Cot Death

(145 Posts)
My5boysandme Sun 07-Oct-12 21:23:06

On the 24th of September my ds5 died of cot death. He was only 13 weeks and 4 days. His funeral was last Wednesday. My arms ache to hold him, everywhere I look his things are there. I miss him so much.

usualsuspect3 Sun 07-Oct-12 21:25:28

I'm so very sorry for your loss xx

Do you have RL support?

WilfredToadflax Sun 07-Oct-12 21:27:18

I'm so, so sorry xx

I'm so sorry for your loss x

bluebump Sun 07-Oct-12 21:27:53

I'm so sorry for your loss. Xxx

susiedaisy Sun 07-Oct-12 21:28:39

So sorry for your loss sad

So very sorry for the loss of your precious boy x

piratecat Sun 07-Oct-12 21:29:22

oh op, i am so sorry for your loss. what was his name. xxx

RandomMess Sun 07-Oct-12 21:29:31

So sorry for your loss, what is your sons name x

kid Sun 07-Oct-12 21:29:47

I am really sorry to hear of your loss, you will never, ever forget your precious son but you over time, it will hurt less. I hope you have lots of support around you.

Fuchzia Sun 07-Oct-12 21:30:29

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious boy.

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family.

Portofino Sun 07-Oct-12 21:32:15

So very sorry to hear this. Big (((((hugs))))) for you. sad

NellyBluth Sun 07-Oct-12 21:32:34

I'm so, so sorry for your loss, OP. Thinking of you and all your family at this terrible time.

What was your son's name?

My5boysandme Sun 07-Oct-12 21:32:45

I have my dh and parents around. My other ds's are 9,7,5 and 3. I was home alone with the 5 boys when it happened, as dh was away on his 1st ever overnight business trip. I just feel so guilty even though everyone says it was nothing I did. I've been having panic attacks, I can't go upstairs myself, I have to sleep with the light on. I miss Dexter so much sad

popsypie Sun 07-Oct-12 21:36:30

I am so sorry.

HumphreyCobbler Sun 07-Oct-12 21:38:17

I am so sorry.

Thelobsterswife Sun 07-Oct-12 21:39:21

So so sorry for your loss. RIP little Dexter.

My5boysandme Sun 07-Oct-12 21:43:37

How do you go on after losing a baby? I know I'm lucky I have the other boys to keep me going, but when they are at school/bed it just consumes me.

LetsKateWin Sun 07-Oct-12 21:44:01

I'm so sorry for your loss x

MrsWolowitz Sun 07-Oct-12 21:47:05

I'm so sorry.

Just so so so sorry. I don't know what else to say sad

RachelHRD Sun 07-Oct-12 21:49:35

I'm so so sorry for your loss xx

aimingtobeaperfectionist Sun 07-Oct-12 21:50:05

I'm so sorry to hear about Dexter. This won't be something you get over but something you learn to live with. Your boys need you. Hold them and kiss them. I hope you realise soon this was not your fault. My prayers go out to you all xxx

mariposa1 Sun 07-Oct-12 21:50:45

I'm so so sorry for your loss x

mariposa1 Sun 07-Oct-12 21:51:44

I'm so so sorry for your loss x

Fairyjen Sun 07-Oct-12 21:52:12

My love to you and your family. Xxxxxxxx

DoMeDon Sun 07-Oct-12 21:52:21

My5 - that is heart breaking - there must be such a hole and I can only think that talking may start to fill the gap - letting the natural, normal feelings of guilt, sadness, anger, loss, pain and any other feelings have an outlet. Are you managing any sleep? I think that can really help, the dr could give you something.

Shaky Sun 07-Oct-12 21:52:27

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling.

