I have just seen this thread and have to say I can identify with a lot that has been said.
My dad died in September and I have missed him a lot. Him and my mum only lived round the corner so I used to see them a lot.
It feels quite odd at the moment - it is like he has gone away and not left a phone number so I can't contact him.
It is quite hard clearing out the house as my mum is going to move somewhere smaller. The worst thing was having his car taken away. That surprised me how much it upset me.
My thoughts are with you all.

Hi Dr Northerner I'm glad it went well for you. Nice of the school to do something like that.

I'm not too bad I suppose - Some days I feel I'm accepting it, then get up some mornings and feel quite bereft again particularly on way to work. Strange.

Suppose its still early days yet though.

My mums going through a bad patch at the moment - has been quite upset - think it must be dark nights etc. Tough times ahead. How have you been generally?

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Thanks for asking Anastasia. It was nice, but emotional in equal measures. Also, took my Mum to the cemetry and although we weren't expecting his head stone to be up till december, it was there. I had been dreading seeing it, but actually it was nice to see his name if that makes sense? I felt more connected to his grave somehow.

Going back to my primary school was a trip down memory lane too. Its weird the path you take after a bereavement.

How are things with you?

Hi Dr Northerner.

Wondered how it went yesterday. Hope you were ok. What a lovely way to remember your dad.

Hugs to you

Well today I am off to my old primary school with my ds. My Dad also went to this school as a boy, and when he died he was chair of governers. The school and the kids are making a mosaic in memory of my dad and we have been asked to go and paint atile each for the mosaic. It's a lovely thing they are doing but today I feel so emotional and I'm not even there yet..........

If only it were that simple!

My ds is 7 also. He was born a year after mum died and having him was a real comfort. It is now too and he does cheer me up. As a good friend said to me after dad died, you have to Look to the littlies at times like this. It's true.

Gentle vibes to all.

Hi accio and all

I too had to sort out my mums house and then sell it, i remember hating people viewing it when it was on the market. seems silly now 5 years later.
Like you i have my own home but when mum died and her house had gone i felt like i had no roots. I still feel like i have lost my safety net to some extent in that i always knew she was there for me, like you say a sanctuary.
as time passes it does get better and i talk about her lots to my dd who was only 6 months old when Mum died.

Hi accio, so so sorry to hear about your Dad. Clearing out your childhood home sounds simply awful. I hop you have people to help you?

There are a gfew of us on here who help each other out when we feel crap. Please post more as and when you feel like it.

How is everyone else doing?

Yesterday ds (aged 7) told me if we won the lottery he would pay for his Granddad to come back......if only it were that simple hey?

Hello all. This thread has brought me to tears but at the same time given me some much needed reassurance that I am not alone if feeling heart broken at the loss of my darling dad.

My father died suddenly at home on his birthday just 6 weeks ago. Two days before dh, ds and I were due to visit him for the weekend to celebrate. I feel like the bottom has dropped out of my world.

My mum died 8 years ago and dad had continued to live in the family home (where i grew up) which I now have to clear and eventually sell. It feels so final, the end of an era. Although I have my own home, dad's house was also a home and sanctuary for me. I shall miss visiting and having our Friday night glass of wine and putting the world to rights sessions. I shall miss holding his hand. I shall miss is relentless positivity and optimism.

So, for DrNortherner and all others who keenly feel the loss of their lovely dad's my thoughts are with you.

Hya everyone, hugs to you.

We made the most of the lovely weather as well on saturday and took my mum to the coast. Somewhere we all used to go together.

My dad was mentioned regularly. Still hard to believe he would'nt ever be going with us again.

He loved going out for run to the coast. Loved the sea air.

The sea was so calm for this time of year. Not many people around. Just a few dogs on the beach. So tranquil

It was nice for my mum to get out for the day - she really enjoyed it. But sad at the same time as dad was so much fun to be with and made everyone laugh. So his absence was felt - very much so.

Miss him sooo much. Going to be a tough few months ahead.