had lunch with a couple of friends - I choose a fish stew! It was delicious, I really enjoyed it and felt like I'd really nourished my body. I did have a large glass of red but I stuck to the one glass although if we hadn't of had the kids with us who knows if I would have stopped there grin

Yesterday at my mums for lunch and chose the smallest cake on offer - a Fabulous Bakin' boys mini muffin. It would have been easy to have had 3 or 4 "as they're only small" but I'd had soup and a (small) piece of lovely bread with a couple of slices of "naice" ham and I was full. I didn't really need the cake but I did fancy a little bit of something sweet so I had it and then said to myself that it was a sufficient amount for that meal. Later I had a chocolate finger - but just the one.

I've got no plans this weekend, I think my husband is planning to make us a curry for dinner which is much healthier and I'm sure much nicer than one from a takeaway. Mini goal for the weekend is to lay off the booze. I've had some this week and a clear head helps me make better choices.

Hope you all have a good one!

SnowyWellies Sat 23-Feb-13 10:41:07

Good morning everyone!

MissWooWoo that is the kind of mindset I am aiming for. saying 'well I will have this, or that' not both!

Everyone seems to be doing so well. I had a mixed evening.... had my two glasses of wine I allow myself on Fridays and stopped there quite happily so that was good. Made chicken goujons (thanks cool!) for dinner with broccoli and pasta on the side, and ate all the toddlers as he did not want any dinner at all as well as my own. sigh. oh well!

Have eaten nothing yet as am tired. I have just started heating up some soup and will make toast so I have had something at least. Our boiler is on the blink and it is 10 degrees in the house, so I think we will not be doing much today- snuggling in front of the blowheater and watching Shrek. DH has just mumbled something about mulled wine this afternoon. For the warming properties of course!

twinklestar2 Sat 23-Feb-13 11:01:53

Hello all, thx for sharing tips and what has helped you as it def helps me to read them and try and apply those tips.

I had dinner at my sisters yesterday and she ordered pizza so I had a couple of slices and that's it. Back at mine today and in control of all 3 meals so will ensure they are healthy.

I don't do no carb but I do low carb and if I do eat carbs I make sure they're the wholemeal version.

Good luck today everyone!

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