RIP Dexter

balletpump Sun 07-Oct-12 21:53:54

I am so sorry for your loss x Rest in Peace Dexter xx

I am so sorry for your loss, we're thinking of your family.
RIP Dexter. x

LST Sun 07-Oct-12 21:57:29

I am so sorry for your loss sadxx

marthastew Sun 07-Oct-12 21:57:57

Dexter is a lovely name. I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking about you and about him x

TheFantasticFixit Sun 07-Oct-12 21:59:43

My5, i am so so sorry. I too can't even start to imagine the pain of losing a child. May your baby boy Dexter rest in peace and may your heart have peace, in time. ((Sending an unmumsnetty hug to you and your family))

I am so so sorry for your loss. Look after yourself xx

greenandcabbagelooking Sun 07-Oct-12 22:00:48

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hug your boys close and remember their beautiful little brother.

MeFour Sun 07-Oct-12 22:02:44

I am so so sorry for your loss x

Oldandcobwebby Sun 07-Oct-12 22:03:08

There are no words suitable for times like these. You are living through what we all dread the most. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that we care. xxx

housebyariver Sun 07-Oct-12 22:05:41

Words cannot express your feelings of loss and sadness at this awful time for you, your H and your children. You will get through it but you will never forget your Dexter and this terrible tragedy for all your family.

My first DD died suddenly in her cot 36 years ago and I have her small toy rabbit by my bedside. Her birthday and anniversary are two special days every year. Often you wonder what if? but you cannot change what has happened. Cuddle your children every night.

Don't forget there are support groups out there. Pick the phone up and talk to someone who has been through a similar loss and will help you. Sadly you have to make the first call for help.

Thinking of you and sending love and sympathy.

HappyHippyChick Sun 07-Oct-12 22:06:02

I am so sorry for your loss xxxx

I'm so very sorry sad xx

My5boysandme Sun 07-Oct-12 22:09:04

Thank you. Everyone says I'm being strong, but I don't feel it. I've always been good at putting up a front, so no-one knows how I'm really feeling, that's what I seem to have done now.

I'm actually bipolar, so my medication makes me sleepy anyway, but I keep having nightmares and need the light on. Every time I close my eyes I see him, how he was when I found him.

I'm seeing the psychiatrist on Tuesday, he's lovely so hoping that will help.

My dh has to go back to work next Monday, and I'm dreading being on my own with all the boys from 8-6. My boys are now wise beyond their years and are being so strong. However they do have moments of upset, which is to be expected. They were the most awesome big brothers, and loved Dexter from the very 1st moment they laid eyes on him, and now he's gone sad

Marne Sun 07-Oct-12 22:09:13

So sorry for your loss xxx

MarjorieAntrobus Sun 07-Oct-12 22:25:33

Oh, my, how sad. You say nobody knows how you are really feeling. Is there anybody in RL you can open up to?

I bet your boys are strong as you say, and lovely too, but you will feel you have to carry their grief as well as your own.

Keep talking here.


DeadQODy Sun 07-Oct-12 22:27:50

So sad for you and your family, awful times

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Sun 07-Oct-12 22:28:15

I'm so very sorry xxx

My5boysandme Sun 07-Oct-12 22:30:59

I can talk to my husband. At first I thought he'd blame me as I was the one at home with the boys.

I know it's come back sudden unexplained death in infancy, but I can't stop myself thinking he was upstairs struggling to breathe and I was downstairs. He was lying on his side when I found him sad

MarjorieAntrobus Sun 07-Oct-12 22:37:32

But he doesn't blame you, does he? Horrible things just happen.

pixiestix Sun 07-Oct-12 22:39:06

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your little son Dexter. I can't imagine the pain you must be going through sad

DoMeDon Sun 07-Oct-12 22:39:14

I hope the psychiatrist can help you find a way to stop torturing yourself with the idea you were any way to blame or could have done more. There are some things in life that just are. That doesn't stop them being painful, horrible but it does stop them being anyones fault. Do you have friends/other family close by who could spend time with you? 8-6 can be a long stretch of time when you are low. It is so hard to do but maybe try to think of something positive about your time with Dexter when a negative thought like him upstairs comes across you. Make sure you be as kind to yourself as possible xx

MarjorieAntrobus Sun 07-Oct-12 22:42:26

You didn't know he was struggling though. Your first four babies were fine. I had four and was v blase about their babyhood, especially with DC3 and DC4. I didn't go looking for problems. You wouldn't have, either.

