Dont know what use I can be as my own grandma died 2 weeks ago (also very old and had lived a fulfilled lif, but hugely missed and very special). My mum stayed with her for the last few days, and whilst she was pleased she had been there for her mum, felt it wasnt the person she knew and loved all her life - that person had left and the body was what they didnt need any longer. Something similar was said by the funeral director. She also took my grandad to see her after she had died, and again said it wasnt my Granny there, but she couldnt have gone to funeral not knowing it was her mum there... I didnt actually see her, and whilst missing her hugley, feel she is still around - this has its +s nnd -ves though. In some ways she is stil alive to me and in others shes so far away - its really hard and I'm not sure that there is a right or wrong answer. I hope you and your family are able to reflect on your happy memories and share those with your Grandma - she will feel a huge loss but depends on your support at this very difficult time. I am thinking of you (hug)