You do know that you didn't do anything wrong, don't you?

Oh, OP, you must be in bits. So sorry for your loss.

Flojo1979 Sun 07-Oct-12 22:45:04

Didn't want to read and not say anything though not sure what to say, other than I am so so sorry.

redadmiralsinthegarden Sun 07-Oct-12 22:48:00

I'm so, so sorry to hear of your loss. x

My5boysandme Sun 07-Oct-12 22:50:19

My husband has been fab, and keeps telling me we did exactly the same with dexter as we had with our other boys. The what ifs just keep coming though.

It's so hard to have carried a baby for 9 months, to not letting him out my sight, doing absolutely everything for him, to doing nothing at all.

I can't phone any helplines, as I have a really bad phobia of talking on the phone, I find it hard just talking o strangers generally

NeDeLaMer Sun 07-Oct-12 22:51:13

Oh my love, I am so so sorry to hear about Dexter sad You wont 'get over it' you will learn to live alongside it, the grief will become a bit less raw - you learn to live 'around it' because there isn't any choice.

Much love

MarjorieAntrobus Sun 07-Oct-12 22:51:59

Please keep using your thread here, if it is useful to you.

Don't think we are closing you down, if we say something that you think means you should just get on with it.

Shout and rant here.


debka Sun 07-Oct-12 22:52:29

5boys my sister is on the same thread as you- her DD is Chloe. She told me about your loss with tears in her eyes last week.

Just wanted you to know that there is a candle lit here for your boy Dexter.

With much love from one mum to another xxxxx

NeDeLaMer Sun 07-Oct-12 22:56:43


I'm glad your DH has been fab, it's what you deserve, but it's great that he's in that space as it's not always easy to see that immediately and can put relationships under a lot of stress. He sounds lovely and I'm glad you have him <of course he's incredibly lucky to have you too!!>

I can only imagine what the void is like for you right now sad

Keep 'typing' to us, much easier than talking on the phone

MarjorieAntrobus Sun 07-Oct-12 22:56:55

Oh, my, Dexter has been in your life for a year, and your plans for him will have run ahead for many years.

Such a huge loss, my lovely. Be very kind to yourself. Nothing stressful.

My5boysandme Sun 07-Oct-12 22:58:34

Thank you Debka. The due in July group have been amazing, but I don't want to bring such sadness to a group, who's babies are bringing them so much happiness xx

DoMeDon Sun 07-Oct-12 23:01:23

Happiness for your own life and sadness for another's can co-exist easily My- never feel bad for bringing your life experience along. People will only have compassion and kindness in their hearts for you.

Flumpyflumps Sun 07-Oct-12 23:01:51

So so sorry. Try to believe its not your fault x

So sorry for your loss....RIP little Dexter.

He will live on in your heart and soul forever xx

My5boysandme Mon 08-Oct-12 16:17:39

Today has been 2 weeks. I'm watching the clock, 12-30 was our last walk in pram. 4pm was the last time dh saw him. 5-30 was his last bottle. 6-30 I put him to bed 7-25 I found him and 8-45 was time of death. I can't believe ths has happened, keep hoping I'll wake up from this nightmare sad

MarjorieAntrobus Mon 08-Oct-12 16:41:17

Oh, my.

I literally cannot think of anything helpful to say.

But I am listening.

thanks thanks

My5boysandme Mon 08-Oct-12 16:45:04

Thank you.

Going to dismantle the cot this evening. Finding it to hard having it in the bedroom. I have a duvet cover over it, the place took all the bedding and mattress, do its so empty. Going to take it to the charity shop as I wouldn't be able to use it again (it's only 5 weeks old) do you think it's ok to donate it? My husband says we can't reuse it incase it's jinxed, so feel bad about donating it?

Cherrypieplum Mon 08-Oct-12 16:45:30

I'm so sorry. Huge hugs to you. Xxx

NeDeLaMer Mon 08-Oct-12 17:01:19

Oh my love, I just want to hold you tight and take all the pain away and bring him back for you sad It's so unfair.

Donating the cot is a lovely idea. I understand why you don't want to use it again, but it's not jinxed. If it's not too much trouble to organise, I would donate it to a womens refuge or similar rather than a charity shop.

MrsDeVere Mon 08-Oct-12 17:05:07

Of course you can donate it.
You won't hurt anyone by doing that x

If magical things like jinxes were real then magical things like wishes would be real and we would have our children with us.

It is absolutely understandable you and oh want to get rid of it. It is fine to do whatever you feel is right for you. That could be donating it or smashing it if you want to.

I am so sorry about your Dexter x

My5boysandme Mon 08-Oct-12 17:14:17

Thank you for listening. Life is so cruel. No one should have to bury their child.
When ds2 was 6 months we were told to prepare for the worst as he had meningitis, but he fought hard and recovered. It's not fair that we went through that, to then loose our baby 7 years later

MrsDeVere Mon 08-Oct-12 17:21:35

No it isn't fair.
It is the wrongest thing in the world.
I am so sorry x

MarjorieAntrobus Mon 08-Oct-12 17:23:47

Give the cot away. It won't jinx anybody. Or take it to the tip, cos they will recycle it appropriately.

(Meant kindly, obviously).

thanks thanks

PS do you have friends or family who could just take it away for you?

I'm on the due in July board with you. Please pop in and chat to us. We are all there for you xxx

JemimaPuddle Mon 08-Oct-12 17:27:05

So sorry for your loss xx

whoneedstosleep Mon 08-Oct-12 17:42:08

Just seen this my5boys, please use our group if you need to. I can understand its hard when you are hearing us talking and seeing pictures of our babies when all you want is little Dexter back but if we can help in any way we really really want to. Even just to listen on those extra hard days. Xxx

hlipop Mon 08-Oct-12 17:42:30

thinking of you in this hard time, i'm so sorry for your loss x

My5boysandme Mon 08-Oct-12 17:43:20

My mums going to come with me to donate it, whilst dh takes boys to the beach.

Got some vacuum bags to put dexters clothes in to keep them in good condition...won't reuse them but want to keep them all.

Got a memory box the hospital gave us, being putting bits and bobs in.

Have taken his pram and car seat to my mums.

CheerfulYank Mon 08-Oct-12 18:07:06

Oh 5Boys. I am so, so sorry.

Thinking of you and your lovely Dexter.

My5boysandme Mon 08-Oct-12 18:18:39

Just dismantled the cot, it's under the stairs hidden away til tomorrow. Had to tell the boys we we're giving it away, so that upset them, but told them another little baby would get to sleep in it, so they seemed to understand.

Ds1 who is 9 seems most affected with losing dexter. 1 minute he'll be ok and the next minute he says he wishes he wasn't here(as in dead too) it is unbelievably hard hearing your child utter these words. He is so climb fused and scared. Thankfully he seems able to talk to us, and once he's got it out his system seems fine for a while. I think it's harder for them to comprehend that dexter was only here for a short while

DisappointedHorse Mon 08-Oct-12 18:28:13

I have no words but I didn't want to not acknowledge reading this.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

My5boysandme Mon 08-Oct-12 18:29:52

*confused and scared

MarjorieAntrobus Mon 08-Oct-12 18:50:35

Oh golly, your DS1 is used to feeling in charge of the team. Poor him. Poor you, because you have to help him with his grief as well as your own. He sounds like a lovely boy.

tiredteddy Mon 08-Oct-12 19:02:08

Hi. I have no experience of what you are going through. There a children's charity called Winstons Wish that make beautiful memory boxes for children. They also have a lot of books that might help your older children. I am so very sorry for the loss of your perfect little dexter. I send you my love x

TidyGOLDDancer Mon 08-Oct-12 19:09:23

I'm so sorry to read this. What an awful loss to suffer. I just don't know what to say.

I just hope being able to talk here helps you and that people thinking of you counts for something.

With love and prayers. x

Oh love I'm so so sorry you only got a short time with Dexter. Life can be so cruel. Take all the support offered and comfort from your older boys. I lost my baby dd last August and found great support on here. Keep posting xx

thanks sorry for your loss op sad

DawnOfTheDee Mon 08-Oct-12 19:29:48

So sorry to hear of your loss - Dexter is a lovely name and I'm sorry your time with him was so short.

love & hugs x

chipmonkey Mon 08-Oct-12 20:16:05

My5boys, you and I are are almost the same. I have four boys and this time last year, my precious newborn girl died of SIDS.

FWIW, my dd was in bed with me, when she died. I didn't notice she had stopped breathing as I had drifted to sleep, despite not intending to. And I honestly don't think that when they die like that, that there's any struggling to breathe, my dd didn't struggle at all, I think I would have felt her. She and your little boy most likely just forgot to keep breathing. You really didn't do anything wrong.

You won't "get over" it, how could you? But as time goes on, it really does get easier to bear. The waves of grief still wash over you but not so often as when you first lose your child. I have found particular dates very hard, New Years Eve, as I felt I was leaving her behind in 2011, her birthday in August and of course the anniversary of her death.

Do join us bereaved Mums on our thread "You light the skies up above me" We have all been right where you are now, facing the abyss. and we are all still here.

Much love to you xxxx

My5boysandme Mon 08-Oct-12 20:36:26

Thank chipmonkey for taking the time to post, I will have a look on that thread thank you. Can I ask how old your boys were?

chipmonkey Tue 09-Oct-12 11:43:07

My5boys, ds1 was 15, ds4 was 12, ds3 was 6 and ds4 was three when she died. Ds4 didn't really get what was going on, but the older boys did. I do feel sad that ds4 isn't a "big brother" in the true sense, although of course, she will always and forever be his little sister. But he was totally relishing the big brother role and I feel he's been robbed of that, though too young to realise what he's been robbed of.

KnottyLocks Wed 10-Oct-12 16:23:50

So sorry to hear of your loss sad

Sending love and strength to you all.

Thinking of Dexter xxx

So sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you, DH and the boys.

Woolfey Wed 10-Oct-12 17:19:22

I am so so sorry for your loss. I have no words, but please just know I am thinking of you and your family and sending much love x

LouMacca Wed 10-Oct-12 17:20:31

So sorry for the loss of your precious son, my heart goes out to you and your family.

Sleep tight Dexter x

happierhigherstrongerwheezing Wed 10-Oct-12 17:22:21

I'm so sorry. No parent should have to deal with this. Hope you look after yourself.

LottieJenkins Wed 10-Oct-12 17:22:32

Sending you love and hugs xxxx

SkiLift Wed 10-Oct-12 17:25:50

So very sorry to read this, and for your loss too chipmonkey

Every parents nightmare. sad

osterleymama Wed 10-Oct-12 17:31:38

I am so sorry for your loss. X

So sorry for your loss x x

HairyPotter Wed 10-Oct-12 17:35:34

I am so very very sorry sad Dexter is a beautiful name, may he rest in peace xx

I am so so sorry. Lots of love to you and your family xxx

I am so sorry. I cannot imagine the pain you are going through, but I am thinking of you and your family.

BerryLellow Wed 10-Oct-12 17:38:57

So very sorry for the loss of your precious son x

Nancy66 Wed 10-Oct-12 17:48:31

Is that Dexter in your profile?

What a gorgeous boy.

AvonCallingBarksdale Wed 10-Oct-12 17:51:01

I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through. So sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy Dexter. He looks absolutely gorgeous in your photo. x

missymoomoomee Wed 10-Oct-12 17:51:55

My5 I am so sorry to read about your precious son.

I lost my son 14 years ago to SIDS and I lost my daughter 5 years ago to a genetic illness.

You are still in a haze just now, for me, after I lost my son it took nearly a year to properly sink in, and in the very early days when there were still things to do (deciding what to do with his things, sorting clothes and photos etc) it didn't seem real.

You can't even take each day at a time at the moment, you need to take each minute at a time at this stage.

Stop torturing yourself that he was struggling to breathe, he wasn't, he was sleeping and simply forgot to breathe, no pain, no suffering or struggling.

When my son died he was my only child, when my daughter died she had 2 siblings, I read them a story called 'The Waterbug' (you can find it online) to help them understand in an age appropriate way (they were 2 and 5 at the time) why their sister couldn't come back, although I had already told them about their brother so they had a little understanding.

Don't stop speaking about him and keep lots of photos around. My kids always include their brother and sister when they speak about family I find that helps me as well as them.

Don't make any hasty decisions about what to do with his things, if you find it too upsetting to have them around just now see if a family member will store them for you so you can make that choice with a clear head.

Also, and I don't mean to upset you, you need to have a little think about what you will say when people (as they all do) ask questions about your family. I never considered that type of thing when I lost my son and would stand there not knowing what to say and found it really upsetting. Its better to have an answer ready so you don't have to explain to the woman packing your shopping or the lady at the hairdressers and upset yourself further. (This is why I never ask people how many children they have now). I really hope it was ok to say that to you its just one of the things I wish I had thought about.

Most of all be gentle on yourself, it wasn't your fault, there was nothing you could have done, SIDS is totally random. Cry when you need to cry, talk when you need to talk, and include the kids in it too, they will take their lead from you. Dexter is still a huge part of your family and always will be.

Much love to you and your family xxxxxxxx

I am very sorry for your loss of your beautiful son Dexter.

MmeLindor Wed 10-Oct-12 18:06:56

Sorry to hear about Dexter. Much love to you and your family. xx

Alibabaandthe40nappies Wed 10-Oct-12 19:04:09

My5 I'm so sorry for the loss of your lovely boy, sending much love and strength x

Thinking of you at this awful time. No more words to say.

bobkate Wed 10-Oct-12 19:31:00

sad So desperately sorry for your loss OP...Such a beautiful name for such a beautiful baby. Thinking of you and your family x

thegreylady Wed 10-Oct-12 19:49:17

So very sorry for your loss.

stargirl1701 Wed 10-Oct-12 20:05:17

So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

AllMuddledUp Wed 10-Oct-12 20:06:02

My I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy Dexter. I'm not good with words but my heart goes out to you and your family.

Softlysoftly Wed 10-Oct-12 20:07:52

I'm so sorry, thoughts and prayers with you xx

OnwardBound Wed 10-Oct-12 20:18:34

I am so sorry sad

Thinking of you and baby Dexter.

RIP precious boy.

Thinking of you My5. I so wish there was something we could do to make it all better. xx

Alambil Wed 10-Oct-12 20:22:39

oh my5 I know I'm coming late, but I'm so so sorry sad

If DS needs some extra support, school will be able to get in touch with counsellors, or perhaps Winston's Wish on your behalf

KateRuggles Wed 10-Oct-12 20:33:55

So very sorry for the loss of Dexter, you are in my thoughts and prayers x

chipmonkey Wed 10-Oct-12 20:45:52

Agree with what missymoonoo says. I say "I have had five children but my youngest died" I can't bear to leave her out.
I do know other people who don't want to get into it with a stranger and they would say something like "I have four at home". Whatever feels best and easiest for you.

Jules146 Wed 10-Oct-12 21:56:10

My thoughts are with you and your boys xx

BellaVita Wed 10-Oct-12 22:02:02

I am so sorry sad xx

buzzgirly Thu 11-Oct-12 06:40:50

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Dexter, he is absolutely gorgeous. I will be thinking of you and your family xx

dawnpreview Thu 11-Oct-12 07:17:11

So very sorry for your loss.
Thinking of you and your family x

NeDeLaMer Thu 11-Oct-12 10:10:36

Just sending more hugs, more strength & more love to all of you. There are some great charities who will help your boys through this - it really can make a big difference to their grief & how they handle it.

Babyh200 Thu 11-Oct-12 10:59:21

My5: Just wanted to say how sorry I am. My baby son Adam was born asleep on 4/7/2012, just 5 days before my planned section....the thought of life marching on when my world had stopped was horrendous. I know how helpless you must feel and the 'what ifs' and 'whys' especially the 'why my baby?'
I also have 2 older children and my DD will be 9 in November. She falls asleep holding his picture most nights and its opened up the whole death thing that we want to protect our children from, It truly broke my heart seeing the sad look in her eyes because she had realised the reality of it all.

Include your beautiful boy in everyday life if your strong enough to do that...I realised that my DD was worried for herself and that she could die too so the last thing they need is to think that if something happened to them they would never be mentioned/talked about again IFYKWIM.

Its a long road and there are lots of lovely ladies on here (I joined the Rainbow babies thread) and somehow they have pulled me through these early dark days.

Thinking of you and all your sons especially Dexter xxxxxxxx

SucksFake Thu 11-Oct-12 14:43:34

Just wanted to add my voice to all the others and say how sorry I am for your loss.

Dexter looks just gorgeous in the picture on your profile.

Thinking of you, and of all the other mums on this thread who have lost children xx

JugglingWithPossibilities Thu 11-Oct-12 15:07:05

I'm so very sorry My5. Thinking of you x

HappyTurquoise Thu 11-Oct-12 15:24:18

Love to you and all your family, My5boysandme.

expatinscotland Thu 11-Oct-12 15:27:16

I've only just seen this. So sorry for your loss, My5boys. The missing them, it never stops! There's just nothing that ever makes it go away. We go visit our daughter's burial lair (she died of cancer, age 9) and there are so many graves of babies who died of cot death, neonatal death, 'died in infancy' and 'born asleep' or 'born still'. It's heartbreaking.

Much love to you!

Please join us in bereavement, always here to support you.xx

MOSagain Thu 11-Oct-12 17:11:30

so very sorry for your loss. Dexter is a lovely name x

spiderlight Thu 11-Oct-12 19:50:46

So very sorry sad

mamasin Thu 11-Oct-12 21:37:24

So very sorry to hear of Dexter's passing.

I am so, so sorry, for you and for other parents going through such awful pain.

Thinking about you, sending you hugs xxx

HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey Fri 12-Oct-12 20:04:23

I am so very sorry, my heart aches at the thought of your pain.

You, your family and Dexter are in my thoughts.

gwenniebee Fri 12-Oct-12 22:17:18

Didn't want to "read and run". I can't imagine what you are going through. I pray you will find some comfort from your other lovely sons and your happy memories. Dexter sounds blessed to have had such a large and loving family.

I am so sorry for your loss, I have shed a tear tonight for your Dexter.
I too was on the "Due in July" thread, but sadly had an MMC at 12 weeks, so feel doubley sad that one of the July Mummies has had to suffer this pain.
Thinking of you and your family.

OstrichSizedShrunkenHeads Sat 13-Oct-12 11:12:07

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your boys.

kilmuir Sun 14-Oct-12 19:14:00

Can't imagine how you must be feeling. Gorgeous Dexter.x

Pumpster Sun 14-Oct-12 19:21:28

So sorry for your loss sad x

emblosion Mon 15-Oct-12 15:49:21

So very very sorry for your loss sad x

So sorry to read this about Dexter my heart goes out to you and the rest of your family

EricNorthmansFangBanger Mon 15-Oct-12 21:00:38

I'm so so sorry to hear about this about your little boy Dexter sad thanks

Likeaheadlesschicken Tue 16-Oct-12 22:55:58

Thinking of you and your family x

OrangeLily Tue 16-Oct-12 22:56:58

I'm so sorry about Dexter

I'm so so sorry for your loss. I can't find the right words but you are in my thoughts x

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